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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:10:31 PM | I have some experience with bi polar disorder, as I recently ended a year-long relationship with a bi-polar woman. I can say from experience that your dad is on quite an adventure (if he is going through what I went through.) While I certainly agree that people with mental illness can have successful intimate and personal relationships, the illness can have significant impacts on their parnter's and their lives. It really depends on the severity of the illness, the degree of control of the illness, and the person's attitude towards taking on their illness.
Bi-polar can be extrememly tough because it causes a person to be so inconsistent. One second a (untreated) bi-polar person can be extremely loving, caring and passionate. The next they can become hateful, argumentative or completely apathetic. What that means for people in a relationship with these folks is that you never know what to expect. It is a very tumultuos way to try and live.
I'd be more concerned, if I were you, with Schizophrenia. The distrust and paranoia are telltale signs (no, I'm not a pychiatrist, just an amateur.) Paranoid schizophrenia, if left unchecked, can be extremely dangerous. Another cause might be Anti Social Personality Disorder (ASPD,) based on your discription of violent outbursts and manipulative behavior.
Regardless, the most concerning parts of your post were about her trying to isolate and control your dad. This is a HUGE red flag for abuse. In an abuser's mind, they want to separate the victim from their supports so they have no one to turn to, no out when things get REAL bad, no one to notice the bruises, empty checking accounts and the vacant stare of someone who's been beaten down (physically or emotionally.)
Bottom line, you aren't going to do ANYTHING to change/help this woman, but I think you already know and understand that. All you can do is be there as a support for your dad. Encourage him to get information about bi-polar disorder, so he can learn whether what he is going through is "normal" or not. I'd approach your support of him just as you would if he were dating an abuser or a substance abuser. you don't want to push so hard that you allow her to separate the two of you any more than she already has, but you don't want to leave him so alone that something REALLY bad could happen (God forbid.)
Bottom line, no easy answers. Good luck to you and your dad. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:21:37 PM | My Exes Mother was Bi-polar. It was a traumatic roller coaster ride to be anywhere near her. She managed even from 1200 miles away to distrupt our lives on a weekly basis. And to listen to her she was fine, it was everyone else that was crazy or not compassionate. She did not see things like we did, and processed information unlike anyone I have ever met. My advice? See your dad alone, do not stay in their home EVER.
If she had cancer, she would see a Dr and get help. Mental illness is no different than any other sickness. If there is help available then your father should be taking control of the situation and insist she take care of herself. He may enjoy the violence and drama but there's no law saying you or the rest of the clan has to put up with it. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:34:40 PM | | I have a sister that suffers from bipolar most of her adult life. She was and is an extremely intelligent woman. The sad part is when she is in an episode she really loses touch with reality. I would give anything to be able to cure her but that is impossible. Instead I just learn to cope with it the best I can. To say she doesn't deserve love or compassion is cruel. She didn't ask for the disease. She was somehow born with it. I realize my father has it to some extent since he is a functioning bipolar person. There are many different types of bipolar. Some can actually function in society and maintain with the proper care and treatment. Just like alcoholism there is no cure. My sister has two grown children who did not uderstand and may never. However, she does have a man in her life that professes to love her immensely and waits for her each time she has what we call an "episode". They really do not mean to be manipulative it just happens. Would you stop loving someone if they got heart disease or cancer, or diabetes? This is no different not one of us is perfect. My sister loves all things and has a heart as pure as that of a child. She too deserves happiness i n her life. It is when she goes off of her meds that scares me. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:45:57 PM |
Would you treat someone with dyslexia or diabetes differently, or someone who was deaf, how would you like to be put as an outcast for something out of your control. So dont do it to others, the more you do it the worse they will get!
In this case, the very clear difference is that the disorder of the person the OP is referring to is harmful to those around her, the relationships she's a part of and she's clearly verbally, emotionally and perhaps physically abusive.
I didn't see the OP state whether or not she was medicated but if she is going untreated, you may not like to hear it but it's her own damn fault if she's well aware of her diagnosis yet refuses to seek treatment and other's should not have to suffer because of her choice.
