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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 12:45:36 PM | Thank you for starting this thread.
I've cut down considerably the number of individuals I converse with on here simply because I can never tell how he is going to react if sex is mentioned~~even in generic terms,no less.
I am constantly amazed how a simple joke or mention of sex means,to some guys,that I want to hop into bed with them.
Really, I say get over yourself---especially when they have the nerve to get angry at me | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 12:51:14 PM | | I'm a bird of a different feather altogether when it comes to matters and issues of sex and sexuality. But I will say, and only partly in jest, that the term "slut" has, more often than not, been a term of endearment on my part. If a man is honest with himself first, allowing himself to then be honest with you/women, he will tell you that he wants a certain degree of "sluttiness" in his bedroom--even with his prized possession. If he tells you differently be wary as, and I realize the risks I take in painting with such a broad brush, he's likely lying. After all, we've been conditioned this way for generations! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 1:12:18 PM | Ahh yes the lady at all times but whore in the bedroom. I feel that that, that would describe me.
What I am taking afront to is men who automatically assume because I am open to talking about sex, and show a little cleavage that I am going to jump in the sack with them, and then get downright pissy if I don't.
I am looking for dating but open to a long term relationship, however, I am young for my age, proud of my body, very open and enjoy sex very much. I also enjoy flirting. This DOES NOT however, give a man the right to pressure me into having sex early on. I have no problem with a man making a move, but i expect him to also have respect if i tell him that I am not ready experience that level of intimacy.
Men on POF are most often not honest about what they are really looking for. If you are looking for one night stands or casual ongoing sex, then just say so, their are plenty of ladies who will be happy to fulfill that need for you.
K | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 2:22:47 PM | Just like women want it all (according to ads, commercials, etc) so do some men; I want a great communicator, a passionate woman with a zest for living and one who is cultured but is just as comfortable in jeans, ball cap and barefeet as she is in her business suite. I want a woman who likes to skydive, swim with sharks, climb mountains, go to museums, do crosswords with me and do it all with a smile while keeping (and enjoying) our bedroom a fire zone! I don't want a woman who is going to be content to stand in my shadow or behind me but rather one with her own identity who will challenge me, confront me & call me on bullshit. One who can give as good as she gets. One committed to a life fully lived within the context of a faithful, monogamous relationship. One to share my dreams with as well as one who'd bring me along in the pursuit of her own. I have always said that if a woman, any woman, can capture my interest, attention, heart and mind then my****will gladly and easily follow. Too much to expect? Quite possibly. Too much to ask? Not hardly.
She will come.......as sure as my mind knows my name, my heart knows I'll one day meet "this" woman!. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 2:37:06 PM | I call men sluts.
I love the word "tramp". My friends an I use that as a term of endearment. It's so 1950's kitten with a whip. (btw-they are all pretty much married and monogamous. ) | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 2:40:21 PM | ^ And don't forget "tart" and "hussy" .... wow... our society MUST be puritanical if we have all of these words for promiscuity. I'd say that it's sad.... but so many of them are fun words! I mean, come on... "Hussy" is a GREAT word... | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 5:34:22 PM | As long as she's a smart whore, I really dont care if she is open about sexuality in general, or how she dresses. I'm just very intolerant of dumb sluts.
Flash all the lovin' you want. I prefer my girl to dress sexy if she likes so that she feels sexy, and if it stimulates her to have men drooling, then more power to her as long as she's not ****in' around.
My girl recently told me she "flashes" her tits at truckers on the interstate. I had no clue previously, but I haven't been seeing her that long. Nevertheless, I found this to be very stimulating for me. She hasn't obliged me to witness it yet, but if she does, that would be awesome...lol. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 5:41:17 PM | | Nothing wrong with what you are saying..sexual conversations can be fun but as far as the cleavage shots...seems to me more of a low self esteem issue and looking for attn the wrong way, moreso than being a slut...hey sometimes it can be both but usually the ones who show it off are the ones who are down on themselves which in turn means they are wayyy easier for a guy to get them in bed..why because any attention is good attn...and a guy "making love" (in your eyes) to you is the best confidence booster...and yes this is a proven fact men prey on women with low self esteem all the time and rarely do they fail...like shooting fish in a bucket... | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:22:32 PM | Response to morethanyouthink
I see your point, however, not every woman is the same. You have never met me or even conversed with me so you have absolutely no idea whether my self esteem is high or low.
My best friend has the hightest self esteem of any woman I know, and loves to show a little cleavage as do I. We both like to show cleavage because we feel sexy, and I have no problem whatsoever with men admiring the way I look. The problem I have is with their assumption that I am automatically going to sleep with just because I am dressed sexy!
