| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 9/18/2005 10:54:52 AM | | I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL .IT FEELS LIKE THE WALLS ARE COMING IN ON ME.GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE AFTER 18YEARS OF MARRIAGE SHE LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER GUY FINALLY FOUND OUT SHE WAS CHEATING BEHIND MY BACK.I ALSO NEVER ASKED FOR MUCH OUT OF LIFE JUST TO BE LOVED ,THATS ALL THAT I WANT.NEED A WOMAN TO BE MINE AND ONLY MINE IS THAT SO HARD. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 9/18/2005 1:30:29 PM | | just reading all this made me cry. i have been through so much in my divorce from my best friend and childhood sweetheart. she just changed almost overnight. i miss her so bad but i also hate her so much. and i still love the person she used to be so much. every night i go to sleep hoping i will never wake up. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 9/18/2005 4:07:01 PM | wow I am sorry you are all having such a hard time.
But you have to stop acting like a victim. I know what its like to be left holding the baby, I have been a single mom for 9 years now. It was hard yes but you only get outta life what u put into it. If you sit at home & feel sorry for yourself then thats all u will get is people feeling sorry for u. We all have our battle scars & its how we deal with them weather we either become better people or just poor sucker hating the world & all the people in it, with no chance of loving anyone or being loved in return because we are afraid to love incase we get hurt.
Im sorry but the cold hard turth is that u just have to get over it pick yourself up brush it off cause the best revenge is having a good life for u & your children.
It will make no difference to the people that have left that we either hate them or sit & cry because they are living their lives they have moved on & thats what we all need to do.
DON'T GIVE UP & DON'T GIVE IN ....LET SOMEONE IN & LOVE THEM. even if it dosent work try again its a long road & I know Im going to be here a long long time  | |
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Posted: 9/19/2005 7:15:47 AM | @MikeDanger..I understand what you are saying but in light of things if all you have to turn to is your friends...do it! I am not saying that you should not look for love..I am just trying to say to the guy maybe you should work on you and make you happy...Friends can help you do that! There is also a plus...Sometimes friends introduce you to the man/woman of your dreams...even by accident!
I tend to take the BBQ invitations for my son and I at my friends places cuz you never know who your gonna meet...that is all I was saying...In no way was I meaning hanging out with your friends is a better replacement....
But you know I am content with my life at the moment...If someone comes and something happens great! I know I am the total package for someone....It's just who is he I wonder???? | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 9/19/2005 12:39:06 PM | Yes to all of you guys please hang in there. I'm sure a big burly man will come your way one day and take you off into the sunset. Cuz damn well everyone knows NO Woman in their right mind would EVER want a pushover ****.
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 11/21/2005 8:48:35 PM | H = IJ.............Happiness Is an Inside Job.
You will find that once you stop putting the emphasis on trying to create happiness with needing someone in your life ............rather finding happiness within yourself people will want to be around you more. Not you in specific but people looking at the negative sides in general. I myself have suffered 2 major open heart surgeries, had a pace maker implant, suffered a stroke and a minor heart attack...........was adopted at age 2............my list could continue.
I guess what I'm trying to say is..........I could let alllllllll these things feed into me and make me a very "woa is me" type of person.........instead I chose Life!!
A life of loving and laughing. I am a strong believer in finding out as much as you can about yourself and the rest will fall into place...........and if Love with another person is not found.........at least you have love within yourself!
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/8/2006 2:38:20 PM | Here's a really nice place that helped me when I was going through a divorce. It's run by an Alabama Lawyer and it's a divorce forum.
http://divorceinfo.com/heo/index.php/board,1.0.html | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/8/2006 4:58:53 PM | I know this was posted a long time ago but I know that feeling very well. I've recently found out my husband was cheating on me and have since filed for divorce and the last 5 months have been pure hell for me and more than once I've wanted to just disappear. I've only in the last week found out that he's now having the child we never had with this younger woman and though we still speak (me and Him) I know he's not happy but yet he doesn't want me anymore. I have so much to offer the right guy and I know I don't need a guy to make my life complete but I still long to know that there is one out there for me and that I'm still allowed to be loved by someone other than my parents and my friends. So, if i could just vanish maybe I'll be happy but it doesn't work like that and dispite the fact that it's hard I know I must go on and so must all of us who feel this way. There's more to my story and I hope someday I'll be able to look back and say that I now have what I long for so much right now! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/9/2006 4:26:36 PM | starrysecrets, don't worry. This pain, fear and confusion will not always be there with you. It's an emotional roller coaster ride you'll be on for a while, but it does end, I promise.
