| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/29/2008 8:22:58 PM | OMG, brian_nc, are you functionally retarded?
I have had a lot of older women on this site too. There is something to that, unique to POF. (Another site I use can be counted on to provide many young ladies. ) I have met women from 20 to 66 so far. My true age is 38 and I would guess the average response comes from 42 year old women. A little lower than your experience, but similar. One reason may be that the young ones don't need to look, rather are contacted by men regularly.
I can't really fault this website for human nature but I could suggest that everyone is really being unrealistic about the age and looks of the person they'd be interested in being with. If I were to guess I'd say that everyone routinely filters out people who are close to their own age or older, creating a situation in which nobody ever connects. If both parties aren't interested in dating someone older or their own age then it's a standstill by definition.
How true. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 8:41:01 PM |
OMG, brian_nc, are you functionally retarded?
You're the one who said that woman on my profile was my mom who very distinctly says "I have known Brian for the past 10 years" and you're calling me "functionally retarded"? Nice.  Care to try to toss any more insults my way or are you done showing your own "emotional maturity"? Either way I don't care. I just don't think it's fair to hijack this thread any more beyond this point with petty bulls--t because, honestly, I don't care much for your attitude and it certainly seems you don't care for mine. I can agree to disagree. Can you?
With that said, why don't we spare the good people here the pissing match and agree to have a cup of STFU. If you don't want yours, so be it, but I'll gladly take mine and sit elsewhere. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:07:44 PM | | By God, maybe you CAN shut up now? I don't like arguing with idiots. They drag you down to their level and then beat you with their experience. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:16:36 PM | | well there is one thing about it when u are bord then u can always kill a couple of hours readong the harmony of this site it isnt as bad as people think it is i have met several people that i have made friends with so just use it as a pass time there will be someone for ever one someday | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:30:50 PM | This site's not worth the time. - roses by moonlight
And thorns by daylight?
Your choice of words reflects your degree of negativity, at least towards Plenty of Fish. There are precious few positive words in your posting, and anybody with any sense of balance can see that you are in need of some clarity.
As for this site not being worth the time, you failed to insert the personal pronoun my.
Read the hundreds and hundreds of testimonials from real people who have found their ideal match on this site. Open your eyes and let reality flood in.
As for 'clever cracks,' I get them all the time, but I don't take them personally. That is one of the four agreements in the book by the same name, by Don Miguel Ruiz. Take nothing personally.
This site, contrary to what you think, is one of the most powerful methods of meeting people. It is a tool to be used, not something to be condemned. But its usefulness rests largely upon the attitude of the user. PoF has no control over that.
Best wishes and good luck, wherever you go.
- Peter | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:39:27 PM | | Wow, I get a three day ban for trying to give someone honest to goodness advice in another thread, and then a flame war of sorts goes unchecked in here... and I'll probably get another ban for b!tching about that. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2008 9:56:18 PM | | They come out of the woodwork. Some people just can't agree or disagree with you without making a scene. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:37:20 AM | | Yeah, I agree that this site is next-to-worthless for meeting people of the opposite sex. The forums are fun, though. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:56:55 AM | rainie59? You've got the right attitude, just not take it all too much to heart. Have fun with it and you never know what might happen next...
Too bad you're so far away! Or is it I who is far away?  | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 9:53:42 AM | | I have met some wonderful people but then I always have had a good time where ever I am,,,But I just go to the next one as most of us are not that interested but hey I have been on 10 dating sites and they are all the same it is not dating sites """"IT IS OUR SOCIETY""""" as wmen have no self esteem and it is boreing to men as women are too easy and men love to work for the big event,,,called human nature""""",If it is too easy """"they feel they have not Won the"""""" big prize.""""" | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 1:19:54 PM | Well this site has worked for me a lot better than Singels.net.
Or Match.com Its more local.........lots of pretty women who arent mean in Texas.
California they're all mean and greedy. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 1:53:17 PM |
Aurora: "Yeah, I agree that this site is next-to-worthless for meeting people of the opposite sex. The forums are fun, though."
I'd almost suggest that any dating website is statistically useless to a guy. The sheer numbers of seemingly-available men create for the women what is effectively...
-> a virtual shoestore <-
...and we're the shoes. Since there are so *many* wonderful shoes to choose from and we're all jumping up/down on the shelves saying "pick me! pick me!" it can be frankly overwhelming for her to select one. She realizes that her social/relationship "budget" really only allows her to pick one and only one pair of shoes. Soooooo many shoes in the shoestore. Just pick one...
And not to disrespect the finer sex in any way but I'm usually fascinated by watching them try on shoes. I just watch from the standpoint of someone who's willing to invest a full hour to her selecting the perfect pair of shoes. They're really amazing at this process of getting excited, picking one, getting it brought to them in the right size and trying to compare/contrast *this* one with the other cute one(s) in some pile at her feet.
Dudes. We're the shoes.
