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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:43:09 AM | | Unfortunately, the men I've dated has made me lose faith. But when I look at people (like a couple in church today that are celebratring 40 years of marriage), I have to wonder that maybe it does. Maybe one day I'll receive first hand the proof that love really exists. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/25/2009 7:40:44 PM | | For some lucky people love is alive in a shared, rhythmic heartbeat.......for me, it's elusive, a fond memory from long ago.... | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/25/2009 8:02:26 PM | lzhang, I have the same feeling as you do. Sometimes I do feel like what happened to all the guys out there? Most of the good one are taken. Someone keeps on telling me that I have all the good qualities and those guys are blind and do not see me. It just make me wonder....is this what it is? I do feel hopeless at time. And sometimes I feel that I am happier by myself than having a guy. Obviously you could see how much headache he gave me...LOL
Well...I suppose that is life...just have to deal with them and move on. But if you are happy without a man, why torture yourself? Life is short and doesn't worth it. I have been a "panda" (dark circle around my eyes because don't sleep well at night) trying to figure out relationship between me and the guy that I dated but when I think about it, does it worth it? Maybe I shouldn't take it too serious and ended up hurting myself but I am the kind of person once I put my heart out there, I am not going to take it back. I am not sure whether we should feel hopeful for the right guy....but at least you should feel hopeful because you are still alive enjoying life  | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/25/2009 8:59:21 PM | | It's very easy to give up on having faith in love. I think most of us have been at that point in our life when we felt like there was no silver lining. The reality is that if you give up you shut yourself out of some great possibilities. Of course it hurts bad when things don't go as you would have liked them to, but one should never give up on the possibility of something great out there. You will never get ahead in life if you don't keep trying. Find a way to keep the faith even though it's tough. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/27/2009 2:58:38 PM | I honestly think it's lost faith in me... I've joined up on this and a couple other sites in hope that maybe my luck will be different here. I've sent quite a few messages, and pretty much had no luck. I'm starting to feel flattered when I check to see if they even read the message and see that they have read it, then deleted it... I guess it lets me know at least they took the time before deciding they'd rather ignore me. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/27/2009 4:49:03 PM | | I still have faith in love but the problem is it doesn't happen too often in a lifetime so if you find it you better grab it but love does not conquer all you still have to work at any relationship and unfortunately sometimes you fall in love with someone who doesn't share your feelings but no matter how old don't ever give up on love you never know when u will find it | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/27/2009 5:30:45 PM | Love is such an abstract concept. Do I enjoy the idea of it? Yep.
Do I crave it? There are times.
Do I want to experience unconditional and complete love in unparalelled reciprocity? You betcha!
Will it ever come my way again? Who knows! I sure hope it does - and I think that love and hope are so deeply intertwined that they in themselves are eternal soulmates. They're a package deal (like so many of us here)!
Remember that love will only knock on the door that is willing to be opened  | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/27/2009 6:29:03 PM | Perhaps.
I often think about the kind of society we've become today. Divorce rates sky high, loyalty apparently at rock bottom, and an air of sexual permissiveness which only seems to get more permissive with each passing day...and I wonder if anyone else out there feels the same way about it as I do. Does anyone else see a world in desperate need of change when they look out the window?
Sometimes I'm sure there HAS to be someone out there. Other time, it feels like I'm the only one. In the end, though, you've got to remember that opportunity doesn't make house calls and misery is never good company. If you want to find what you're looking for, you'll have to go out there and find it for yourself. That's all you can do. That's why I've kept going. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/27/2009 7:34:36 PM | Sadly, it's a 'throw away' society that we live in.
TV's busted? Throw it away, don't get it fixed.
Shirt lost a button? Throw it out and buy a new one.
Boyfriend loveable but a little flaky sometimes? Throw him away, there's always a better one!
I think that's why there is so much divorce about these days - no-one seems to be prepared to work out any differences. Ditch them, move on. Never happened back in my day I tells ya!!!  | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/29/2009 12:00:36 AM | I used to see elderly couples holding hands and think to myself, "how wonderful that they are together after all these years," only to find out they are on their fourth or fifth marriages. 
No, I don't believe in romantic love. It's an illusion.
And besides, by the time you find this love, you're old, it lasts for a little while, get hurt, start over... I mean what's the point? I believe in love of God, my son, myself, and my dog. Things they stay around awhile that you can devote yourself to, not something temporary at best.
My only hope is love of a long-standing friend, a best friend. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/29/2009 4:30:22 AM | I totally understand I have just gotten out of a 15 year marriage and he was my world so no I dont believe in love I think it only happens in fairy tales and I will never get my heart broke again. Can I ask you something are you just dating married men because if you are that is the wrong place to look for love you need to find someone single and available to you. It is not fair to the wife nor you if you get involved with a married man I know it happened to me and I am really hurting I dont think my heart will ever mend...and we had sex all the time so I will never understand this one. Hang in there if you have faith you may find it but I dont believe it is out there.
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/29/2009 6:55:10 PM | I feel the same, I m not even willing to give out my heart again I been through so much emotional stress I don t ever want to go through any more ever again, therefore as sad as it sounds I will never take even a chance with love again.
