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funkyredhead

Joined: 10/1/2007
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 1:17:52 PM
i was raised to be non judgemental about race. but i also know that people are attracted to all kinds of looks. and its all good as long as we remember that people are people and should be judged by who the are. i personally tend to have more attraction to black men, but i wouldnt not date someone because of thier race or religion or anything unrelated to what kind of person they are. lol lets all have and international hug

worldchild

Joined: 7/23/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 2:15:04 PM
I think people fall into all kinds of patterns dating but this is one that is obvious to other people so they make an issue of it. I once went out with three Jewish guys in a row, randomly, but nobody ever said, "Wow - you only date Jewish guys!" Date two black people(/ white people if you're black) in a row and see what happens!

Strongdad

Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 53

ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 2:30:23 PM
Ten points to O for pointing out what is so unpopular to say outloud! Discriminate is not a bad word, in reality. It is a word that was hijacked for social/political expediency. Which, by the way, is bulldung. If you can't use your own personal powers of discernment (discrimination), there is something really wrong. We all do it for many different reasons everyday. I happed to prefer hispanic or black women, myself. Because, those are the people I grew up closest to. Simple as that. OK....there are a couple other reasons, too. But, we don't need to go there right now. Rock on. SD

girlygirl_76

Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 54

ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 6:23:13 PM
When it comes to friends, I could care less if your pink, brown or blue. I think each body is an amazing work of art, but I have a huge appreciation for ethnic beauty, no matter what race you are. From that perspective, it does make me smile when I see parents of the same background with children brought up in that background and I don't care for the idea of EVERYONE being "mutts", so to speak.... although, yes, Mixed race children are REALLY cute... I also love culture and the dynamics created between our similarities and differences. When it comes to long term relationships, I feel that there is more potential if you date within your ethnicity. Different societies have different situations that they deal with by evoloving. It is totally possible to have a mixed race relationship and be together - and happy, 25 or 50 years later. It's mostly an issue of efficiency. When things get tough, there are customs and ideals that are important to me that I would have hard time sacrificing, as there are customs and ideals of other ethnicities, that contrict mine, and out of respect for them, I would have a hard time asking my partner to sacrifice those. I'm not your typical "melted pot" American though... I'm German, Danish and Swedish and I have a fairly close ties to my ethnic backgrounds. Growing up in northern Minnesota, many people still spoke their "native" tounge, that they grew up speaking at home. The stores all sell Lutefisk around Christmas. Communities still show their ethnic roots and still maintain large racial majorities - whether it be Swedish, German or Norweigian. Ben Franklin once attempted to limit German immigration because we were so frugal, he claimed that we would throw the American economy out of whack - I can definately relate to that. I love the winter and live in northern Minnesota. I can appreciate -40 below, but African Americans are apparently slightly more sane as I can count every black person in the county on one hand and have fingers left over. My mother's side is very Scandinavian and not at touchhy-feely, while my dad's family is 100% German and hugs are guaranteed. My ex-husband was Scotch-Irish and had he had a closer ethnicity to mine, I think things would have been much easier. Had I grown up in a metropolitan area where I didn't have the background that I do, though, I'm sure things would be a different story.

MissMewsic

Joined: 6/10/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 6:32:41 PM
I was accused of being a racist before by a black coworker when I wouldn't show him any interest in going out with him. It wasn't because he was black, it was because he was old, disgusting, and ugly. I am attracted to certain ethnicities more than others. I just like certain facial features better, just as many black men like a woman with "junk in the trunk". I like someone who's culture is not too different from my own. I have a hard enough time understanding white guys, let alone differences in culture and upbringing too. I've always loved the smooth tan skin of latinos and asians too, unlike my ruddy and spotted complexion.

afashionlady

Joined: 4/19/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 6:35:21 PM
but completely ignorant about the problems of inter-racial and or inter cultural dating and or marraige are in other countries and how they might be brought along with people as they relocate around the blue marble Caskey...agreed. One thing that we all need to do is become more educated on that aspect of dating. You are very right. :)

Desert_Dan

Joined: 5/25/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 7:49:53 PM
Most of the time I am attracted to women who may generally resemble me in certain ways; facial bone structure, eye color, skin, skeletally and so on. That is why most spouses tend to look like one another! Pheromones need to match, too. However some hispanic, asian, semitic and black women I do find quite attractive.

