| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/25/2008 10:20:54 PM |
Too many people take this online dating too serious.
I have said it a million times before and i will keep saying it and hopefully it will sink in with people eventually. If your not going to take it seriously then what is the point of being here? I like a lot of others didn't come here to waste my time on people. If your not going to take it seriously then why not leave here and try my space. All types are allowed there and you can play all you want. If your just here to play and get your ego stroked why not find somewhere else to do it and leave this site to the people who really are serious. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 5:01:23 AM | Karl ,
more power to you , But nobody made you this way , you made choices, nobody forced you to become what you are now .
just not patient enough to wait for the right one .
I for one would never lower myself to these standards ...
but hey to each his own right ????
Im sure after your post, women will see you a bit different .....
unless of course you change your profile again ...and become somebody you aint ... | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 9:08:52 AM | | i get the same thing. no one reads my profile.the ones i do "meet" don't seem compatible either.but some how i dont think its the sites fault. POF is just out there on the net as a nice free tool.some how it has to do with the area you live in and the people in that area who post on the site. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:05:01 PM | liebesfliege,
I am a product of my environment. Women ABSOLUTELY made me. Because they don't want the nice guy that may be a bit quirky, maybe a bit chunky, bald, whatever. They want an illusion, or at least they aren't being honest with themselves and also have their brains in their pants like they accuse us of.
No, this profile is just for the forums now. And while I may have become someone I "ain't", I have also become the guy getting a lot of action. Because that is what women ask for. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:10:16 PM | | i think plenty of fish has too much variety..people give up too fast..want instant gratification.a common problem with youth these days ..very sad if you ask me. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 4:25:11 PM | I haven't had much luck on this site, or any site for that matter. I blame my physique and skin color more than anything else. One I'm working on, one I wish I could. Really, I think online dating favors women more than man, as man are more inclined to utilize a computer for miscellaneous tasks in the first place.
At any rate, I have and still am contemplating deleting my profile, or blanking it out, but I have messaged a few women that are at least good ePals. Perhaps I'll leave the profile up for giggles. Who knows, maybe some day I'll be an object of desire!
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 7:15:35 PM | LJMoore
You kind of illustrate my point. You are being too real and the women won't bite. Try this once....
Get 2 pictures. One should be similar to your one in the white shirt. But make it well lit and with a really nice shirt and tie. A big smile would work for you. It also looks like one pic shows you have decent biceps, as do I. My picture displays them subtly. You should have a second picture that does the same. You have a baby face going for you. And trust me, the skin color is no issue. I am nearly as dark as you. Those 2 pics only, no more.
Then get rid of all negativity in your profile. All the stuff about "failure". Kill the sarcasm (why do people think this is a trait a mate looks for?).
Hype the rest. You LOVE family, love to entertain, etc. Rollerblading and ice skating. Talk about how you like to be physically fit (even if you aren't rock hard, but don't say you aren't).
And for things like the hang glider, someday you ARE going to buy one, love the adventure of it, etc. And nix comedy unless VERY subtle. Women only SAY they want a clown, but reject him in reality.
Do this under a whole new profile. Trust me. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 8:57:20 PM | | Humor and good pictures Mark, you don't need to be insincere or brag about what you own, or someday will. Women write me because they can tell that I am real and actually make them laugh, sometimes after they had a really sh1tty day. Humor is huge, good humor. I'm not a player, never have been, never wanted to be, there's been alot of death in my family and I know what's important, got a girl now who understands that and me and everything is cool. Have fun, you're a good looking kid and should do fine. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 8:59:30 PM | To Message #50 (HandyBrian) Nice slam on the women...that was quite the tirade ...the only positive thing you said was when you mentioned your mother.
I can't read anymore of these.......... | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 9:00:38 PM | Karl one thing I can point out is it sounds like you made your profile more positive and put yourself in a better more charming light and women went for it.
It is like that job interview - you have to sound keen and upbeat. People aren't looking to take on someone else's baggage no matter how good looking you are.
People who do their profiles in a negative, chip on the shoulders, grudge way - well you won't even want the type of person that would attract.
Also people you have to think - if you have smoker on your profile even occasionally how much do you think that is lowering your chances. Smokers are becoming the minority and most non smokers don't want to kiss a smoker. I am not asking people to lie about smoking because you can not hide it - just it is a factor.
If you are multi-tattooed and look like a thug or in any way dangerous women are not going to invite you into their homes or bed. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 9:07:26 PM | | ^^ Excuse me, some of the nicest people I've met are smokers..I find there are many more 'distasteful' things than smoking that I don't wanna kiss. I really think that's going a bit far with the nitpicking. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 9:20:16 PM | You are right. People don't want baggage in a mate. However, the truth is, we all carry it. In the past, would would have supported someone and their issues, whatever they may be. And I would like that in return. But people ARE shallow and want to pretend baggage doesn't exist. So thats what I do. And its not real, but I now get a lot of women. And they don't know me, I am a fantasy. You aren't contradicting what I said, you are saying the same thing.