Like they say love happens only once the rest is just life which is very true, I m just learning to love myself and enjoy my life without men, because its my life and its all about me :) | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 1/29/2009 7:01:26 PM | I'm not giving up!
I believe that we need to give as much as what we receive.
And wow Kamaldi, you sure have a beautiful face (said in a heterosexual context lol) | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 3/6/2009 9:18:13 AM | I have had some shares of heartbreak... Exes not fullfilling their promises, lack of trust and narcissistic personality that leaves me perplexed.
I still like to believe... I still hope... I still yearn for it... Just have to be open to the idea and love is all around us... Not just romantically but comes from everyone.
I understand by not looking for it 'love', the more you become disappointed, bitter and frustrating - you ended with the wrong kinds of people attracting to you.
Forget about the idea of soulmates because it doesnt exist... Just enjoy life for what is it, experience and learn from it.
Such sadness.
Love comes when you least expect it.
But it’s a painting that never gets finished. A story that never ends until we leave this earthly plain. It’s a thing shared between two souls that once begun never can be destroyed. Sure we can fall in and out of love. We can give up from frustration, misunderstanding, and exhaustion of everyday concerns and personal frailties. We can turn selfish and confused and walk away from it.
But once you are in love it’s an experience that can't be tarnished. A journey to that place where all was conquered. It only takes commitment. It only takes passion. It only takes the strength of will and beliefs that two can face anything and come out as one. Many don’t see it. Many can’t enjoy the feast for the immediate need of the crumbs that fall from the table. We give up too soon. We fail from fatigue
Very sad.
We can love once, twice, as often as life permits.
If you give up on finding that one that ignites your very soul and could make you whole then you are turning your back to the connection you are intended to have. You could be standing next to that special someone. And by being discouraged, and beaten down and behind your walls of defense, let them pass you by.
The ones you speak of that can come and go with seemingly no attachments are the same as you. They’ve lost sight of what two people can mean to each other. They live for the moment or at the very most live for the temporary fix.
My advice, from experience, is to open up your mind and heart to be ready to accept that one love that will fall into your lap and be just as surprised as you are. Then hold on tight. Not out of being needy, but out of that pure drive that feeds your desires to love and be loved.
Yes, love can most definitely conquer all. But it has to be something you are willing to give all of your self to. Scary isn’t it? The trick is to balance it with the one you are with. Sometimes you are led into it and sometimes you have to lead.
At 24 you’ve a lot of loving to face. Smile, open the doors of your heart, and be ready.
such a beatiful inspiring post. hopefully, we can all experience that sometime in our lives.
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:45:57 PM | you know if you are cynical thats what you will attract.. anything worth having in life needs to be worked for.. you have to take risks.. sure we will be hurt.. once twice many times.. its what we learn from and how we move on that shows courage.
dating shouldnt be emotionally exhausting.. because if it is.. thats not the right person and we shouldnt allow that emotional attachment so quickly . You are right with instant gratification we expect things way too fast ... either to get or get rid of ..
my big point: HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. LOVE YOURSELF AND someone else will .. you will be a magnet for those wanting the same things. I know it works.. because it has happened to me and thru POF. Do not ever give up faith .... and remember its not always on our time table but on God's time table.....
hope this helps you and many others
Happy Fishing  
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:46:49 PM | you NAILED IT .. and know what it comes from.. the lack of RESPECT for anything..
good post.... thank you
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 3/7/2009 11:44:48 AM | Yes,I have faith in love. After falling, I believe that we should get up ,dust off ,keep walking and don't look back. But by being on our own, we building ourselves up and finding our weakness , issues and deal with them sooner than soon.
The thing is, meeting somebody thinking they would fill us up , it's unfair to that person. We should work in ourselves and when that right person comes, they will be coming to a confident and self assured individual.
I think we should ask ourselves why are we so unlucky in love or do I have an acid tongue? OR May be are we always right and the other person is always wrong? May be I'll do my way not yours if you not happy you can move on? Are we bringing the new person into an old mess left by an ex and may be we haven't moved on yet?
But also I believe hurt people, hurt people as well ,may be knowingly or unknowingly? Time will heal and let us not loose hope, love is in the air coming your way. Please let's not build walls arround us, it can be lonely when we lock everybody out. We become drained physicaly,emotionaly and Spiritualy. GOOD LUCK ON YOUR SEARCH. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 3/9/2009 2:20:07 PM | Cate,
I really appreciated your comments on the faith in love forum. Even if we have disappointments and setbacks, it is better for us to work through these with reasonable introspection toward making ourselves more attractive to the right partners.
I have been beaten down so many ways in life, but I just cannot give up. As a result, I have recently found one of my teenage crushes. We are both so delighted to have connected and it's looking very good.
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 3/9/2009 3:45:42 PM | | May I suggest love IN THE FORM OF FRIENDSHIP. It is the loftier and more reliable goal. I'm afraid I too am jaded and see nothing but torment in the world of romantic or sexual love. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 4/12/2009 4:02:24 PM | I no longer have hope. Lost it and found it so many times now, I just refuse to even try anymore. Even friendships have not withstood the trials and tribulations of time. It's a very sad and selfish world we live in. So I have given up. Something that is not in my nature to do.
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