| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:37:59 PM | We all have things we wish we didn't see on other people's profiles. Personally, unless you're Vin Deisel, I don't want to see you shirtless on your profile. Just turns me off, single father or otherwise.
Any woman advertising sex on her profile probably has low self esteem and thinks the only way she can "get a man" is by offering to give it up right off the bat. If I were a man, I would thank my lucky stars she put up that red flag so I could steer clear.
There are red flags in men's profiles, too, that I keep an eye out for an avoid (words like "entrepreneur " and rants about ex-girlfriends, for example) and I'm glad they're in there. It lets me know they're not for me.
As for single mom's "not learning their lesson" - my child isn't a lesson, he's a blessing, and just because I'm a single mom, I should never have sex again? Sorry, if them's the rules, I'm not playing. I may not advertise it but I like fooling around as much as the next girl. I'm more particular about WHO, but I'm not giving up the luvins as "punishment" for being a single mom.
Not sure if that's what you were implying, but that's kind of how it reads. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/2/2008 4:17:00 PM | Wow - personal attack much? If you want to take your shirt off in your profile, great, just don't expect me to want to date you. Especially since you're lacking certain equipment I enjoy.
If a man doesn't enjoy a woman with breasts, he won't enjoy me. So there for, my pic is fair warning that I do, indeed, have breasts.
OMG I'm such a tramp because I have boobs.
Grow up.
P.S. all caps in a forum thread is considered "yelling" and is bad manners. Just a tip :) | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/3/2008 9:47:56 AM |
that blatant advertisement screams to me that they’ve not learned anything.
I don't know what's worse here, this tread or the fact that people advertise for sex on there profiles?
Isn't it a given that people are going to be into sex if they don't state otherwise?
Anyway I have come to the conclusion that this tread is the bigger joke;
that blatant advertisement screams to me that they’ve not learned anything.
What are they suppose to learn? Are you saying that because they are single moms it’s going to happen again? I guess you are;
I was thinking of me, as a potential partner, how much that would put me off. I'd think ok, she already has children and no partner, now she wants more sex and might have some more? maybe with me, possibly as an accident?
Can you explain how this works? Do you think she may fall on you and get pregnant that way? Newsflash, but accidental pregnancies still take two people, in order for it to happen!
Hang on you seem to understand this;
Now, if she and I were dating and she wanted lots of sex, we'd discussed it etc, were being careful, no problem.
You are losing me Ed, is it that you just have a problem with single mothers?
[quote} I don't think mothers should be classified this way. I think though that people, myself included may jump to the conclusion that they have become pregnant because of their general irrisponsibility and love of sex. Perhaps this is prejudging, however if they put something similar to the quote above on their profile, this is all any one has to go on.
Sort it out. Did it not occur to you that single mothers come in all different shapes and forms?
Maybe the father beat the family, has died, ran off with another woman or shock horror they fell out of love.
What ever the reason I don’t have a problem with single mothers advertising for sex on their profile. The only reason for any concern is the advertiser you highlighted. I don’t agree with exposing the kids to this kind of behaviour and as someone else pointed out it is very dangerous at worse.
Can I ask what you think about anyone advertising for sex on their profile? Is it just single mothers you have a problem with? | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/3/2008 10:16:57 AM | | Working in the environmetn I'm in, I wish single mom's would wake up to reality and remember not everyone is who they say they are on the site and people lime me and my organisation have to pick up the pieces. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/3/2008 12:58:57 PM | | Well.....they give us millions and millions of dollars to pitch a baseball....we come from the womb with this kind of accuracy.....it's something in the water, I guess | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/4/2008 8:13:59 AM | | SO A WOMAN POSTS THAT SHE LIKE SEX, OR WANTS SEX IN HER PROFILE, SO WHAT. MAYBE, SHE'S TRYING TO MAKE UP FOR ALL THE TERRIBLE SEX SHE HAD WHIILE MARRIED, OR IN A RELATIONSHIP. AS LONG AS SHE'S PROTECTING THE HEALTH OF HER SELF, HER PARTNER, AND HER KIDS ARE NOWHERE AROUND WHEN THE ACT TAKES PLACE, I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH IT. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/4/2008 4:52:01 PM | Nicely put QT, I am not a single parent but I hear you, I have great admiration for single parents particularly single mothers, I have a couple of friends that are, it seems the majority are doing a pretty damned responsible unseen and unrecognised job , having to put up with stereotypical labeling by people who don't know what they are talking about. Yes, everybody is different, whats the difference rally between a single mom saying she likes sex or or a single woman saying the same, none, just a conditioned response from closed minds.
