| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:49:11 PM | Karl-RE-MSG-256
That is why i believe everyone who joins POF should be directed straight to the forums. That way people could communicate better. I have seen countless post from people who have been here 2 years and more and post that they had just found the forums. They have been here 2 or more years and didn't know the forums were here. That is administrations fault. Every one who joins POF should have to participate in the forums as part of them joining here. If they don't wish to participate in the forums they should at least get a message sent to there e-mail box that they signed up with stating the importance of there participation here. I believe that in it's self would cut down considerably on these "Nobody ever answers my messages" threads and the like. If it was done like i have proposed here then no one could blame anyone but themselves if they couldn't find a connection. Get rid of the message function, Participate in the forums. If two people meet here and they click, They can take it to there own private e-mail address. Some folks might not like this part, But, Also the forum monitors could police more easy. There would be less of the jerks that like to say nasty things to women who turn them down. Seems to me like it would make it more easy to catch the creeps and get rid of them. The main reason i have seen that women don't answer is because of the creeps that can't take rejection. This way if a woman turns down a man if he acts a jerk he does it in front of all that are here at the time. Makes it more easy to report and throw the guy off of here. Also, The monitor would be able to see what was written between the two people. If the woman was baiting him and pissed him off. Or, If he was just being a straight up jerk. Just my thoughts. | |
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| Photos 101
Posted: 9/6/2008 8:52:11 PM | | I agree about the pictures. If a person cannot put a little thought and effort into posting a photo the right way, then imagine how thoughtful he'll be as a friend or boyfriend! First of all, no long, far-away shots where you can barely make out that you're a human being. Why don't you want me to know what you look like close-up? A pic of you next to your snazzy sports car makes you look superficial and and shallow (of course, if you're going for the superficial, shallow girls, then you'll probably get them with that pic). A pic of you without your shirt is tacky, no matter how great your body is. It tells me that you're insecure and the only thing you think you have going for you is your body (which may likely be the case). And penis pics, one word... ew. Pics of you with your ex-girlfriend tells me that either you want very badly for me to know that you've had a relationship (to compensate for the fact that you're a player), or you're still in love with her. And speaking of players, please, no pics of you in the middle of a group of women, especially if they look like strippers. Pics of you and your buddies at a party with drinks tells me you like to party and drink, not a good thing unless you're looking for party girls. Pics that are more than 5 years old are a no-no, especially if you've changed considerably from the time the pic was taken (to be fair, women do this too). | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/6/2008 9:05:02 PM | I would kinda like it if all new ladies who signed up were guided to my profile  | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/6/2008 9:53:55 PM | Eddie2704 said: "hot momma 47, I guess i am about to piss off some folks here with
what i am about to say. But if it does then it just does. I am not saying this is
you. Not pointing any fingers at any one certain person. I have been here for
a while now. Been here twice as a matter of fact. The first time was a learning
experience. The second time i was only here a month and i met a sweet lady
that i am still seeing. Because i figured out something. I was being to picky.
That is the problem with people on this site right now. There to damn picky.
There looking for the wrong things and most of the time in the wrong order.
They want to go by a picture first and decide if there interested or not. It
doesn't matter the person you are within. They think they have to be sexually
attracted right off the bat. When they look at a picture, if it doesn't get "wet"
or "jump to attention" then there not interested. It doesn't matter if your a
warm hearted, good soul of a person. They want to look at a picture and be
instantly attracted. That is why there is not many people who really get
together on this site. That is why it is so hard to get someone to answer you
be you a man or a woman. To many people are looking for the wrong things in
the wrong order. What they should be doing is giving a person a chance to
show them who they are and what they are and finding something within that
person to be attracted to. Instead, They look at a picture and blindly decide
from there when a picture tells you nothing about the person. There is way to
much shallow on here. But, At the same time you can't give up. You never
know, Right over in the middle of all this shallowness could be the best thing
that ever happened to you. "
What you said I think is probably very true! Some people just aren't very photogenic when it comes to someone taking their picture, but in person they're a lot more attractive.
I am somewhat surprised how little interest the people on here seem to show in me. I've been a member for quite some time, and I can't tell what the deal is, but I just get the feeling people aren't interested. The vast majority of people seem to ignore me when I message them. In all honesty, it's their loss (my close female friends think any girl would be lucky to have me.)
I can't tell if it's because they don't think I'm hot enough for them, too nice, or what.
I feel that if a girl were to give me a chance to get to know her, she'd really like me...it's just they never give me a chance.
