| | The 3 Day RulePage 20 of 24 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24) | | I don't believe in no 3 day rule. That's just stupid to me. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2009 12:23:16 PM | No...don't believe in the 3 day rule, and when guys pull that crap on me I play a little game with them....."John? John who? We met where?" Oh.....I gave you my number on Friday?; I can't remember THAT far back sorry!"  | |
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Posted: 2/24/2009 4:32:13 PM | I guess I'm behind the times as well. I've never heard of that "rule" . Mind you I've never heard of the one I was just recently told about either. That if you meet someone randomly and exchange phone numbers, the man has to wait for 48 hours before calling?
I'm missing something for sure. If the attraction is mutual what's with this time frame rule? | |
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Posted: 2/24/2009 6:43:32 PM |
If the attraction is mutual what's with this time frame rule?
Ahh the true point. How do you know if the attraction is both mutual and equal? You rarely do in the early stages of dating. The male waits 48 hours (basically what we are talking about here) to call so that he does not appear needy, over anxious, or without other options. Kind of like how you mom told you to never accept date plans at the lst minute on a Friday night, so that you don't appear to have other suitors.
And before I get deluged with "I am crazy" responses, this 'rule' is still in use after all these years because men still often get a poor response when they call too soon. It is not about playing games or confidence, but what actions seem to achieve results. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2009 6:51:37 PM | | I don't think the rule is necessary. I wouldn't personally follow it. If I want to call someone I'll call them! You can guess though based on the 'type' of guy when/if he'll call. Atleast most of the time. You know certain types aren't going to call for a couple of days, whereas you fully expect to hear from others the very next day! | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 11:01:42 AM | | I dont believe in the 3 day rule. If I like a girl ill tell her straight up Ive got no time for games or BS Ill be up front and lay it out on the table for you. Maybe thats my problem I use honesty as a weapon lol. Ive decided to stay single for a long time so no rules for me :P | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 1:23:36 PM |
And before I get deluged with "I am crazy" responses, this 'rule' is still in use after all these years because men still often get a poor response when they call too soon. It is not about playing games or confidence, but what actions seem to achieve results.
Sorry, this 'rule' is in place because so many little boys and little girls haven't grown up enough to get out of the playground. That's the last place we had rules for everything...
Following 'rules' shows right off the bat, someone is incapable of free-thought...
I don't follow rules... I make my own... and I change and adapt them as needed... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 1:26:39 PM |
If I like a man, I'll wait for him to call or e-mail as soon as the date is over and will be very disaapointed that he didn't feel the same if I didn't get response at least until next morning. I met a woman a few years ago... instead of exchanging numbers, she asked for my email....
She had emailed me before I got home.... we got along great.... it didnt work for various reasons... but we saw each other for a year....
One of the things that impressed me was that she didn't have 'rules' either.... people who follow rules are no different than sheep.... | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 2:47:21 PM | I agree with KTDID78
I don't care I do whatever I feel is right depending on the guy. yes it is easy to get trapped in all those games but screw it break it
as far as 3 days goes no offense but if a guy doesn't contact me until 3 days later most likely I already forgot him. why waste three days hoping for someone to want you or call you? move on and yeah if comes around later then you now know that he plays like that or that he really busy in which case you gotta decided how much time you are willing to invest in waiting for someone .
I move on fast thankfully so 3 days is a no no with me | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 9:28:58 PM | Only Rule is to have No Rules...  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 10:56:31 PM | I had lunch with a woman and before I'm even able to get back to work she's calling me up saying she wants to see me again... I would say it was about 20 minutes.
Screw the rule... let them know how you feel! (Even if you don't want to see them ever again... but be nice!) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 7:50:14 AM |
Come on now people, lets admit it, who plays by the 3 Day Rule?
You know the rule when you go on a date with someone and then you wait 3 days before you call them. Ugh how frustrating.
I am the type of gal who is not afraid to let a guy know that I like them. I am pefrectly comfortable asking a guy out which is good or bad depending on the guy.
This 3 Day Rule is just the beginning of the head games we play when dating.
Then you're on the right track.
My policy is to eliminate those people from my life, who I come across, who would actually subscribe to such inane ideas... | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 10:57:34 AM | I am not threatened by an assertive woman..its all in the delivery...if she wants to call go for it... Generally I find this whole rule thing interesting...trying to figure out whats in another's head... I am certain most of us would get an F if we were graded on our physic powers... | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 4:31:51 PM | | Why not tell them you enjoyed it the next day, right after the date in a text message, or even better, before you say good-bye? | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 4:41:16 PM | I have said it b4 and I will say it again....MEN LOVE A CHASE...they NEED to feel in control believe it or not.. The thrill for them is NOT in the catch....it's in the mystery of the independent woman they are trying to catch.
NEVER call a guy after a date......big girly no no!!!
Men are soooo different then woman but no different from one another. Some won't care if you call them right away and those are the one's who LOVE the attention but trust me they will bore of you quicker....then there are some who need to logicalize and analyze their feelings from the date and hold off to see if you will call them or just need the time to analyze things first....and when you do break down and call them 1st, believe it or not it turns them off because you now made the chase 2 easy for them.....
