| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:11:13 PM | Xainos
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/5/2008 11:29:19 AM | | I am 58 just turned and I have looked for someone since I have been 19...been married more than once and the last husband who became my ex married 6 months later and 6 weeks later me was found hung. The woman he wanted sorry to say didn't want him and all that for nothing except 165,ooo life insurance policy was ruled a suicide so she got nothing and then had to prove who the father to her brand new baby to get support from 3 different men including my ex...at least now he can't hurt anyone any more. But what a sad ending to a man who got what he deserved and they always say you reap what you sow. But this is not the whole story...the worst is also the last. I had a man from texas contact me last nov and he said he was born and raised there and was a citizen but now lives in the uk. He wrote a wonderful christian letter 2 pages and said he wanted to trnasfer back to the states where he was from. He wrote to me on my yahoo account as I don't own a computer and I can get my mail at work. So to answer back I went to check his account data and I could not find it ...no where...I even thought I dreamed him up but he said it was from singlesnet and he got off to write to me as he thought I was worth it to freeze his account...but to write I would have like to kow sme knowledge just to be able to have converstaion than to ask him all opver again what your profile would have said and not look totalally stupid since I did not keep his account...act...who would have thougth it would not still be there...hmmm...any way he wrote ask any questions and he would answer...well 5 months later with emails once a week to once a month and then I m's he finally came through with an address and no number to call and the adress belongs to the london times newspaper so he either lives in the broom closet or on the roof ...does he not think american woman are that despersate or lonely to not check since I really know nothing more about him than what he wrote in that very first letter. His name is victor christian 48... 12 13 59 with a son victor whi is about 20. He said he sent me flowers fro my birhtday in mar but the flower comp in conn. called me and I called back to talk to a man unidentified or even the shop's name who takes orders over thecomputer and the flowers were sent to a lady in nj with mjy phone number and his son's email address and it was credit card fraud and since I wrote to him and said thanks so much for the flowers I never got and this scam really does belong to you since you had my phone number and it was your own son's emial if you are not to blame thenyou are as quilty as you provided the information...so now no mail in 2 mohts im once in a while as he is BUSY...so I wasted all that time on a credit card fraud with someone who says he does not know what I ma talking about...so sorry for the person who got billed for my flowers and I am sure for more than that...scared of people now... | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/5/2008 7:08:19 PM | This is from a woman . Close to your age...Stop feeling sorry for yourself...And realize how lucky you are. Your children are with you. The way you say and I ended up with the kids..... You should feel lucky you have them.As they know they are safe and have a secure home. With there Dad...
With the way you say you ended up with them.Would make me step back and think twice....Now a man who writes...I am blessed my children are with me. And I will whatever it takes to make them feel loved and secure...Now that is one I might consider.. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/6/2008 8:11:31 AM | | He's not running out of time if he's looking for people close to his age, status, etc.. If he expects to snag a woman a lot younger than him, better looking than him, wealthier than him, more educated than him, etc., then he's in for a rough ride. Then again, that's true of any age - people who have a lot going for them gravitate to those who are most similar to them. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/6/2008 8:26:51 AM | Trust me, you are not alone! Maybe it's worth having a try and look at it this way....You got kids, so some sort of family around.
I am here in England on my own, no family, mum in Germany and no kids but always had wanted them and never found the right man:)
So part of me is sort of a bit envious that you at least got kids....maybe you don't see it that way and I am sure it doesn't make things easier but sometimes it helps to look at the few things you got left :)
I do hope things get better soon and that you might meet someone nice!
I always asked for the same as you and look, i never even got as far as you did lol 
Chin up! Thing can only get better,,,,,...sort of ....sigh....giggle  | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/6/2008 6:34:43 PM | | Do you know the most surprising thing about divorce? It doesn't actually kill you, like a bullet to the heart or a head-on car wreck. It should. When someone you've promised to cherish till death do you part says "I never loved you," it should kill you instantly. You shouldn't have to wake up day after day after that, trying to understand how in the world you didn't know. The light just never went on, you know. I must have known, of course, but I was too scared to see the truth. Then fear just makes you so stupid. It takes a part of you away for awhile never knowing if there is that special someone that can put it back. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/13/2008 3:56:25 PM | yes i know how you feel friendseeker2 , i was with my x for 27 yrs and i thought he hung the stars and i have cried so much over him it hurts anymore.
maybe you and i should meet and cry together and get over them. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/13/2008 7:52:00 PM | I truly feel your sorrow.. I know this sounds trite right now to you, but its been five years. That is much too long to grieve the "death" of your relationship. I would highly suggest that you engage the help of a psychologist/psychiatrist to get you through this. I have been in your shoes, but not for the length of time that you have. I hated it when people always said to me," this will give you more time to get to know yourself". BLAH...
