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Posted: 11/7/2008 6:45:09 AM | Sarah my dear new friend, when our self-esteem has been attacked all we can do is build ourselves up. Stand in front of a mirror and see yourself as a strong, energetic, good woman. No matter what you are always number 1 and never settle for less than you give. Love ya | |
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Posted: 11/8/2008 4:43:24 AM | Perhaps you might ask the question in a different way. Why do you seem to pick the same type of men to date?? Not all men are the same ya know. Best of luck finding that special fish.  | |
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Posted: 11/23/2008 7:10:45 AM | Rosie 49 
Good post
OP ya keep doin the same thing over & over
and over again <
Ya get the same results >TA Da
Look 'Act 'be who you are inside and out from the git
go ........ If someone does not
like you or accept you JUST the way you are inside and out > then fine
so be it ^^^screw them >oh well there loss and your gain 'surely
you do not want to pretend to be someone you are not all the time
'''RIGHT ?
Sure we all have little quirks we can work on now and
then but that is not the point or topic .
OP
dont ya hate it when a grandios fishy comes along all bubbly '''blippety blappin
about how men
want her so much and yet little fishy is still
here in the pond 'Pondering ' swimming arround in Bubbles
like sucker fish tryin to get some poor man Fishin to take the bait ......... Ah
The woe of it all .
You are okay OP
Its trials and tribulations that gives wisdom to get it right !
Have you ever ask your self ?
What is the first thing you want a Man to notice about
you ''like for instance > Sex Kittten ' If you
portray a Sexy Kitten then that is what he expects 'cause this
particular Man saw Sex Kitten probably wants
SEX all the time and you to look like SexY Kitten or be a Kinky Sexy Kitten <<<
or saw right thru you and knew this was a desparate
tactic {manipulation } to get Man so he played you ............{{{Manipulation
is not as transparent >or invincible as one thinks }}} Manipulation and
dishonesty always backfires and someone gets hurt >>>> Not sure
dont know you !
Just one example :
there is more >like could be needy 'lonely ' desparate ''eager ' overly kind and friendly ''''''''''manipulative '''volnurable ' Sucker '''''ect....
What do you want or need from Man ?
What really makes you Happy ?
Mean while be YOURSELF !
Be the person you want to attract !
Want a Friend ''''''Be a Friend
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Posted: 8/12/2009 11:12:55 AM | dsleeth wrote (a year ago):
Ok, there is a real issue out there that women have. Women are programmed to love and to receive love. Men are programmed to respect and to receive respect. These women might be showing more respect to the men that were in your life than you did.
Respect is hard for most women to learn how to do. IT takes work, and we must show respect even if someone doesn't deserve it.
and,
Forgot to add. THere's a great book out there called "Love and Respect" this book is changing lives. Read it. I am and I am single.
The author is Emerson Eggerich, and if you find the book "Love and Respect" interesting, which it is, then you might also want to rad his follow up: "Cracking the Comunication Code."
Another book that has helped women see life through a man's eyes is the short and eay to read publication, "For Women Only." For men there is the similarly titled book, "For Men Only."
TK
{yeah, I read 'em all, first two in church (adult sunday school class) and the other two on my own} | |
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Posted: 8/13/2009 9:48:00 PM | Hey hun,
Well, no way to sugar coat it, that $ucks. and it happens to the best of us.
I agree with the other posts, he was not your guy. Nothing wrong with you, it was him.
Set your bar a little higher, and wait a little longer before you give him your heart. Make him work for it. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 12:08:47 PM | Don't put too much faith in romance and sex. Love them while they're there...then be ready to let 'em go. Sometimes this s--t just runs its course.
What sucks is the empty promises these two guys made and "best of intentions". I think that may be the problem--the guys built it all up too much, to the point where they couldn't keep it going anymore.
One day at a time... | |
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Posted: 8/14/2009 3:49:43 PM | I'm going to get deep on this one. I have a feeling that you jumped the gun on dating. Over 20 years of marriage is not forgotten so quickly. The world is very different from when you were younger. We are meeting other people through a box of zeros and ones. With that it's really not what this man did. It's about you facing your own mortality. I'm only 30, but this is when you begin to realize how fast time has gone by.
I really feel that you are afraid of dying alone.
Join a church group or just meet some new friends. Spend time focusing on fun and building new relationships (friends). I hope I wasn't harsh. Goodluck. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 6:25:06 AM | An ego trip must always end... and that is what many men are after. Someone to boost their ego, and when they have conquered you and have you in love with them.. they get bored and move on... because they have a low opinion of themselves, and need to fill that missing part of their ego with something. Once you convince them that you love them and want to be with them, they lose respect for you because in their mind they are thinking "what a loser.... this girl must be desperate to want someone like me" ... Then they find someone else to focus on.
