| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/25/2005 11:54:34 AM | tcook,
your just a poor young punk with absoluteky no life experience and someday youll be the one cryin on one of these sites.the words your speak reflect your mentality,and age.so i suggest to you watch your mouth. if no one cares why are you here. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 5:55:39 AM | Hey Your cool rock03 thats the same way i felt when i saw tcooks thoughtless childish words in this forum your right man what kinda baggage is he carryin round i take take that back cos i dont think he has the ability to even touch an insightful prospective of what baggage he has lurkin around its strainge what emotional pain can do to a person some people deal with the pain some people dont, some people wanna hurt other people because of it but that doesnt work cos it doesnt take the pain away so many people come in here and give so much of themselves and it can be seen in the things they say you have the right attitude man girls are gonna come your way right on your always welcome in here bud STUK | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 6:31:24 AM | STUKONU,
Most women want 100%, but there are exceptions. You deserve a good woman who appreciates every-thing you do for her & give her. I can kinda relate!! I haven't been dating very long. It's very new & strange to me. I lived with some-one for over 15 yrs. I didn't want to be his "mommy" any-more!!
Honestly when I like a Man alot, I am the same way. I'd do almost any-thing for the guy.
I met a nice guy from P.O.F. & as far as I knew we "connected". Then for no reason he didn't want to see me any-more. I kept trying to find out why, it got to the point where I was like stalking him. I hated being that way. All I wanted was an honest answer so I wouldn't feel like sh***t. Eventually get on with my life & dating some-one who'd truly respect me.
To this day I still think good thoughts in regards to this guy. I ended up with a huge pain in my heart & head!!!!  | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 6:45:19 AM | Hey suecq,
For me & hopefully others, except maybe cook, this is like therapy & positive feedback.
I don't know about any-one else but for me 1 of the great things is it's free, u don't have to
pay an "arm & a leg". You can "talk" about past or present relationships & find other people who can relate & respond. I only wish the best for guys & gals on P.O.F., who are looking for love, friendship & good people!!  | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 7:11:31 AM | im so sorry u had to go thru something as sad and hurtfull as that..i too have been hurt and try to pick up the pieces..i was married for 11 years to a man who was controlling and a wife beater..when i finally left the scum bag i was the happiest woman..but i wouldnt let a man close to my heart again..until..i met someone..about 6 months ago..it was almost instant..i had never believed in love at first site..but it happened..one of the disadavantages though of dating me is i am unable to have any more children and i am very upfront about that..the man i was dating knew this, accepted it (or so i thought)...accepted my daughters, we had talked of other options if the time ever came that he wanted children, and was ready to move on with me..and things were great..then about 2 weeks ago, he started to act weird..now this is the first man i have told i love u in 3 years..and he tells me on a monday i love u, on wed, he has fallen out of love with me, and wants kids of his own..we broke up..my heart felt like it was torn in 2..but i realized that i have to move on with my life and just be soo much carefull of who i try to make a future with..make sure that we both want and need the same things in life..so i wish u good luck, and hope u do meet the lady who puts that smile on ur face..
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 7:38:14 AM | Thats just typical you move into somthing thinkin that the other person feels the same when in fact they arent being honest at all and the story always ends with broken heart what does it take to create a different ending, Im begining to learn that love is not a thing you can see straight away its easy to fall in love but knowing if someone loves you or loving someone is different and you cant see it straight away as time heals pain so it to shows you if love is really there and unfortunately sometimes finding it isnt is where the pain begins so people can get into situations where theyrun from love or hide away from it because they fear the pain it can bring when things dont work out i dont know if what im saying is helping but i feel i need to say it time is the operative word giving yourself time is the key do it and take it slow the next time as its so easy for things to overtake and then you find your right back where you started ... emotionally torn, how many rips and tears can someone take in this life well be sure that you know that person you next give your heart to and until that time be careful love and peace STUK  | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 8:08:12 AM | Ladyg
Im sorry to hear of your pain its like i was sayin to huggy its really hard to know for sure if someone is givin that hundred% and sometimes you think they are and they arent, you look like a very happy sort of person and believe me there is someone for you, if you havent found them yet you will, but take your time and dont be fooled by charming words the proof is in the tasting and if you get an upset stomach from somthing youve eaten you dont eat it again there is better food out there you just gotta wait for the harvest itle be a golden harvest and your gonna taste the fruit of it in time. You dont even have to think about it you can think about all those beautiful things in life you have now youve moved on and when you look back you will see you never needed him anyway if it didnt happen then it wasnt meant to be and if it had of continued it may have stopped you from finding the golden harvest which is gonna be yours hey ... i can feel your aura and its a bright light you take care and welcome to the forum STUK PS i was born in OHIO | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 8:46:41 AM | | Huggy... yes its free and absolutly theaputic! Such wonderful people have posted with positive feedback and always something helpful to think about. Yes there have been a few people who have blasted us people with hearts that have been stomped on... but remember these people wouldn't know what to do with a heart if they had one!!!! | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 9:05:59 AM | Blessings are disguised as loss and disappointments
Wisdom and revelation are disguised as emptiness and despair
Doorways to paradise are disguised as dirt roads and dead ends
You know sometimes things are not always as they appear to be.
