| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/24/2008 7:32:40 PM | | i've gone on dates with men ranging from penniless transit-riding students to guys who drive mercedes and earn in the high six figures...did it make any difference to me? not at all. did the wealthy guys behave or treat me any differently than the guys who were just scraping by? not really. same proportion of nice guys to a**holes. money or the lack thereof doesn't make the man...character cannot be bought. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/24/2008 7:44:17 PM | Im tired of liking someone for who they are, that's only gotten me broke !
its about time i liked them for what they have....gimme money, that's what i want
bravo Splendid - i had that song in my profile a while back but got hate mail from the "poor"...... time to put it back on!
momo has money......I like her ! | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/25/2008 1:51:17 AM | Have a few "wealthy" friends, know a lot of wealthy people and have dated a few. There is no definite personality. The one common thread with all of them is this:
Offer to pay your share all the time, which always gets pooh-poohed, but demand to pay on some occassions. Let them buy the golf or concert at $200, but pay the drink and/or dinner bill on occassion. Everyone I know who's rich, sincerely appreciates that because "everybody" takes advantage of them and, of course, they let them. It's only money.
From my observations, I don't really think there's a lot of difference between wealthy, middle class and poor. There are as many a**holes, as there are good people through the entire spectrum of men and women and their financial stability.
From what I've seen, it doesn't matter if they "earned" it, or inherited it If they're good people, it doesn't matter if they're rich or they're broke. They still look on the bright side of life. Those are the people you want in your life. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/25/2008 2:21:42 PM | Hey Bella...Iknow this rich guy....his name is Charlie and he owns this factory....  mmmmm chocolate! | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/25/2008 4:47:42 PM |
Money can't buy you love, but it can put you in a very good bargaining position.
Hence, the increase in pre-nups. Someone who has never had "money", once they've had the taste of what it's like not to worry about money day to day, that's a vicious tiger on your back. You didn't earn it, you fell into it. When the relationship goes sideways for whatever reason, there isn't a chance in hell they're going back to "normal". The reality of not being able to buy that fabulous outfit (at $700) or doing lunch anymore is not a reality they're willing to face.
On that point, the $450/hour lawyer is making his money. Friend met a girl, dated for 10 months, bought her the house she wanted. Found out 2 days after the wedding, she slept with the old boyfriend on her stag, and on an ongoing basis. She got the clothes she walked in with. Which is all she deserves.
You can't really f*** with the rich people. They've got the resources. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/25/2008 6:19:26 PM | You know I have lived all my life in sub-standard situations, and NO I am not happier than somebody with money.  I wouldn't mind having the chance to see if someone wealthier would be better. I personally don't believe that to be the case. Happiness is created by 2 people living life TOGETHER, doing things, seeing new places, and going for trips to nowhere in particular..... That's something that money can buy, but it isn't necessary.
If someone wealthy wanted to date me, he could omit the fact that he has money and I bet I could be just as happy with him than if I knew he was well off. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/25/2008 6:50:28 PM | Years ago I dated someone "well off". He had a nice home, drove a Porche (Carrera). After an incident at a restaurant, I found that he cared more about his Porche (inanimate object) than he did about my feelings...
I ended it.
People and their feelings are more important than possessions... | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/25/2008 7:18:09 PM | Devil's advocate: as someone who is 'comfortable', I do have a concern that my partner is equally hard-working and financially responsible.
At my age, I've worked a long time to get to a place where I don't have to worry. I don't want to have to think about getting involved with someone who spends all their money on partying or doesn't have a fairly stable job or is still living in their parents' basement.
Blatant wealth is one thing, but being financially set is a reality for many over 40's. (sorry, I said it.) It does have to be a factor when deciding on a long-term partner. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 1:02:54 AM |
Hey Bella...Iknow this rich guy....his name is Charlie and he owns this factory.... mmmmm chocolate!
Hook me up!  | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 1:05:40 AM | ^^HEY YOU..you said you were gong to bed ...wtf ?
is it that Im not wealthy enough ? | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:39:36 AM | Define "wealthy". The longer you live, the more you realize,,,well the more you SHOULD realize that a truely "wealthy" person doesn't always have a full bank account.
We also should realize that a full bank account, fancy dancy cars, big house(cause everybody neeeeeeeeds a HUGE home ) flashing cash does not make a person "wealthy" in the true sense. Well, my "true sense" anyways.It may define what he/she thinks is important in life,,,,,and that in itself should tell you if you really want to hang around that person.
The one female that I did hang around with a bit that had some $$$$ could never figure out why I enjoyed her company even if it was just for a walk along the water, instead of spending a lot of cash on a meal downtown that wouldn't satisfy the hunger of a rabbit. She was "different" and we parted ways because I didn't enjoy playing the part in the "show".
I'm also Irish,,,and my mother reminded me during her last visit that us Irish have no problem spending what we have,,,more for the fact that we understand we may not be lifting our heads off the pillow the next morning. All I know after 47 years is that "the more money you make,,,the more money you spend." It's just the way it is. Some just know how to do it without making a scene out of it. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 7:45:31 AM | I am with Walts on this one. Wealth is subjective. How YOU measure someones "richness" is based on your experiences and what you consider is of value.
To me a wealthy person may have extremely little money yet have a wealth of experience/knowledge/diversity in spirit and character.
I recently met a woman who has minimal amounts of money, but she is one of the more "wealthy" individuals I have met. I am richer for knowing her, so she is willing to spread her wealth around.