EdwardPartSix

Joined: 4/6/2007
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 7:53:41 PM
1. Caucasian (White) Pass 2. African-American (Black) Yes please. 3. Asian (Yellow) Pass 4. Latino/Indian (Brown) Pass 5. Native American (Red) Pass

BaldyisBeautiful

Joined: 3/28/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 7:56:26 PM
1. Caucasian (White) YES, PLEASE 2. African-American (Black) YES PLEASE 3. Asian (Yellow) YES PLEASE 4. Latino/Indian (Brown) YES PLEASE 5. Native American (Red) YES PLEASE Why limit yourself when there are so many women of so many varieties out there! Thank you ladies of the world for being so beautiful and all so different in your own ways ... it makes my world a wonderful place to live in!

Ont_Underboss

Joined: 7/20/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 9:41:38 PM
Im sorry Boricua Papi, but thats a load of s hit, discrimination is generally based on a lack of knowledge/disliking to certain ethnicities, Preference IMO is personal attraction and to each individual its different. Some people like Big ( fat) some like small, some like tall, some like short, some like a certain ethnicity/skin colour blah blah blah, to say oh because so and so( Caucasian) doesn't like her/him because he isn't attracted to Black really depends, if they don't like Black people because of silly stereotypes etc, yes thats discrimination, but if he/she isn't attracted to them because they're not attracted to them, thats not discrimination. The example you made earlier about Hale Berry and Whoopi Goldberg doesn't make sense, and what is this General Attraction standards are you talking about? Is this the same standards that says Pamela Anderson is attractive or Britney Spears? or Serena Williams? Everyone tastes are different, the problem is the person who is or has been turned down by lets say a person outside their ethnicity/colour/religion etc generally cries discrimination to smooth their busted ego.

livingroomlegend

Joined: 6/28/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/27/2008 11:47:22 PM
....oh Baldy, I like message 10...you sicko......anyway.....I will fall in my tracks for a greeneyed irishman.....its familiarity....no discrimination here...some want diversity and others not!

eph5man

Joined: 7/22/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 12:11:20 AM
Ya like what ya like and at the end of the day, I don't want to think it to death. Just enjoy the life we have and do it with integrity. Preference, likes/dislikes - personal rather than social, unless you determine that the social law of attraction should supersede your own. By the way, not attempting to sound profound, but sheesh, is the next question going to be why some folks like pizza and some don't (do not even THINK about yelling at me for making a comparison between people and pizza - was merely referring to the fact that for me, it's no more complicated than that - PREFERENCE, personal likes and dislikes)

VVendy

Joined: 6/7/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 4:07:51 AM
OP "1. CULTURAL CURIOSITY (e.g. Interested in "So & So's" country of origin) 2. EXOTIC-NESS/NOVELTY (e.g. New Experience dating a variety of ethnicities) 3. DIVERSIFY THE GENETIC POOL (e.g. Mixed Race Children are usually cute!!) 4. PHYSICAL FEATURES (e.g. Body Type, Eye Shape, Hair Colour, etc) 5. STRAIGHT DISCRIMINATION (e.g. Rascism, Bigotry, Closedmindedness) So, which of these EXPLANATIONS do you agree or disagree with and WHY?" #3) A study was done that proved that mixed race children are more resilent and attractive.

littlemissemt

Joined: 7/6/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 4:19:30 AM
i think having a preference is totally acceptable. its part of your "type"... and discriminate is such a poorly used word. it is constantly given negative connotation so i think using it here is not appropriate, but to have a preference is perfectly acceptable

EdwardPartSix

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 4:52:28 AM
Why limit yourself when there are so many women of so many varieties out there! Well, it is a personal dream to have a kid with every race, so perhaps I should be more open minded.

Boricua Papi

Joined: 10/8/2007
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 9:59:36 AM
TheCdnJackal wrote: [Some people like Big ( fat) some like small, some like tall, some like short, some like a certain ethnicity/skin colour blah blah blah, to say oh because so and so( Caucasian) doesn't like her/him because he isn't attracted to Black really depends, if they don't like Black people because of silly stereotypes etc, yes thats discrimination, but if he/she isn't attracted to them because they're not attracted to them, thats not discrimination.] When people are "not attracted" to other people based on color of skin, bone structure, facial features, color of eyes, etc. is discrimination. We are not talking here about being "fat", "short", "tall" or intelligent. When I have the examples of Hale berry and Woopi Goldberg I just want to give an example that being "gorgeous" or "ugly" comes in any race. Those "general standards" to which I make references are general conceptions of beauty people have without having in consideration "character", "intelligence", "attitude", ect, etc... If a "white woman"(which are the most concerned about this issue) says that she is not attracted to "black men" because of their facial features, color of skin or eyes, or hair and that she is attracted to "white skin", "light color of eyes', etc. she is implying that she discriminates on the basis of race. Saying that "black men" are UGLY is a form of mean discrimination.

