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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 6:07:23 AM | | Some days I don't know why I even make the effort, but then I have an awesome date and remember why I love the feeling of raging hormones at age 51. | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 6:52:26 AM | Sorry about your bad luck, esad! I guess someone must have knocked that glass- full over--- in the kitchen sink! If you can't believe that there COULD be a special person out there just for each of us how can you have enough optimism to deal with the rest of the daily grind? I've been lucky I guess, met some special people at the right moments...
Given the right circumstances I don't know anyone who wouldn't rather have someone to share life with. That shouldn't mean "settling" OR "pie in the sky", just being honest with yourself AND those people about your expectations... | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:05:58 AM | | I think we all feel down at times for no tfinding "the one" quickly enough. As the saying goes: Rome wasn't built in a day. Maybe that keeper will come along when you least expect it and that is why you persevere. I don't get a lot of responses to my ad but keep it there in the hopes that one day...... | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:07:09 AM | Hmmmm:
"hopeless romantic, here we go again"
"better to have loved and lost than never loved at all"
"yes, it's me and I'm in love again... OOOEEEEE baby"
stuck in stupid
AH, now I remember, I'm hornier than billy goat, that's why I still make the effort! | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:10:02 AM |
I think we all feel down at times for no tfinding "the one" quickly enough. As the saying goes: Rome wasn't built in a day.
I think that's what a lot of folks need to understand. Society has become a very instant thing; everything has to happen NOW. I forget what comedian said it, but it was right on: "Why on earth is there a microwaveable version of Minute Rice? A minute is TOO LONG??"
People have no patience. Of course it would be nice to just have the first person you meet be the one you want to spend your life with. Unfortunately, reality doesn't work that way. | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 11:47:03 AM | Right now I don't even want to make the effort! I'm taking this time out in my life to do whatever the hell makes "me" happy for a change.
Relationships are so much WORK . I'm tired of going that "extra mile" for somebody to discover I'm just walking around in circles.
If Mr. Right does make an appearance down my path one day, hopefully then I will be ready and willing to go that extra mile..but in the meantime... it's ALL ABOUT ME | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 5:25:26 PM | I have Amor Vicit Omnia tattooed on my right shoulder, so there's the obvious - I'm an eternally optimistic romantic.
That, and I've never been a quitter.
HnH 
Happy Pants:
Your profile put a huge smile on my face, it was a great read. | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 3/27/2008
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 5:36:20 PM | Oh, I totally agree that you have to be happy and content with yourself first. In terms of making an effort, though? I honestly don't think of "it" as an effort. If I did, I know I'd automatically become more desperate and much less attractive -- in all ways.
Enjoy every day and whatever you are doing. Eventually, it will attract the people into your life who need to be there.
(And nope -- I haven't yet met the "right" one! But, it will happen...) | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 5:41:03 PM | | It is something to do. it is like how can you meet someone if you do not look and yes sometimes based on what i get back it is not worth it but like i said it is something to do | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 6:36:33 PM | Let's see... I think we get lazy in our old age...
Dating and all the bullshit that goes with it..
Avg date will cost me 150 bucks or more for dinner and dancing or movie or whatever.... weekend at the shore... that'll be a grand.... Al the little bullshit do dads like flowers, candy, lunches and so on...
A friggin escort is CHEAPER! PLUS, they don't complain about you leaving the toilet seat up, don't care if you leave your sox on the bathroom floor....
Hey??? What the hell am I doing here?? Where my yellowpages???  | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 7:03:14 PM | Today I stopped by to visit my guy friend. There was something different about him. His eyes were all shinny and he had this great smile. He greeted me with great enthusiam and a bigger than usual hug. He was positively glowing!
You guessed it...He's IN LOVE!!!!
After him telling me what has been happening for the last couple of weeks to him...I got to take the credit for hooking them up....sort of. She and I had planned on going out together and later on in the week meet at his place for a barbeque. She wanted me to ask him "blah blah blah". I said she should call him and ask him herself. Then (knowing he kinda liked her) I gave her his phone number. And that was that!!!
Ain't love grand! I'm hoping the best for my friends.
As I was leaving, I turned to my buddy and said "someday some guy is gonna sit right here and talk about what a great lady I am." He just gave me another hug and told me how much he loved me and that "yep...someday that is gonna happen."
Ahhh...hope springs eternal.
ps...hugsnkisses...I read Mr HappyPants profile as well. Just couldn't help myself. Pretty dymned funny! So rude! LOL! | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:30:57 PM | I feel others go the extra mile because they can...Hey...I'm not a write off yet! I've experienced love and like the taste of it. I'm not talking sex, I'm talking love and there is a big difference. It's not an effort when you love someone...it's a choice and a darned good one at that...I may be "older" but I'm not dead yet.
strawberi50 | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/10/2008 11:07:42 PM | 'Cause I can. 'Cause I'm not dead yet. I may take time to rest then, but why should I now. I take breaks to lick my wounds, but I don't stop living because of them. I wont stop. I like being alive. I like feeling alive. Things that make my blood move make me feel good, feel alive. And it's a joy not an effort :-)
Thanks
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:09:47 AM | Curious.
What is this "effort" you speak of?
I'm also surprised to hear someone say that we guys are numerically disadvantaged.
Could it be that some of us try too hard? Come on guys - what have we been coached all our lives? RELAX. DON"T TRY TO KILL THE BALL. TAKE YOUR TIME. SQEEZE THE TRIGGER.
There is often room in my life for a nice lady. About the only effort I make is cleaning the dog hair out of my truck. And I should do that more often anyway, so I don't resent it. Small price to pay for having a cool woman around in my opinion. And I usually do. But when I don't, I'm fine with that, too. I just look at it as a little break (never lasts) where I can be TOTALLY selfish. Turn my cell phone off for a week at a time. Take the boat, and the dogs and head down the coast for a few days.
Get a life, man. Quit being needy. Build it (your life) and they will come. | |
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| Why do YOU still make the effort.
Posted: 8/12/2008 3:50:40 PM | When you're with the right person it doesn't feel like an "effort". IMO any successful relationship involves some degree of compromise at times, on both sides, be it with family, friends, workmates or a romantic partner.
It takes time and open mindedness to discover that someone is "the one", and chances are they are middle aged too with their own life stories. If you are not willing to "put yourself out" for them and they for you it will probably remain an elusive dream. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2008 7:14:05 PM | | I don't believe that there is just the one RIGHT person for anyone...if you have the capacity to love, yo will love sometimes, and loving someone makes giving 80% worth a LOT.Some of the people I have loved have been changed by my love, often for the better, some so hurt, by my leaving that they collapsed.... I ,in turn, have been changed irrevokably by everyone I have ever loved,into more than I could have imagined...usually. love is worth the effort, and life is worth living, and if you feel that is untrue, than you haven't really looked at your options honestly.Yes, and losing someones love, or a dear friend hurts, but we are usually born solo, and usually we die solo, alone in that experience. | |
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