| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 11:04:37 AM |
God I hate whiners.
and I think it would be safe to say that with people whom you consider whiners ( which I think you are reffering to people that are emotionally senstive and express it ) feel the same way about you . | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 11:16:25 AM | Damn...that lady was insensitive...ouch..sounds like she has ben burned more than once!!
I dont see it as whineing...I see it as..they just need a little motivation is all.
There was a time where I didnt shave, or leave the house...then my friends came, and picked me up...littleraly kicked me in my ass , and said that my life shouldnt revolve arround someone elese.
It helped me alot...considering I didnt shower for allmost a week, and I hade this funky beard like thing..that didnt grow in spots
Motivation should come from first understanding, and then compassion!! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 11:39:47 AM | Tyler Derdin, you sound like a very sensitive and nice man, Kudos to you! I love your choice of art. Starry Night is one of my favorites and so fitting for this thread, It shows Van Gogh's
loneliness, isolation and his internal turmoil. I bet he cried a lot too. Every time I hear the song "Starry Night" which is about him, I shed few tears. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 11:50:05 AM | OMG!!!!
Finaly someone got it!!
Thats why I put it in my profile!!!
You are one smart lady...I dont tell ANYBODY why it is in my profile, unless they get it right, or ask why that painting.
You rock!!
Thank you. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 12:02:01 PM | | Tyler Derdin, thank you for the wonderful words! As soon as I saw the painting , I could feel a sensitive soul. You rock too! | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 12:06:53 PM | Tyler Derdin, I forgot to add, I love colors and textures and I am an artist of a sort. Check my profile, I have pictures of my work in yarn. Email if you like to talk about art. It is so rare to
see someone who understands it. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 12:14:32 PM | ok number one be glad at one point you DID find someone at a point in your life when you were both right for one another and you at LEASt have your kids who shouls be what you live for anyway./ Dont show this side to them be happy for them and by them and whaty they and your future will bring. I have not been married YET and hope to be someday soon but it will not be a settle deal nor for anything less than I need. you have to have hope and faith and slowly with time as we all know this too shall heal I dont know how long you ve been divorced but if you re still crying Im assuming its not that long. Dont take it as she left you for a younger guy , take it as look what she did and how goo dshe really is inth elight-she left her children behind! first big red flag to me this willbe a trist or in this day and age mayeb e its shes just selfish as many people have become in our throw away society. People forget that even though its a throw away society PEOPLE are not throw aways so to me she sounds very very selfish. chin up keep dating meet people join groups attend a divorce group a mens group a fun group(cars or something whatever you reinto) they re usually free and exchange babysitting with neighbors YOu watch theirs one night and they ll watch your some times. Dude ..we all heart and hurt tkaes time ot heal We ve all been there . when I see people that HAVE been married crying I say YEah you hurt but Look at least you HAVE the family(Your kids) and you DID get married once already Theres no sayin gyou wont again IF you keep faith and hope and happy outside attitude No going aroun dwith a sad puss Hide it to the outside world and cry at home. Let people se eyou for the happy golucky good guy you are and thats what you ll attract!!!! hugs dude | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 12:30:01 PM | I could not empathize with the way you are feeling...more. I have been there... I know exactly what it is like. I know that...like it or not... you have to embrace all that you are feeling..... cry all that you need to cry... grieve all that you need to grieve. It will end eventually...honest...even if it feels like it won't.
Now... having said that: You need to look for some gratefullness. There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for. Hey, it could be a lot worse...you got the kids! I didn't!! And I had to face a cowardly lying she devil... with her new idiot boyfriend..trying to fight me all the time...both in the courts, and at my home when ever the children exchanges would take place!!! I had post traumatic stress so bad I would wake up in the middle of the night...all the time...thinking I was dying of a heart attack!!! It was one of the most terrifying things I have been thru...and I still had all the heartache...lonliness...crying...ect, that you have.