This happens with women and men..... only when two people can put their egos aside and say I want a happy life with someone who deserves to be loved, can this cycle end. But there are plenty of people out there that want someone who loves them, and you just have to get out and meet them somewhere. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2009 11:09:09 AM | Ya know, women have a pretty scewed up mindset even more then a lot of guys. However I don't get how some of my fellow males think sometimes either, granted its usually more logical than a womens but still. I had a friend cheat on his girlfriend, who was very attractive, and non-slutty. He wouldn't touch her and trust me this girl had a rockin body(I said girl cause this was when I was a teen, she was 16 so it was a very long time ago) but he would cheat on her with slutty badgirl types. None of us could figure it out! Of course I had to be the one to tell her. Thats just one example though, I don't know too many guys thatd do that, more women I know that make no sense.
I'm kinda a different kinda guy though, I think too much, I'm kinda overly logical, and have too much common sense. Which more often than not helps me make better decisions than my friends when it comes to things in general. However when it comes to relationships, I do kinda fail, not my fault, its just women now-a-days. I don't puss out and don't take shit from them, and know better than to kiss their ass. But a lot of people just don't think right. As far as the OP goes, I think you're just unfortunately from a generation when men were the ones that didn't make a lot of sense so I don't know what to say, but looking at the forums the younger generations, us guys have no idea whats going on in a womens head, and they do too many things that make no sense at all. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2009 1:20:34 PM | Todays man is not the man of yesterday. This is the problem. We 55 year old women expect a man to be a companion first, a lover next and a best friend forever.
Men on the other hand want power, lots of power, power in buisness, power in friendship, power in relationship, power over their wives, power over their children. There is little humility in todays man.
But the kind of power a woman wants in a man is self control in all areas of his life, in buisness, in friendship, in relationship and in family ties. If a man has these he will have balance in all aeas of his life, expecially in protecting his family.
Remember Sarah, a soul mate is a man who protects your honor, go fishing and don't expect to catch the right fish too quickly, most small fish are thrown back into the pond. lol | |
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Posted: 9/19/2009 10:26:13 PM | | That is a million dollar question.Im 51 and still dont understand how they tick.For example I met a guy the other night at a bar we got along great had good conversation.He asked me for my phone number and i gave it to him.Well unfortunatley I transfered my service to another carrier and they screwed it up .Well he left to messages the second one was he just couldent understand why i hadnt returned his calls .Well i drove to his house and left him a letter explaining what happend that was today I still havent heard from him so you guys tell me i dont get it. I have just about given up on men. If there are any nice trustworthy honest sincere men out there please raise your hand. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2009 1:31:31 PM |
He asked me for my phone number and i gave it to him.Well unfortunatley I transfered my service to another carrier and they screwed it up How is that about men thinking? it's about problem with your phone, is it not?
If I'd call someone and he wouldn't answer the phone he gave me and he didn't return my call, it would mean he couldn't talk and/or he didn't want to. I'd suggest check your number before you give it to anyone to contact you.
What if it were a business call? You'd lost business because of that. You can't drive to each client and explain that your provider sucks...after all, it was your choice | |
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Posted: 9/21/2009 6:02:02 PM |
Men on the other hand want power, lots of power, power in buisness, power in friendship, power in relationship, power over their wives, power over their children. There is little humility in todays man. Sweet Jesus Princess can you generalize just a tad bit more, you forgot men want the women barefoot, pregnant, in the kitchen, sex when they want it , dress in lingerie while doing housework  good Lord.
Maybe those are the men you are meeting , I know plenty of successful men who would disagree with you in a heart beat.
Remember Sarah, a soul mate is a man who protects your honor, go fishing and don't expect to catch the right fish too quickly, what is that Yoda lingo? I think you need to lay off the harlequin romance novels for a bit hun.
That's not what a soul mate is, soul mates consists of TWO people not one.
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Posted: 9/21/2009 6:30:29 PM | I totally agree with you one hundred percent but I wasnt even aware that my phone was not working intill after he left the messages and it was already to late.I returned his phone call to get no answer so I wanted to give him the respect and consideration that i felt he deservered . I did not want him to think i didnt return his call due to lack of interest that was not the case at well all things happen for a reason I will just say i was very dissapointed and to say the least a bit hurt. | |
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