| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:18:35 AM | Hi Abandonedbycupid,
I agree with you. Does this guy need survival gear in a trendy restaurant? Other people's perception of what you look like to a great extent determines reality in our society. It's not your fault society in general is somewhat shallow, and a fanny pack on the first date was a poor choice.
Now if you'd gone to Denny's, I think carting along water purification tablets, a snake bite kit, a repair kit, and an inflatable raft would have been entirely acceptable. | |
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:22:34 AM |
And you are not shallow, placing a value on the "billionaire" with the diamond necklace??
I think it's pretty clear that my point was that you don't know what's in the package unless you take the time to and care enough to look.
IMHO, it's threads like think that bring out the best and worst of people: "beautiful", "balding", "eyebrows", "fanny pack" ... yes, these are people looking for a "quality" relationship.  | |
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:51:44 AM | Hi A.B.C
I've had a quick read through most of the posts..
You got off at the right stop with this date... Had it gone on to a relationship i can picture you walking along a white sandy Caribbean beach hand in hand.. .. You in a lovely white bikini and your man in SPEEDOS....  with his Fanny pack... ...
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"BTW..whats the female equivilant of a fanny pack fax paus??"
I reckon a camel toe showing would be pretty close.. ..
A relevant youtube vid
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3I64m0x6wI | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 5:58:54 AM | Ummm Trailviews (slight observation) if this is what you would call the best or the worst of people.... probably to get out more. Charitable deeds/heinous crimes - probably more indicative of best and worst. A bit of a difference in taste and being choosy about which packages you are willing to open, does not a bad person make.
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 5:59:11 AM | Wow.
Is this what dating has come to? Someone has an accessory we dislike, so we not only laugh at them behind their backs with others, but discard without getting to know the person? If dude was dressed as Ronald McDonald's half-brother, then I could see the issue ... but this disdain over an accessory is just sad.
I'm no fan of fanny pack (took me a few minutes to realize what OP was referring to) - but who cares if your dude was wearing one?
Forgive ... just baffled and saddened by this. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:06:05 AM | OMG...I almost wet myself from laughing so hard. Especially when I got to the captain hook and 4th of July Pants part.
Seriously though...this guy is obviously glued to his fanny pack. When he states he is connected to his fanny pack the way you are connected to the color of your skin I think there is an issue here that can not be ignored. If he seriously believes he can not remove his fanny pack way more easily than you can change the color of your skin or "blackness" as he put it then...yeah...waving bye by to this guy is not superficial in my book. It makes me wonder what other similar attachments he may have.
Some may say it was mean of you to point to his fanny pack and make light of it. I see it a bit differently. You could have just said nothing and then quietly disappeared into the ether after the date was over leaving the guy wondering what happened. You could have seen the fanny pack and flat out refused to go in public or on the date with him. There are many women who would have done that. At least you let him know in a very light hearted way that he missed the memo on fanny packs and perhaps he should ditch said item. Who knows...maybe other women saw that fanny pack and ran for the hills. At this point he can't say he wasn't told that it may be off putting to some people. Perhaps it also will make him question why he is so attached to it.
Most of the men I know would ditch an article of clothing if they thought it was c*ckblocking them or removing them from the potentials list of women they are interested in. If he is that set in his ways and feels he will/should/can/must not change in the seemingly slightest of ways in order to connect with a woman, then more power to him. Instead of you putting "No fanny packs" on your profile I think he should put "Must love fanny packs" on his.
Btw...what the hel l was in that fanny pack? That would have been one of the things on my mind. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:07:16 AM | | ok here i go...i agree with the poster whole heartedly....and i am chuckling here because i have a sense of humor...come on men...get with it....step into the "singles" world and brush up on your appearance if u want to date.....i went on a "first meet" and the guy showed up wearing a green raincoast material jacket that had "volunteer fire fighter" written across the back...i could not get past that....Go to the Gap come on....break out that wallet spend a few bucks....we do it all the time in cosmetics alone.... | |
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| He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 7/26/2008 6:29:46 AM | ? we all will laugh but if it had turned out he had something useful in there for a given situation we would applaud him or his preparedness.
I wonder how many folks are detoured by the Pink Back Pack I have with me most of the time. (in it: tools, a book and fun stuff I probably shouldn't mention here)
would i brink it on a Date? **** YEAH. The pink really brings out my Biceps. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:31:46 AM | Gwendolyn2008, msg 56:
I must say, I felt quite taken aback at how you would "fanny-pack" someone because of the type of car they drive. I bought a PT Cruiser a few years ago. It was cool at the time, now everyone in Florida owns one and I look like I am always going to Bingo no matter where I go, such is life. Do you have "PT Cruiser Owner" blocked in you profile settings? Iguess it would pretty much ban me from any future dates if I had a fanny pack in a PT Cruiser, probably almost have to register in the neighborhood because of it.
Yes, I think the OP was shallow and no matter how much they were "laughing" about it, the continued comments bordered on verbal abuse in my opinion.
Have a Great Day !!
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:45:21 AM |
I must say, I felt quite taken aback at how you would "fanny-pack" someone because of the type of car they drive. I bought a PT Cruiser a few years ago.
Oh oh...it is somewhat of a disappointment to find out someone's deepest secret and see their true colors revealed.
