| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:06:16 PM | If you feel good about the choice you made then that is what counts ... I have not had sex for 3 1/2 years myself ... I call what I do christen sex its everything but actaul sex ... Do I miss sex ? Yes .Do I want it ? Yes . Do I need it ? NO ... I will think about it and want it but then I will remember I dont need it ... I have had offers and turned them all down ... I know I will be with a guy some day that will change all that ... I just dont believe that getting laid is that important ... There is more to life than sex ... I just havent found anything . lol . just kiddin ... There is more to life and more to men than sex ...
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:22:23 PM | | Well I did it. I was alone as a single parent for more than 5 years without love, kissing, sex ect. It was hard but raising my son seemed more important at the time and we as women and men are strong and can adapt to situation when we need to. | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:25:00 PM | | I dunno. I'm fixing to divorce from a 10 year marriage and I'm not doing so good at the wanting to be alone thing, but I guess I could be if I had no choice. Battling right now though over that too cause I kind of have a choice. | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:25:19 PM | | To live the rest of my life without human affection is not an option for me. That does not mean I would be with someone just to avoid being along. I had 17 wonderful years with the ex. I had 2 bad ones. Unfortunately those 2 bad ones were the last 2. I choose to think about those 17 years. That does not mean I am not over him. It's a done deal. I have lived on my own for 5 years now. Learned alot (damn dating sure did change too) totally comfortable living alone. I am at peace with whatever life is going to hand me. The relationships that I have had were all good. They were not perfect and that is ok too. The longer I go being alone does not make me bitter about not having someone to call in the middle of the day when I just won the lottery. It will happen when it is suppose to happen. Until then, I take the trips I want, I go out to dinner by myself to nice places. I buy myself nice Christmas gifts. It is human nature to want to give love, I feel lonely when I am in the mood to give love. I don't mean sexual, that is easy to give if you really really want to do that. But when you just want to give your love to someone and feel they are wanting to give it back is such an amazing feeling. No, I cannot fathom living my life without him. | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:53:51 PM |
So my fellow POFers Can you be alone? NO sex no love no kissing
Well, I've been holding steady on that front for twenty eight years, with no end in sight!  | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 10:15:03 PM | | I was alone when I was raising my son--7 years...it was difficult but I was focused on him and doing right by him. Since then I was in another relationship and towards the end was lonelier than I had been the entire 7 years. Now I'm alone and enjoying it...I won't be without human contact or dating or friends. I will never be truly alone because it's not how I'm made...I need conversation and stimulation...could I do it-yes, if someone dropped me on a dessert island...will I do it-no. | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 10:34:09 PM |
A freind and I were talking about life after a boyfriend/husband and she said she would have no problem being alone for the rest of her life (except friends family) if her and her husband called it quit's.
It never fails to make me chuckle when people who are in a marriage, say that they'd have no problem being alone. They truly believe that and for that reason, you have to give them a hug but the reality, when it hits, is far different. Just getting over the "habits" of marriage can be a tough transition as many of us know.
Yes, I can be alone. For the first time since I was a fetus, I have no obligations to meet before I can attend to the worthy causes I've always wished I had time for and I've discovered (to my surprise) that there is more than one way to be happy.
It has always been the case that whenever I've been single, I've allowed myself to be rushed right back into a committed state and while I take full responsibility for that, I now claim the right to live out some of the things on my rather sizable wishlist before I re-enter the world of the committed.. IF I ever do...
I rather like that idea... | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 10:37:15 PM | It depends on how you define alone. I can live my life without sex, without "love," and without kissing. I may not want to. It may not be the ideal way to live. Especially in the face of general, and specific, societal factors pressuring me not to, and possible links between a healthy social life and longevity. I need to be a part of society, I have an innate need to survive.
I can not live without other people in an absolute sense as I have no deep understanding of medicine, complex technology, farming/cultivation, animal husbandry, plumbing, or a seemingly infinite number of things that are necessary to maintain the standard of living I enjoy and am accustomed to. Therefore a modicum of conformity in the face of absolute independence and individuality must be accepted.
In my opinion most people will say they "would have no problem being alone for the rest of" their life as long as the same (social especially) needs and wants that are fulfilled by their idealized "one" can be obtained via alternative sources.
In my opinion a lot of people define the idea, notion, or concept of love to someone they designate as their primary source for validation, purpose, and social conformity. | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 11:06:15 PM | I prefer not to live alone... my ideal is a loving relationship.
Can I? Yes. But no, I would not choose it. | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/25/2008 11:29:10 PM | It's not my first choice, most certainly... but oh yes. I am a very portable and self contained unit. Mostly because I have wonderful children that I adore, a close family unit, as well as a slew of really amazing, witty and kind friends. I also have my passions and hobbies.
It's a full life and I am and have been very fortunate. | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/26/2008 12:15:25 AM | Being alone is something that happens to us all at some point in our lives when we are living with a partner we can feel this. I feel it is good to have this time to reflect and understand how we have got to this point in our lives. We need to fill our time with new interests so the alone feeling is not so bad.. we should prepare our selves just in case we meet someone by pampering our selves on occasions.. I feel our lives are mapped out and if there is another guy out there, you will find him.. but some one who is worth your time. I feel that being fussy can leave us alone.. but if you are not happy with your man , you will avoid so many nice things and the partnership can bring you back to the alone stage again.. I feel we could all live the rest of our lives alone but most wish they can share it with someone they can love and admire.. I have been alone for years but I have my children around me at the mo and it not so bad.. but I do worry about the times when there is no-one. I think we should just live in hope that there are men out there who also want to be with us and we just have to wait to see if they notice us and play the right cards... as this is impotant.  | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/26/2008 12:42:59 AM | Being alone has it's advantages, you are productive in some things. Celibate, relationship-less people have become great musicians, artists and inventors (not saying that having someone in your life would somehow deter accomplishments).....However, it does also eventually wear away at the mind and the soul. I've been single for a few years now and I have to tell you, it gets old. When you don't have a companion for such a long period, you begin to lose a sense of balance. Some have a need for validation and when they go without human affection for so long, they begin a path of self destruction. I feel that everyone needs someone to make their life complete, as well as someone to look out for them when they are running into trouble.
on the sister seeing three guys after a divorce.... hmm, I guess someone really doesn't like the experience of monogamy? | |
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| Could you be alone?
Posted: 7/26/2008 12:52:40 AM |
Can you be alone? NO sex no love no kissing
For me,there's two separate Q's here.......
1.Yes,i can be alone--not a problem.
2.Hell,NO !!! I love sex,passion,romance,touching,kissing,et all......so,that's where a man comes into play............& to play with me........
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