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 VADancer63

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Posted: 8/13/2008 9:23:08 AM
You make a good point concerning circumstances, however the individual still makes the choice. I didn't list ALL of the reasons one would choose to be gay. Expecting that I do so would be ludicrous! I gave two possible examples, that's all. As for genetics, come on. As they say in Missouri, Show me! There is NO proof of a "gay gene". That's pseudo-science for snake oil peddlers.

As for shirking the responsibility, not everyone who's gay is proud of it. Many (No specific quantity) are all too aware of the homosexual behavior being out of the norm. The normal sexual behavior is for procreation via male/female interaction. Mankind has evolved the behavior beyond the basic biological function, but same gender sexual activity is still out of norm beyond the basic. Farther out than what most people in society understand as normal.

With that, one becomes ashamed of what they do. Saying "It's not my fault, it's genetic" or something similar justifies what they do. This basic shirking of responsibility is done by every one in some aspect of their lives. Ex: Criminals justify what they do as they break the law.

I'm not saying gays are criminal. I'm saying they are gay because they choose to be. One way or another the person made a choice just like you did. (Whatever choices you made.)

Truly think about it. I have a lot. Believe me.
 clarence clutterbuck

Joined: 4/13/2008
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Posted: 8/13/2008 10:52:31 AM

The cause for homosexuality is quite simple. It's a choice.


Was this opinion of yours genetically determined or do you choose to believe it?
 sassyaquarius

Joined: 4/10/2006
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Posted: 8/13/2008 11:14:12 AM
^^ Nice!!!!!!!
 romanticoptimist

Joined: 10/1/2007
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Posted: 8/13/2008 12:22:19 PM
I am "truly" thinking about it. You claim that EVERY homosexual is thus by CHOICE and only by CHOICE, yes? That choice, and choice alone, is why every single homosexual is a homosexual, yes? Where's your evidence? All you've presented so far is your opinion and an attempt to dismiss any counter argument by characterizing them as held by a variety of unpleasant characters. Show your facts. Just the facts.

By the way, when did you "choose" to to be a heterosexual? I'm looking back over my life and I can't remember that moment. I can't recall a single day or event when I said, "Hmmm. I want to be heterosexual". How about you? When did you "choose" to be heterosexual?
 VADancer63

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Posted: 8/13/2008 3:25:21 PM
Yes I did choose to be heterosexual! I even know why. I didn't remember this until very recently, but I did choose & I know the reason. I would venture to say that you don't remember when you made the choice, doesn't mean you didn't choose. It just means you don't remember. I can understand, it's not an important thing to remember.

My point here is that each and every one of us has complete freedom of choice. We choose which mores we want to live by, then, we will even disregard some (either momentarily or more long termed - depending the situation) when they become inconvenient.

You have the power of choice all the time. YOU decide how something will affect you. Then you'll make more decisions on top of that.

Ex: Boy walking down street gets jumped by two bullies and is robbed. Then he decides that:
1. He mustn't let this happen again.
2. Boys bigger than him are dangerous. Look out.
3. Don't carry much money, less to loose.
4. Don't walk down that street anymore.

This is a very basic example. Decision #1 was the primary. The rest are secondary decisions made to support #1. They're not all that great but in this example, this boy's life will be affected by these simple decisions he made. Bear in mind the only decision he consciously made was to Not let this happen again.

Expanding on this His secondary decision #2 will affect him unconsciously to be wary of boys that are bigger than him. When he's an adult, he will be suspicious of men bigger than him. What's worse, he won't even have a clue as to why he's suspicious.

I don't expect you to understand this, you were never taught this. Neither was I. But in that example is THE fundamental reason why people behave irrationally. We all do it. Myself included.

Now to explain why a person chooses his sexual preference, there are millions of possibilities as to why one would make his choice.

Another thing, I am saying that everyone has the power to choose what he is/does/makes.

By saying he doesn't make that choice, dis empowers him/her. Which I think is the condescending issue here.

Allow people the power to take responsibility for their actions & decisions. They will feel better about it.

In the words of Aristotle: "I have learned this by philosophy, that I do without being commanded what others do only by fear of the law."

You make your own decisions. You create your own world. Know what's right from wrong. Never sell out your integrity.

