| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:53:47 PM | I had deleted my profile not long ago but missed the forums. I just really like them.
This time I decided NOT to put my picture on my profile.
I answered all emails sent to me. Even if I was not interested in them.
I think if you hang in there you just may find a nice man. JMO | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:25:29 PM | | Why oh why do people post messages here blaming this site? It's not the site's fault ... it's the people you are corresponding with. While there are jerks on here, there are also really nice people. Okay so they may not be your dream man/woman but they are still nice people. There are jerks everywhere - at work, in the supermarket, in the bars ... do you blame the places you meet them? I'm sorry if you feel that this site is not working for you. Perhaps you will have better luck elsewhere or perhaps you should just hide your profile for a bit and give it a little sabatical. But I maintain that the site itself is a good idea - it's the people who will make or break it. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:31:47 PM | | yes it is very upsetting when you read profiles and then you contact the ones you feel you are compatable with and you get no response what so ever. Pictures never does anyone justice and alot of people on here look at pic only. I know that I am a nice looking woman and a good person so every man that I e-mailed that didn't respond it is your loss. You should've at least gave me a response!!!!! I can't even get a man to chat sometimes because I am too far away from them then why are you on here???? All we are are looking for is someone special and how do you know that she isn't the one if you don't get to know her. I am sorry but it get so discouraging when you try and try and you can't get a response. I am thinking of leaving pof also but everyone says just hang in there but I am not sure that I can. Does anyone have any suggestions. I am up for anything????? | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/3/2008 6:09:39 AM | In order to be fair to both genders I'll try to avoid being partisan either way.
From what I've observed, both genders have unrealistic expectations about what they want and willing to settle for. Both have a substantial number who are looking for a partner that's either way out of their league and/or reject potentially compatible candidates way too early in the process, before things even get off the ground.
Again, this is not gender specific nor confined to age and social class.
From what women tell me, the "quality" of men in the dating pool is awful; that most only want trophy girlfriends, short term sex, and instant gratification. I've heard too many women tell me of putting up with arrogant, narcissistic men that either behave like loutish, aggressive, sex-obsessed brutes (evidently to show how "manly" they are) or try to impress with money and materialism—sometimes both?
But I've also read on here, and heard from my fellow men, that many guys (at least by appearances) do NOT share the traits above and consider themselves "nice", responsible partners who want nothing more than a stable, monogamous relationship.
I see literally pages and pages of very attractive, smart, and financially stable women on here, in all age ranges, that in most instances have been open to dating for months, if not years. Again, from experience and what these women tell me themselves, most do NOT suffer from male inattention and lack of dating opportunities.
The feedback from women is they're NOT looking for perfection but a simple, healthy, emotional "connection" from a man that is financially responsible, grounded, and faithful.
(Of course, we're all ruled by physical attraction and chemistry and need to share at least a foundation of both to even start a relationship, so I'm going on the assumption that's already a given.)
Anyway, if all this is true about what the genders are really searching for we should have long term matches galore, and single people should be about as rare as solar eclipses?
But, as we all know, this is far from the case, so either the genders are wildly off base about what they "think" their dating behavior and motives are, or we have a real lack of communication between the sexes.
If affection is pure, genuine, and healthy, have people "demonstrate" it by action, not words.
As for the "penis" pics, these idiots are doing you a favor, ladies, by showing their stripes early and explicitly. These guys are by far the easiest to dismiss because they wear their crudeness and vulgarity on their sleeves. The guys you have to watch out for are the smooth charmers, schmoozers, and fake flatterers. Some of these con artists are very slick, coming off as superficially interesting and instantly desirable. But don't be fooled or taken in by a lot of ego-stroking. The same probably goes for men that have women throw themselves at them for ulterior motives.
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| POF should screen better?????
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:08:59 PM | POF is a free site and truly a lot of fun. We all have a past and who are you to judge anyway, are you crazy? Go to a website that will screen for you and see how much you pay.
All the best in your endeavors. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/3/2008 8:17:48 PM | With some writing skills and a positive attitude, you will go alot further. I find it difficult to believe that anyone thinks you are "that bad" (except yourself perhaps). Your profile does not indicate any of your likes, dislikes, or what it is your heart desires, just a bunch of blah blah . No one can make you feel like a whipped dog or anything, you can only allow yourself to feel that way so take accountability for your feelings. Cruel world you think......cruel world you shall recieve. I wish you the very best in all your endeavors.