As for people with lot's of money.... some are cool, and some are just plain stuck in the pursuit of more of it.
Rich or poor financially does not define a person. Matter of fact, when you leave this earth I betcha it really won't matter how much money you have as I hear it is a different currency used in the afterlife (if there is one, but that is for another thread) | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:09:35 AM | You never see a Hearse towing a U-Haul....
I have the love of my family and the people I care about,
I have a good job that pays my bills and puts food on the table to share with the above mentioned,
I have good health and am able to do and enjoy the things I love,
I have my little home and garden to putter around in,
I am happy,
And truly "wealthy"  | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 8:16:24 AM | | i would make sure the coins actually jingle before you went on that date if your just lookin to see what it like with a wealthy guy because beware of posers behind those big glasses, most wealthy guy don't advertize the coinage, their quite happy to keep it to themselves. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 11:33:08 AM | character cannot be bought you can ask anyone on here who's met me, I am quite the character  money isn't what I base relationships on. I've dated girls with more money than me, and I've dated girls with less. I honestly couldn't care, so long as the connection between us is strong. Though I wouldn't mind finding me another sugar momma sometime!!!  | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/26/2008 3:03:54 PM |
Money can't buy happiness, but it could sure afford me the misery I deserve
I have dated guys that make a great deal of money but, they were far from wealthy.
I think I would rather just date a guy who is comfortable and happy where he was in life... someone who is able to live within their means. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/31/2008 1:52:38 PM | Friend came over last night. Asked me, "do you know anyone that gets up for work in the morning and is happy to go there."
My reply, "yeah, you're looking at him." (As I'm sitting here in my housecoat at 1 in the afternoon. (Already worked 6 hours on the phone.)
Spent the next half hour trying to explain that your job doesn't define who you are. Everybody works, so they have the finances to do the things they want to do. In a perfect communist state, we would all make the same money for doing whatever job and we'd all be poor together.
I put in 25 years to get where I am. People don't understand that business owners spend 10 years at 18 hours a day to get ahead. But then, you get the rewards.
Think I'll go have a shower and get dressed. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/31/2008 10:10:22 PM | I remember being on this date with a financially secure man, who had all the bells & whistle in life. He owned a nice car, Mercedez, had a home in Kits, worked in finances, paid off his student loans and lived a life of luxury.
What he lack was warmth, had a cold heart, divorced his wife due to a medical condition that was passed on by her parents. What he lack was the depth of human compassion, if he left his ex for a medical issue's, history would repeat itself, if something like cancer, M.S. or getting hit by a truck, would make this man walk. The wealth he acclaimed to have, was material objects, house, boat, car, etc., his wealth of love, compassion, empathy, loyality never entered his soul beyond substance. If being wealthy leads anyone to being shallow, then the love you seek will be as deep as puddle. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/31/2008 10:22:26 PM | I didn't have money for a long time and now I am not so much 'wealthy' as getting paid a wage I can actually live off of... which in some ways still feels like winning the jackpot every time I get a paycheck.
I honestly don't know what I'd do with more money. I'm simply not money driven and I think I would have a problem being with anyone who was money or materially focused. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 7/31/2008 10:57:53 PM |
I honestly don't know what I'd do with more money. I'm simply not money driven and I think I would have a problem being with anyone who was money or materially focused.
It's not a question of how much money you have. It's how you deal with it. It's nice to go and do anything you want. Money is not the evil. The attitude is what kills it. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 8/4/2008 9:32:54 AM | Money is a tool. It can buy things and services that can create freedom.
Freedom to create with modern tools, freedom to have the time to create rather than
wearing down my body and mind doing unrelated/underpaid jobs to survive and make the additional money it takes
to buy the things and services that can create a simple, often taken for granted, freedom(by the privileged/wealthy)
To me, money is nothing more nothing less. I am not a "thing" person per se. I welcome modest tools
into my life for work and fun. I don't have a big desire to own any of them but, as the concept of exchange and sharing becomes less popular
with our affluent society I am sometimes obliged to own things to achieve some of my chosen goals. I am an avid fan of the barter system,
that too, is often regarded as untrustworthy or degrading by those who are more advantaged, particularly in cities , rather than rural areas.
I have dated wealthy guys (rarely) and so far, they are offended by my "simple life" attitude.
They take my life as an affront to what they have achieved materially.
So, while I avoid them now ... I don't rule them out entirely!
After all, some of them are even spending a fortune on workshops and books
on how to simplify their lives. Time to get writing! lol | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 8/4/2008 9:51:29 AM | ((((I am an avid fan of the barter system,
that too, is often regarded as untrustworthy or degrading by those who are the more advantaged, particularly in cities , rather than rural areas))))))
I agree with you ritawayward - I grew up with that helping your neighbour and they would reciprocate without the exchange of money. It was considered the thing to do.
When I was older, I used to babysit for a friend and she as a hairdresser would cut my hair. Miss the good old days when pitching and helping someone was a sign of caring , not expecting monetary rewards. Sometimes money interferes with genuine actions and feelings of people. Shame money plays such a vital key as to what angle someone is coming at you from, but that is reality nowadays. | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 8/4/2008 9:58:08 AM | Dating a girl who has an endless supply of Skittles, then I am in heaven!  | |
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| Dating the wealthy?
Posted: 8/4/2008 11:24:10 AM | Have you ever dated someone wealthy?Does it make a difference to you ?
Where the Discrepancy or Margin is too wide, unwanted "Control" Factors have a higher Likelihood of entering the Fold. | |
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