In this ,bear in mind that one who has done wrong (by whatever degree) will justify it somehow. Again I'm not saying gays are wrong, I am saying they all choose it, society perceives it to be wrong so the gay must now justify it. By saying he doesn't have a choice is the perfect justifier. It's completely out of his control. Just like the serial killer, rapist child molester, will cling to a similar justifier that takes all their responsibility on their actions away. And then society begins to break down.
 Raveninns

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Posted: 8/13/2008 4:07:13 PM

Again I'm not saying gays are wrong, I am saying they all choose it,


Holy Smokes, did you even read the article?


More is known about homosexuality in men than in women, whose sexuality appears more fluid. The consensus now is that people are "born gay," as the title of a recent book by Rahman and British psychologist Glenn Wilson puts it.



One way or another the person made a choice just like you did. (Whatever choices you made.)


Or are you being existential and all? I certainly believe that life circumstances are "chosen" prior to birth, so in that aspect, yes I agree.


And then society begins to break down.


Are you suggesting that the gay lifestyle also contributes to the fall of society? Just want to make sure and not assume that is your stance.


I want to also point out why psychology/psychiatry would lead you to believe it's genetic or a chemical imbalance. It's for profit! They want you to believe they can do something about it if you throw enough money at them. They invent some drug or therapy that does nothing but make them money. It's a fantasy they put up to make money. They have no pathological proof that any of this is genetic or a "chemical imbalance of the brain".


Money aside, the animal kingdom has provided proof. It does not take a great deal of logic to make the leap to conclude that this may also be a human trait as well.

On the other thread, there was a poignant entry by a gay man who definitely did not choose to be gay, and has suffered a lot. Tell your theories to him.

Cheers, Raven
 Singular_Intellect

Joined: 7/21/2008
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Posted: 8/13/2008 4:23:50 PM
The first person to suggest being gay is in anyway a choice should enlighten us with the tale where in their lives they were attracted to both sexes and decided to pick one to be attracted to, while turning the other sexual interest 'off'.

After all, it's a choice, right?
 Kaos86

Joined: 3/7/2007
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Posted: 8/13/2008 10:22:19 PM
So should a woman have the right to abort a "gay fetus"?
 Raveninns

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Posted: 8/14/2008 3:58:02 AM

So should a woman have the right to abort a "gay fetus"?


Indeed. The dare to "bring it" was completely lost.

But what is even scarier,


Now they want to legalize that if it somehow survives, or you decide when it leaves the womb, it can be killed, thats called ****ing murder, and Obama is all for it, which is one of many reasons I dislike the man and would vote for Naider before him. So, I too wish i could kill O bama


italics are mine

Wow, do you want to kill me too, 'cos I am pro choice. What about every other person who is pro choice, do they deserve to die as well? And are you personally, as well as every other anti abortion advocate, willing to adopt these unwanted fetuses? How about eliminated poverty and beefing up social programming so abortion wouldn't be needed? Oh that's right, the US government would rather spend 3.5 billion $ per week
on a war that was knowingly begun with lies and kills and displaces hundreds of thousands of children.......sheesh


you never answered my post, you never "brought it" How do you justify abortion, simple as that, justify it, I want to see you try.


He "brought it" all right, in spades, but you do not have the eyes to see. Why is abortion immoral? From where do you get your absolute opinion on this subject?

and please, answer the question,


So should a woman have the right to abort a "gay fetus"?


given the fact that you know, like yourself, that your child will be subjected to opinions and violence such as yours,


I personally don't care whether people are gay or not, but if you come hittin on me, I don't care what you are (unless female) You will get punched, hard. i'll leave it at that.



Cheers, Raven
 Kaos86

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Posted: 8/14/2008 5:59:03 AM
Raven I think you have confused two posters here.
In know way do I advocate the killing of anyone associated with abortion.

Parents are choosing to accept only "designer babies". Thatn is babies that mimmic only the treaits they desire if a baby has any slight defect or tracer genes it can be aborted.
Theoretically homosexuality which has study's have shown can be identified through tracer genes in the womb could be eliminated by aborting these fetuses that show the tracer genes.

Is that ok?
 a bit nomadic

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Posted: 8/14/2008 8:12:25 AM
Raven, provocative post.

I guess that the woman in this case, if she believed that both abortion and homosexual sex were damnable sins, would have to CHOOSE between her own damnation and that of her unborn child.

