| Only child... guilt?
Posted: 8/16/2008 1:10:15 PM | I don't have kids, but I have a brother who is 8 years older than me. As others have said, there are pros and cons to it. You always want what you don't have. The grass is greener on the other side, and all that.
I don't think anyone should have a child for someone else, whether it's a partner or another child, though; especially not out of guilt. If you feel he needs another kid around to play with, get him involved in classes or extracurriculars of some sort. | |
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| Only child... guilt?
Posted: 8/17/2008 4:43:30 PM | | no it dont matter the age gap i have a brother thats 6yrs gap and sister thats a 13yr gap and i dont get on with any of them never did as a child. i have a cousin with a 17yrs old son and she just had a baby who is now 10month and hes adores his baby brother | |
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| Only child... guilt?
Posted: 8/18/2008 6:11:15 AM | I had to laugh when I saw this thread
I feel guilty all the time, absolutely 
I'd love to find someone special and if he was a single dad then seriously, even better !!! | |
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| Only child... guilt?
Posted: 8/19/2008 5:32:54 AM | You shouldn't feel guilty. We can't plan everything perfectly. If your son talks about wanting a sibling, I can understand how you feel. If he doesn't talk about it, maybe it doesn't bother him to be an only child.
I had my girls 8+ yrs apart. I didn't have my youngest with the thought of giving my first born a sibling. It didn't really bother her to be an only child. I actually had another child because I felt very maternal and wanted to have another child in my life. I love them more than anything and I don't feel bad that they are so far apart. Look at it this way, if you really want another child... they will have the chance to share some of their growing up years together which will hopefully give them a good chance of being friends as adults.
My oldest is now 18 and has recently moved out, but my 9 yr old is happy to have someone to look up to and visit with a shine in her eye. | |
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| Only child... guilt?
Posted: 8/27/2008 9:27:28 AM | I have FOUR children...and I sometimes felt guilty that I had so many!!  Of course I got two for one with the last two....but the guilt is more about you learn everything from kidlet number one....you do better as a parent with each one...so the poor firstborn had to be your trainee! LOL
Seriously...there are benefits of being an only child, I am sure! I have a brother who is four years older than I...but he lived with my father or grandparents a lot...and I always bugged my mom to make me a sister! Then she met and married my stepdad, who had custody of his daughter...we were nine days apart, so my mom treated us like TWINS and I ended up hating it! LOL | |
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