| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 12:18:44 AM | On the Slut issue I believe it's much more important whether the individual preceives themselves in a positive or negative fashion when the term is used as opposed to how others view them.
Case in point:
I used to go out with a lovely sexy lady from Calif. who was very open with me sexually and I throughly enjoyed our encounters. On one occasion I got caried away during the heat of passion and called her a Luscious Sexy Slut and even told her, prior to saying this, that I ment this in the most indearing and loving way and yet she evidently had a very negative connotation about the use of this word ad she immediately became cold and turned of and that was the last I ever saw of her!
So I feel the individuals perception of themselves relating to the usage of this term can have a far reaching impact and more important to their mental well being. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 12:37:21 AM |
I got caried away during the heat of passion and called her a Luscious Sexy Slut and even told her, prior to saying this, that I ment this in the most indearing and loving way and yet she evidently had a very negative connotation about the use of this word ad she immediately became cold and turned of and that was the last I ever saw of her!
Oh, wow! I can just imagine. Big mistake. But this anecdote is perfect for this discussion. The term has very negative connotations that go deep into the psyche of the peoole of our culture. Your interpretation of the term was definitely not the norm, and even though you told her you meant it positively, it would have been better to ask her first how she felt about it and about that term being used to describe her. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 12:59:15 AM | Well folks the way I see it.
IT 2008 women have a sex drive just as strong as a man.
That didn't just Happen because of Y2K. lol
The Stigma needs to go away. You know the DBL standard.
If we guys do it our friends call us studs, so the whole SLUT thing is BS. 
Wild sex only means that it's Good. If she has Experience thank your Lucky Stars
that you've found someone that has as much sex drive as your self. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 1:02:56 AM |
Well folks the way I see it.
IT 2008 women have a sex drive just as strong as a man.
That didn't just Happen because of Y2K. lol
The Stigma needs to go away. You know the DBL standard.
If we guys do it our friends call us studs, so the whole SLUT thing is BS.
Wild sex only means that it's Good. If she has Experience thank your Lucky Stars
that you've found someone that has as much sex drive as your self.
Totally agree. Well said. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 5:03:32 AM | Many people cite wanting a partner that is open-minded to new experiences.
Those same open-minded people are usually intelligent and well-read, wanting to learn more about everything and anything.
That does not have to be exclusive of the bedroom!
I find those that enjoy learning are the most open sexually. They enjoy learning, outside, and inside, the bedroom! and why not! The more we learn, the more we know, and that can only make us better lovers for our partners to enjoy! | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 5:30:56 AM | Re the Opost:
"...It seems that a lot of you have the opinion that if i show a little or a lot of cleavage and have open discussions with men about sex that I am considered to have weak morals...."
I am of the exact opposite view: That women who show a little or a lot of cleavage or skin and have open discussion with men about sex are less likely to sleep around or have the so called "weak morals" IN PRACTICE. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 6:30:54 AM | No, it doesn't make the woman a slut...I wish more women were open sexually....I am tired of trying to figure out her mood and if she is horny or not....After being with many that way over the years, I want a woman that is open and up front about her desires....and if in the mood, come ravish me and not wait for me to go....Duh, are you horny honey?..... | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 8:32:43 AM | You are right of course. shame it is that a lot of folks think if a woman talks about sex openly and with intelgence she is an easy mark for a one night stand. i personally like it when a woman is open about sex. that way however the relationship develops we got that awkward topic out of the way right off and can move on to other things.  | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:59:15 PM | | I agree this doesn't make you a slut. It has been stated to me that communication is a good thing between people. I mean if two people can not discuss the subject how will they know what each other likes or dislikes, not saying this should be your first discussion but we are all adults and know that if we meet somebody that you need to have this conversation at some point. Communication is a good thing in my eyes. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:59:24 PM | Whoa! Everyday women walk around with the cleavage showing. You go shopping and everything, I mean everything is cut low. It's a personal thing. But in no way DOES IT MAKE YOU A SLUT! Nor does being open sexually.
We women have learned to say what we want and show men that we are aggressive in bed. I know I am sometimes. In the 50s and 60s a "respectable" woman would have never voiced what she wanted from a man in bed. Now it's say it or don't get it!
However, there are still some men that think that women should be a cook in the kitchen and down -n- dirty in the bedroom ONLY. Women have sexual needs just like men do.......and besides who doesn't like being on top once in awhile?  | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/16/2008 5:01:41 PM | They are just jealous (at least that's what i tell myself)! I hope you don't let it bother you too much, I like to talk openly about sex, too! Love showing cleavage.. If you have it flaunt it baby!  | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/22/2008 3:02:45 AM | My HOT photos are not showing anything, provacative. My sexually just radiates from my photos.
The question is, " being open about sexually does not make you a slut?"
My answer is NO. I beleive you should be open about what you desire sexually and also say what you do NOT want. Speak the truth. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/22/2008 3:42:09 AM | Re the Opost
IMO what makes someone, woman or man, a "slut" is not the average quantity of sexual partners per year (within reason, of course) but the quality. Ie IMO a male or female "slut" is defined by the type of women/men he/she sleeps with. So if a woman has slept with a few "losers" and "azzholes", IMO, she is more of a 'slut" than one who has slept with more, but men of some kind of quality, as humans. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/23/2008 12:29:43 AM | | I agree! Showing a little in a respectful manner shows confidence. And sex, well without sex their is no Life so if we cant talk about it openly and honestly why do it?? I mean mature adults whether man or woman should be aloud to discuss it openly with anyone who interested. Knowing what you like and don't like and sharing is okay in music, movies, food why not sex. Most everyone does it... So being opened and aware of our sexuality does not make us sluts. | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/29/2008 1:58:54 PM | Justmealso...you are my kind of man! I often worry if a man considers me a SLUT just because I am open and honest about my feeling about sex. Would love to discuss this subject with you further. 
Nita | |
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| Being open sexually does not make you a SLUT
Posted: 8/29/2008 2:08:23 PM | it most definatly does NOT make you a slut.
soo you show a little flesh, so what?
heck if guys have topless pics they don't get penalized for it!
if there happy with themselves then it's up to the individual!
and if people want to judge them & throw accusations around like that, then there unbeleviably narrowminded! | |
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