Turns out, they were right.. Time has changed my perspective. I no longer wish to be part of a couple. I enjoy the freedom that comes with my solitude.
It is a blessing to me. You should focus on the fact that she is gone! She won't be back, then let it go...
You do not NEED someone to make you complete. You should join in the beauty of living and embrace those who are sent your way. JMO | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:05:24 PM | umm do what i do... get a really stressful job or two and believe you me you very quickly forget about the loneliness and your ex teehhehehehe. But in seriousness just be active. It took me like a year and a half to get over my ex to the point where i didnt think about it everyday and althought its been more then two years and yet not even a date i don't see it as loneliness I just see it as being alone but I am not lonely cos i cherish my family and wonderfull friends that i have :-) hang in there I am sure it will get better.
And as for the job, for real it helps! I've been at this stressful job plus my part time job and havent thought about the ex in ages, i just think about my job too much LOL | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/14/2008 8:50:28 AM | | hey, sorry to hear about the bad times you're having, I've been there myself and ended up losing my home the girl I loved, her two kids and I lost having my little girl around me all the time. The thing is you can't let the actions of one person ruin you and your life. Your mission now is to make yourself bigger and better than you ever were, my turning point was when I realised that there are plenty of guys out there who are trapped in loveless relationships or a crappy job and would do anything to have the freedom and choices that I had in front of me so I made the most of it, I started getting fit, doing karate and the drawing and writing that had been put on hold for years. What I'm trying to say is do whatever you want to do for yourself simply because you have the luxury of doing it, and hey, maybe she'll end up seeing what she could have had if she'd hung around! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:08:59 AM | There are so many men on this website who don't give themselves enough credit. You are attractive, seem to have your priorities in line, yet are hard on yourselves. Chin up-press on! If you weren't so far away I'd be honored to make you the happiest man alive!  | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:43:12 AM | | I can honestly say I have my nights I do also. Been hurt bad in the past. I came home to find my wife in bed with her boy toy. Then I start getting over it and get in a relationship with a very good friend of mine who ends up after a year and a half of being with me up and leaves with her 3 kids. I have lost a house damn near my sanity and close to a lot more. I have looked and looked for that one woman but have not been able to find her. Found one that made me happy but she wasn't ready for a relationship. I have been told I am a great guy that I treat women right I am sweet and caring and I would be a great husband but it looks like I am not what women want. It is hard to find love but I know I have had it and if its meant to be again it will happen. I have my kids my drawing and my poetry a few good friends and family. I keep going because I wont stop trying I am to stubborn to quit. Its hard when you have to worry about things and know that nothing you do seems to matter. But things will hopefully get better I hope. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:50:16 AM | | I know just how u feel, sometime i want to scream and pull my hair out or even worse end my life, but, i dont want to leave my kids without a daddy just because their mom is a b**ch you know. After 5 years of marraige she just up and decides she dont love me anymore, i am still angry with her for taking me away from my kids, but, hey i got to get up and push on everyday and hope one day i will find someone that will love me and stand by mean even if times get rough and will be willing to work things out. So hey buddy keep your head up, dont let one woman get u down. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/16/2008 10:07:19 AM | | Im sorry to hear things are emotionally difficult for you...Do you have family you can talk to? Or do more activites with the kids to get your mind away from things? Try to keep your thoughts else where....When you do go back to it just know crying is a healthy way to release those feelings better than keeping them all in... | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:12:33 PM | I don't cry often due to being single, but it has happened, not in the last 4 months
though,( anyone who doesn't admit to crying is a liar) crying is a emotion that
needs to be released when it's need happens, to hold it in, is to only deny and deprive
yourself, and keep what's troubling you inside. Let it out, all of it, you'll feel better
in the long run... and very relieved, after crying, get your thoughts together, and start
thinking positively, on how to constantly improve yourself. I do that now , and I'm totally
content and happy.... Positive thinking!!!! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/16/2008 7:52:36 PM | hey Im sorry about your situation and im not going to get into my life but yes, even at my age i know how you feel... i got 7 younger sybolings to take care of....
anyway i just feel that if people would stop being soo picky when they shouldnt be and more picky picky when they should be... we sould all be better off...
EX: you have girls who see this guy in the club and he is dissing out all his friends acting like an ass with no consideration... all these girls for some reason want him and then when he treats them like shit and they cant take it after 3 moths they wonder why it happened to them and they cry about it... its ur life u make ur bed... make it well cause only you end up lying in it...