Oh well.
Ladies, what are your thoughts on this? I don't think I'm ugly...so I dunno | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/6/2008 10:25:15 PM | cmount
Get one decent pic and no more. I would say again, in a nice background and a nice shirt. For you, I would recommend a slightly lowered head looking at camera a bit from side, kind of a sly seductive look. No smile or JUST a hint of one. Get them bangs in your face as much as possible, kinda like in your "old pic".
Profile sucks. At the end, you scold women. That alone will break you. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:16:13 PM | cmount, msg 263. One of the things that really screws up guys on this site is there lack of romance in there profile. There are some women on here that are not going to answer you no matter what you say to them. Those are the ones that just want attention or there ego stroked. Prob, married or have a boyfriend or both. Then you have the ones that are to shy. Then you have the ones that are looking for a guy that knows how to talk the talk and walk the walk. That is your target audience. Somewhere along the way you might get some of the very shy ones to answer you, But, You have to have the right stuff in your profile. None of this finger pointing shyt. That will run both your target group and the ones you might get to answer you. (The shy ones) off. You need to go to the profile review forum and let those guys help you get all that negative crap out of your profile. Replace it with who you are and what you are and what your looking for. Make sure you throw in a little bit of your romantic side. You get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. Yes, Women do answer me. Yes, I do get ignored sometimes. Yes, It bugs me when i get ignored. I am only human. No, I don't lose any sleep over it. No, I don't bash anybody or say nasty things to them. If the women don't want to talk to me then that is there problem. AND, I don't send penis pictures.  | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/6/2008 11:55:12 PM | gee....i met a very nice man here a week after i joined, i hope it all goes well as it got of to a wonderful start. please dont give up; you never know what may happen | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 12:04:19 AM | yes people are picky sadly...whenever you are picky, you end up searching and wanting something that does not exists.
its pethetic really; you're either...
too pretty
too ugly
too fat
too skinny
too tall
too short
too smart
too ignorant
too light
too dark
too rich
too poor
too nice
too nasty (mean-spirited)
and the tragically pathetic list goes on and on; if you are too something from anyone, then why waste ANY time with such a person? clearly not worth it. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/7/2008 1:07:30 AM | rockfish , you dont get ONE MESSAGE because you have way too many restrictions on your profile and it says NOTHING. duh
FILL OUT your profile and you just MAY get a response. I cant respond to you. So how many others cant because youre too danged picky and yet others because HEY. i dont talk to a blank page, do you????? and thats your profile. a blank page. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 6:51:05 AM | Ok Karl
What about females....one, two, three photos? what is your opinion? I have a million online...well about 7 actualy. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 9:17:36 AM | | I agree with you Eddie It is all about the pic and I am one who hates to have my pic taken so I am probably not going to take a good one right. I thought the pic that I posted was one of the better ones I had taken but I guess not. I am going to post a more recent one as I have changed the style of my hair and I have been told to loose the granny glasses but if they would see them in person they really don't look that way but like I said I am willing to try anything at this point. I also agree that people are picky and I guess they have the right to be. I feel men are looking for model type women and if we don't look like one they don't even want to correspond with us. Maybe I am way off base here but that is just my opinion. Women are probably that way too but I look more for the common interests and what they are to say in their profiles. I do appreciate the feedback on all my forums posted. I am not going to give up as I am not so easily defeated. I have a pretty strong will and I know the guy I am looking for is out there somewhere I just have to be patient and let things happen and in the meantime I will enjoy life and take one day at a time. Thank you for all you input | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/7/2008 9:30:46 AM | | I so agree this site did nothing for me either I give up 100%. I haven't met anyone so i'm just saying good bye. If you live in the savannah ga hit me up on my.....space look for latrell scott | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 10:27:57 AM | KarlFromBD:
I removed the part at the end. I'd debated doing it for a while, but it's my pet pieve to listen to girls saying omg he won't leave me alone. I'm like well did you ask him to leave you alone? They're like no...I'm like well you might try that haha.