Yes, I agree that there are some who are the exception, but unfortunately, society tend to focus on the few.
Be well QT and all you single moms out there!! | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/4/2008 5:48:14 PM |
there's a lid for every pot and you just have to find your "lid."
Oh I love that saying!
As for the OP, my dear, I do not think it is wrong to say you enjoy sex. It is the WAY you say it. If it is raunchy or simply put there to get attention, then let it be. Sometimes people are just saying it "matter of fact".
It's their portrayal of themselves, or what they think others will respond to. If you do not like it, then keep looking, plain and simple. I personally think a drunken night of sex sounds like fun, BUT... ONLY if it was with my SO. A drunken night of sex with a stranger is pointless, lacks romance, passion, and is cheap. There is a difference, in my opinion... | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/4/2008 6:31:16 PM | OP, you are making oodles of assumptions here.
Just because you are a parent does not mean that you don't enjoy sex and even if you are somewhat promiscuous by many standards, it does not mean that you are sexually irresponsible because some people actually become pregnant in normal ways to find themselves single later on. Wow. Pregnancy is really not particularly conducive to a rip roaring sex life.
What you should be concerned about are sexual practices like safe sex and if someone is bringing people home when children are in the house. If mom plays when the kids are with dad and uses condoms, what she does and with whom is really no one's business.
But, since you are turned off by the profiles, why do you care? Some people will respond to the profiles and one can only hope they are responsible males just as there are men that also have similar profiles that appeal to some and turn off others. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/4/2008 6:40:39 PM | Hmm... has anyone thought maybe she is scared that she will not find anyone and is using sex to find a boyfriend?
I'm a (soon to be) single mom. IMHO, someone who is advertising the want for sex is not thinking of her children. I put my children before anything else! | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/5/2008 6:39:39 AM |
I have no problem with men or women expressing their sexuality, as long as they don't offend any one. My question was specifically about single mothers, because of what this implies
Are you really so dense as to assume that all single mothers are single moms because they had children out of wedlock, are promiscuous or only interested in sex?
Being sexual and expressing that is now offensive?
You mention a profile where a woman says she loves to get drunk and wind up back at her place with whomever. I really find it hard to believe there are that many single moms sporting profiles like that unless you are only searching for those seeking intimate encounters or "other relationships".
Seriously, find something better to do then judging others. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 8/5/2008 8:19:47 AM |
SHE SAYS WITH HER PUSH UP BRA MAKING HER BOOB NOT ONLY LOOK UNNATURAL BUT LIKE IT IS TRYING TO ATTACK HER CHIN..I'M SORRY BUT UHH THE KETTLE BLACK THING COMES TO MIND
Hey, not everyone has to wear a sweater-coat-thing for their profile. It's not like she's naked from the waist up. sheesh.
And please stop shouting. It makes my eyes hurt. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:34:40 PM |
Ok guys, help me out here please.
Each day, I think it’s fair to say that at least 10 single mothers join PoF in my local area alone. I have no problem with this at all. What I do find really off-putting however is when some of them blatantly advertise that they love sex on their profiles.
Again, if you love sex, no problem at all, but is it necessary to display it on the profile, the piece of text where some one gets their first impression of you? Not only is the person doing this likely to receive lots of inappropriate messages, but looking at their profile with the knowledge that they’re a single mum, that blatant advertisement screams to me that they’ve not learned anything.
Is it wrong to feel that way? One woman the other day I saw clamed she had 4 children and then went on to describe her perfect night of drinking, ending up with the guy back at hers for “a night you won’t forget”. Are people attracted by this? Have I made a mountain out of a mole hill?
Well, yes, yes, yes, and yes, with a side-helping of yes.
Look, a single mum isn't offering a clean slate. She's not offering her virginity. She's not offering a "from scratch" family. In many cases, she isn't offering a family with children from a guy she meets at all. She's not offering lifetime devotion to one man, because she's already screwed that up. She's not offering a lot of time to go out on the town. If she's smart, she knows that dating a woman with children involves a lot of effort on the part of anyone she's dating. There's the in loco parentis thing, and the screams of the children "You're Not My Father" (which the majority of children seem to think they are very clever in finding out). And the ex, against whom they seem a lot of times to have a restraining order, and if not, the visitations and the tug-o-war, and maybe even violence from him.
