| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 1:24:31 PM | Hi
A blacklist would be good in someways but bad in others. The players keep chnaging their profile names so it would be difficult to keep track..also I think there are some women on here that decide they want a man and will do anything to get him so some nie guys could end up in it because of bunni boilers.
But hey if you want to start one I think that would be great. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 2:03:33 PM | | well i didnt read everything but i other thing has to be considered though. that she is just a stalker who hacked into his pof file and just reaking havoc to potential mates, maybe you should give him a chance | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 3:56:29 PM | So you emailed about meeting, and he sent you his phone # - and you haven't yet called it WHILE you're sitting back waiting for him to email you again???? Who's the dingy one here?
This does sound very odd. I met a penpal thru another site - from Scotland - we discussed politics, geography and world history. One day, I get a pyscho email stating it's from his wife, and that I should be ashamed for having an on-line affair with her husband, and that there were a lot of us, and I was the worst of the lot. WTF??? Never spoke to her and never spoke to him. All email.
Was the email actually from his wife, or was it really him, and he just needed a bit more drama? Who knows - and who the hell cares. That's enough nutsville for me. Stopped all contact. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 4:06:03 PM | | Nope all sorts goes on, on the internet. Theres loads of different explanations for this. She could be some stalker, it could genuinly be his mrs, anything but only one solution. You dont know this person why after only chattin get involved any further? Ditch and move on whatever all this is , is crazy lol | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 4:21:46 PM | OP
Write it off to "sh*t happens", and erase his name from your datebook or dance card or whatever. Whether it's a psycho ex or the guy himself doing it (for Lord knows what reason!) just move on. There are lots of nice guys out there who don't have satellite gfs, psycho exes or a need to play games.
Cindy O | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 5:32:20 PM | this is funny but in a different way.
the woman's judgement that the guy was a good fellow was based upon her feeling she got from his messages and their conversations.
she then realizes that she was completely mistaken and fooled by his words and that her judgement may not be the best.
then she says " the girlfriend of 17 years sounds genuine" so she believes her.
not realizing that she is using the same set of skills in making her judgements that got her this situation in the first place....lol..
It's the same thing.
He told you something that you should not ever have believed or things that most people would have knew almost intuitively were completely bullhist. But you didn't.
then you use the same judging skills to assess the womans' story.
she "sounded" genuine.
He initially "sounded" genuine.
you don't seem to be able to tell the difference. Is this common for you.
HOw often do your decisions in other aspects of your life come back to biteyou on your butt. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 5:44:24 PM | Oh all this is pointless-
blacklist, exposing them - really all pointless.
Case in point- his 17 year relationship is still with him.
She probably has chased down more women then she cares
to remember- or maybe doesnt care or just has lost her self
esteem, respect, character and whatever else she may have along the
way chasing his women. Why do they stay with these guys-for
thier giant dicks- I just dont get this.
So what do we do- nothing. What can we do. We just try to make
beter decisions and listen to our heads instead of our hearts.
You got neither played, duped or whatever. What you actually got
was nothing - a troubling phone call and a guy who turned out to be
not what you thought he was. Thats all- makes you nothing. Just
makes you, you.
We can say here, do this or that, look for this or that but really when you
are talking to someone and feeling all kinds of crazy endorphin rushes your
not about to question anything or anyone. Just go with it, keep your eyes
open and try to make better judgements. Im sure it will happen again-
but this is internet dating. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:07:40 PM | This exact same thing happened to me, except I was in the shoes of the girl that got ahold of you. My ex used me as a plaything while her real boyfriend was away at school, and when he came back she dumped me because she couldnt live her double life with us both being local now. I called him to ask a question and we both then found out then she was living this double life. The only difference here is people actually sympathised with HER and looked down on ME. Goes to show you how incredably sexist these forums can me.
Either way I would have brought it up with him, like others said she might just be a crazy ex, or she might be telling the truth. If he does convince you shes just crazy beyond a reasonable doubt, and you chose to continue, be very very cautious. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:16:53 PM | You mentioned that you've only EMAILED back and forth with (him) this entire time....
DID you actually TALK with him prior to her calling you???
What if HE was actually SHE all along????
Just a thought.....one never knows......... | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:23:32 PM | Yup , Piano could be right on with this ... an oblique method of women luring women .. you go over to commiserate over wine , then one thing leads to another ...  | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:32:58 PM | OMG dump him immediately. i recently went through this, she will stalk you and harrass you if she thinks your with him. Way too much drama, there are so many more available men out there!
Kimberly | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:38:31 PM | | He can't be much of a womanizer if he was with her for 17 years....I think she needs to move on, and just be smart and cautious about this one and trust your gut intstinct!! | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:40:50 PM | Last night I played a blank CD at full blast. The mime next door went ballistic on me, Nothing surprises me anymore.....
Im amazed you called her once you found out he has a woman? Why is this woman staying with this womanizer ? Not your problem as far as im concerned, if shes happy with the arrangement with this penis with ears, God bless her and as my favorite announcer used to say " never sit on a bald man's hat"
Everybody deserves happiness, and all the fried chicken they can eat too.... Just relegate this penis with ears to the past tense and wave buhhhhh byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 6:43:38 PM | | Red flag! Red means stop. Isn't there enough drama in our lives as women without adding more intentionally? My 2 cents are: RUN and don't look back. Who needs anyone friend, or otherwise, in their lives with those issues? YUK!!!! | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 8:00:01 PM | She did you a favor and please DO NOT meet him.
