| | no sexual advancesPage 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | Well he's dating Maggie Gyllenhaal and thus does not want to mess anything up with a surprise boob grab. MG can have any man she wants thus he feels lucky to last this long with her.
Either that or he was born without a penis. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2008 5:34:45 PM | there is nothing wrong with you. the same thing happened to me.
after a while i started to think "i lost it" because of my age.
it started to work on my ego and not in a good way. we ended up parting as " friends". but my self esteme wasn't the best by that time. I know exactly how you feel. it doesn't matter if your 16 or 60 women enjoy the persuit and when it's not there they start blaming themselves.
BUT .......that doesn't mean this will happen to you. you've only been dating a month. that's not that long when you think about it. does he know how you really feel, tell him exactly how you feel. Then take it from there. Don't blame yourself how you are reacting is normal.
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Posted: 8/2/2008 7:27:46 AM | This is why men end up hating women.
Nothing we do is the right thing. If we're aggressive, we get called pigs. If we're decent, you guys start suspecting we're gay.
Could you ladies one time just stop overthinking the world and just live in it? Would that be too much to ask?
Do you want him to be a dirty old man? Tell him. I'm sure he'll be relieved that he can let down his guard and begin to molest your boobs as much as possible. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2008 7:33:15 AM | ^^^^
EXACTLY! How many threads are posted whining about how "men only want one thing," then when a guy doesn't try to get into a woman's pants the first date, either he's gay, a pansy, or he's saying that she's not desirable.
Ladies, do us all a favor. The first date, tell us "I expect you to try to kiss me on date A, and try to have sex with me on date B. I'll say no, but on date C I'll sleep with you." | |
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Posted: 8/2/2008 7:57:18 AM | Okay...respects you is great, but it HAS been awhile and neither of you are virgins so something is amiss here and I'm thinking on his end.
Men with a TeenyWeinee aren't too thrilled about bringing it out because they've been dumped a zillion times already when the big night came and it turned out not all that big. Okay, only one issue and there are many including medical.
The point is, something should have happened by now. It's going beyond respecting you at this point in my opinion. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2008 10:24:28 AM | | can no one fathom the idea that sex is not what this fellow wants to be the focus of the relationship it bis quite possible that he has had the sex in the relationship.what he hasnt had is the rest.he is drawn closer to other aspects of the relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2008 4:39:47 PM | | Scarlet & provide if you would have read all of my posts here you would have gotten it that I am GLAD he hasn't been pressuring me for sex. I never said he was gay or that something was wrong with him. I simply asked what is "normal" when it comes to waiting to make a move. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2008 6:57:58 PM | Okay, here is the torpedo in your calm and soothing ocean. He may have issues with his own sexuality. I know that sounds shallow and probably rather mentally ill after hearing all of the great things everyone has said... but I dated a guy who took things slow and was shy and very sweet.... we got married and ten years later I found out he is bisexual. He didnt want to admit his identity issues and tried to be hetero in a relationship but eventually, the genetics got him. No.. I didnt turn him gay. He has alot of issues, luckily that is over as far as I am concerned.
I truly DOUBT you hit the freak jackpot that I did... but I definately agree with the lovely woman who suggested you plant a big, hot smooch on him. Let him know you are interested in more than friends!
Sorry for this post, but weird things do happen to good people. I just think its best to get to the bottom of things before you fall in love with him! | |
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Posted: 8/2/2008 7:08:03 PM | Did you get your answer?
I haven't seen him yet. He might come over tomorrow after I'm off of work..