FireCaptain01

Joined: 12/14/2007
Msg: 67

ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 10:07:57 AM
Well said; discrimination is something easy to use as a method of casting blame, but preference is preference. Because a person of a certain ethnic catagory prefers a certain style of music, does that by definiting mean that they are guilty of discrimination against the music of another ethnic group? I don't analyze why I am attracted to women of my own race; it's just they way it is, and I really don't care what anybody else's opinions are; but I won't be pigeonholed into being a bigot for it.

Obsidian71

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 10:20:30 AM
People ..it's called a freakin' dictionary Discrimination has multiple usages. Because some have attempted to hijack the term doesn't change the viable definitions as given by Webster and other dictionary No one can make you feel like a bigot or a racist..YOU must make that choice. Preferences are choices or discernment of which is tantamount to discrimination. I personally discriminate daily if not by the hour. I have "discriminating tastes" Please stop hijacking the English language by demonizing words that ought not be demonized. O

Ont_Underboss

Joined: 7/20/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 10:33:45 AM
Papi, didn't I just say that? If someone doesn't like a particular ethnicity because of their features/skin colour etc, yes thats discrimination. Some people misuse the word " preference/discrimination " as i mentioned earlier, people are attracted to what they are attracted to, thats human nature , I couldn't care less if someone doesn't like me because of the colour of my skin, so be it im not going to go home and cry about, it is what it is, and I don't waste a precious second worrying about it. Im open to all cultures, but for some reason Im not interested in Russian women, why? for some reason the women ive encountered doesn't appeal to me, im not attracted them, does that make a discriminating bas tard, because they dont appeal to me, it is what it is. all this talk about people being open to other ethnicities is a lot of bull shit, like i said before you are attracted to what you're attracted to, you cant change that no matter how many times you want to click your heals. You mentioned Hale Berry and Whoopi Goldberg, listen I know a few clients who think Whoopi is hot, and Hale is not, I personally dont agree with that assessment, but every0ne entitled to their opinions, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and in some case beer holder.

samiecat1

Joined: 4/27/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 10:36:48 AM
I don't discriminate: I love all shape, size, color, age (over 18 of course), and I even love men and women equally! It's a persons soul that tugs at my heart!

TBLZ

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 10:50:17 AM
Obsidian71, I was with you from the beginning... I don't know why certain people panic when you say "discrimination". If we were talking about food and having 'discriminating taste', I guess it would be ok. It's discrimination IMO, if someone says I only date my race, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Now, if that's how they really feel about the dating, I don't know or care...and it's their prerogative to date in/outside their race or both. I was accused of being a racist before by a black coworker when I wouldn't show him any interest in going out with him. It wasn't because he was black, it was because he was old, disgusting, and ugly. I am attracted to certain ethnicities more than others. Don't you hate it when people play the race card...why can't I just dislike you because your ugly and disgusting and bc I don't like you? LOL...(I couldn't resist...) I bet you hurt his feelings.... I like someone who's culture is not too different from my own. I have a hard enough time understanding white guys, let alone differences in culture and upbringing too. I've always loved the smooth tan skin of latinos and asians too, unlike my ruddy and spotted complexion. I can understand this too...LOL. My motto has always been to not discriminate when it comes to dating. I loves'em all as so eloquently put by Baldy. But when it comes to trying to understand another culture and upbringing, things can get scary... Too each its own.... I'll taste the rainbow....

concubinestoy

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 10:50:25 AM
> It's social suicide to even comment on this Woah. Glad I don't live where YOU do. As far as different "races" go, I thought we were all a part of only ONE, that being the Human race. ------- Does this mean that I've committed "social suicide" here? Sometimes I wonder about people.

clark_dieselpdx

Joined: 7/25/2008
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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 7/28/2008 11:00:06 AM
No one can make me be with someone I don't want to be. Why is it ok for a blk guy to be with a white chick, but when a white man is with a sista, its different. Oh man, those blk guys sure get pissed off, too! hahaha!!! Another thing, Asians do NOT like their children to marry nor date outside their race. That is just fine. We have so many mixed races, what's wrong with keeping your own race YOUR OWN race? Where is the law? How come blks can trash us white, but we can't do it back? Its all comical.