Those who desire love and understanding need to learn and care for themselves first so they can return what they receive from others. Many people with mental disorders are able to have stable relationships but it's completely up to them to get the help they need.
OP- If your father is choosing to stay with women like this, I would say he likely has some issues of his own which need to be addressed, perhaps a co-dependent nature or maybe he's just had the misfortune of winding up with the wrong women. HOWEVER, for him to stand by and allow his girlfriend to treat you this way is just plain wrong and personally, I wouldn't stick around for it. Your father should be backing you up when this woman goes off the deep end, not defending her or condoning her actions by allowing the isolation.
I'd find some good books or online information about abusive relationships and send it to him with a short letter, then step back a bit. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 12:54:58 PM | Candicem you are very educated! For one to respone the way some did, trust me it makes me wonder if they have a mental illness. I wouldn't be so quick to judge one, until you know the FACTS and it's obvious that many don't because for one there is no such thing as bipolarism...one is either bipolar or he's not, and like a few educated people have said, there are different degrees to any illness and one needs to research which type of bipolar one has and go from there. Good luck!
We need to look at this as ANY other medical condition...if one is being treated properly and taking all required medication, in counseling (if need be), then he or she is fine...no need to avoid one with this condition. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:02:01 PM | | I feel so very sorry for your situation. I see how young you are and I do hurt for you. You need your father and he doesn't realize how much he needs you. Please stay strong as he works thru this hard time, and remember that everything in life is temporary and hopefully, he will see the damage that his relationship is causing you. I want you to know that his actions have no bearing on your ability and self worth as a wonderful, good person. Try to focus on your life and surround yourself with positive, good people while your dad is "lost" in his own problem. Hang tuf but stay calm. Be focused on achieving your own goals in life. God Bless you. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:05:45 PM |
now i found out she has been diagnosed with bipolarism, i dont really know too much bout that disorder but i know from experience of dating someone that was bipolar that the medication does not make change them it reduces their mood swings and their outbursts but they are still the same person
another thing i suspect shes schizophrenia , she told my dad i was not welcome to stay at their house to visit becuz i cant be trusted and i dont RESPECT her
Whatever her problem is, she sounds like an unloveable stepmom. You are right with your statement that meds for bipolar do not change the person - just the mood swings. Know this then - that bipolars run the gamut from bad to good in character, just like all the rest of the general poplulation.
I doubt that your Dad's GF is schizophrenic. My Mother was and schizos are typically removed from reality and lackluster in their "zest" for life. You don't sound qualified or experienced enough to throw labels around. It's time for you to realize that you can't win your father's alliance or your (almost) stepmom's affection. Concentrate on making the best *you* and your own best personal life. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:20:59 PM |
Caring and compassion are the best approach to someone who is suffering with such an illness
Just a caveat to the above statement. "Caring and compassion" can allow you to be sucked in to bewildering drama and DESTROY you in the process.
firm boundaries around behavior.
The saving grace! However, I believe that most caring and compassionate people have weak boundaries. It's what allows them to tolerate intolerable behaviour. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 1:25:27 PM | | Sarah_067... If you were near me, I'd give you a hug! 'saveyourself69' is a total ass! Has one experience or maybe a peripherial experience with a bipolar individual and immediately becomes the "Dr. Phil" on mental illnesses and how to deal with said people! What a tool! Zero compassion and understanding. I don't like to wish conditions onto people but let's see how he'd manage Crohn's, colitus, diverticulitus, or Lupus... It astounds me that the dark ages mentality on the subject is alive and well. His two cents of advice is just that... Worthless! I'm guessing he believes that blood-letting will release the demons that inhabit your body that causes your infliction! I've read posts before that deride people with conditions that can only be managed and not cured. These are the people that need to be isolated and shunned to exist in their cold, egotistical, uneducated, biased reality. 'Tis a shame. Hold your head up! Carry on!! | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 2:32:22 PM | | Bipolar,depression OCD scizophrenia is a mental disorder, it is a pained to have relationship with these mentally sick persons. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 4:18:11 PM | I've known a few people who are bipolar. When they have been on their meds for a while, they are OK to get on with during the day, but they do go to sleep early. When they are off their meds, their moods seem to go to extremes, and do quite crazy things, like running down the street naked.
