| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/2/2009 11:36:57 PM |
Just because you are open does not make you a slut. If you are out and forward about it, it will be easier for you to get what you want in life.
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/3/2009 3:56:28 AM | | I am the expert on this topic. I went out with a mother of 3, PTA mom - who prided herself on her ability to dress like a slut. She had a closet full of slut dresses and loved to dress sexy and do slutty things. The key point here is that it was always between 2 consenting adults and it was always "safe" and respectful between us. There is a lot more too it - boy to I have sorties - but I'm tired, time to hit the sack. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:29:02 AM | | My approach to this is to treat men and women equally. If you're out having sex with a different person every night of the week, you're a sleaze regardless of whether you're male or female. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/3/2009 6:37:03 AM | There's NOTHING wrong with it.
I have the same way of looking at it as you do. I'm comfortable in my own skin and happy with myself ENOUGH to think that we're all "Adults" here.
This is 2009, folks. Get with the program!
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/3/2009 6:44:14 AM | Absolutely not...as to my experience chatting with woman... it just means your not in the closet and can talk freely about the subject....the modern woman so to speak but there are plenty out there that arent like your self!...Always a pleasure to see such strength....have a great day! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:28:11 AM | I could not agree with the OP any more...It's about time society allows women to express themselves sexually as opposed to REPRESSING them sexually...
Never understood the double standard..A guy who's open sexually is a STUD, a woman who is, is a WHORE...
You go girl ! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:57:27 AM | I dont think women who are open about sex are sluts, or if they show cleavage to be sluts. Some of the mst professional looking women have the most intriguing sex lives, but you'd not know by looking at them...and the ones who are all flash, likely have not even had sex in years! LOL
I do know that I was a 'prude' up until my thirties.
Women (and I can only comment on women cause I am one) have father figures while growing up, telling us how to 'act like a lady' and 'ladies dont talk like that'..My stepdad was awesome, but he did plant some seeds in me. I remember playing marbles in one of my Sunday dresses after services, and from across the property I can still hear my dad yelling at me to 'close my legs'...yes..I was crouched down like a boy in my Sunday dress and everyone saw my panties. My dad was horrified. This sent me a message big time...and it was not to be free and easy going about my body!! LOLOL
Took going thru a bad marriage and my thirties before I realized I had chained myself sexually, I was repressed. I did not know how to get what I wanted out of sex. I could not muster up the courage to say anything.
But I have learned that saying what I like does not mean I am a 'bad girl'. It means I have enough respect for myself to feel satisfied with sex...because otherwise, why bother? Life is too short! Respect yourself, and have some fun!
I was one of the women who would bash other women for seeming to be open sexually. I am ashamed to admit that, but yes, I did that. Takes growing up and seeing some life before some of us realise we were wrong to judge. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/27/2009 12:41:58 AM | what is a slut??
...if you like sex and i feel we all do--then you will do it...PERIOD!
you can mask the how and the when and the how long it takes...but you will do it People...if a girl fuxx 8 guys once and 1 guy 8 times its still 8 fuxx... a girl cannot be a slut without a guy feeding in to it and vice versa- NO , girls are not the biggest sluts and NO guys are not either-cuz it takes 2 people to 'slut' around...unless you masturbate each day then you can slut without a partner...thus the guy is a slut too...hell in this case we all slut for sex we all like it. we all need and want it, and have desires to do it...1 girl may have a 6 month rule one girl may have a 6 hour rule...guess what--in the end you still fux..regardless....
how you dress is all relative some people-some like to show a lot others don't show enough or at all...some leave things to the imagination...some leave little to the imagination...who the fux cares...the bottom line is it takes 2 to do it...and i don't think none of us out there really wanna wait 2 years to have a first encounter with somebody you like---hell there is a statute of limitations for anybody... SLUT OR NO SLUT!
Some girls may think if a slutty girl walked up to a guy and said "fux me" right here and now- many girls feel the average guy would do it--not really so--there still has to be a connection on what ever level...and vice versa with women...I have never fux a girl i dint feel i wanted to be with-so therefore when i have done it i was glad to do it---but there are many girls i would not do it with PERIOD!..cuz i felt no connection..THIS IS HOW WE ALL FEEL--WE ALL WANT A CONNECTION...and this connection could take 5 minutes,5 hours 5 days 5 weeks,but heavens forbid 5 dayum years....ain't nobody gonna wait that long-hell waiting this long would turn a non slut into a slut (so to speak-LMAO)
PEACE-COCO
Be careful!!, but enjoy your sexuality and express yourself
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/27/2009 12:56:29 AM | No, it makes you a slut.
But, definitions come not from an entire society, but from personal experience.
It matters NOT what I define you as, after all, you define yourself, not me, or dictionaries, or pissed off guys.
But if you are a slut by societal terms...........I love you. Let's get married. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:41:15 AM | Sob. Everyone here seems to accept the word 'slut' at some level. So will I when there is an equal word for a man. And equal words for the whole page in my thesaurus putting women down for their sexuality with not one similar word which does not compliment a man. Once upon a time a 'slut' was just an untidy woman but look what's happened to it. Worse, if you really want to insult a man, just call him anything to do with a woman.