I'm just trying to give you some perspective, thats all. I know it is bad. I aggree completely with you on that one.... but, look for that gratefullness. Whether you know it or not... it is there! best of luck to you. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 12:59:54 PM | thought i would say hi
gonna sing to you ..
if theres doubt an your cold
dont you worry
what the future holds
we gotta have a hero to teach us alll
never give up on dream
claim the road
touch the sun
no htoughts on earth
could stop you
when you heart bursts like the sun
never
never
give up on a dream
shadows fall
dalylight dies
freedom never got a place to hide
so its forever
never give up on your dream
craazy notions
thru your headyou gotta break all records set
bless you self
until the end
but dont you never give up on a dream
you dont need no restrictions
you just need to go the distance
thats all you need to be freee
be free be be free
you dont need no restrictions
you dont need to go the distance
you never give up on a dreammmmm
lol rod stewart ..thought of you when i heard it**smiling**
aawww (((hugs))) n gentle kisses
as i caress your hair awww
so sweet
so touched by your profile
cheryl **smiling** always smiling n laughing   | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/19/2006 6:35:38 AM | iprenegade msg #152:
I don't give a rats ass what emotional cripples think of me thank you. -
It's not about not being sensitive - it's about wallowing in your crap - enough is enough.
You can whine about your life or work thru the hurt and keep living.
I choose living.
so a double
to you.
Oh and Tyler msg 153:
Yup - I get hurt like everyone else from time to time - but i choose to deal with it differently.
Bet that funky beard really helped you feel better about yourself. Yup good idea lay in your own filth feeling sorry for yourself! Gee now i see the light.
Try READING the posts people - im not saying your not hurting - just don't let it overtake you - find happiness in yourself and in his case with his kids and stay in the land of the living.
That is not insensitive it's good advice.
Now I bore easily when people don't pay attention and just blahblah blah so either read what i write and post back intelligently or step away from the keyboard.
Annoying.
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:35:15 AM | Yikes!!!!
Well, I wasnt attacking you...so retract the claws!!
What I was saying (writeing ) is that, alltho you were trying to help, you came off sounding like you couldnt care less, and that people that feel this way, are babys.
That is what I was saying....so if your offended...that wasnt my intentions.
I like my own filth thank you very much | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:45:36 AM | I don't give a rats ass what emotional cripples think of me thank you.
No I didnt think you did but you expressing your hate to some one in a public forum for expressing their feelings is completly unjustified ,uncalled for , and just plain abusive .
Try READING the posts people - im not saying your not hurting - just don't let it overtake you - find happiness in yourself and in his case with his kids and stay in the land of the living.
That is not insensitive it's good advice
Ohh this is priceless . A real master card moment . A pathetic attempt at trying to convince people that you have a shread of decency and compassion .Who are you trying to convince anyways.
Now I bore easily when people don't pay attention and just blahblah blah so either read what i write and post back intelligently or step away from the keyboard
I am sorry Princess but were not here to amuse you . Now get your knee high leather booties on and climb back on to your bar stool where you belong cause super fantabulouse prince charming steroid monkey bar star just may come stumbling through the door for you . | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/19/2006 7:49:59 AM | "alltho you were trying to help, you came off sounding like you couldnt care less:"
I agree with you on this, Tyler Derdin. We are all different and some of us feel deeper than others and we should have more sensitivity towards them. It's called empathy and not many people actually know how to truly empathise because empathy is very different than sympathy. Having sympathy for somebody is like feeling sorry for them without feeling what they feel, having empathy is getting into their skin and being them, feeling what they feel and understanding where they are coming from.. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:57:36 AM | I might also add that people who cry are not weak, they show more sensitivity and depth of feelings and that makes them real human beings. there is nothing wrong with crying, it releases tention and helps with stress. It's better than botting it up inside and then expolding in rage
the way angry people do. As far as I am concerned, I will take somebody who cries any day over a rageaholic. I have great shoulders to cry on. Compassion is a wonderful thing. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:30:32 AM | ipeerenegade: LOL
Ummm maybe your argument would have merit if what i said in my last post regarding the OP finding happiness in himself and with his kids did not refer DIRECTLY to my original post - however this is not the case - READ THE ORIGINAL POST AGAIN THAT IS WHAT IT SAYS.
Expressing my hate? Your a weirdo.
I gave my opinion which I am entitled to thank you - i think it is better to pick yourself up and get back in the race - que Frank Sinatra - then get lost in self pity.
Good thing your not here to amuse me - because ur an idiot.
I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything - I am just saying what i think.
You think otherwise - good for you. Live and let live buddy.
Oh I see - people can have their own opinions as long as they are the same as yours -
Oh and the master card comment - very clever - im still reeling.
Now excuse me Mr. Sensitivity as I put on my high leather booties, climb back on my bar stool waiting for a steroid monkey to come stumbling in the door for me.
Yeh your a REAL winner. I'm insensitive 'cause I don't think people should waste time with self pity - but your a great person attacking my persona for no reason at all.
Love me my hypocrites.
Tyler:
It's all good - I can come off a bit harsh but that's me.