Make sure she stays on her meds. If they aren't working, she can ask her doctor for different ones or to change her dosage. The policy is to have a lot of different meds with various dosages and with various combinations, and just to give her one set, and then keep changing them until she finds one that works for her. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 4:51:16 PM | Hi,
I feel the need to set this forum straight a little bit. People seem to get confused about the different types of mental disorders and like to give their personal experience on the one person they knew with a disorder. I know everyone is trying to help, but I'm finding this forum to be quite biased. And, yes, I have experience in the matter. I suspect my own father may have been misdiagnosed (with MDD) and think that he is bi-polar. I've experienced friends and family members with ADD/ADHD, anxiety disorders, major depression, paranoid schizophrenia, Aspberger's syndrome etc. and do actually study psychology so I hope I can give a good perspective on the situation.
First off, people with manic-depression or bi-polar disorder usually experience one of two moods at a time and cycle between the two. They are either in a euphoric state in which they are extremely active and don't like to spend time thinking. They can get delusional in this state where they think the mania is more of a gift to fulfill a purpose or task. They also experience depressive states which are very similar to the average major depression sufferers like over/undereating, over/under sleeping, trouble concentrating, feelings of hopelessness etc.
I get frustrated that people think that those with mental disorders are horrible people. They are just like the average person but untreated have the associated symptoms.
How this can be attributed to your dad's fiance:
Some of her moods may be able to be attributed to the manic state where she may be extremely irritable. I don't think you should worry about schizophrenia from what you've mentioned of her. She may have a hard time trusting people as it is in some people's nature. Some women can be very controlling as well. She may be so controlling because of a need to compensate from her uncontrollable moods.
What you can do:
Talk to your dad. You are his daughter and I'm sure he respects your opinions. Take him out to lunch and explain (rationally) what you're feeling. I would even suggest writing down your concerns prior as to not forget anything that's bothering you. I'm sure if you bring up constructive criticism your dad will listen and be able to facilitate a meeting with you guys so she can get to know you and find out that you're a good person and that she misjudged you. Make sure she goes to an MD or psychologist to talk about her symptoms. If she's medicated, the medication may not be working for her. If she's not medicated, I would suggest cognitive therapy and possibly finding out what medication could be right for her. I think that as soon as she's at a happy medium, the family dynamic can run more smoothly.
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:14:07 PM | Actually your assessment of bipolar is inaccurate, and perhaps you should check your facts before you speak to something you obviously know nothing about. My daughter who is 9 has been diagnosed with bipolar, and while it is difficult she is not psycho, delusional, or think that people are after them. She is not negative in every way, and no..she is not violent.
It is when people who do not understand this disorder give advice that keeps the misconceptions about it ongoing. Medication does help with the episodes of depression and mania, and cognitive therapy and family councelling helps also.
Many times people diagnoses with this disorder are told to "get over it," I know this because family members have stated it about my daughter. I simply respond that you would never tell someone who has diabetes or high blood pressure to get over it, and bipolar is no different.
It is when people do not understand the disorder, do not understand how to effectively deal with someone who has the disorder, and when people label these people that such a negative stigmatism is attached to them. I can assure you, they can live normal, healthy and happy lives when they are in control of their bipolar, by ensuring that they keep their appointments, regularly take their medication, and apply what they have been taught to manage their depression or mania. The other key is that these people need love and understanding, and if it is a family member suffering with this disorder, it is your responsibility to learn everything that you can about it, and to find a support system for yourself. This is a physiological/psychological disorder that affects the release of chemicals in the brain. The best advice I can give anyone who is affected by this paralyzing disorder is...PLEASE find a support system for you and your loved one...and KEY to this is, learn everything that you can, learn the triggers and signs of an episode and most of all, lots of love and patience...and PLEASE stop labelling them as psycho etc. As someone who has a loved one affected by bipolar, I find it offensive when you do. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:21:07 PM | thank you all for your opinions and help i have had alot of time to go over and think
with recent events if her game is to isolate him from me i will do my best to not let that happend i will also inform him a little it bout bipolar , i've also decided to show him all of your answers if he doenst like it too bad
im simply going to do some more thorough research and let him know what hes got his hands in ,
another thing he wants me to go to his wedding im his only child and honestly his only family since he doesnt care to much for his brothers and sisters , a part of me feels obligated to go becuz who else is going to be on his side of seated section and becuz he asked me to
another part of me wants me to stay the hell away from her , and if i hear that "if anyone objects to this union speak now or forever hold your peace" i will most certaintly raise my hand | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:33:21 PM |
First off, people with manic-depression or bi-polar disorder usually experience one of two moods at a time and cycle between the two. They are either in a euphoric state in which they are extremely active and don't like to spend time thinking. They can get delusional in this state where they think the mania is more of a gift to fulfill a purpose or task. They also experience depressive states which are very similar to the average major depression sufferers like over/undereating, over/under sleeping, trouble concentrating, feelings of hopelessness etc.
