| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/25/2008 1:37:05 PM |
. I don't mean he would look away a bit. He had actually turned his head and was facing perhaps 30 degrees to my right,
It's funny actually, I was at a chiropractor appointment this morning...and my dr won't make eye contact. He turns away or looks down any time we talk to each other. He makes a point of not looking at you. I had to call my friend that referred me to him, just to ensure it wasn't just me that he won't look at. Apparently he does it with all his patients. | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/25/2008 1:43:18 PM | ^^^^
While I've never subjected my body to the manipulations of a chiropractor, I think if I were to do that I would feel uncomfortable if he couldn't look me in the eye and yet would be doing to me what ever those people do.
Is your friend male or female. Perhaps the chiropractor averts his eyes only with women? | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/25/2008 4:41:56 PM | I was at a chiropractor appointment this morning...and my dr won't make eye contact. He turns away or looks down any time we talk to each other.
I wouldn't think it impossible that maybe some Clients might inadvertantly get turned on by his physical Manipulations. Maybe he was jumped a few Times over the Span of his Career, wants to avert "Sensual Eye" Contact. A long drawn out Suit could also have thrown him into a Fear Loop practicing Chiro and may be trying to prevent a Recurrence.
Maybe he likes you and its his Way to make 100% sure nothing comes of it. Also you seem to be a new Patient, so maybe he is a bit apprehensive.The Reasons are Endless. Maybe his Wife balls him out nightly because of some Fling he had with one of his Patients at one Time. Maybe he feels he can't help some People but can't say anything. As long as he does a good Job that's all that Matters. | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/25/2008 5:03:13 PM | You are right Ticket, I am a new patient. I was thinking the same thing.
I try not to look to deeply into the "That's it ***, just relax...yea...just like that...mmmmph" :laugh:
OR: my friend was a guy...perhaps the Dr. liked him too?? | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/25/2008 5:19:58 PM | wait a minute.....cracking backs gets people...er...all worked up
hmmmmmmmmmm
i wish gynocologists would accept this as a standard op proceedure
someones gonna lose an eye....case closed...sewn shut...im outta here
sorry...i dont want to bare witness | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/26/2008 8:53:35 AM | If you are really interested in learning about what someone who has less than normal eye contact, you might read this memoir by the brother of the author of "Running With Scizzors." Its a great read, and you might get an idea of who you were talking to that day.
"Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's"
by John Elder Robison
Amazon has a video interview with the author.
http://www.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307395987
I believe eyes are windows to your soul.
"It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?"
It is only creepy when you don't understand what you are dealing with.
So much of normal communication is done with body language, (up to 70%) that someone whose communication is missing this component will seem jarring. Since most people get their "honesty" factor from watching the body language--not from simply listening to what the person says with words, the person may seem to be "dishonest" when in reality, the most dishonest persons work very hard on getting eye contact right.
Some people with Asperger's syndrome wear dark glasses to make this less unusual-looking.
You might want to consider what YOU were communicating--moving in front of someone who seems to be looking away on purpose is "testing" them. You were using body language to say that you thought he was being "wrong."
In the world of animals, a direct stare is considered a challenge. If you stare down a dog, particularly a male dog, it is considered an act of aggression. Perhaps this instinct is still there in humans, but we learn to modify it as we become acculturated, and some children are less able to do that. | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/26/2008 9:45:28 AM | Ideoform ^^^
It is only creepy when you don't understand what you are dealing with.
Rest assured I did not understand what I was dealing with when I met the individual. If had understood I wouldn't have posted this thread in the first place.
I don't think I was testing the man. While I most certainly did not stare at the man, I wanted to make eye contact, even if only for a moment. Remember the meeting was in my home, where I have the right to feel secure and comfortable, and I wasn't feeling that at all.
Perhaps he did have Asperger's, and/or other afflictions.
I suspect others will have benefited from this discussion as well, for if they ever have such an eye-aversion encounter as I did they might have a better understanding of what they might be dealing with. | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/26/2008 3:29:10 PM | I went on a "meet", a POFer with whom there was a huge on-line attraction. He lived some distance, so we talked a lot on the telephone as well before we had a chance to test the chemistry. Although all other aspects of the "meet" went well, very well, in fact, he seemed unable to maintain eye contact for more than a brief moment at any point during the several hours we spent together.
I am big on eye contact. My first date section makes that clear. Before this thread, I had never considered that there may be ailments/disabilities with symptoms I might evaluate as "creepy" ... but I would hope that if this had been the case, I would have been forewarned.
I'm not sure how I would handle this in a business situation (before having this new knowledge). I might well have done the same thing as you, OnchyRinkus. | |
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| It is creepy when people avoid eye contact?
Posted: 9/27/2008 7:35:59 PM | | I know this guy at work and he has the worst breath imaginable ,now when he looks me square in the face his breath is traveling in the direction of my nose ,so what I do is turn my head side ways,so it's not quite as bad.In that situation I guess I'm guilty of avoiding eye contact. | |
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