Kim | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/3/2008 9:37:56 PM | hot momma 47,
I see you are hot. If u lived in WI, u'd have heard from me! However, u can show yourself better. Loose the granny glasses. Put on a nice dress that shows those beautiful curves. I'd say have someone take a good pic, a photographer. But do avoid the Glamour Shot type pics. Thye come across as phoney. Think less make up and props and better focus that that. Its a great chassis, prep it for the showroom. Then we can work on your profile ;)
There is no end to the women available on here. I am very sexual pretty early on (not vulgar and NO GODDAM PENIS PICS!!!!). I am engaged in the same manner in return probably 80% of the time! Guys, they want sex, just not with a fricking animal!
I have endless nude pics, gals on webcams masturbating for me, most dates end in sex (even first dates). I wait for some, if u can call a week much of a wait (especially if u have another date inbetween). And in truth, I am only mildly good looking and a tad over weight. And I live in a small town!!!!
Guys, stop complaining and start reevaluating! | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/4/2008 10:12:23 AM | | had enough of time wasteing people on here,,if you don't want to meet people then why oh why do people bother to join a site like this | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/4/2008 10:26:36 AM | I have to say, for those who are complaining they never get a bite - maybe they should look at their profiles instead of pointing the finger at those meant to find it attractive 
I have made a few good friends on here and also met a lovely man who I hope to spend a LOT more time with. All is not lost. Like fishing, you have to have the right bait to catch the good fish  | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/4/2008 11:19:03 AM | | thank you so much for your compliment. My glasses aren't granny glasses they look that way in the pic but I will take your advice and look for some new ones and post a better picture and see what happens. I am willing to try anything at this point as I have been on POF for quite awhile and haven't met a guy yet that didn't just want sex or try to tell you what you should and shouldn't do. I am no different from anyone else on POF I am looking for someone special that I can spend the rest of my life with. I am kinda shy at first and don't open up but after getting to know someone better you can't hardly shut me up.lol I will take a look at my profile and maybe do some changing in it also. I want to thank everyone for their input and hopefully with these changes things will start happening. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:26:10 PM | I would say one last thing....
Don't necessarily assume some sexually charged discussions mean a guy is a pervert or loser (although you can tell if they are over the top or crude). After all, if you are honest with yourself, my gues is you would like to have sex, too. Who doesn't? So discuss it like any other topic, like kids or job or hobbies. While many guys are pigs, we shouldn't try to cure it by being prudish. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:26:32 PM | I would say one last thing....
Don't necessarily assume some sexually charged discussions mean a guy is a pervert or loser (although you can tell if they are over the top or crude). After all, if you are honest with yourself, my gues is you would like to have sex, too. Who doesn't? So discuss it like any other topic, like kids or job or hobbies. While many guys are pigs, we shouldn't try to cure it by being prudish. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:30:18 PM | I would say one last thing....
Don't necessarily assume some sexually charged discussions mean a guy is a pervert or loser (although you can tell if they are over the top or crude). After all, if you are honest with yourself, my gues is you would like to have sex, too. Who doesn't? So discuss it like any other topic, like kids or job or hobbies. While many guys are pigs, we shouldn't try to cure it by being prudish. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/4/2008 2:11:17 PM | Karl: I want to move to WI and be your wingman.
Being nice doesn't help. It says so in my headline and I didn't get much response from my first contacts, and I'm always polite and mention some common interest (and never sex). So I tried searching, using common interests, and I've had better luck. Still not much going on but I live in a big city and there is lots to choose from.
I know I am outnumbered 10 to 1, here in DFW, so men must expect to spend a considerable amount of time to find something lasting. If you don't want to play the POF game, get out there and meet people in a bar, or class, or church or somewhere.
For every woman that says there are no good men left, I'll show you five men within 10 miles saying 'Hey wait about me, I'm nice and...' | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:02:43 PM | You know, I don't mind if someone doesn't want to talk to me. OK, No big deal. But there is one thing that kinda weirds me out. I send out a message, The person reads it, They never respond, But they don't delete the message either. Maybe it's me. But ain't that just kinda weird? | |
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| POF should screen better?????