How this can be attributed to your dad's fiance:
Some of her moods may be able to be attributed to the manic state where she may be extremely irritable. I don't think you should worry about schizophrenia from what you've mentioned of her. She may have a hard time trusting people as it is in some people's nature. Some women can be very controlling as well. She may be so controlling because of a need to compensate from her uncontrollable moods.
What you can do:
Talk to your dad. You are his daughter and I'm sure he respects your opinions. Take him out to lunch and explain (rationally) what you're feeling. I would even suggest writing down your concerns prior as to not forget anything that's bothering you. I'm sure if you bring up constructive criticism your dad will listen and be able to facilitate a meeting with you guys so she can get to know you and find out that you're a good person and that she misjudged you. Make sure she goes to an MD or psychologist to talk about her symptoms. If she's medicated, the medication may not be working for her. If she's not medicated, I would suggest cognitive therapy and possibly finding out what medication could be right for her. I think that as soon as she's at a happy medium, the family dynamic can run more smoothly.
This is the most productive post in this thread....
Bi-Polar is just that...the person's mood is either at the North, or South Pole.
This is the basis behind the diagnosis...the person experiences "euphoric" highs, (large spending sprees, getting ideas for stopping the war in Iraq, and wanting to talk to Bush about it, re-vamping Wal-Mart...singlehandedly) and "devastating" lows...I mean suicidal, or something approaching it...not the "blues" this should give you the drift.
If your stepmother doesn't experience both of these phenomena, she isn't Bi-Polar...she's been misdiagnosed.
The first line of defense is still Lithium...it's the oldest mood stabilizer in the world. It's basically salt. There are other options if Lithium is ruled out.
If this is the second woman who has treated you this way, your Dad has issues that he needs to address. We pick a certain type of person for a reason....it serves us somehow. I agree that you should meet with your Dad, and tell him how you feel. It may do no good...if his issues are such, that he doesn't want to hear it, there's nothing you can do.
In the meantime, if the girlfriend confronts you in any way, you can do a couple of things, depending on how courageous you are....you can stand there, and let her run down, then say "are you done?"....or when it starts, walk away...if she follows you, keep walking.....do not make excuses for yourself, or apologize.
I'm taking you at your word that the info in your post is accurate...if so, this might help.
For the rest of you, would you please at least go to Wikipedia and look up what you're going to be posting about.....I've never read such drivel in my life. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:38:07 PM | | I dated someone a few years back who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder about 6 months or so into our relationship.I was very supportive when I found out,and he was appreciative of that.When he was "up" he was exhuberant,incredibly artistic,talented,hilariously funny,and an incredible conversationalist(although it was tough trying to get a word in on my end at times:).He thought he could conquer the world and was invincible in those moments.When he was "down"..he misconstrued pretty much everything I said in a negative way,was extremely depressed,or just couldnt feel anything at all.It was very difficult loving him through those times,and knowing how painful it mustve been for him to feel dead inside emotionally.It was equally trying knowing during those times he turned off his feelings for me.Looking back in retrospect,I think he believed I was the person who was going to somehow save him... When a person is involved with someone who has bipolar, during the down swings (in ways) it is equally difficult emotionally for the person who has it, as it is for the one who doesnt .I dont have any animosity twards him at all.In fact,when we mutually decided to end our romantic relationship,we remained friends for a while afterwards.Yes,I did end up being very hurt at times,but we had some really amazing times together too.Ive never liked labeling people as "being bipolar",because it somehow implies everyone who has it is exactly the same.I think its something you can have,not something you are.What Ive learned is there are varying degrees of the illness ,and if a person takes their meds and takes care of themselves,with some people you would barely even notice they had bipolar. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:40:45 PM |
It is when people who do not understand this disorder give advice that keeps the misconceptions about it ongoing. Medication does help with the episodes of depression and mania, and cognitive therapy and family councelling helps also.