And if you've ever done this (shoe shop with a woman) you'll know how many times she actually *doesn't* walk out of the store with a purchase. In your head you're laughing a bit. You'd have selected and bought a pair of shoes in like ten minutes, tops. And you'd be damn happy about those shoes/boots, too. And you'd be inside them by the time you got home. (Okay, I'm having fun with this analogy, go with it.)
Personally, if you don't like the odds, the ratio of men-to-women and this whole selection process and women who can't seem to buy a pair of shoes, so to speak, might I suggest just leaving the dating websites. Go sign up for a salsa class or a samba class or a self defense course or something (anything) where you reasonably expect the ratio of women-to-men to be more like 30:1. I know from experience that samba offers the 30:1 ratio and when you walk into the dance studio that's 60 eyes all glued on you at times, especially when you're grooving your pelvis in the front row.
Guys, we've got to work together here. We wouldn't hang out at a club with a high men-to-women ratio, we'd just move on to the next place. The same rules apply to all this online dating stuff we're trying to do. Ditch it. I'm serious. Give this stuff up and try something in real life like I said. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 2:41:56 PM | The biggest thing I can say that is bad about this sight is that both men and women when the do post a photo on here, is it is so old , when you do meet you are not sure if the person you saw is the person you are meeting, so why is that ??
If you want to meet someone and hope you may go on a second date please most the newest picture that you can ,so when the person see you , it is really you . We do not want to start out with a lie on the first date?? We should all try to post a picture of us(you) ,because if the person looking does not like what you look like, why would you want to go out on a date .You both need some thing to happen with what you look at first, then you both need to like what you are about and then go from there.What is real hard for most of us is that not all the people on here or other sights will like us . some will, some will not ,most will not care one way or the other.so do not get mad , but keep trying until you find the one that does, about you sometime it will be the one you would never think it would be, take care and wish you the best at finding that one special person. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 6:01:33 PM |
TakeMeTheWayIAm wrote: Personally, if you don't like the odds, the ratio of men-to-women and this whole selection process and women who can't seem to buy a pair of shoes, so to speak, might I suggest just leaving the dating websites. Go sign up for a salsa class or a samba class or a self defense course or something (anything) where you reasonably expect the ratio of women-to-men to be more like 30:1. I know from experience that samba offers the 30:1 ratio and when you walk into the dance studio that's 60 eyes all glued on you at times, especially when you're grooving your pelvis in the front row.
That's true. I was watching an old video from tlc_worldwide and at one single gentlemen's event in Latin America there were 500 women and 30 men. I had some success with writing to some of the women from that agency, but when I'm able to I'm going to go on one of their single gentlemen's tours (if I don't find someone here first).
But you're right. There are many more men on here than women, and you have to go to where women outnumber men (like salsa classes, as you mentioned) to have any real chance of meeting a suitable woman. Actually, salsa classes could help you with Latin women also. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 6:59:48 PM | boohoo to this whole thread, is it me or does the 1st page reek of pity seeking??
bah took me 2 years to meet someone compatible, and im happy as larry, but there were many many many people who ignored me, if u cant take rejection on this site, god help you in real life.
thank you and good night | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 8:05:26 PM | I never realized how popular and wonderful I was until I got on this site....
Endless numbers of gorgeous wealthy females are constantly contacting ME!!!
Thank YOU ladies... all your attention is greatly appreciated. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 8:11:46 PM |
California they're all mean and greedy.
Hey!!! Watch it, bub! We are NOT mean and greedy. We are ornery and b*tchy, I'll have you know!!!  | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 11:04:02 PM | I have met many women from this site. I have corresponded with even more. Sometimes they just "disappear". It is interesting that I have seen a lot of women here that I had seen on the pay sites. One contacted me here several weeks ago. I reminded her that she had blown me off sometime last year on singles.net. 
A few of the women whom I have corresponded here with have been of the psycho scary sort. On the other hand, a few of the women whom I have corresponded here with have advised me that they think that I am of the psycho scary sort. (I blame that on a dearth of the humor gene in their XX chromosomes).
If anything, I have some good stories to tell, and I have met some fine ladies too. I hope to meet more. | |
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Posted: 8/30/2008 11:50:35 PM |
If I were to guess I'd say that everyone routinely filters out people who are close to their own age or older, creating a situation in which nobody ever connects. If both parties aren't interested in dating someone older or their own age then it's a standstill by definition.