Being 'open sexually' makes you open sexually. How nice if people can just be honest. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/27/2009 9:02:10 AM | | In my opinion, being open about sex simply means that you know what you want and how to go by getting it. And if someone else confuses or simply don't understand how to express themselves as well as you, that's their lack of communication skills. Personally, I adore women who can express their sexual desires either openly or behind closed doors. If you are sexy and can express that in the manner you dress, that's your choice in how you choose to do that. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 1/27/2009 9:31:24 AM |
Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
So, out of curiosity, what DOES make you a slut?
Because there are women who would say that kissing on the first date doesn't make them a slut.
Giving head on the first date doesn't make them a slut.
Boinking on the first date doesn't make them a slut.
Swinging on the first date doesn't make them a slut.
Having 800 partners/year doesn't make them a slut.
Sleeping with a married man doesn't make them a slut.
What the hell IS a slut if no one is a slut? And if no one is ever a slut, why do we still use the term? | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 4/21/2009 2:52:07 AM | SLUT? LMAO!
All that terms is, is judgemental people's attempt at SHAMING sexually active women.
NO ONE has the right to judge,condemn,invalidate,or decide for a woman,what is right or wrong for her to experience sexually...NO ONE! And using that term to describe someone, is a reflection of someone else's issues,and immaturity,not the woman they are directing it at.Double standards have been alive and well...since the dawn of time,isn't it HIGH TIME....as a society we grow the hell up...and STOP trying to control and shame women for being SEXUAL on thier own terms...whatever they may be? yeah...I think it is...
Read this.....and GET A CLUE......
Slut! Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation...... Leora Tanenbaum
http://www.amazon.com/Slut-Growing-Female-Bad-Reputation/dp/0060957409
Any man who says they want an inexperienced woman is a hypocrit.
And any woman who calls a woman a SLUT...is perpetuating the stigma that women are either MADONNA's or WH*RES.
Sure....I am a
S-Sexy
L- Love seeking
U-Unabashed
T- Triumph
Over society's need to TRASH women for being women. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 4/21/2009 9:05:26 AM | So then what does it make you? Sleeping with a different guy each week is not a slut? Umm.. thats just not right.
Then is it a sex addiction? And why would you be sleeping around so much anyhow. Isn't sex supposed to be with someone special and have meaning? Or do people just give it away like nothing? And if so why?
I am confused and very old fashioned. So I am just curious. So... your not a SLUT you have a sex addiction? | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 4/21/2009 10:25:36 AM | During a conversation with a male friend of mine, I happened to call him a slut. He took it as a compliment. And I did not mean it in a complimentary context.
There's a difference between having a healthy sexual appetite and being brazen, or even downright stupid, to whom you have sexual relations with. Doing it for the sake of enjoyment is great, as long as you're also willing to be responsible about it. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 4/21/2009 10:42:10 AM | Slut is an overused word that needs to be permanently retired like the N-word. It is just that offensive. It really has no meaning.
Let's stop judging women by how they dress and how much skin they show.
Let's stop judging women period.
btw: the actual word "slut" comes from the word "slit". At first they were calling women "slits" but changed it to slut.
Think about that for a minute. It is a horrible thing to call any human being. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 4/21/2009 12:49:41 PM | Slut:
a dirty, slovenly woman.
an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute.
a vulgar promiscuous woman who flouts propriety.
a promiscuous woman ; especially : prostitute b: a saucy girl : minx
slut (SEXUALLY ACTIVE WOMAN)
noun [C] VERY INFORMAL DISAPPROVING
a woman who has sexual relationships with a lot of men without any emotional involvement.
slut (LAZY WOMAN)
UK VERY INFORMAL DISAPPROVING
a woman who is habitually untidy and lazy
Definition: loose woman
Synonyms: floozy, bimbo, harlot, hooker, hussy, jade, jezebel, malkin, minx, quean, slattern, tramp, wench, whore hussy tart tramp wanton wench wh*re floozy skank
trollup,sleaze, ho bag,
Let's see....what else can women be called...for enjoying sex on her terms?
Wanna add to the list of generalized MORAL judgements anyone?
I may choose to have sex discriminently and only with a man I have feelings for,but I do NOT judge woman or men who enjoy casual sex....not does anyone have any right to define what is too many sex partners or what is promiscuious.
I really don't get it...nor did I EVER....when the fact is...if men LOVE sex...and sexualize us to no end....wouldn't being a "slut" be a positive?
Shouldn't it really mean...empowered,sexually open,liberated,evolved and experiemental?
I really don't get the double standard...who are all these "slut" women...having SEX WITH? lol
really...read the book...it is EYE opening to any woman who is in here....who was considered a 'slut' in high school for having sex...or now for that matter.
yes...it is derogatory....and uncalled for...and if it's because she has a sex addiction,all the more REASON to have compassion for her..not demean her further to make themselves feel superior.And that in the end..is EXACTLY why women call other women "sluts".
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 4/21/2009 1:03:08 PM | I agree. Only being PROMISCUOUS makes you a slut. But, if that is your deal, go for it. Just be up-front about your wish to be with one guy or many so any potential guy does or doesn't get too attached.
Nothing wrong with having open conversations about sex and flirting, and I'll be happy to indulge in such conversations anytime you wish, classy. | |
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