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Posted: 7/19/2006 10:24:40 AM | Its always hard to have your heart broken...But i have learned that you have to choose to learn the lesson life is teaching you or you keep going for a certain type maybe thats not good for you..In my own discovery,I have learned it doesnt take strength to let someone go,only understanding ..Still hard yes but someone better always comes along | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 10:31:48 AM | why are you worried about being alone? you can do what you want, when you want and who you want when the time comes...
you will die in your grave...alone. may as well get used to it | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 10:38:31 AM | marilynized, I think you have a problem with anger, you need to take some anger menagment classes. Only angry people call other's names like idiot or weirdo. Nobody desrves to be
insulted and called names. Everything you have top say can be said politely and respectfully. There is a great book to read "Angry all the time". I bought it for my ex a while back because he had lots of anger issues and used insulting words freely. Another wonderful book to read is "Non-violent communication" of Dr. Rosenberg. It really makes us look at yourself and realize that a lot of things we thought as normal are actually violent responces. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 10:53:36 AM | ^^^^Listen here lady - I offered up my opinion to the OP - it might have been a bit harsh but it was what it was and I got attacked for thinking differently and not choosing to wallow in self pity.
Now on the other hand I'm getting totally unrelated off topic insulting comments about how i should put on leather boots get on a bar stool & wait for stumblin steroid man etc. Did those comments escape you???- Have you any classes you can recommend for that person to help with that kind of behavoir?
Heres the deal - every action causes a reaction.
Anger Management classes - no thanks lady but thanks for the stellar insight.
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Posted: 7/19/2006 11:31:51 AM | Well, I suppose he could use some classes too but there is never an excuse to call people insulting names, you can avoid his comments completely knowing he doesn't deserve your reply or reply in a way that would show that he is rong about you but using names like idiot is not a way to prove that you are better than him. Again, it just shows that there is hidden anger.
You always have the right to your opinion but it should be presented respectfully, especially
when somebody is hurting and turning to others for help. he doesn't need preaching, he needs empathy and understanding. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 11:32:18 AM | No you didnt get attacked . You got TOLD !
Heres the deal - every action causes a reaction
Correct ! You slambed a guy for expressing his feelings now your in the middle of this paranoid delusion that I as well as a few others said some thing to you for no reason at all. Perhaps when some one has the bad manners to say some thing you dont like youlle hold off on abusive little tyraids like this
I am going to resist every urge - oh f it.
GET A LIFE!!!!! Get off the pity pot - start living and find happiness in yourself then and only then can you be happy with someone else. Get off the couch - put away the kleenex - love those kids and welcome yourself to the land of the living.
God I hate whiners. If your not happy with your life - here is a BIG news flash only YOU can change it - so go do it already.
Man. Some people
and as far as myself . No pity party here . I took control of my life but when I look back at the days I had that were similiar to the OP's it was people like yourself saying things like you do that made it that much lonlier. Angry meally mouthed drivel doesnt help any one , and it doesnt motivate any one . Its best you keep it to yourself .
I am done here ! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 11:36:16 AM | I so sorry that you feel this way. I wife died in my arms 2 years ago and yes, I still cry at night. It gets better. You where given the most wonderful gift in life. Your children. You must make them the MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life and you in theirs. You got the best end of the deal here. I know its hard to deal with but you need to move forward. Don't be bitter or worry about being alone. Many other go through much wrost and you will be just fine. Worry about your kids. Become their hero. You will be just fine.
Doug | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!
Posted: 7/19/2006 11:45:22 AM | I Pee Renegade-
You were done before you started.
You did not tell me anything- as you are nothing to me. Yes now im suffering from paranoid delusions - You didn't write that stuff- yehhh ok.
u have got to be one of the hugest as*holes on this planet.
Don't come back now ya hear.
I will not waste another moment on you.
NOW WE ARE DONE. | |
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| I Still CRY at Night ALONE!!==Read my e mail! PLEASE
Posted: 7/19/2006 11:58:35 AM | Hey man!!
I am praying for you!!!!
PLEASE DONT PLUG SOMEONE IN CAUSE YOUR SAD AND LONELY!!
Fix yourself,,you sound like you have a good self image,,,are you involved in any type of support group?? If not a lot of churches have divorce programs that are free and you can sit in there with other people of different sexes, races etc...who are very upset also!!
Ive been there,,FIX yourself first and get secure,,,its easier said than done but i am a 2.5 year survivor of an affair my x had and if i can get thru it you can also!
Be strong and God bless you!
Denis | |
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