Many times people diagnoses with this disorder are told to "get over it," I know this because family members have stated it about my daughter. I simply respond that you would never tell someone who has diabetes or high blood pressure to get over it, and bipolar is no different.
It is when people do not understand the disorder, do not understand how to effectively deal with someone who has the disorder, and when people label these people that such a negative stigmatism is attached to them. I can assure you, they can live normal, healthy and happy lives when they are in control of their bipolar, by ensuring that they keep their appointments, regularly take their medication, and apply what they have been taught to manage their depression or mania. The other key is that these people need love and understanding, and if it is a family member suffering with this disorder, it is your responsibility to learn everything that you can about it, and to find a support system for yourself. This is a physiological/psychological disorder that affects the release of chemicals in the brain. The best advice I can give anyone who is affected by this paralyzing disorder is...PLEASE find a support system for you and your loved one...and KEY to this is, learn everything that you can, learn the triggers and signs of an episode and most of all, lots of love and patience...and PLEASE stop labelling them as psycho etc. As someone who has a loved one affected by bipolar, I find it offensive when you do.
Best of luck to you and your daughter in the future.....you are a loving, compassionate Mom.... | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 5:40:47 PM |
I honestly do not know what to do. i think the only thing i can do is step back
its his decision to let a woman come between him and his only daughter and ruin his life.
This is exactly the only thing you can do. The decisions that your dad has made are unfortunate and I am sorry that he has not acted as a proper parent toward you by putting you first but one of the things we figure out when we are adults is that our parents are people with faults and short-comings. My X is bipolar, 14 years of hell, and the only thing that makes someone with this condition "worse" than others is when they know they have it and fail to do anything about it, making everyone around them miserable when the situation could be improved.
You might want to consider changing your e-mail settings because I tried to message you privately and am outside your age range. If you looked at your father's behavior dispassionately you would probably conclude that he is an insecure man who needs a woman in his life so badly he would turn his back on virtually everyone else to have her.
As you noted, meds only help so much. For someone to really function well with bipolar they must also get therapy, recognize their problem and do something about it. You are right that this woman will likely not get better and if she does it will be a marginal improvement. If she truly has schizophrenia, the only way she can lead a moderately normal life is if she is on meds and keeping her on meds is virtually impossible because when they are well, they believe they can make it without the meds and take that downward spiral again. It is more likely that the fiance is bipolar with paranoid delusions. True schizophrenia is easy to spot and she would not have been able to function from about the age of 20 without the meds.
I hope that you learn a lesson that I am still grappling with at 44. You will never change your dad and he will never be the type of dad you wish you had. My problem is my mother and here is what I try to remember to do. You seem like a wise, thoughtful empathetic person. If you didn't have the connection to your dad you would probably feel for him. If you had not been hurt so badly by his fiance it would be easier for you to recognize the mental illness and forgive her behavior.
An exercise you can try that does not absolve her of responsibility but puts your head in the right place is to think of it like this. She is a damaged person. If someone yelled something inappropriate at you from a window you would be upset, right? What if that someone yelling from the window was known to be highly mentally unstable, you would be able to brush off the upsetting behavior by telling yourself the problems that the source of those comments has.
Since this woman doesn't appear to be going away, if you and the family brush off comments as originating with a crazy loon, they don't have as much power to hurt you. My X is bipolar and unfortunately all of the logical arguments on the planet will never change their thinking. You do what you need to for yourself. If this woman ruins every occasion then you are going to need to make decisions about whether you want your father there. My children are going to have to do this as they grow up because their dad ruins everything he comes into contact with so graduations, birthdays, births, all will have to consider whether they feel okay excluding him to avoid making the celebration a train wreck.