So rule of them NEVER call the guy let them come to you. If they don't MOVE ON and have fun fun fun on another date....
O and P.S NEVER put all your eggs in one basket either always keep yourself BUSY with your own life.....
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Posted: 4/26/2009 4:45:52 PM | Not only is it a game; it is a game that will have an almost positively bad outcome.
Someone waits three days; the person not called assumes disinterest and moves on, and they get disinterested.
It backfires. Pretty much always.
If interested, call. If not, say so instead of saying you're going to call and not doing it.
Playing games is a waste of time. Directness is the only way to go... | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 5:20:18 PM | I think the three day rule does not apply at all. If I am interested in meeting for a second date then I will ask them to call them the next day to set up a date, time, and place for a second date. If nothing had clicked on the first date then generally I would not waste my time with a second date. Usually if a man plays the waiting game for three days most women will assume that he is not interested in meeting for a second date or that something went wrong with the first date or that there is simply no connection between them. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 5:30:20 PM | For me it usually depends on how close it is to the weekend. If we had a date later in the week, and it went well, and the next day is Friday, Saturday, etc, then I'd like them to call sooner, so we can get together again sooner.
If its more towards the beginning of the week, when I'm stressed with work, etc, then waiting a few days till I catch my breath is ok. Then I don't mind waiting for the next call.
I guess it just depends on how well that first date went, and how busy both of us are with our own lives. But if a guy calls sooner then three days, it's not a big deal to me. I'm not going to drop him just because he broke the "three day" rule. (some rules are just kind of stupid) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 8:24:59 PM | I have said it b4 and I will say it again....MEN LOVE A CHASE...they NEED to feel in control believe it or not.. The thrill for them is NOT in the catch....it's in the mystery of the independent woman they are trying to catch.
Wise, wise woman.
Some won't care if you call them right away and those are the one's who LOVE the attention but trust me they will bore of you quicker.
Preach mama, preach!!
Why not tell them you enjoyed it the next day, right after the date in a text message, or even better, before you say good-bye?
Because too many women will think you clingy just like it was said in the opening question and most women will not be the one to let their guard down first for fear of being taken advantage of? There are almost 500 posts explaining this... | |
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Posted: 4/26/2009 10:18:37 PM | I agree with you both!..I'm not into playing games..but to read any books about men..they like the chase..they like to be the one "making the moves" it strokes their egos, I think..the books say that when they call we are supposed to "act" busy..even if we are sitting ont he couch eating that last bite of Ben & Jerrys (never had btw..lol)..we are supposed to act like our lives are soo full..that wa y they feel "priveleged" to be fit into it..I didn't write the stuff..I was a bit thrown bck by it..but honestly..don't we all..as women..know of that absolutely gorgeous female that is all about herself..her looks.with a nose in the air..that the men go crazy for..and the more she treats them LIKE CRAP...hence the "chase for men" the more they want her!..MEN WANT WHAT THEY THINK THEY CAN'T HAVE..think about so do we..theink about an ex that left..do u really want him back..he was a jerk..but the fact that he "left" you and you can't have him..makes you want him more..just my thoughts..now I have to go run to answer the call on the first ring!..screw eating ice cream!..lol | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 11:27:46 AM |
but honestly..don't we all..as women..know of that absolutely gorgeous female that is all about herself..her looks.with a nose in the air..that the men go crazy for..and the more she treats them LIKE CRAP...hence the "chase for men" the more they want her!..MEN WANT WHAT THEY THINK THEY CAN'T HAVE..think about so do we..theink about an ex that left..do u really want him back..he was a jerk..but the fact that he "left" you and you can't have him..makes you want him more..
Exactly!! People can call them games, or what have you. In the end they produce results. It is rare that people here will admit to actually trying to do something that will yield results. But the example above about the more a woman ignores guys or treats them poorly, the more she seems to be chased is a real one. Don't you ever ask yourselves why? The facts are that there ARE psychological factors that can attract or repel us. Things that attract our attention pique our interest and keep us interested.
One of those things is show interest and then back off slightly. "Teasing". The 'why hasn't he called? When is he going to call? And then the excited feeling when he finally calls.
And again I ask (for like the millionth time) for all of the women that claim to not follow rules... so why don't YOU call him? Why are you waiting for him to call? Or is not calling the guy one of your 'rules'? Could it be the obvious answer that you simply prefer to be pursued and let the male take the lead? So much for no rules! | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 4:37:02 PM |
Screw the rule! If I like a guy, I talk or text him again the same day after the date! The guy I met tonight knew how special I thought he was before he went to bed tonight. If I appear too desperate for communicating so soon, I don't care. This is who I am. I communicate. don't guys always say they want to know what goes on in a girls mind? Well baby, I'm going to let you know it. I put it out there, and at least then no body is in the dark.
I totally agree! I'd be calling the day after just to let him know I loved how the date went! (assuming I loved how the date went...)
that's just my common cursity! | |
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