I think a fanny pack would be worse than a PT Cruiser. At least it's a means of transportation...and I think they are fairly decent looking cars...however I heard they aren't really great mechanically though. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:46:11 AM | | Crikey, can someone tell me what a Fanny Pack is?. I could decipher this to Australian but it wouldn't get published here. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:51:54 AM | I agree, the Fanny Pack is outlawed and needed to be made fun of... However, if I was in the same situation it would not have been a deal-breaker... Just because your not interested in someone who would wear a Fanny, doesnt mean that your shallow. Its just another Turn-Off in your List of Turn-On's/Off's. You know what you want and your not settling for less, right? You go girl!
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Posted: 7/26/2008 6:57:11 AM | Re the Opost
"He brought his Fanny with him..." means "He brought his buttocks with him...". Eh?
So WTH is a "fanny pack"? Americanism for what? I had to google the word and wikipedia enlightened me! Ah, the "belt pack" aka "pouch" in its comeback version? The one that makes one look like a tourist?
THAT was so "no no" to override all other features of the guy?
Shallow rationale, IMO. IMO, not that I wear one. I wear photo-reporters' vest to carry my stuff around.
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:16:07 AM | OP
How old was this guy? And this is going to sound off, but what color? I ask because you said...
And then hoped I would see the light by asking me how I would feel if he wanted me to remove my "blackness".
That's why I'm asking. Yes, it can make a difference. Some European men wear them (I've been to another country) and there's nothing seen as wrong with it. And yeah sweetie...a tad shallow. I might have taken him up on the 2nd date to see if he was serious or not. The 2 didn't balance but you sound like you talked about that silly thing all night! Did you get to know him at all? And if it was that bad, why did you continue the date?
And I hate to tell you...but fanny packs are sold these days.
It'so ok to want someone of your fashion equivalent, but realize that clothes do not make the man. Did he treat you with respect and courtesy? You did snipe at him all night--I'd have probably called it a night long before he did. Kinda shows he was into you. Maybe even enough to put aside the fanny pack. Unfortunately...you'll never know.
But no...NOT a dealbreaker. Dirty, smelly, unkempt, yes. Fanny pack, nope. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:17:28 AM | | The men I know who wear fanny packs usually have a gun in there due to their job requirements. Those same men usually have a goofy fashion sense because they wear a uniform every day and don't have practice making those choices. It doesn't bother me in the least considering their character and what they stand for. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:24:55 AM |
BTW..whats the female equivilant of a fanny pack fax paus??
Hmmm....panty lines showing--and not just lines--but wearing white pants with freaking flowered panties...WTH...yeah everyone sees it and everyone's laughing. AT, not WITH, you.
Muffin tops...why would a girl think belly flab hanging over pants is sexy? | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:40:48 AM | Was I too shallow
Yes, you were. You've got a plaid skirt on in one of your photos (I assume you aren't in high school anymore), and you think there's something wrong with him wearing a fanny pack?
Crikey, can someone tell me what a Fanny Pack is?.
www.google.com | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 7:59:17 AM | Okay. I will find a man who doesn't mind an overage woman wearing a plaid skirt. Lol. I do feel like I'm in prep school again at times. My former date obviously has some lovely options of women who don't mind fanny packs...
As for me, quite clearly, fanny packs aren't my cup of tea.
He was a great guy and I do hope he nabs someone who has different taste. The fanny pack at a nice restaurant was more of an indication than the only problem. As I said before, every good guy is not the guy for me. As I said before, I'm sure that my investment in my appearance who have put him off eventually, as well.
We had a good time. It didn't end on a bad note, hence the invitation for a second date. I declined but maybe one of you now has the chance to accept.
Good luck (said in a very nice way). | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:09:56 AM | | nothing wrong with plaid in certain situations, lol. (I like your last 2 pics better though...black is a good color for you) | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:14:29 AM | I've seen some fanny packs that look quite stylish! Hell, I'd wear one, I don't care! They can be quite convenient! And yes, I do think you were a tad too shallow in this instance.
...unless it was one of those bright neon fanny packs. Gotta have the subtleness going on when wearing one of them things! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:18:59 AM |
Also...the poster who compared it to strapping a back pack on his scoot...totally different...saddle bags are SO not fanny packs
Agreed! I was just making the point that 'closet space' in a regular guys wardrobe is at SUCH a premium that it has spawned such goofy fashion remedies as the fanny pack. So I can imagine the necessity of one.....if not the fortitude required to wear such.
The OP seems like a good egg, so I'll cut her some slack for the (dis)missal. But I do think her victory dance & "Nyah Nyah" cheer at the end of the evening was a bit much.
By that time the guy probably just wanted to go home & catch some A-Team reruns. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:32:34 AM | | More for you to chew on... I have one of those t-shirts that is painted to look like a tuxedo. Rose in the fake pocket and all.... and I like it... Lol... | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 8:40:09 AM | " I have one of those t-shirts that is painted to look like a tuxedo. rose in the fake pocket and all... and I like it...LOL"
Kind of hypocritical, Don't you think?. Instead of dismissing a guy that you had great chemistry with just because of a "fanny pack" . I wonder if it would have been better to communicate your displeasure to him, maybe ask him why he carried it around, if it's not a good enough reason to suit you, then ask him not to bring it while out with you.
I'm looking at your profile pictures, I see some poka dots( my granny stopped wearing poka dots 30 years ago) I 'm expecting kids or old people to be wearing poka dots, not a 29 year old woman that claims to be so fashion conscious. And i see some plaid.
Maybe the Ops time might be better served dealing with her own Fashion issues before dismissing others for THEIR lack of style. | |
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