| | no sexual advancesPage 2 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | Personally could not have lasted a month. If I have chosen to be with someone a full month, then we have chemistry and you can be darn sure that I would have made some kind of invitational gesture before then, that he could follow up on. He sounds like a wonderful guy but you must follow your own instincts. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 10:04:57 AM |
We haven't had that "talk" yet. I mean I know I'm the only one he's seeing, and he's the only one I'm seeing.
And don't force him to have that talk either. He already knows what you are thinking and when the time comes, he will let you know exactly what's going on.
Just go with the flow and you'll be alright. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 10:05:00 AM | IMO, he likes you a lot, but is waiting for you to feel comfortable to make the first move.
Feel comfortable yet? I don't know the guy, but I doubt he'll wait forever. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 10:07:22 AM | Broken,
Why don't you make a move? I have certainly did what this guy is doing, and it felt good. Maybe he wants to be absolutely sure, before he brings it all home? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2008 12:52:16 PM | | It seems to me that he is trying to do all the right things, with "right" being defined as all those things women claim they want. He's probably waiting for you to indicate that you're ready to bring sex into your relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 4:50:12 PM | | SKAJ-I'm amazed at your insight into human nature and you are 25yo WOW! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 6:32:01 PM | A month isn't that long.
After 2 months you may be in the "friend zone" as you put it.
Sometime before then, you should maybe dress extra sexy and make a move on him. Is it possible he is waiting for marriage? There are people like that. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 7:09:56 PM | | No, he's not waiting for marraige. He's had sex before. Like I said..his last relationship started off as a drunken hook-up. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 7:47:00 PM |
Personally could not have lasted a month. If I have chosen to be with someone a full month, then we have chemistry and you can be darn sure that I would have made some kind of invitational gesture before then, that he could follow up on. He sounds like a wonderful guy but you must follow your own instincts.
This is an important point. I can't speak for this guy or any other guy, but if I don't get a pretty clear signal that an advance would be welcome, I don't make one.
Others have made good observations here as well. Over the years I've had relationships that quickly accelerated into intimacy, and ones where we took a good while to get there, savoring each step along the way. Honestly, I can't say one type has proven better than the other, just that it's important for both to be comfortable with however things go.
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Posted: 7/28/2008 7:49:06 PM | | He told me ealier in the relationship that he knows he is taking things slowly but to trust him, that it was a good thing. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 8:17:18 PM |
He's gay!
But I'm not ... give me a ring!
I'm so going to hurt you! LOL. he is Not gay! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 8:18:50 PM |
I'm so going to hurt you!
Promises, promises!!! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 8:40:24 PM | He's a eunuch from across the Ohio River.
Given you're 23 and he's likely in that age range I smell some Apishpapa (stinky water.) If he's 23 and the earth has covered more than than 8% of its annual trip around the sun and he hasn't even started trying to knock your socks than I'm guessing he's gay.
Of course you could just jump on him and pound his tonsils while your hand gives some attention to that more often than not favored one of our apendages. Whether I'm right or wrong you'll know.
Of course since you folks have rivers that catch on fire he might just be crazy and I might not know what I'm talking about so just forget I said anything. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 9:22:36 PM | Okay, in a month you'll be asking us if he's gay. 
Listen, before you post that, just take off your pants and get the nasty business done. You are in control, so whenever you want it to happen, just tell him something like "Tonight I want to go to the next level" or "I'm horny and I need you TONIGHT."
Either way should do it. Do bother us, puh - leeeeeessssss....... this is SO TOTALLY under your control!  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 3:11:39 PM | He's 26, I'll say it again, he's not gay. I'm going over to his place tonight..maybe I'll take everyone's advice and make a move on him.  | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 9:45:25 AM | Or maybe he is nervous to have sex? Not very well endowled, climaxs too quick? I'm really not buying into all this respect stuff! and I very much doubt he is gay too. Personally I dont think he wants to spoil what you already have by giving a poor performance in the bedroom.
Im sure there are hundreds of blokes that wanted to reply with this but didnt want to be branded with being like that lol | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 9:51:15 AM | HA HA, women are so......
They love to portray men in condescending ways as "drooling" all over them.
But the minute one is not having some guy try to bust a move on her, she starts to wonder what is wrong with her. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 10:52:11 AM | Well, it's very possible that he's just a really nice, sweet guy.
Or,................drum roll.................that he's not all that comfortable sexually.
I met a lady while building a habitat house, who lives in a very small, very strict Lutheren community who was so sexually conflicted that she not only sought out a seven year extr-marital affair before eventaully getting dovorced, but had NEVER, EVER been able to achieve a climax.
She also met someone who she thought was both a perfect gentleman and a polite and considerate suitor. Thier eventual marraige lasted seven days, after which time he was still a vigin!!!!
Personally, a fun, intimate, healthy sex life is just WAY, WAY to important to leave to chance, especially if your potential partners either been married, or is "otherwise experienced". You're not teenagers anymore, not wearing white at the alter, and as far as important compatibility issues are concerned, sex prowess and thoughtfullness is probably one of the easiest to assess. So my suggestion is to press the issue a bit. Use lingerie, a long, romantic weekend away, or some similarly "engineered" arrangement to become seriously romantic, and see if that part of your relationship "clicks" too.
Good luck, and I hope it's everything you've been waiting for.  | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 11:55:12 AM | | If you want to take it slow, take it slow. if you find yearning for something intimate with him, perhaps the next make-out session, you should be a little more bold? Surely, you make-out, right? | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 2:43:50 PM | | Agreed willsfriend. Wouldnt it be tragic to invest all of that time with someone only to find out that the sex is not all that it should be. Well, at least you'll end up with a shopping buddy that will tell you how your butt really looks in those jeans. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 2:46:09 PM | | ...or worse yet, what if he has an abnormally small appliance. He wants to make that emotional bond so that you'll be more.....understanding. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 2:47:44 PM |
He's 26, I'll say it again, he's not gay. I'm going over to his place tonight..maybe I'll take everyone's advice and make a move on him.
Waiting with baited breath on the results of last nights adventure ... and we want juicy details! | |
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