This is the highway of life, sometimes you come across road kill...but you keep on trucking.
This was worthy of another post.. Thank you bluetears for sharing....  my glass is half full (feeling loss, diasppointed, empty, dispair)... Looking for a dirt road with a dead end!!!! | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 11:29:29 AM | Suzy you are wonderful
never let anyone tell you different you know just the right things to say and how to say it in a way people understand thats cool i agree with you and every time you get a low spot just remember we are all thinkin of you all over the world, take care and i know your smilin now | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/27/2005 11:37:57 AM | | Stuk... you always know what to say, and how to make me smile.. Thank you for that. I too am here for anyone who needs me. We are all in this world together and amazingly we are not alone. Thank you so much for the Smiles and cheer.... | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/29/2005 5:36:59 PM | Tomorrow i have to go see my ex to get my things and give her back some stuff its gonna be really strange i havent seen her in over two months and it isnt somthing that is going to be easy to do, but it has to be done this is the final end after that there is nothing left no reason for me to contact her again or her me i wonder how many people have found themselves in similar situations where the relationship is ended but someone is still holding somthing that belongs to the other person and the final end of contact is prolonged because of it. If you want the truth guys and gals my heart doesnt want the contact to end but my head is saying end it and i know my head is right im emotionally fraught with inner longing deep down but it would be so easy to make the same mistake again and do you know i see the weakness in me i know that part of me really wants her but the other part of me doesnt. Conflict thats what im left with conflictual feelings about the same thing but its just a passing moment in my life and this time tomorrow ill be feeling so different it will be over done cycle complete and ended? ........ ill keep you posted see ya all STUK
PS Hi suzy i havent forgotten x | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/29/2005 5:48:41 PM | Stuk.... #1 Guard your heart and remember the pain!!!!!!!!
I do understand and find myself in the very same place. Although he has everything (except for an one thing I kept (an old Tshirt). I get his mail everyday and fwd it to him and hold onto the hope that he will think of me at least a little when he gets it. WHY??? We are hurt and loved them so deeply that we feel they should feel like we do??? Everyone says just throw the mail and stuff away its been 4 weeks he should have changed his address by now and you don't owe him anything... but Its not that we owe them... its because we are still trying to please them. Turning it back to you my dear.... what about YOU and the pain you have been going through, make yourself happy, you can't relive the past and you can't go through this again with her... HOLD ONTO YOUR HEART, its going to hurt and remember we love you and will be here for you.... HUGS!!!! | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/29/2005 11:20:23 PM | | Wow!!!! Suecq, I fully understand how hard it must have been for you. I recently have been dumped by my fiance of 6 years as well... I am in complete shock, deeply hurt by his decission to end our relationship. He feels that he should focus on his career and masters degree at this time. I just do not get it, we haven't had any major problems in our relationship. I pray to God everyday that he will bring someone wonderful in my life. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/30/2005 2:49:43 AM | | Hey i know your with me and im not going thru the pain again im takin my brother with me i can do this i know i can you take care suzy ill be in touch STUK | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/30/2005 2:53:20 AM | | I WANNA MEET YOU AND IM GONNA MEET YOU SOME DAY THANK YOU FOR BEIN THERE YOUR A VERY GOOD FRIEND AND IM ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU TOO NO MATTER WHAT ILL BE CATCHIN UP SOON YOU TAKE CARE OF THAT HEART STUK XXXXX | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/30/2005 7:55:02 AM | Luv, its a tough road to travel, thinking everything is ok, happy with life and BOOM he married to someone he met 10 days prior, OUCH. Was the love a lie? I won't stop believing, I know that someday I will have the love I know I am meant to have, but damn... why does it have to be like this??? This forum kicks ass and has helped me get through this horrible pain, people like STUK and the others are really listening and helping me to know I am not alone and I will get through it. So hang in there LUV keep believing.... | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/30/2005 8:04:10 AM | | Stuk...just to let you know I am thinking about you on this tough day!!! I am happy your brother will be with you. I'm hugging you from afar, knowing you will be ok.... | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/30/2005 2:36:25 PM | Stuk; I can relate a bit to the ex situation, I just got served with papers last night.
