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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 9/10/2008 2:37:30 PM | Other than the horrid "blind dating" offline dating is definitely better. Usually, you get to see what the person looks like in their entirety. There's no hiding behind dark photos from a crummy cell phone that hide problem areas. There's also the nicety of hearing their voice and seeing how they behave. You get a much better idea about whether or not you are attracted to them, and they to you. More information up front.
On the down side, however, they rarely let you know their age, status, what they like, whether or not they want children, and a whole host of other deal breaker subjects. So it's a mixed bag. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 9/10/2008 4:48:13 PM | Online for me by far has been the best. I can get to know someone (I haven't found anyone to be lying if I talk to them long enough before meeting). I'd rather find out just by looking at a profile if we have things in common and if he has a past of kids/divorce than going on 5 dates full of uncomfortable questions. How someone expresses themselves in writing really wins me over too since I'm an artist/writer. I haven't really been disappointed yet and they men have always been happy with me too.
(I've never been looking for a long term thing that's why I'm single-- I wasn't dating for a long relationship) | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 9/18/2008 5:34:35 AM | | i completely agree .....offline is the best simply because you cant judge physical chemistry + the whole mojo situation online .Pics +words cant really capture somones essence so online is kind of a neccesary evil .....we all work too much + especially myself i work crazy hours soooo but i def agree with this post. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:02:10 AM | People are the same but having said that Online You never know for sure If they are want to be"s or married so Ask for their real name and check them out, It is the only way to fly?
School, college at the office is nice but school and college is fine for the young but when older and living in a small town that is a tall order to meet men. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:24:43 AM | | Online is a viable option especialy for middle aged folks who seem to have a harder time connecting. In a perfect world we could meet at the sTore or wherever. Some sites seem better than others and POF is the bottom of the barrel. You get what you pay for here at POF | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 9/18/2008 4:40:52 PM | I have belonged to a lot of sites, found the same problem with them that I have with meeting someone in person, compatability.
The only exception is this site, POF. Why the difference? Forums is why, by participating in Forums I have met many friends with common interests to me.
Let us just say, I am not normal I think. Have no use at all for Oprah , Dr Phil , Reality shows, talkng about relationships or whether green lamps are better than orange ones, could care less. I am a news junky, love politics, and can talk for hours over a camp fire about religion. The person can be quite diverse to me, love it all.
This week though, POF joined the other sites as far as I am concerned, when they cancelled the 3 topics I am most interested in . Guess, the mundane , frivolous world of Polituical Correctness has taken over POF, now it is just like all the other sites. POF sucks like all the other sites now.
Meeting someone in person is just as bad, try and meet someone in a bar now days when you are over 50. Frivolous people with no interests out side of their own little world is what seems to be out there, I really dislike the bar scene. Church? Forget it, unless you are Charismatic, there seems to be 10 single men for every woman , at least around here where I live.
Best place was here, could and did meet many who share my interets and zest for what is happening in the world. Not any more .
POF sucks. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2008 4:20:23 AM | To make rather an obvious statement, on-line dating is different than off-line dating.
I will probably end up repeating many of the thoughts above but what I find fascinating about this world is that you gain tremendous insights into the minds of people that you probably would have brushed off after the first in-person date if you had met them off-line to begin with.
What your gut would have told you is augmented by the sometime petty and often times cruel words thrown at one here. For here, it is all about communication of words. I think you learn so much more about a person here than you might ever out there. This is definitely the case for those that you would not date for very long. One can see the hostilities one otherwise would not see.
Some people in this forum think that on-line dating is easier and more efficient because it only takes a few clicks to get to know someone new. But therein lies the problem. It IS easy to click on someone else just because the next person is "better" looking and perhaps they won't exhibit that "bad" quality you just noticed in mr/ms #xyz. Out in the real world, you would not have been privy to those kinds of thoughts from xyz.
On-line dating is corrupting your thoughts ON and the old fashioned ways OF dating.
I have come to a personal conclusion that the on-line world is just okay for socializing but in order to actually to transfer relationships from here to the real world, I think you almost have to carry on a dialog for 2 years to really get to know someone. But what does one actually learn about this stranger? Not much really. Some put on acts, can they maintain this act for very long, potentially. On-line dating is probably good for striking up friendships but not much else. Trust is a very difficult concept in the on-line world. Unfortunately, one can only back up their statements thru actions in the physical world.
One thing I do like about on-line dating is that it helps build communication and writing skills. But I think it's difficult to transfer those skills to the real world. It's easy to be "courageous" on-line but another matter entirely when you step away from your computer.
The bottom line is that just like off-line dating, on-line dating is what you can make of it. It's a very personal experience. If you luck out and meet someone truly representative of who they are in the real world and you can make it work, then it works for you.
I agree with dunrich, POF has sullied itself with its new PC attitudes. One is no longer free to express themselves. This is not the case in the off-line world. Although, one can more easily harass you on-line in personal email that one would not even dare attempt to do off-line. Like I said, it's a personal experience. If you luck out, you luck out but it's highly unlikely you'll luck out and meet someone who is your compatible other half.
Good luck and happy fishin' where ever you try it...