So what's she going to advertise? Her fantastic prudence in figuring out what man to have children with? Her great heroism in raising her own children (which sometimes works, but not always)?
No; if she's smart, she's going to advertise what she knows works on men and attracts them: her sweet poon, albeit used and worn. And again, if she's intelligent, she recognizes the fact that she's going to have to have sex a lot to entice a man to put up with her little Wonderful Blessings From God.
Now, there may be any number of valid reasons for a man not to want to get involved with the Family Circus on these terms. In fact, I apply those myself, but that's because I have dated women with children, and I'm not terribly interested in repeating that unless I'm sure that the children are being cared for. But for women who do this, they're making an intelligent, rational decision, because there had better be a lot of really good sex for men to make the decision to date them, close to "**** made of 24 karat gold" quality, because every other damned thing than sex is going to be more difficult than with a single woman.
Again, I'm not saying that I'd do it, because at this stage in my life I wouldn't. But it's intelligent and rational. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/19/2009 11:41:35 PM |
No; if she's smart, she's going to advertise what she knows works on men and attracts them: her sweet poon, albeit used and worn. And again, if she's intelligent, she recognizes the fact that she's going to have to have sex a lot to entice a man to put up with her little Wonderful Blessings From God.
And if she has no self-respect and wants to attract a sleaze-ball, then you're exactly right.
Intelligent people do not need to lure anyone into their life, let alone whore their bodies out.
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/20/2009 12:08:29 AM |
Any woman advertising sex on her profile probably has low self esteem and thinks the only way she can "get a man" is by offering to give it up right off the bat.
Or maybe none of the above! Maybe she simply wants sex? | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/20/2009 10:10:07 AM | Yes, OP, some of us prudish, old-fashioned types would think that it is wrong for a single mom to be advertising sex. Some of us may think of it as inappropriate to have children and display loose morals - to invite the type of men strictly looking for sex into their children's homes.
And for those with older children, it must make the kids real proud when they see their mother's ads, or are told about it by other kids ... ANYONE can be looking at this and other sites.
To see strange men coming and going must really instill any morals or values in the kids. But, hey ... this is modern times .... who really cares about morals or values? | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/20/2009 10:19:09 AM | es, OP, some of us prudish, old-fashioned types would think that it is wrong for a single mom to be advertising sex. Some of us may think of it as inappropriate to have children and display loose morals - to invite the type of men strictly looking for sex into their children's homes. The world could use more people like the prudish type you described.
And for those with older children, it must make the kids real proud when they see their mother's ads, or are told about it by other kids ... ANYONE can be looking at this and other sites.
To see strange men coming and going must really instill any morals or values in the kids. But, hey ... this is modern times .... who really cares about morals or values?
Agreed. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/20/2009 1:23:06 PM |
And if she has no self-respect and wants to attract a sleaze-ball, then you're exactly right.
Intelligent people do not need to lure anyone into their life, let alone whore their bodies out.
/vomit
Thank-you bosoxfaninwa those were my thoughts exactly. I'm not desperate because I'm a single mom. | |
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/20/2009 3:10:14 PM | if they are not really interested in sexual,
they might be so down with sex
so they have to say out loud 'i have a good sex!!!' otherwise people not know.
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i dont contact with any guy who says in profile
' i enjoy having sex' or 'i am good with sex'
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| Single mothers advertising sex on their profiles
Posted: 7/20/2009 4:20:36 PM | I'm fairly sure there are just as many profiles by single women who don't have children talking about how much they love sex.....do you have a problem with them too?
This is smelling like another bash single moms thread in the making.....
Sex sells.........ask any bartender/waitress working in a nightclub. The tips from men go way up when showing a bit of cleavage or wearing a short skirt and showing more legs. Flirt with them for bonus tips. They will get a lot more attention from men, that much I can guarantee you...albeit, not the kind of attention that perhaps is best for them unless sex is ALL they want.
Women know that men are driven by sex (how's that for a generalization folks?)...lol.
Personally, I think ANY woman who advertises her love of sex on her profile may believe that is all she has to offer a man. I wonder what the correlation would be between those women and the women who will try and trap a man into a relationship with a "unplanned" pregnancy..... | |
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