Will she be selfish, and have the baby, saving herself from an eternity in Hell?
Or selfless, and abort, saving the child from this fate?

 Apologist~D.A

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Posted: 8/14/2008 11:47:22 AM
How phenomenally ignorant of you! No, make that magnanimously foolish! Some are homosexuals by choice, some are homosexuals because life and circumstances made them so, some are homosexuals because of genetic or factors surrounding their conception, and some are homosexual sometimes and other times not. There is no one "way to become gay". Except to the terminally clueless, bigoted, and truly ignorant.

American Psychological Association states:

"What is sexual orientation?

Sexual orientation refers to an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes. (emphasis mine)

Actually, What causes a person to have a particular sexual orientation?

There is no consensus among scientists about the exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay, or lesbian orientation. Although much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social, and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors. (emphasis mine)


Homosexuality is not inborn and genetic theories have never been proven.
Much of the information we read today says that homosexual people are born gay. This is called the genetic theory. Homosexuals themselves will say that as early as they can remember they felt “different”. As a result, they honestly feel that they were born with same-sex attractions. Is there any truth to this claim?

There were three studies in the 1990’s all touted by the press as proving a genetic link. Heres the truth:
(1) Simon Levay, 1991
•Proposed one part of the brain was larger in heterosexual than homosexual men.
•19 subjects, all had died of AIDS. We don’t know if AIDS actually affected the brain.
•3 of 19 had larger hypothalamus section than the average heterosexual
•3 of 16 heterosexuals had smaller brain section
Hellooo..no significant difference!

(2)Bailey & Picard 1991
•Studied prevalence of homosexuality among twins and adopted brothers
•52% of identical twins were homosexual
•22% of fraternal twins homosexual
•11% of adoptive brothers
Since 48% were not homosexual, it can’t be genetic!

3)Hamer 1993
•Studies so called “gay gene”
•40 Pairs of homosexual brothers
•33 pairs had same pattern on one arm of a chromosome.
•But, brains rewire and we don’t know if this is cause or effect
•No control group. Didn’t test heterosexual brothers
•Canadian researchers could not duplicate
•Investigated for falsifying data


Researchers Hamer and LeVay themselves never claimed that homosexuality was inborn.


No study has actually proven any genetic link to homosexuality and none have been repeated and all three were conducted by men who are all self-proclaimed homosexuals. Do the math.

“There is no evidence at present to substantiate a biologic theory" ~ William Byne and Bruce Parsons

“…credible evidence is lacking for a biological model of homosexuality.”
~Richard Friedman, M.D. and Jennifer Downey, M.D.

“A November 1995 article in Scientific American pointed out that the much publicized brain research by Simon LeVay has never been replicated and that Dean Hamer’s gene study has been contradicted by another study.”
~Alan E. Kazdin, Ph.D., American Psychological Association President
 forum_moderator

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 Singular_Intellect

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Posted: 8/14/2008 3:06:54 PM
Frankly people can debate the source of homosexuality until they are blue in the face; until scientific research narrows down the cause, it's not really that big of an issue.

The particular arguement that really interests me, though, is those who think being homosexual is a choice; they therefore should be able to tell us when they were attracted to both sexes (or perhaps none) and decided to only be attracted to one.
 romanticoptimist

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Posted: 8/14/2008 3:56:49 PM
^^^^We don't often see eye to eye, but SI gets a big "Amen" from me.

As for studies, I don't care what someone didn't find 18 years ago. Unless every single one of the homosexuals I know and have known are liars, some were always so and don't know anything different than attraction to their own gender (and that includes a loved and loving family member). Black/white thinking can't imagine (or allow) anything other than "choice" (or "genetic only") and thus serves no useful purpose in discussing such a complex matter.
 Singular_Intellect

Joined: 7/21/2008
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Posted: 8/14/2008 4:58:43 PM


^^^^We don't often see eye to eye, but SI gets a big "Amen" from me.


Thanks, romanticoptimist.

Just for the record, I would hope that just because we don't see eye to eye on any other subjects doesn't mean there's negativity or hostility between us (or anyone else whom I will aggressively debate for that matter).