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2008 6:44:47 AM | personally I think online is a horrible way to "meet". In person you get to see and talk to someone, their personality and chemistry come through. I do MUCH better in person. Onliine it becomes a numbers game, women will reject you because of the way you used a word, or some detail of your profile, or perhaps you are not photogenic. They never see the real you. Another personal beef - those long detailed dscriptions of their "perfect" guy. Pure fantasy - love will not follow your detailed specifications.
I am on here because I do have a wider audience, and I don't like to hang out at bars. I have not had much luck though. Lots of emal, but not much more. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2008 6:49:40 AM | I do not believe that there is such a thing as on-line dating regardless of what I said above.
POF is just another way to get noticed, not a great way due to the sheer number of other photos competing for attention, but just an additional way. You get to put up a photo and just like a lot of bait and switch marketing, you have full control on how you plan on misleading potential suitors, um, I mean selling yourself.
Then comes the peacock feathers or what's called the written portion of the profile. It doesn't matter what you put in there as long as it's outrageous enough to attract attention. Some won't even bother reading it. If they do, they may not fully comprehend it. But that helps filter out those with poor comprehension skills which serves a purpose only if you can get to the next stage - out in the real world where the dating will really begin.
If you don't make it to the real world, you have not dated the person you've been looking at. But, hey, at least you haven't wasted your life away in front of the tv or drunk. Now how much time are you "investing" not getting a real date? | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2008 4:53:07 PM | I havnt been fixed up since I was in college. I dont like it. I dont want discomfort with friends, coworkers or family if things dont work out. The advantage, hopefully, is that others close to you know you well enough to see when you might click with some one else they know.
Meeting people in public offers the opportunity to see their entire body, without sunglasses, in typical clothing in a setting where you can observe them. Meeting people online offer a glimpse into their life, how they think, how they do or dont articulate, grammar, spelling, etc... At least you know a person can negotiate a computer to some degree if online.
Being online also creates a sense of safety that can un-inhibit people and may also create false impressions and even fake profiles. I am an introvert. Internet introductions are easier for me. Women typically dont approach me in public but some do online...
Why not do both OP? Double your possibilities.
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2008 7:27:20 PM |
both have there advantages and disadvantages. with being realisitic i would go with "offline" dating being you see the person there and then and can go from there. alot less interferences, but it's getting the attention of course when you are on your own out there. with online dating we have high expectations which are unrealistic and alot of the time there's just too much competiton with online with the high men to women ratio's. otherwise "online" can be good with the broad range and specific criterias you can search for. it's all up to being in the right place at the right time. here or on the street
Very good post and I pretty much echo what you've just said.
The 2 main problems I find with "online" dating as mentione din the post I quoted are:
1. people in GENERAL have WAY too high expectations, and when you meet that person in "person" and those expectation/s are not met then your hear sinks and you lose all confidence in that person etc.
2. The second one is that; because people have so many options and the "competion" is very hight its very easy to "give up" on a relationship you just started or on someone you just started dating. Simply because peopel often times have the mentality of"oh well there are so many out there who message me, and i talk to a lot of people on that site" etc so its easy to give up on that person whne thinsg go wrong.
Those two things are what I think makes online dating hard for a lot of people. Plus its also very tempting to look for the "next best" thing just because there are so many "available"...so which do I prefer? its hard to say as both have pros and cons but if i had to choose i would say "offline" | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/5/2008 8:57:49 PM | | In the last few years I've had a couple dates with women I met on-line(only one from a dating site) and I've had 0 from offline. So I'd say I'm doing much much better with on-line dating. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/6/2008 1:42:39 PM | Im probably about 50/50. I'd like to say my offline experiences were better but the truth is there was definitely more anxiety involved. I say that because I generally knew less about my offline dates before the date than my online ones.
I've usually chatted with my online dates for at least two weeks and tended to know more about them than I would have ever found out about my offline dates beforehand. Onlines are more relaxed and open if they get to the actual dating stage.
Offline dating can be like playing chess as you're still feeling each other out and still haven't decided how much or if you even like each other. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/6/2008 3:04:02 PM | Offline is better for me.
I have found that men I meet via Online treat the women they meet online as if they are second class, because they met online...like it's 'just some woman I met online'...as if they do not deserve the same level of respect, because they are online?
I have also found men will ask for monogomy, and want to be exclusive, but they still log in regularly to thier online dating accounts and are always looking for greener pastures. (and they are not forum peeps, and this is across all sites, not just POF)
These are just the men I have met...I know there are alot of different types out there...somewhere. | |
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| Online Dating Vs Offline Dating?
Posted: 11/6/2008 5:43:01 PM | | Both have their benefits but I prefer the real world, only because I know what I'm getting and I do lot better in the real world like a bar or club than online. The problem online is that photos/profiles don't really tell you much, and it takes a lot of effort writing emails, msn chatting talking on the phone and going out to meet them only to discover you wouldn't date 'em in a million years. If i meet someone at after work drinks, I'm already out meeting them, I know what they look like, how they talk and wether sparks are flying. In fact I no longer even read my emails on here, or care who viewed me...its all the same old. I'm just here for the forums. | |
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