Its not an usual thing....my ex boyfriend,Andy did the same thing to me on here and yes I was livid. As you can see I am no longer with that cheating,woman beating loser. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 8:54:54 PM |
Last night I played a blank CD at full blast. The mime next door went ballistic on me, Nothing surprises me anymore..-cdnjackals dude im almost pissed my self
dude im glad your back
i cant top that . | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/11/2008 9:08:02 PM |
Not if she was clever enough to delete the incoming and sent messages
You can still read it in the "View All Correspondence" link. That part can't be deleted, and I believe it also stays for 30 days. So no, she can't just delete the message and it be gone. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/12/2008 11:42:23 AM | sadly, this is a thread about nothing. anudder seinfeld episode.
woman deludes herself into thinking that a complete stranger is a great guy.
Based solely upon what he wrote online. good plan.
Great guy turns out to be not so great.
alleged great guy's alleged girlfriend calls woman.
woman deludes herself into thinking that assumed girlfriend is likewise wonderful.
if a man were to have written this, someone if not several people would have written in response for the guy to stop thinking with his LITTLE HEAD and to use his brain to make decisions.
so what was this woman using ? and don't say her heart as the same thing could apply equally well for any guy who makes foolish decisions based upon his hopes and desires.
MJthomas marks must be tired of posting his usual comment of " i dont know how many times I have to tell women but here it is again " look at the person's ACTIONS not the person's WORDS " "
Whenever I read about someone's plan to 'get to know the person online first" I usually wonder to myself how long it will be before this same person posts the inevitable thread, " he seemed so wonderful online but he turned out to be a jerk. are all men this way?" usually it is 3- 6 months later after spending all that time "getting to know the guy" and" finding out what makes him tick". etc...blah blah blah...
my response to anyone who has this plan.. good luck with that. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/12/2008 7:56:00 PM | Ever think just maybe it was an ex just trying to childishly get pay back for a broken heart?
Gee no way.. There is no way it could be just a scorned ex with no life and nothing better to do then screw with him!!! No one would ever do something like that!
RocK | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/12/2008 8:50:00 PM | you haven't even met him and there's already an attached drama.
even if that girl isn't really the gf, does it matter? you'll have to deal with her somehow again later on.
if i were you, i'd pass. there are many other guys out there. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/13/2008 8:23:12 AM | | OP, I'm really starting to be concerned for YOUR state of mind. If you truly mean what you just said "I think he is a cheating liar and a loser but I'd still like to hear his side".....Does HIS side of the story really matter?? He sounds like he may have some shady dealing going on, but you're appearing emotionally desperate. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/13/2008 8:33:17 AM |
OP, I'm really starting to be concerned for YOUR state of mind. If you truly mean what you just said "I think he is a cheating liar and a loser but I'd still like to hear his side".....Does HIS side of the story really matter?? He sounds like he may have some shady dealing going on, but you're appearing emotionally desperate
no kidding...
welcome to POF.
where the unintentional disclosure is a matter of routine and nothing is as it appears.
where logic is used by some , much to their dismay.
where people spend days if not months on line "getting to really really know the real person" and then meet to discover that nothing is as it appears.
where emotionally damaged, battle weary and relationship wary people meet to discuss their day to day struggle with things the majority of people simply brush off.
People can't just have fun or be happy anymore. They'd rather sit at home and be content that they are 'right' in their assessment of the world.
and by relationship wary, I mean completely phobic about meeting people.. | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/13/2008 12:15:18 PM | | Although I respect everyone's opinion, I would take this as a sign that a) he's got unresolved issues with this woman b) you haven't even met and he's already drama c) why would you even contemplate meeting with this guy? The whole thing sounds weird, and there are plenty of guys out there. Why even open the door to a possible womanizer with a dramatic situation with another woman? | |
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| His girlfriend sent me a message
Posted: 8/18/2008 4:36:50 PM | OP, I'm really starting to be concerned for YOUR state of mind. If you truly mean what you just said "I think he is a cheating liar and a loser but I'd still like to hear his side".....Does HIS side of the story really matter?? He sounds like he may have some shady dealing going on, but you're appearing emotionally desperate.
So you're concerned for MY state of mind are you? Why? As far as I'm concerned, I've read ALL of the posts on here and have taken on board all the suggestions that his ex might be a fruitcase, he might be his ex???, he's actually a women, he's is genuine and trying to excape his wife/girlfriend...where to stop!
I am not emotionally desperate as you so unkindly suggested...I'm just curious. I have a thing that's called intellegence and am wondering what the hell happened in this case. Ok, so I will admit, I've been a bit naive in this case but I have learnt from the experience and won't make the same mistake again....theres that intellengence thing again.
I couldn't give a diddly shit if this guy/woman/transexual/rottwieler fell off the face of the earth...I'd just like to know what motivates these kind of people.
Of course there is no way I'm gonna meet this jackoff.. | |
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