| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:07:46 AM | a big  to all the women who responded to this. I don't have a lot of cleavage shots, but doesn't mean I won't in the future. If a women decides that is what she wants, I say more power to her, but that is still her decision on whether she sleeps with a man or not. Women today have less hangups about sex than when we were younger.
I am intelligent, sexy, love men, sex and these forums. I have been told when I first started on these forums that talking about oral sex and other topics makes me a slut. Relax, I am in the sexuality forum. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:07:56 AM | | I don't think the general consensus is that a woman is a slut if she dresses in a sexy manner, or discusses sexual issues. I think of a slut as a woman who is very promiscuous, who makes no attempt to be discreet, and who dresses in a slutty manner, and who speaks in a slutty manner, and who carries herself in a slutty manner.. And I mean slutty, not sexy. There is a difference. Of course men are going to look at cleavage if it's exposed...and that's a natural part of the sexual attraction between a male and a female. But do you just ASSume that because she's wearing a low-cut blouse she a) is doing it for your personal benefit? b) she's loose and will screw anything with a penis? You have to delve further to figure out what kind of woman she is. My photographs I'm wearing an evening gown with a low-cut neckline but that certainly does not make me a slut. And it doesn't give license for a man to speak to me as though I am one. Huge big difference between "You look lovely," or even "Wow! You're hot!" and "Nice tits. Wanna ****?" | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 8:26:13 AM | ummm breasts are the most natural thing in the world.. them being 'flashed' by wearing a top/dress that happens to accentuate what nature provided you with is hardly sexualising them.
Now you can label my behaviour/dress sense any way you want, but at the end of the day that label means nothing me. I may waddle like a duck and quack like a duck, but hell I swim like a swan.
It is empowering for women to be able to dress how they choose, work where they want, vote, be of equal opinion.... It's empowering to be able to make choices. It is empowering to be able to speak freely on a subject matter. (I could go on..my current contract is on a gov pilot scheme called Empowering young people) | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 2:57:45 PM |
It seems that a lot of you have the opinion that if i show a little or a lot of cleavage and have open discussions with men about sex that I am considered to have weak morals.
I think that there is a time...a place...and a person with whom you can display cleaveage and also have open discussions about sex.
I had a girlfriend a few years ago, who considered it one of life's greatest joys to go out to the bars and collect men's phone numbers. Indeed, she considered the evening a waste otherwise. She was certainly not promiscuous, but she wore revealing clothing, and allowed men to make verbal, sexual advances. Her willingness to allow this disrespectful behavior led them to believe that she could be a potentially, easy sexual conquest. When she called them, she was shocked that the first thing on their mind was sex!
I am a big believer of this perhaps old fashioned code of behavior. I am a lady in public....need I say more? | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:10:49 PM | | I am glad I am not female to have to deal with this stuff, guys want a woman to drop her panties then as soon as they do they get labeled. Has always been crazy to me the double standard women have to put up with when it comes to sex. They have to like it but not to much, do it but not to crazy, man thats difficult. I will never call anyone a whore/slut unless its some kinky talk in bed or something. If you want to have sex and u aren't hurting anyone have fun shouldn't matter to anyone else! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:15:55 PM |
I am glad I am not female to have to deal with this stuff, guys want a woman to drop her panties then as soon as they do they get labeled. Has always been crazy to me the double standard women have to put up with when it comes to sex. They have to like it but not to much, do it but not to crazy, man thats difficult. I will never call anyone a whore/slut unless its some kinky talk in bed or something. If you want to have sex and u aren't hurting anyone have fun shouldn't matter to anyone else!
bnportcity...you are a treasure! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:21:17 PM | No, it doesn't. (Morality is almost entirely a false concept anyhow. People tend to want people who share THEIR concept of morality.)
But it's a dating site, and a lot of this is about marketing. There are so many people on here looking for shallow, superficial relationships that sometimes you have disqualifiers. (For example, if someone has provocotive photos and a 3 sentence profile, they probably won't hear from me even if they have selected "long term." I'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but I have no desire to date someone that places photos of them self in a bubble bath on the internet. Longer profiles get more leeway, because they come across as more natural and not statements of, "Look at my booty! You know I'm awesome!") | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:33:50 PM | | I agree with you completely Marc. Did you review any of the women's profiles following their vehement disagreement to the OP question? How many of you think that posing on a bed with starry eyes and minimal clothing may suggest sex and promiscuity to the average person? | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:39:28 PM | ^ Exactly! If you're taking most of your photos in bed while staring with "sexy eyes" into the camera, I'm going to think, "This one is only looking for sex.... next." (At least, if it's the only photo and the profile is 3 sentences. Most profiles in my age group are three sentences, and half of them say, "I don't like to write about myself. I like things to come up in conversation. I'd hate to give it all away now.")
I mean, I can totally understand advertising to try to get attention of your target market... but I figure that there are enough people messaging purely for sex that you mostly just want to be everyday you and see what happens. Everday you being the "this is how I am in public" version of yourself. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 3:52:09 PM | | It is your opinion that matters but as we all know Canada is not as open about sex as other countries are. For this very reason, if you talk about it openly, you get labelled unfortunately. I would like to make comments but fear this exact thing will haunt me so I don't participate in the more personal topics. I do believe however that some things are best to be kept to oneself. Information is a good thing. Showing cleavage will definately get you alot of wrong responses on here. Just the nature of the beast. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 4:05:14 PM | CDT Cutie;
You are indeed a cutie but I should perhaps warn you that you ought to remove that black nightie picture. It is very nice looking, however your comment "Showing cleavage will definately get you alot of wrong responses on here" would indicate to me that you are a classy lady. For this reason, you should know that your n*pples are showing. To heck with the cleavage girl , that is above and beyond!!! If you do not want the wrong kind of responses, change that pic!
**just a warning from a red blooded American male who notices these things**
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 5:46:27 PM | | Just to inform you ,,,all you men who think it is my anatamy showing you are dead wrong!!!! If you were to enlarge that picture it would show you it is a part of my top. It has fringes and a piece is right where you think it is my nip. HaHa you men are so visual and what an imagination. I like the pic of my face but will inform all the men that it is not a part of my anatomyon my profile. For crying out loud. Prudes I say!!! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 6:07:32 PM | | we so quick to judge a female by what she wears and how she acts, and yet its not at all the same for male. the term slut is got to be one of the most degrading words in th english language. But if men get a lable like sleaze, there tearm is brushed off. as if it say its almost exceptable for men to do it. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 6:54:02 PM | Sorry but i do not agree with that....And whore is only a name..We are no longer in High School.I feel what one does is their own bussiness.If they are happy.All that matters.Whores are not bad people.What really is a whore anyhow.Someone which choices to have many partners.So what.Most are jealous that talk about them.And i have seen woman dress trashy that was not whores.They was looking for attention.Dress has nothing to do with it.Some find it fun to flirt. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 6:55:40 PM | I agree ladies, I am so tired of being labled a slut just because I show a little extra skin and because I am sexually open. Granted, by open I mean a leering old man with binoculars and a straight view of the beach ... but that's completely beside the point. Just because I enjoy a few spankings now and then, maybe some light bondage, nipple clamps, name calling, electricity, and some fantasy roleplaying ... why does that make me a slut?!!!!
*feeling so indignant* | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/27/2008 7:02:25 PM |
interesting Possibility,
Perhaps you should have phrased it more like this,,,,,,,
the difference between boys and men is boys with big mouths. WTF are we all still in grade school that we men need to discuss openly our sex lives? We men ARE pigs!
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