As a quote I've read once said, conversing with like minded people is the equivalent of intellectual masturbation; it's people with differing opinions that produce interesting conversation where ideally people are learning something new .
 myty313

Joined: 10/15/2007
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Posted: 8/14/2008 6:10:02 PM
well me personally i believe your born gay and its not a sin if your born that way ,now i used to didn't think that ehovahs witness faith growing up way i was in the jehovahs witness faith(but not baptized but came close to it ) when i was young ..and what i thought was odd was how they tryed to compare most gays to the sodomites ..when to me the difference was the sodomites in sodom&gommorah were just some horny,swinging,freaks crazy rapists in other words they had some issues DrPhil couldn't fix..so using that example of how im supposed to view someone i knew in the congregation that was gay,made no sense,he was a good loving kindhearted person..would do anything for anyone even outside his faith,every one loved him he sat such a good example....then he was disfellowshipped, shunned,then he hung himself ...but from the time he was young he was "feminem" and i hate it took this to change my views of gays,,and thru this experience i feel God showed me how i was thinkin before is not what he taught,,anyways thats just my 2 cent
 Army Man Dan

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Posted: 8/14/2008 10:50:51 PM
I gotta say SI, I do agree with ya on this one, I don't ever remember deciding to be straight.
It doesn't seem like there is a "choice" It just happens, you have no control of it, its the way your circuits were wired. I am curious though about Bi and people that were straight and now are gay. thats a little more confusing to me. then again, hell, what do i know, I'm only 20. I don't think there will ever be proof on being born gay, but heck, ya never know
 sassyaquarius

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Posted: 8/14/2008 11:07:23 PM

Just for the record, I would hope that just because we don't see eye to eye on any other subjects doesn't mean there's negativity or hostility between us (or anyone else whom I will aggressively debate for that matter).

As a quote I've read once said, conversing with like minded people is the equivalent of intellectual masturbation; it's people with differing opinions that produce interesting conversation where ideally people are learning something new
It's stuff like this that keeps me coming back for more, got a little tear in my eye and thats no joke, lol... awesome :)
 romanticoptimist

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Posted: 8/15/2008 4:14:15 AM
Thanks, romanticoptimist
No problem. I always calls it the ways I sees it.

Just for the record, I would hope that just because we don't see eye to eye on any other subjects doesn't mean there's negativity or hostility between us (or anyone else whom I will aggressively debate for that matter).
Agreed.

It's all good.

Now if only VADancer63 can come up with his evidence and not yet more stories and opinions, it would settle some important outstanding issues regarding the whole "choice" claim. Any chance that evidence is forthcoming, VADancer63? Thanks.
 Raveninns

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Posted: 8/15/2008 4:27:01 AM

Raven I think you have confused two posters here.
In know way do I advocate the killing of anyone associated with abortion.


My apologies Kaos, I was not, in any way, trying to infer that you were an advocate of such. I just wanted the poster who believes that homosexuals "choose" to be homosexuals, answer your question, "So should a woman have the right to abort a "gay fetus"?"


Will she be selfish, and have the baby, saving herself from an eternity in Hell?
Or selfless, and abort, saving the child from this fate?



Parents are choosing to accept only "designer babies". Thatn is babies that mimmic only the treaits they desire if a baby has any slight defect or tracer genes it can be aborted.
Theoretically homosexuality which has study's have shown can be identified through tracer genes in the womb could be eliminated by aborting these fetuses that show the tracer genes.

Is that ok?


Really, is it? No-one seems to want to comment on this aspect. I see many comments that abortion is never ok, but no-one wants to comment on possible gene tampering or the choices to be made should the possibility arise in their own life. I particularly want to know if the Bible supports such choices, and how?


No study has actually proven any genetic link to homosexuality and none have been repeated and all three were conducted by men who are all self-proclaimed homosexuals. Do the math.


Again, your citations are credible, but it does not address the fact that they were not disproven either. The fact remains that many homosexuals have stated that they knew they were such as far back as they can remember. How does one logically assimilate these narratives into the accepted Biblical dogma that it is a sin? I know it certainly made me think that the Biblical God is a mean god indeed to create people who will never be accepted unless they deny one of the very essences of their being/sexuality. What is the Biblical solution for this??? If God provides salvation for everyone, what is the solution?