I have to admit that i never liked dating a woman older than me. Over the years i have met lots of guys that are of that mind set. I think it's a thing that is born in us. I am 46, Think about this folks. It wasn't to many years ago when it was considered OK for a guy my age to date and marry a woman in her late teens or early 20's. That's changed. We all know that there was a time that by the time a girl of lets say 18, By the time she hit that age she was a woman. Not so in todays world. They lack the maturity that girls that USED to have. I said all of that to say this. It's born in a man to want to spread his seed as long as he can. I hope you folks follow which way i am going here. I am not trying to put older women down. Don't mean it like that. It's just born in a man to be attracted to women younger than himself. That's the reason why. I guess you could say it's a throw back to a time when things were simpler. When couples would have 10 or 15 kids. My dads mother was 17 when she married my dads dad. He was 13 years older than her. She loved him and stayed married to him till the day he died. Times have changed. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 12:19:45 AM |
STOP TURNING DOWN DATES ON APPEARANCES. I have dated in the range of very attractive women to what one may describe as less than average. At least they started out that way. But my Mind's Eye takes over very quick. A less than average girl may turn out to be a blast. Maybe she is funny, intelligent, down-to-earth. Maybe she treats a guy right. Maybe she has the greatest personality in the world. And funny thing is, after a short time, if I reevaluate her looks, I find out she has become quite attractive. Beautiful. Hot!! And on the opposite end, I have drooled over a woman only to find out by the end of the night, I can't stand to look at her. She was ****y, stuck up, and stupid. And in my eyes, she has become physically ugly.
Karl, You sure your not my long lost brother? I have been screaming almost the same thing since i have been here. If some of these people would come down off of there high horses and start looking at themselves before they turn there noses up at someone else they might actually get some use out of this site. They might actually get a date. The grand majority of people on here are to stuck on looks for that first attraction. They think they can look at a picture and know whether there going to be attracted to that guy or gal. That is one of the most stupid things i have seen on this site. You can't judge a book by it's cover. And, You cant judge a person by looking at a picture. The only way a person can judge another person as far as compatibility and real, true attraction goes is by being around that person and figuring out who and what they are. As far as web dating goes pictures are NOT worth a thousand words. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 8:29:44 AM | "This is not some magical place you can come to where there are unicorns and Prince Charmings"
I resent that remark, Tee62. In my time here on POF, I have met a couple unicorns. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 9:35:58 AM | tkdblake93: "you have to go to where women outnumber men"
I don't know if this graphic link will work but here's a photo of the girls in the class with me. And since the group is in San Francisco it's not like I had to hop on a plane and travel to Brazil. I will say I felt self-conscience at first. As a guy you have to alter the dance steps to make them more masculine and yet keep the raw sexuality of samba.
http://www.energiadosamba.com/photoalbum/albums/upload/carnavalsf_parade_2007/normal_energia_do_samba_0002.jpg
But it's really nice to turn the tables and have a 30:1 ratio for a change. Just like in a bar situation with more men than women the men have to compete for their attention. Likewise I found the women coming up to talk to me in the class, each one trying to smile the prettiest or dance in a more provocative way in trying to get my attention.
Find that, guys, and you'll realize what girls on dating sites must feel like with so much attention from the opposite sex.
Oh... one last anecdote:
I went to a modeling agency "cattle call" and was one of three guys in a roomful of girls/women as model hopefuls. Never, in my entire life, have I had girls compete so hard for my attention. I think there must be some sense of competition for the girls to be the one who can get the guy in this scenario, combined with what is likely a desire to sleep with a male model. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:12:52 AM | I'm deleting my account today, but saw the link to give testimonials or whatever. I can't say the site did nothing for me, I met a few guys.
I've just decided that either I am really difficult to please or no one else cares about wasting your time.
The 3 men I met, all very nice, but for some reason not one of them was capable of showing up on time, or calling to say he's running late. Is punctualitiy just not something men are told about as being a plus?
Yesterday I waited 2 hours, then went and did other things, but those 2 hours could have been spent doing something interesting if he'd just said he was going to be late.
I've decided to take my chances at meeting men the old fashion way. Does the site work? I think it does for some people, for people who are able to express themselves with only words on a screen. Good luck to anyone else out there! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 10:31:04 AM | Nice Carnaval gear! 
It's amazing, in Brazil poor people from the favelas spend most of the money on putting on a first-class show every year during Carnaval, not to mention the time they put into the samba dancing and drumming rehearsals. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:45:41 AM | Wow! I'm having fun. Like others say, if you are using this as your only means to meet someone.....you are pathetic. Online services should be an added way to socialize and meet friends, as well as other activities: church, book readings, mall, concerts, festivals, sporting events, parties with other friends, cookouts, working out at the gym, walking your dog, reading in the park, joining a bowling league..............the list goes on.
I'm taking it all in stride. I haven't met "the one" and some guys look at my profile and keep going and I wonder why.......(usually it's the amount of pets I have lol) .....but I don't dwell. I just talk to everyone who emails me and the 2 I've clicked somewhat with, got a number and we went out. Otherwise, just move on people!
IT'S NOT THAT DEEP! HAVE FUN, LIGHTEN UP!
If you have self confidence and self esteem........don't worry about the shallow people on here. Just be glad you didn't get wrapped up with them and move on. New people join this site all of the time.
Wow!   | |
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