And it is like a job interview, especially nowadays. HR people are just like people on POF. Shallow. Lazy. Want a fantasy. Real people need not apply. | |
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| This site did SOMETHING for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:15:36 PM | I agree with you rainie59..i had a guy try to message me continuously and after refusing three times he sent me a message on POF that read "what im not good enough to give an explanation to as to why you wont talk to me"...he was older... i thought wow...never spoke to , chatted with him or anything and he sent me a message like that???..my first thought was "dude , i don't owe you an explanation for anything i do or dont do" ......freaked me out so I blocked him...that is one of the benefits of POF you can block users from contacting you....what that guy did to you rainie, blockin u when you did nothing to him was childish
I have met and chatted with many people male and female..who have become ones i chat with regularly.. and one man..my badass cowboy...that i have been dating since meeting on here..6 months ago..been together almost every weekend....i continue to chat with my POF friends and most of them are in serious relationships with fellow POF ...so it is possible to meet someone you just have to go with the flow and keep an open mind...if you quit trying you will never find out what is potentially out there for you | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:25:40 PM | | all the sites are the same ....pay or not ...good and bad people....liars and honest.....someone on here Anthony kept me on the phone for days i believed he was honest etc...ended up he stood me up after saying he was on his way to meet me....so rude......then i overhear him on his cell saying the same things to someone else later the same nite....why be mean to people i dont get it but thats life in the dating world | |
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Posted: 8/26/2008 11:00:50 PM | | Oh boo hoo.......go buy some big girl panties and suck it up....If your tired of random sex solicitations by the plastic thingy and get a dog or a parrot......Thats now how you win a lady...nope that how just another whiney quitter takes her ball and goes home....let me guess by her title her dreams were just a tad high.....you only have good moonlight about three nights a month......ok all done being harsh but man.......whinning gets old | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/26/2008 11:03:38 PM | | oh by the way that prior rant was directed to the thread starter not to good people who at least dont ever quit trying...... | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:43:32 AM | | I have to admit that in a crazy kind of way Karl is right. Me personally' I am going to be who i am. PERIOD. If a woman doesn't like it, I don't care. But it is in how you sell yourself most all the time here. Women seem to be looking for a fantasy. If you can find a way to make your self fit into that fantasy that a lot of women seem to be looking for your going to have women coming from left and right. I know how to do it. Most guys do. But' I refuse to because i don't want to be anyone but me. Even if it causes me to live my life alone. At least i was true to myself. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 3:16:00 AM | Pickme_Pickme wrote: Also people you have to think - if you have smoker on your profile even occasionally how much do you think that is lowering your chances. Smokers are becoming the minority and most non smokers don't want to kiss a smoker. I am not asking people to lie about smoking because you can not hide it - just it is a factor.
If you are multi-tattooed and look like a thug or in any way dangerous women are not going to invite you into their homes or bed.
You'd be surprised! Years ago when I went to teen nightclubs girls would ask me if I had a light(er). After awhile, I figured that would be a great prop to carry to a nightclub. When I did, I did much better with women in nightclubs. Of course, I had to smoke some myself or I'd get nauseated. Actually, guys who are considered "dangerous" (multi-tattooed, thug looks, time behind bars, etc.) do quite well with women. It's the boring nice guys who don't do so well with women.
http://www.sharkbaitpress.com/niceguys.htm | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 4:36:10 AM |
Don't bother. Just go to or do some real-life searching. "Real-life" searching? Here's a newsflash: The people on this site are living, breathing REAL LIFE human beings just the same as those who you find at work, at the grocery store, and right next door. The only difference is that they are on a computer instead of sitting in a bar. this is virtual....meaning not all that is said can be true.... That has nothing at all to do with the fact that we are online. This IS real life, and not just virtual, because these are real people here. The married guy who is here trying to find someone to cheat with would be at a bar, talking to his buddies, or looking through a swingers magazine to find someone to cheat with if he didn't have the internet. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 5:14:17 AM |
Hey, you get what you pay for. You want something serious, join a pay dating site.
How many things in Life do you get for "Free" now-a-days ?? I think POF is great !  | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 5:32:39 AM | The OP, yet another disgruntled dating nomad that probably put nothing of her own time, effort, money, and patience into the process and expected Mr Wonderful to come tumbling out of the sky right into her lap.
Good Riddance. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:01:06 AM | hmmm i've been on here a while, but i'm here mainly for the humour and the forums, plus, i get to use my wacky sense of humour on my profile that makes people go WTF?!
anyways, with the great hours we work in the hospitality industry, who has time to date?
:P | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:11:24 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^
motownmaniax
My my my, must be nice to be perfect. Not everyone on here has the same confidence as you obviously. Did you ever stop to consider that perhaps in your situation as per your profile that not everyone is as popular as you. Not everybody has the "appeal" that others have. We are all different thank God. Did you even consider that this lady could have come out of an abusive relationship and being that people are suppose to be on here to meet someone "special" that her expectations were not met. Its nice to sit back and criticize her for making those comments, you of course have nothing to worry about , you have all those women flocking around you and you are only here for the forums right? Give it a rest and try putting yourself in someone elses shoes for a change. She may be back after taking time to reconstruct her profile to make some of the arse holes on this site to back off.
Have a nice day | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/27/2008 6:19:59 AM | ^^^^^^ Musta struck a nerve. Talk about jumping to conclusions? Heed your own advice before making your attack.
I don't have "all those women flocking around" me, as you put it. If you really read my profile, you'd know just how honest I am about my own shortcomings and how modestly I date.
Also, if you've spent any time at all Internet dating you should know that 99% of the choices we have on here live too far away to meet, let alone date.
In other words, don't spotlight your ignorance.
If the OP wanted to defend herself and tell me about all the effort "she" put into dating, and then had nothing to show for it, I'd welcome her input. But she was too chickensh*t to stay and debate. That's her tough luck, because I'd definitely like to know more. But don't compound things by stepping on your soapbox to defend a situation you know nothing about.
And this is not a gender thing, either. I'd be just as critical if the OP was a guy. | |
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