The reason I felt like having several is because some ppl like certain ones more than others. Also my newest pic is after my surgery & tooth whitening treatment (but my hair is shorter)
When you say it sucks, do you mean just the part at the end (that I removed about my pet pieves?) | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 11:27:43 AM | kingwoman,
Guys are visual. You could have a million pics. I would say share as many as you need to show all your attributes.
hotmomma,
do get a nice pic. You have to remember, the first thing one sees is the picture and it is that picture which makes them read the profile. So even the "deeper" people see the picture first and attraction being what it is, they too chose at first by looks. Have to play the game :)
AceDames1,
Just looking at your pics, I would love to be in your company.
cmount,
Its a start. Any negativity generally makes one look like a butthole, no matter how accurate the gripe. However, it is better to DEMONSTRATE your qualities in your profile rather than try to state them. As for your pictures, I will say this kinda honestly so don't be ticked off. In your "old pic" you can see that you can be pretty good looking in a pic. Some others, you lean a bit toward "dork" (I know this cuz I have same issue). I think my description of the kind of pic u should get would make you look better. Rough them bangs up a bit ;)
Now that may sound like bad advice, or misrepresentation by trying to look the best in your pic. You may think the real you will eventually be seen. Thats true. But by that time, her brain has kicked in after talking with you and you flirting well, and when u meet, you will look to her BETTER than your best picture. Its true, ask any woman how much better a guy looks when she is interested in him as a person too. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 11:40:17 AM | cmount,
Two things that you need to remember when dealing with women in general.
(1) There are a lot of air heads out there.
(2) Most of them seem to think that we are suppose to read there mind, Know what there thinking whether it be face to face or in cyberspace. If you message a woman and she doesn't answer you the best i can tell you to do is move on. There will be times when 80% of the time you will not be answered. Sometimes 100% of the time you will not be answered. As long as people keep being shallow and going by a picture as a first point of attraction that is the way it is going to be. As long as your here you will see on womens profiles and here in the forums, "Are there any good men left" and such like. If you can get them to answer you ask them how many mens pictures they have passed up. Ask them how many men they have completely ignored and not even answered. You will be amazed. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/7/2008 12:04:09 PM | | Don't be so judgemental about the site, look at perhaps the women you are choosing or more importantly, the person doing the choosing. There are freaks out there everywhere. I personally have met some wonderful sophisticated ladies on this site. Some have remained very good friends and some just fade away. Keep in mind, folks are folks no matter where you go. Maybe change your criteria or something to that nature. There really are some good people hanging out on POF that are well worth getting to know. Above all, keep a positive attitude and this is who you will eventually attract. Ladies? | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 1:40:48 PM | Condor pasad. You hit the nail right on the head.
Intelligence exsist on the www.
Kudos my lady. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/7/2008 2:32:16 PM | Eddie,
I have to make a point about #2. IT IS OUR JOB TO READ THEIR MINDS. We are the pursuing sex most of the time, hence we have to do it. No exceptions. We can whine about it or get good at it. Our choice.
On POF, I get a good response rate, I would guess more than 2/3. However, I RARELY bother emailing women. I get 2-3 new ones a day contacting me. Gotta play the game. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:11:18 PM | | Well so much for that, lol | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:25:08 PM | its not the site, but the people here that have more than their share of character flaws. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/14/2008 6:51:25 PM | well i apologise for the rude behavior from some of the guys on here.
i get my fair share of females who are looking for some idiot to spend money on them and wine and dine them in hopes of a sleep over.
i am just on here for fun. if i wanted a sleep over i could drive 2 miles in either direction and get all of that i wanted.
i just have fun reading the emails and making friends. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/14/2008 7:38:18 PM | Hey, it could be worse.......
Think of it this way, at least you don't have to pay here to take the abuse. Simply chaulk-it-up to entertainment, realize that 99% of these sites DON'T work for anybody, and you'll be OK.
It's easier for women anyway - guys are at their mercy here, and in the "real" world.
Is internet dating a joke ? Yup. Will you ever meet anyone here ? Probably not.
Sorry to burst the bubbles of all the Optimists out there, but that's life.
You're born, you live a lonely, sucky life, and then you die.
That's the end of the story for most of us.....
Peace !
-David.
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/14/2008 8:36:55 PM | I have to agree...you do take the good with the bad...who just said you even meet "freaks" face to face, not just online.....I recently met a man while on vacation, that ended up living pretty close to me, we spent 2 evenings talking, and he seemed great, we went on a date 3 weeks later, and he was a rude, disrespectful pig! No honor, etc....so you can get that anywhere!! I know plenty of people who have met their awesome loves online....it isn't for everybody, but it works for some....I live in the mountains, w/out many hopes of meeting tons of men....so i'm giving it a try....who knows what can happen???? I agree with Tee62,
PUT ON YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES AND DEAL WITH IT!
GOOD LUCK EVERYONE :) | |
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