EX: the dumb ass reasons why ppl pass up perfect mates... look back in ur history and tell me how many women or men we pass up because we are too afraid or feel to important to ask out... or how many times do we want to go over to someone and feel well what if he is like my last guy... screw ur last guy... and this news flash is really secret but its a fact... men and women both want sex the same its only that women have more of a finess about it... soo yes all men are the same but soo are all women... | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/17/2008 4:51:01 PM | | Well put a nice shirt on and take that cap off and go shopping. you gotta look good if you want to get a woman not like you are fixing the garden fence. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/18/2008 12:42:31 AM | | I'm sorry; sounds like your in a tough spot; I dont know what your asking but now you can wipe away your tears, use this weekend to get a plan to make things better. Think of social things you can do, or even online things you can do to be more social. Remember, if you tell people this or if you emit sad vibes, no one wants to be around a downer. Its going to be hard but their is hope. At your age dont expect magical Romeo and Juliet things, but there is plenty of hope. Its up to you and if you put in the effort, you will do well. You are the answer to your problem, not crying alone. Good luck!!! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/18/2008 9:44:20 PM | | women women women ,is that all the world cares about? honestly if all they want is money and other things that i wont bring myself to say then you would be happier living in the gutter than being with one i can assure you,i hope this makes sense,i have been single for eight years and have only slept with prostitutes and i am much happier with the way i am now and really dont mind if i end up in the gutter,the thing with women is they have this curtain that they put up and they try to make out that they are perfect all because they can give birth,THEY ARE HUMAN and if they ever make out that they arnt like saying that they dont fart and things like that then just give them the flick,just because they ripp out your heart does not exclude them from the negitives that life equally offers and if you looz the battle you still learn,so who really wins? | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/18/2008 11:55:57 PM | hey dont cry anymore brother..
your kids needs you to be strong for them..
and be lucky and thankful you got'em..not him/her
go out.. find a hobby.. play baskeyball.. keep taking care of yourself..
dont cry cuz..you lonely.. thats patha..
remember the best revenge is picking life right after.. let them seee you living life without them..
(i dont remember how the saying goes.. but its something like that)
do some push up..
most importantly.. hangout with the kids.. find stuff to do with them all the time..
no matter what age they are..
dont give up! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/19/2008 7:45:37 PM | Keep swinging.Man it hurts i can relate.Just get out there and be FUN!
No kidding.Tell jokes.Not dirty ones.I think i screwed up just now.
BE FUN!...FUN FUN FUN !JOKES are #1 but not to many.Not in one day.Move around alot.
PLENTYOFFISH...REMEMBER? | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/20/2008 8:33:37 PM | | Took me close to 1o years to forget it all. Not easy. ANd I'll never be the same. So much does not faze me now. As he said "What doesn't kill you.................." Not to be cliche.................but I know its rough. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/20/2008 9:14:44 PM | | Wow, I had crying spells during my divorce and now with this last love. Why they took advantage of my love and took me for granted. I'm sorry to hear of your relentless cries at night. Life happens and hits us unexpectedly. Just accept it and stop being in denial. That is the cross I've been bearing til now. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/21/2008 12:54:35 PM | Dudes... come on, please cheer up - I feel as if i'm turning emo here !!
Seriously though...I would suggest.....
1) Find yourself a nice cool beer.
2) Sit & drink it alone & think. Think what you want to do in life. What goals, hobbies, sports, childhood-dreams you would enjoy & you would like to do. (I've I've always wanted to do a skydive, learn to fly, or play 5 a side soccer for example. Then figure out how to go about doing it. Find something in life that you are passionate about & LOVE it. Turn every negative into a positive. & Just when you are doing that, when you least expect it - everything else will fall into place (if you know what I mean)
3) Consider what makes YOU happy. What makes other people happy. If what makes other people happy isn't making you happy - then f**k 'em! Also if other people have no interest in what makes you happy, then move along. It's your life - not theirs.
4) If your MAIN focus is meeting the woman of your dreams & everything else is secondary, then it just isn't going to happen dude. You are never going to meet someone sitting alone watching TV feeling sorry for yourself.
Once upon a time in a galaxy far far away.... When I was young & stupid. I used to think that nobody loves me, & I'm all alone & it used to get me down, like it does to all of us... I met one girl, we made each other happy. It came to a natural end, so I felt down again....then one morning I woke up, the sun was shining, the skies were blue. Life felt good. I realised that I was on my own but I could do whatever the hell I wanted. Don't worry I am not goig to talk about god or anything like that. haha. I Booked some flying lessons, I didn't qualify but I had a damn good time learning to fly. 8 hrs in total. Next I learned to skydive even though I was sh*t at it even after 45 jumps , I also learned to paraglide - now I'm fully qualified for cross country flying. I re-instated my interests in visiting countryside places, going to rock concerts, keeping tropical fish. I've even taken up photography, I love it. Yeah - I'm on my own & nobody loves me - but that is a GOOD thing.
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Posted: 4/22/2008 7:03:33 PM | you have my deepest sympathies, man...
And the above noter is right.... cry if you need, but dont let the hunt or the past drive you mad. Live for now... live for you kids... and live for you. | |
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