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| Is it silly these days to have old fashioned standards regarding sex when dating?
Posted: 7/25/2008 1:10:28 PM | I use to be old fashioned. I mean in all my years, I've never seen alcohol, drugs, or tobacco pass my parent's lips. I was brought up right, a yes mamm, no sir, excuse me miss kind of guy. God fearing, bible thumping, church going, man of the Lord.
Then I got a job that gave me the chance to travel a bit and that was went I realized I was actually HOT. I've never seen women like city women. I mean damn!!! And when the throw themselves at ya from every which way.
Understand my situation here. Back home, it took a couple months to get the panties off a "so-so" girl, here, 2.7 seconds to get them off a perfect ten. In the city, I just don't see good girls competing. | |
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| Is it silly these days to have old fashioned standards regarding sex when dating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 7:44:36 PM |
I can understand later down the road having sex, but does it have to happen right away? Is this behavior so antiquated these days, that there is no one out there who can appreciate and accept a person with these values, and still be interested in dating in order to develop a long term relationship?
There are many people, men and women, who don't want sex early on in dating. It's just a matter of finding those who are in harmony with your dating style, and only considering those men.
I see it quite differntly, and for me, sex in dating is a high priority. For me, it would be futile to start dating someone who sees things as you do.
The point being, that there are plenty of fish, regardless of your dating style. The only time it's a problem, is when you ignore the compatibility factor, and try to 'change" someone else, or act against what feels right for you. | |
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| Is it silly these days to have old fashioned standards regarding sex when dating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 8:24:08 PM | "I miss the courting and spending time and gradual togetherness"
which is what people should expect, not sex.
I'm a waiter, I don't like it to be meaningless, I have to know as much about them as they do. I don't see it as a gift, but i don't see it as something to be tossed around lightly, I see it as saying alright, I REALLY like and trust you. for me, trust isn't given, but earned. I was raised this way, it is just who I am and i don't compromise that! | |
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| Is it silly these days to have old fashioned standards regarding sex when dating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 11:29:26 PM | There is no best way to gain respect from the others, than respecting yourself first.
You are doing the right thing, cause you are sticking to your principles and ideas of when sex and intimacy should happen in a relationship.
No relationship is the same and sex should happen, if, when both persons feel are ready for that. Our time-frames are different, but certainly at some moment, if the relationship progress sex will be in the picture.
Some relationships progress faster than others; it depends on both persons and the circumstances sorrounding them.
And believe me, not all the men/women are going just after sex; just be patient and proactive and soon you will find someone enough interested in you to wait until you are ready.  | |
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| Is it silly these days to have old fashioned standards regarding sex when dating?
Posted: 10/11/2008 11:39:10 PM |
at some moment, if the relationship progress sex will be in the picture.
So everyone "should" wait? No thanks.
It's critical to unearth sexual views, prior to dating. For me, if chemistry is there, someone who holds compatible views with mine, will want to act on that chemistry. If she doesn't, either there's no chemistry, or we have incompatible sexual views. Either way, we shouldn't have dated in the first place. | |
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