| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 10/28/2008 1:35:41 AM | ~~~recent update everyone~~
im going to visit and stay with my aunt in the first week of november(my dad and aunt live in the same city and only a mile apart)
after telling my dad exactly how i feel, he still has decided to marry her
i have no choice but to deal with her
i've decided to use my visit as a test to my father, i told him im only there for one weekend which are his days off i told him he needs to spend one of his days off i was very adamant bout it
i have a strong feeling , his fiance will interfere or just not consider me
might actually tell my dad they already have plans and to hang out with me another time i can already see it happening
now i need advice on how to deal with her in person up untill now i have had no contact with her since july
what if she freaks out on me while im holding my 5 month old daughter?
im very cautious since i have my child with me i dont think she'll actually harm the baby but i wouldnt be surprised if she attacked me while the baby is present
my dad is so ****whooped i dont think he'll leave her ass at home to spend time with me , instead of making her jelous he will bring her along trust me on this , he will bring her | |
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| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 10/28/2008 5:11:50 AM | | It should be your Dad's decision and his alone. Don't come between him and his partner, no matter what you think about this relationship. It's him who has to make the choice and it's your Dad's decision to isolate himself. Try to be more accepting and just see what happens. | |
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| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 10/28/2008 8:03:53 AM | | If you force the issue, you may drive him right out of your life. He obviously loves this woman. Right or wrong, it is his life. | |
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| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 10/28/2008 9:18:44 AM | First off you said,"but i know from experience of dating someone that was bipolar that the medication does not make change them it reduces their mood swings and their outbursts but they are still the same person " that is not true.
Bi-polar by itself is a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is easily treatable and can be managed well through medications.
I am bi-polar and very stable.
The fact is most bi-polar people feel "well" when they are on their meds and then get the notion they no longer needed them. This happened to me after 3 years of faithfully taking my meds. My wife ( at the time), outed me to my psychiatrist.
Schizophrenia is almost a complete disconnect with reality. Hearing voices, thinking everyone is out to get you, etc. These people spend their lives in and out of hospitals.
Your dad's fiancee may be unchecked bi-polar but i suspect there issomething more severe going on. A personality disorder of some sort.
The bad news is she doesn't see her behavior as outrageous, mean, controlling. To her it is normal and therefore she will probably never get treatment.
I have a bachelor's degree in psychology.
Bi-polar people are not crazy. | |
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| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 10/28/2008 5:56:49 PM | If it were me, I would tell her straight to her face, or on the phone before hand, that I don't want a repeat of the last time I was with her, in my child's presence....UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.
You would know how she would react to this statement, but if she cannot play nice during a visit, with a child around, I would tell Dad to come alone, or don't come at all. | |
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| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 11/2/2008 5:28:24 AM | | I don't know OP, how you can adamantly tell your Dad that he must spend his day off with you. That begins to sound like an attempt to control. If you have an invitation to extend to your Dad only, it is then his prerogative to accept or decline. It sounds instead like you are trying to make him choose, and that will only backfire for you. If your Dad intends to marry this woman, you owe him the courtesy to try to get along. Tip toe around her if you must. If you can't....then stay away. JMO | |
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| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 11/4/2008 12:43:16 AM | shirley i dont think asking my dad to spend one day with me since i only see him once a year maybe 2 if fortunate is alot to ask or seem an attempt to control
its more like 'hey dad im coming to town which hardly almost never happens and also u hardly never come to my town either .......sooooo please take some time and spend a day with your daughter who u hardly see''
all im saying is , i have to share the day with her as well | |
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| she has been diagnosed with bipolarism
Posted: 11/5/2008 8:17:32 AM | I agree that is shouldn't be a big deal, but there is a nice way to suggest that one on one visit without being adamant and demanding. Thats' all I meant. Sorry.
Switch positions for a second. If you have a SO, will you expect him to join you and your Dad? Would you be offended if Dad adamantly requested his exclusion? Wouldn't you feel more joy to be with them both? Just asking. No offense intended. | |
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