It's stuff like this that keeps me coming back for more


Me too,

Cheers, Raven
 Apologist~D.A

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Posted: 8/15/2008 11:35:38 AM
The particular arguement that really interests me, though, is those who think being homosexual is a choice; they therefore should be able to tell us when they were attracted to both sexes (or perhaps none) and decided to only be attracted to one.

Well, here I am.
I will humbly admit that on more than one occasion I have been sexually attracted to another woman. And I will add that the last time was not that long ago.
As Americans, we are consistently bombarded by sexuality on the tele, especially with images of half dressed beautiful women. The temptation to lust after what our eyes see and desire the same is not uncommon. Have I "decided" not be find the body of a beautiful woman attractive? I can not do that. But I can and have decided not to act on that immoral and unnatural perversion.

No study has actually proven any genetic link to homosexuality and none have been repeated and all three were conducted by men who are all self-proclaimed homosexuals. Do the math.


Again, your citations are credible, but it does not address the fact that they were not disproven either. The fact remains that many homosexuals have stated that they knew they were such as far back as they can remember. How does one logically assimilate these narratives into the accepted Biblical dogma that it is a sin? I know it certainly made me think that the Biblical God is a mean god indeed to create people who will never be accepted unless they deny one of the very essences of their being/sexuality. What is the Biblical solution for this??? If God provides salvation for everyone, what is the solution?

Romans 12
"Dear friends, God is good. So I beg you to offer your bodies to him as a living sacrifice, pure and pleasing. Thats the most sensible way to serve God."

*And (IMO) God did not create man (or woman) to desire one another, we have a perverted our sexual orientation all by our onesies.
 passionandsong

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Posted: 8/15/2008 12:33:44 PM
*And (IMO) God did not create man (or woman) to desire one another, we have a perverted our sexual orientation all by our onesies.

were in the bible is this? or even close to it.
 imp78

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Posted: 8/15/2008 1:32:05 PM

In the future there will be designer babies, where gene traits can be swapped out... Example, Bu polar, homosexuality, blue eyes verse brown, blonde hair, et al, can all be swapped out.


Not to take a serious topic and treat it too facetiously, but the first thing I thought of after this comment was that this would certainly solve the dilemmas of a lot of unfaithful, pregnant wives.

Seriously though, I can see people trying to do this, doing it in secret, but I cannot realistically imagine this happening as a matter of course among mainstream society. Perhaps in 500 or 1000 years, when today's societies have changed so much but even then I think there will still be a majority of people who will be against that kind of selectivism.


But just say, in the future, parents are able to identify exactly what traits their unborn child will inherit? What will the anti homosexual proponents do with this paradoxical dilemma??


I imagine that many will still have their child and then, if they don't like homosexuality, they will watch their child like a hawk for an gay actions. Just because a test finds something, doesn't mean it will exist. A friend of my family has two children who both tested positive for downs while she was pregnant. She was given the choice to abort, but she and her husband decided against it in both cases. Both of her children were born without down syndrome. Of course, this is not always the case - but I can't see anyone equating the "risk" of having a gay baby (or a downs baby) as being on the same level of handicap as say, being born without a brain stem?

I'm not religious myself, so maybe I just don't fundamentally understand the drive to make sure your child doesn't go to hell for something that is pretty minor. Of course, I don't know how you can still believe in a doctrine that says just because you are homosexual that you go to everlasting torment - whether you're a good person or not. *shrug*

Or, maybe they'll be like Cheney and use it to their political advantage. ;) "see, while we hate homosexuality, we're such loving forgiving people we even allowed our own gay baby to live. It's just another example of what wonderful people we are."

This is a very provocative question though, I really like the thought exercise. I'm going to ask my Mom what she thinks about it, and some of my friends too. Most of my family and friends are pretty staunch Christians who don't believe that homosexuality is correct, but see no reason to persecute someone else for it.
 Kaos86

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Posted: 8/15/2008 1:46:48 PM

Seriously though, I can see people trying to do this, doing it in secret, but I cannot realistically imagine this happening as a matter of course among mainstream society.


The Nazis tried this 60 years ago.


Or, maybe they'll be like Cheney and use it to their political advantage. ;) "see, while we hate homosexuality, we're such loving forgiving people we even allowed our own gay baby to live. It's just another example of what wonderful people we are."

I doubt very much he ever used it for political gain.
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