Now I have to go to court and all that stupidity.
Hang on, ride it out, and keep your spirits up. Especially when they're getting down, just keep smiling, and do good for others, that always makes ya feel better about yourself.
I'm going nuts here with a busted air conditioner and a bunch of false allegations against me, life is grand, and believe it or not, I'm still smiling. (Somehow)
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/30/2005 2:44:52 PM | Luv4Life; Vent here...it's a great place and noone judges, except one dips$hit who doesn't post here anymore.
I just recently separated from a five year relationship. Rather unexpectedly, I might add.
So yell here, vent away, talk smack about G.Bush, or whatever. Stay on the forums, though, it's the best part about this site. If you don't meet your prince; you'll at least make friends all over.
Welcome to PoF!  | |
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AdRem
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Joined: 6/12/2005
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 6/30/2005 3:35:06 PM | @Stukonu
Stukonu, I still wonder about the cause of your break up. It seems that you are a good guy and you no doubt have offered everything you had to offer in terms of love. But were you able to offer serious commitment to your girlfriend of 3 years? I mean did your ever during 3 years make a marriage proposal to her if you felt that this was something you wanted and was something important to her? I'm not taking your girlfriend's side here but there are other important things that if left unspoken can cause two people to loose communication and make a relationship fail. | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 7/1/2005 4:16:15 AM | Hey there Garf
Iwas wonderin when we were gonna hear from ya bud . So true man you cant get thru these things if you dont smile and when you smile the world can see that it hasnt put you down there where the dark cloud is hovering cos youve risen above it cool im not smilin ... im laughin man im gonna keep laughin too. I saw my Ex we talked over a cup of tea would you believe and then i took my gear and that was that fine ah well hear ends another chapter in history lol its the future that is important the past only matters in as much as it affecting what we do in the future only if we let it tho.
Hey man your nearly thru it soon there will be new lights shinin in your life and youll be laughin too man take care bud thanks for that STUK | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 7/1/2005 4:20:19 AM | I know suzy
im so glad ive got you all as friends and its all over now as i said to garf it wasnt that bad strange but i laughed my way out of any sad feelings even tho they are there deep down you take care suzy always pleased to hear from you | |
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solh
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Joined: 6/3/2005
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 7/1/2005 5:04:30 AM | always pray to God and be hopeful,God is kind and will find for you the best match
he will open all the ways for you to reach to whatever is good for you and be sure
about his bless,just dont give up on praying to God,i promise you will find whoever you
want or whatever you want ,always be close to God | |
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| I thought I found love and ended up with pain.
Posted: 7/1/2005 7:48:05 AM | Ad rem
It was a long engagement which is what we both wanted at the time we were waiting for the kids to all grow up and then was when we were gonna get married it was fine she didnt want to get married straight away and it wasnt like she got fed up waitin for marraige to be proposed so im afraid sadly that wasnt it Id say it was more deep seated than that it was somthing in her past that she hadnt properly lived out thats what i think is the reason but then again it could be lots of different things that contributed to the final split but your right communication is importantand i have always been honest and up front in that department but i dont feel i have had much luck with that being returned in relationships. STUK | |
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