If your father asks why, tell him calmly and as lovingly as possible that he has chosen this individual with the problems she brings with her but you do not have to choose to include her in your life. In his own way I guess you could consider him mentally ill as well because no one normal chooses a mate over their children or allows an SO to behave so badly toward the children without intervening. And really, as much as her behavior has hurt you it is really his failure to stand for you and protect you that has hurt you the most so be honest about that and hold him responsible for his choices. Her behavior but his choices.
Sweetie I saw your repost and your quandry about the wedding. My daughter goes through this stuff with her dad, who has called her a biatch and a wh*re on more than one occasion. Part of her wants to never speak to him again and the other part of course still loves her dad and has not allowed her to make a complete break. The wedding is one day out of your life. I understand that you don't support the marriage and are very disappointed with your father but I try to encourage my children to do the right thing, not what the people involved probably deserve. If you go, you can make an early exit if it is horrible but still have done the decent thing. This is what I would tell my daughter but I would also tell her that if you just can't do it, that is okay because you have not created the situation. If he is going to marry her anyway, other than avoiding a shitty day, what does not going accomplish? Just consider whether you would regret more going or not going and follow your heart. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 6:06:44 PM | Spiffy Kat...
It was equally trying knowing during those times he turned off his feelings for me
Please try to understand that he didn't turn off his feelings for you....they weren't there...they had left the building....literally.
This is so easy for me to say, and so hard to do....I've been there too....don't take it personally.... | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 8:21:20 PM | | it sounds like some here are beginning to understand what it truly means to be bipolar. however, many of you seem to focus only on that one case of bipolar disorder in your life which was bad enough to be brought to your attention as such, and you feel that this one person represents all bipolar persons everywhere. to these people i say, look around you. the world is full of crazy SANE people, crazy Bipolar people, Crazy whites, crazy blacks. the one person in your life does not necessarily represent the condition of all bipolar persons. furthermore, though it may take years to correctly balance medication, a properly treated person living with bipolar disorder CAN maintain happy, healthy relationships with other HUMAN BEINGS, and be a productive member of society. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 8:46:39 PM | Speaking from the experience of an 18 year marriage with a bipolar wife I have seen a lot of accurate information and generalized garbage in this thread. My experience is that bipolar people are not inherently bad or good; they have whatever personality they acquired as a child. What the bipolar part does to them (again, my experience) is fixate them on things that may or may not be real and obsess until they can completely lose touch with reality.
This is when they can be very dangerous because they have no capacity to judge how dangerous their actions may be. My wife (separated now, can't do it anymore) endangered the life of my youngest son while trying to get him to be quiet (covered nose and mouth) and still cannot understand why I am so upset. Apparently, its all my fault.... | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 9:18:29 PM | | hello there i want to say im bi-polar. so i do know what im talking about. i was diagnosed yrs ago with it. i can tell you it is a chemical in balnce in the brain. it can be caused by alot of things from being past on from a family member, to a head injury. mine was caused from high fevers and past on to me also. i can tell you it isnt easy for a person to deal with. i have to work on it everyday. i have to go to counceling for it. there is many diffrent levels of it to. it can be mild to server. i can tell you it has caused me alot of heartache. if you dont know anything about it. its hard to understand until you learn about it. yes people can be so mean that have it or they can be real nice. for my self i had to learn when to find a hole and crawl in it until i can pull my self out of it. yes i take meds for it. yes it can cause problems in the work place. but really there is alot of nice people out there that funtion well. the ones that dont are the ones that choose not to deal with it. the thing that really bothers me is we have had a label put on us which makes people think the worst about us. now it has to be worked on as awhole just not left on the person who has it to deal with it. its like a marriage it takes both to see it and work on it for if not its dumed from the start. yes i do date yes i do have problems but even normal people have problems. so with that i will say i hope all who reads this will stop and think even our president linclin had it and he handle it well. | |
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