And I certainly do not need to make love to someone as a confidence booster. I get offers daily for sex, but as it happens I have chosen to stay celibate until I meet someone I feel is worth my attention. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 8:14:57 PM | | I am not talking about how you dress in person i mean in the photos if you show cleavage in your photo then yes you have low self esteem just like the shirtless guys flexing the chest and stomach but trying to look casual...LOW SELF ESTEEM..... | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 8:48:54 PM | [/^And don't forget "tart" and "hussy" .... wow... our society MUST be puritanical if we have all of these words for promiscuity. I'd say that it's sad.... but so many of them are fun words! I mean, come on... "Hussy" is a GREAT word...]
Hussy IS a great word..and Jezebel, floosy,wanton woman,ooOoooOoo TROLLOP-another good one, tart, strumpet... | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 7/31/2008 9:24:34 PM |
Hussy IS a great word..and Jezebel, floosy,wanton woman,ooOoooOoo TROLLOP-another good one, tart, strumpet...
Yes, hussy is a good one. Trollop has got to be my favorite though. And strumpet, well, it just makes me giggle.  Slut is WAY to over used, especially when we have all these other words.
Anyway, back to the regularly scheduled thread. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/1/2008 7:38:25 AM | I've always thought that "strumpet" should be a pastry.
"What are we having for breakfast?"
"Strumpets with whipped cream and strawberries."
"Awesome!" | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/1/2008 11:53:34 AM | I dont think I have low self esteem buddy. Its really bait, thats all, and it works for me. Ive got the hottest chick on POF now. I really need to work on the abs though...lol, like losing about 50 lbs wouldnt hurt.
side note: Ive heard Bush plans on selling Canada to China before he leaves office. Im not sure if its true or not, but if so, not much you guys are going to do about it huh? I mean, you could beg for some mercy, as usual. Hey, at least we Americans wont have far to go to work now. Maybe, they will move the other 20,000 factories we've opened in China back over to Canada too. The first thing I would do is get those cops some squad cars in exchange for those poor cold ass horses.
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/1/2008 12:13:31 PM | Dude you look at someone's picture and based on his/her clothing choice (or lack of), you think you can judge their self-esteem??? My gawd, that's practically like being a psychic!
I think that's a bit of a leap, don't you?
Personally, I'd say wearing or not wearing what you choose to is more a sign of healthy self-esteem, than not... And...personally, I'd wonder about someone who puts up a pic of not only being fully dressed - but covering up their bodies with a big COAT as well...that say sto me low self-esteem and body love issues more than wearing less clothes.
Just remember, you can't read someone's mind. She might have on a low cut top because it's her favorite color. or maybe, she was out with friends and her friend snapped the pic for fun. It turned out really good, so she thought to herself "hey, finally a decent pic of me...I'm gonna put it on my profile". or "hey, this one makes my chest look perky, nice change from post-baby droops, I'm gonna use this picture".
And shirtless guy pics...well...I like my eye candy. I don't give a hoot what the guy's self-esteem is if he looks good in the pic... Yeah, YOU, starromeo dude...you are def one of them! :) (Oops, my shallow side is showing. Oh well)
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/1/2008 12:27:20 PM | Bravo Kaylie,
I coudn't have said it better myself! And my reason for the pic in the bathing suit, is to show hey this is my body type, i am not hiding anything guys, this is me and what I look like andI am proud of what I look like.
K | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:47:21 AM | | Who you calling baldy...By the looks of your picture..I would say your self..And also i am sure you have no idea or even got close to what easy is. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 5:36:05 AM | | I don't see anything wrong with 2 adults flirting and talking openly about sex. I prefer being with someone that like to express how they feel and have a good time,than being with someone shy and boring! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 5:46:13 AM | You know, not all cleavage shots are created equal.
I wonder if the men who put up shirtless pics are considered "sluts". I know either are considered to have low self-esteem, but I dunno.
I would think that showing off one's body to strangers shows a certain amount of a healthy ego, really. I mean, would you be showing something that you didn't think was nice to see?
Anyone who shows skin probably does so because they know sex sells.. even just the teeniest hint of it. I very much doubt that anyone here showing skin feels that said skin is ALL they have to offer... they merely understand advertising very very well.
So not sluts... just adept marketers. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 6:10:42 AM | Thomas the operative word is "with them". After you have met someone what you talk about is up to both parties. I keep getting first time emails or IMs saying stuff like...wow what mellons...boy you look healthy...how big are they. This is the first contact! Everyone but those on this thread must think showing cleavage makes them a slut or someone who doesn't deserve getting to know.
No one is more open about sex than I am, but if these men would show some class they might get to find out about that. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/2/2008 6:37:02 AM | Classynhot....you know your very right. It's not like your 20 and sleeping around with everything that moves. You know your body and your mind and haven't developed as many hangups as many people seem to do. You have gained likes and dislikes and just want to experience life. Frankly, I think many women would be jealous in a fashion that they feel too cold or closed minded. Your lucky....stay young at heart and mind and enjoy yourself. | |
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