However he did invite me over to his sisters house tonight but I was busy. Family from out of town was at my parents. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2008 12:03:13 AM | | big clue: does he want to passionately kiss? 'take it slow' people (and even very prudish people) will passionately kiss if really interested. for some reason, it's almost easier for people to have sex than to passionately kiss if not super interested. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2008 7:54:36 PM | | So I talked to his roommate today & he question that my guy & i were dating. So I called him (yes I know it should have been face 2 face) & told him. And I just bluntly asked so what are we? are we dating? & he said yes, and he's been thinking about us a lot lately. Like if he wanted 2 get serious with me or not. & I said, "and...?" I don't remember what he said unfortunally but my next question was did he still wanted to see me & he said yes..this boy is so confusing!! I asked if he wanted to come over tonight..he said he didn't know cause he might have something to do..i said that was fine & i'd txt him later to find out. I did, he said no but he should be finished with his job tomorrow & would probably want to go out & celebrate.. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 10:30:09 PM | Let's also just say he's another one of the typical guys I tend to like..@$$ hole was cheating on me! nice.. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 10:40:39 PM | I'm so sorry it turned out that way. I think deep down you knew something wasn't right, or you would have never posted the question. We got to learn to listen to our intuition.
Good Luck, trust me.. he didnt 'deserve you anyway! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2008 10:52:40 PM | Well, maybe he is waiting until you're ready? Sex isn't everything although many people seem to think it is. Just because it is the norm, doesn't mean much, after all natural is just a word given by humans to things they think are regular. An attempt at giving order to lack of order.
Things will come in time. Man though a lot of what I wrote probably didn't make sense, my mind is swarming with so much thought. I don't have the patience to write it all down here. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 2:44:51 AM | | Op, I think your missing the point here, he didnt find you sexually attractive, pure and simple. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 4:55:21 AM |
Op, I think your missing the point here, he didnt find you sexually attractive, pure and simple.
If he didn't then why did he try to have sex with me last week & I turned him down? | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 5:19:25 AM | | I seriously hope that he dumped your whiny, mind-game playing, can't-makeup-your-mind ass. You whine and cry about him not trying because you want him to, then turn him down when he does? And some women wonder why a lot of us get frustrated with women. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 5:25:16 AM | He is maybe just not that into you ?
Or he could be gay ?
Only time will tell he he feels sexual attraction to you.
Maybe he is just hooking up with you until something better comes along ? | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 8:30:05 AM |
Let's also just say he's another one of the typical guys I tend to like..@$$ hole was cheating on me! nice.
He was not an ***hole in the beginning. No wonder you were confused.
Don't worry. There are plenty of other ***holes in the sea. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2008 11:17:10 PM |
He was not an ***hole in the beginning. No wonder you were confused.
Or so I thought..he was cheating on me the ENTIRE time with his ex. Oh well.lol
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Posted: 8/17/2008 12:47:02 AM |
Let's also just say he's another one of the typical guys I tend to like..@$$ hole was cheating on me! nice..
So silly!  The roommate QUESTIONED that you were actually dating. The guy he LIVES with doesn't know WHO you are?!?! That's pretty obvious that you're very very low on the list of priorities.
I was wondering WHY no one had asked if this guy was out banging 2 or 3 other chicks, so when he came around to you, he was just plain tuckered out. Pretty simple. Heck, most bitter and jealous women would have assumed that WAY back.
Now....as to the cheating....um, miss..?? YOU are the OTHER woman. Yup, he was cheating on his EX, not on you. He had a relationship with the woman he was bangin'.....YOU were just a safe house....a place to lay low where the EX couldn't call him. This way he can create great stories to get HER excited.
You got USED, but not cheated on. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 2:19:11 AM | Well (no offense Whack) for once I have to agree with Whack. Although I don't think that it has to be bitter and jealous women only who can figure this out.
Sorry OP, but you weren't "the woman" as Whack said, you were the "other" woman. Be glad that you found out sooner then later and that you didn't sleep with him. He obviously wasn't the right guy so look at it as a learning experience and move on.
I still think that it's good to meet a guy that doesn't push intimacy immediately, and that there are those who do this because they are gentleman and not just using you. The only way to know is trial and error. Don't get bitter tho, that makes for an unhappy life. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 4:53:33 AM | | Wow!. Get a ****ing life.You are complaining that he is not trying to get into your pants? Am i correct?Why don't you take the initiative for christ's sake. | |
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