| | 29 years old and never been on a date.Page 4 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | | I just posted on the profile review to see what would happen. If you had looked at my profile you would see that it says I'm only looking for Talk and E-mail. My profile isn't a joke. I have the right to say whatever I want on my profile. | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/20/2008 9:52:01 PM | meetup dot com also has a group for "introverts" in the silicon valley area. i think that media is a good way to start. all ages, sexes, married and single "doing things" together. start with that. also volunteer places that have "social" surroundings.
i might add that not all "shy" people put themselves down and many extroverted people do. so those are two seperate issues. you may want to find a therapy "group" for support and exchange of concerns. you will find out you're not all that strange. everyone has feelings. some hide it better than others. you also need social "tools". | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/21/2008 4:03:05 PM | | Anyone on here who says you need professional help is a LOSER. You're fine Man. All you need to do is just ask someone out. See a hottie you like and talk to her . What really works is tell her she is beautiful/gorgeous, etc. and then leave. You're confidence will build and you'll start asking them out and going on dates. You can get dates. Any man can get the hottest woman. Fear is normal . Just get past it; grow some balls and do it. You're going to fumble at first so don't think you're just going to get out there and be Romeo. You're going to get alot more no's than yes. But for every no you get it will lead to a yes. And the yes will be that much better. You'll be fine. Just grow a pair of balls and stop being a wuss. You'll be a chick magnet in no time. Oh. one more thing. For all of the nos and no shows you get remember that she is replaceable and don't sweat it. | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/21/2008 4:11:43 PM | If you ever want to meet quality women never go to the clubs. 90% of the time she will be more trouble than she's worth. Keep it simple for the hottest women are never in clubs. They're in book stores/libraries/ coffee shops,/grocery stores/public activities/volunteer functions, etc. Never go to bars/clubs. You'll find jaded women who have alot of emotional problems.
God bless you man. | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/21/2008 11:17:29 PM | First of all OP, you don't want to date any woman. Dating implies that you have no idea if the woman you are with is worth pursuing or not. When you meet a woman, you should know if you want to be with her or not. You don't need time to think spending all your money on some dummy that will be happy to rip you off.
Don't ever ask a woman out on a date. She will know immediately that you have no idea what you want from her. Instead, tell a woman what you want from her. She can either take it or leave it. Most women aren't even worth speaking to so this tactic works because you aren't wasting your time and energy. The best women know what they want anyway so they will come to you if you are a man.
You need to man up. Learn some skills. Make some money. Travel the world. Do something risky based on your own judgement. Watch Pirates of the Caribbean, Wall Street, and The Score. Watch anything with De Niro. Man up and the women will come to you.
Also, you are too young for all women except for the high school grads and college students who don't have jack shit. Most women want a man that is totally out of their league in terms of intelligence and wealth. If you are on the same level with women your age, they won't talk to you. I am way smarter than most women so I can pull it off when I feel like it, but it takes some effort. Older women, women my age, and even women a bit younger than me give me a whole lot of bullshit tests that I know I wouldn't have to worry about if I was 40. But that is the learning experience you need. Man up dude. | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/22/2008 3:26:20 AM |
You need to man up. Learn some skills. Make some money. Travel the world. Do something risky based on your own judgement. Watch Pirates of the Caribbean, Wall Street, and The Score. Watch anything with De Niro. Man up and the women will come to you.
Making money and travelling to other countries are not bad ideas. However, a guy doesn't want to have money being the only positive trait he's got going for him; there are a lot of women out there who will use a guy for his money. For the guys out there who are 30 or older and never had a date much less gotten laid, then his best bet would be going to Latin America and meeting women there. Sure, a lot of them may be looking for a green card, but they'll treat you much better than North American or Western European women who have impossibly high standards, and chances are you'll get naked and intimate with a Latina. If I had never been to Latin America (or college where there's a lot of foreign women), then I'd be in the same boat as some of you guys. Sex and love aren't the only things in life, but they sure make it worth living. If North American women won't give you the time of day, then look elsewhere! | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/22/2008 4:20:49 AM | | a women is the greatest thing in the world go to a class gym church any place you feel comfortable open up read papers watch the news get in the game man | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/22/2008 4:54:26 AM | | Hey u just need to get ur confidence back somehow. I agree with the others that your profile will not entice people to talk to you, even just as friends. Plus- Why dont you just put your picture up- You could get some nice messages that will help boost your confidence. If you come to Ireland, Ill get you a date! lol! | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/22/2008 11:20:28 AM |
Should I even bother trying to date now?
Nah, don't. You're just risking more disappointment.
I'm starting to feel like it's a hopeless lost cause anyway.
You're probably right. Trust your instincts.
Anyone have any ideas how I could solve this?
Have you considered living in a monastery? | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/22/2008 11:34:42 AM | well I think that you should look at joining some type of civic organization. There are always some amazing people that you can meet in those types of groups. I guarantee there will be many opportunities for you to meet nice young ladies. You have to remember that as a man you must be wiling to stick your head out there and ask them out. I would say that you should always look at it from the initial perspective of gain a friendship and not a relationship. If your mind gets too caught up in the fact that you are attracted to this person, you may become intimidated by your previous track record. In the long run you must remember that you have to find a great friend before you can develop true love.
Best of luck! | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/25/2008 12:14:46 AM | From Foxycleopatra "You could get some nice messages that will help boost your confidence. If you come to Ireland, Ill get you a date! lol!"
I'll take ya up on that offer :) | |
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| 29 years old and never been on a date.
Posted: 8/25/2008 12:52:17 PM | | I haven't read through all the pages on here, but have you looked into whether you might have some sort of social anxiety disorder? | |
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