Keep your chin up and hang out with those who will support you.
(((HUGS))) | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 2:49:42 AM | i just wanted to say i am sorry that happened to you.i understand what you are going thru.after 28 years of marriage,my husband left me for his secretary.the most devestating thing to hear is,i don't love you anymore,i want a divorce.i felt like a knife had gone thru my heart,i have never hurt so bad in my life.i have cried so much i didn't think i could cry anymore,and i still have my moments.we will be divorced a year in may,and i am sure that will be a difficult day for me as well.he seems to be in my thoughts daily,no matter how much i try to forget.i have dated some,but,they never work out,i am so afraid of being hurt again,when i am still healing from a broken heart.i thank god i have my 4 adult kids for support.it is very hard at my age to start all over again,but,i am trying,sometimes the lonileness can get to you.i have learned one thing,the world doesn't stop for your grief.good luck to everyone,and keep your head up,and move forward,never looking back! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:50:05 AM | | Hi, I feel like I'm fading away. Don't be discouraged, I also had a very bad relationship the only good thing that came from it is my daughter in which I miss everyday, its been 5 years since this relationship it still hurts like no tommorrow, But enjoy the company and love of your kids, someone will come along, the waiting part sucks, but sometimes try to take the initative and mabye you'll feel better. I cry more than I can say, but on the bright side you have your kids to have around enjoy their company and love and you'll be suprised how much of the lonliness gap can be filled. Anyways I'm sorry about your ex, her loss, and good luck with everything. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:57:20 AM | Hmm, I find it interesting that most of the people who admit to crying all the time dont have a pic up of themselves! Just an observation - not having a go at anyone!
For those of you who are upset a lot of the time, I hope things improve for you!  | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 8:59:42 AM | Well, the given here is that women are not likely to knock on random doors looking for a man, so the best advice I can offer is that you stop whining and feeling sorry for yourself and get out and socialize.
If you don't knock on doors, you don't make any sales.
Things happen for a reason. You had a woman leave your life that disrespected you to the point where she ran away. People who care about their mate don't do that, so the A=C of it is that it was over anyway. Move on. Let some other lucky woman experience what the last one was too blind to see.
Head up!!! Confident smile. Win one for the Gipper. (Sorry, former athlete.) | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:01:17 AM | same boat here...ex left for for much younger woman...but thats ok. i do cry myself too sometimes....i am sure most of us do. all we ever ask for is to be loved an to love...but it doesnt seem to be that easy now days. so many walk round with walls round their hearts..sad actually..for they will never find true love.
 for everyone ..best i can do being so far..lol
dont know bout anyone else..but when i use to sit here talkin to people nightly.....that kinda relieved the pain for short time...until i got off the computer looked round....yup i was alone again..so really...didnt do any good for me ...made me feel more lonelier...so i took uo hobbies to occupy my time..an come on here less to say hi to some. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:53:11 AM | our life is what we make of it...it is our choice to make...so its up to you what you want an how you approach life.
we all go thru hurdles in our lives...we all got thru pain ..sorrow..an alone along with the joyous moments as well in our lives... but goin thru all that...its all how we carry into our future too. it is faith an hope that keeps me goin from giving up..i believe there is good out there...just some dont know how to bring out the best in themselves after being thru hard times. if we bring out the best in others ..then it shows our strength as to who we are as a person.
love, forgive, and let go...3 main keys to a good relationship. example..if ur pet chewed ur shoe would you throw him out or disown him?? absolutely not...an yet you discilpine him ..he will still love you unconditionally. if you can love your pets the way you do....then you can love another same way...be amazed of the results.
i smile on a daily bases..no matter what...i make the best of situations an take it as it comes...i was not always like that..i learnt how to...and thats the best part..life is a learning process an always will be. i live life to the fullest with no regrets ...taking chances... cause ya never know huh.
i am sure you can agree with me to this level...but it gets better...lol. We all miss that special someone in our lives..the touchin...kisses...the holding...their presence...someone to be there for us on all levels..just knowing theyre there beside us...someone to love us uncoditionally. no ones perfect we all have flaws...but dont judge us for them ...for i am sure your not flawless either. when we are with that person...annoyin little things bout them wont matter...cause you love them for who they are..without changing them...just to be accepting of them. when you can accept them for who they are...your love will growm fondly of that person as each day goes by...an accepting makes it so much easier for yourself. dont complicate situations..take them in...deal with them ...an move on...lifes to short.