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:55:32 PM | Matttastic
I see some flaws in the profile. No one belives you are nice by stating it. But start with the picture....
Looking at you, I would suggest a Marine type haircut. And clean shaven. Then throw on a nice tan sportcoat over a turtleneck or something. Go to Walmart Portrait or have someone take a nice upper body shot in a nice background (outside perhaps). I WILL SAY I BELIEVE THE PICTURE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF YOUR PROFILE.
Do that, and I will rewrite your profile for you as a test. I bet we can quadruple your contacts or more. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/4/2008 9:22:43 PM | Hot Momma,
I joined this site and thought who would want a woman who is 58 and a little dented by life?
Trust me I have met some truly wonderful men on here and probably will meet more.
Maybe I have not met the love interest of my life yet but hey, why rush it?
If it is mean't to happen it will.
In the meanwhile I have met men who are so much fun to be around, make me laugh, treat me with respect, and want to spend time with me.
I thank the young man who created this free site he did a good thing.
To all the whiners and complainers above......go ahead and sign off this site. You won't be missed!
You are right about changing your profile. If I am not getting as many e-mails, I change mine and they start flowing in again.
Good luck in finding your Mr Right. | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/5/2008 4:07:02 AM | The paying sites are not better u just pay to talk with the jerky people. There are both male and female. Maybe you need to review what you are wanting. Putting too many restriction on type,distance ,and age just may be eliminating someone who is worth the effort. I too have encountered many undesirable people but one has that in real life face to face. Why should a dating site be any different. Just wade through the muck and the right one will be there. Have patience. Have patience | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/5/2008 4:39:05 AM | | I always wonder why so many people feel that they are obligated to tell us they are leaving this site. I doubt any of us will cry over the sudden departures, most of which are more like complaints and negative ciritism. Next please | |
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| This site did nothing for me
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:13:30 AM | Good grief...
It's a PAY FREE site that married men and creeps who obviously have not the money to afford the premium sites.....
That pay wall is to prevent losers without jobs, and creeps from getting on and spreading their herpes.
Aherm.
Also...
Everyone wants to be heard, yet very rarely does anyone have anything to say. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/5/2008 7:13:35 AM | | Testimonials just cracks me up, I can understand bragging if you catch a keeper, but to announce to the world you are leaving cause you didn't catch one or didn't get any bites. How many of you folks ever I mean ever really went fishing in real life,you use bait,you pick a good spot,you wait,& then wait some more, you check out the place,you look around(some really great looking women on here by the way)you might change bait,some things just don't work, you may end up going home empty handed but you come back again & try all over. You know your not going to catch something every time you throw out your line but you always hope you'll catch a keeper. So how is this any different. | |
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| Cruel World?
Posted: 9/5/2008 11:39:23 AM | pluger has it right. Change the bait! Too many people using stinkbait! Or trying to dangle their "worm" in front of unsuspecting ladies. GODDAMMIT NO MORE PENIS PICTURES!!!!!! Hehehehehe.
To make a point, I went to Adult Freind Finder. There they have web cams where people can "show their stuff" live to people. Guess what? I went and looked at the stats to see who was broadcasting. There were 2559 guys doing so. How many women? 40. So less thasn 2% of the broadcasters were women. Why?
Why? Because despite what you think, women are less oriented in the visual stimuli when it comes to sex. DO NOT MISUNDERSTAND ME, they do use attractiveness as an initial criteria to choose who they contact and your picture is still the biggest priority of your profile. However, once you get them thinking about sleeping with you a little bit, they are not thinking about your penis or other body parts.
Think I am kidding? Next time you are making GOOD love to a woman, look at her. What is she doing? Most of the time, my guess is she is looking at your face or has her eyes closed. Again, yes, SOMETIMES she may be looking at herself being penetrated or maybe looking in a mirror if you have one, but no where near the level the guy is. And thats AFTER she is comfortable with you and been with you for some time. The point is, if you show her your penis picture or on webcam, she is NOT going to associate that with good sex, even if you have a MIGHTY penis. She is just going to associate it to u being an asshole.
Ladies, whether you agrre or disagree with this, I'd love to hear it. | |
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