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/11/2006 6:59:59 AM | I ALSO NEVER ASKED FOR MUCH OUT OF LIFE JUST TO BE LOVED ,THATS ALL THAT I WANT.NEED A WOMAN TO BE MINE AND ONLY MINE IS THAT SO HARD.
^^^only problem with that is when men finally get to really liking someone..he runs...with his emotions...happens to me everytime. i personally feel some men have been damaged from their past so bad to fearing....they dont know how to accept anothers love again. so we tend to put our walls up for this reason to not opening up again. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/11/2006 7:24:35 AM | | Yeah life at home didn'tfeel right.I had a suspicion it was happening again.Then my Daughter gave me a download from verizon and my wife was calling the electritian at 1 am.So I got a CDL and hit the road in a truck.You want LONELY...I cried steady for a year.But I am young(50) and crying makes you old.I ain't gonna let that happen.Take care of yourself.Be kind to everyone you meet.Make jokes at the starbucks counter.Watch others smile.Thats what I'm doing.It helps.Weeping is but for a time and then the God of grace will cause the sun to shine another day if he wills.Take care of the kids .That is Gods will. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/11/2006 7:27:12 AM | I THINK EVERYBODY SHOULD JUST TURN ON THEIR HEART LIGHTS...
This is life people...shure it sucks....but the trick is to LEARN, and GROW. Its Ok to cry...shit....get it out..its good for you.
But after a good mourning session.....go out and live life again.....one person dosnt make up who you are.
Its inside you...you just have to find it again...HAVE FUN ITS OK...and cheer up....when life gives me lemmons....I make beef stew. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/11/2006 8:24:23 AM | There are SOOOO many women looking for a man. Any man. Any age . Any body type. If you are healthy, working , and a property owner, you should have no problem FINDING a woman. The problem you have is the same one i have. You are hog-tied with kids. Don't give me that crap about how you love them to death,; how they will always be first, etc.. If hillary Duff had the hots for you , and your kids were being taken care of, you would not hesitate to find a way to be with her.
So, what should be your mindset on this- If you truly live alone, youmust make up your mind that any woman who would take the risk of livng with you and your little darlings is taking a greater risk than you would be taking.
I suggest you opt for a woman less fortunate than yourself. Get to know her online , then start exchanging letters, later talk on the phone and arrange a meeting in some convenient place. Make every attempt to meet her family. Unless you want to just make your EX happy , you should not try to make this woman feel like she is "filling the need" your kids may have for a mother.
Personally, I'd be so quick to give the children to their mother when ever I got the chance . I don't know how a man can take care of a house , take care of kids and work , too. But cheer up , my brother is your age, and he raised three boys all by himself. No help from welfare , either. No girlfriend/mommy type to help either. He swims three miles a day doesn't smoke or drink. That probably helped him get through it. He is not good at meeting women either, but he lives near the Canada border, and I told him how many lonely (and pretty ) women there are in Canada on POF.
i didn't recommend to him to date women in the US. I think personally, he SHOULD , but if he hasn't found anyone by now, maybe he needs someone with a differnet outlook. I also think he should find someone less fortunate than himself. Not less hard -working, just less fortunate. Because if two people NEED each other , it sometimes follows they wind up liking each other. At our age , IFUWISH , we are usually set in our ways,(have to be in order to maintain dicipline), and that doesn't always go with starting a new relationship.
Good Luck.
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/11/2006 10:15:33 PM | Hay dont feel so bad...
When on vacation My X of 21 years took two of my daughters and left the third my oldest at home in a empty house with no food. no fridg ...Its been two years my two daughters still disslike me won't wright or call when I call they allways are bissy. I still cry at night, Movies, songs. Just got to tuff it out. It allways gets better just close the door and a new door will open. still lonley after all thes years. Cheer up You still have the love of your children.
Omshanti Om
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/12/2006 1:01:16 AM | I hear ya! I was supposed to have moved out here with my girlfriend, had major blowout the night before I left (she was to follow a week or two later)....no hope for a recovery on this one either.
To those whose answer is "there is someone out there for you", this may be true, but so is "They Never met, and they never will; for she lives on the morning side of the mountain, he on the evening side of the hill".
Having someone out there and finding them are two different things. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 4/12/2006 1:02:43 AM | | i have to agree with you on this issue ..these people get gratification knowing that they have stuck a knife in your heart and soul...my wife of 5 years recently left me ..all i said is i want kids and then she was gone 2 weeks later of me crying and drowning my sorrows in alchole .the **** calls me and says shes pregnant to another man....people are cruel and viscious so dont let them drag u down to there level... | |
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