| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/18/2008 6:22:57 PM | I still have faith in love.
I still believe in happily-ever-after.
You have to believe & trust that there is someone for every one out there. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/18/2008 7:54:54 PM | eastendwoman,
Very well said! Love is a decision... but it is also a feeling.
If a mother could love her husband with the same devoted love she gives her child... and a father could love his wife the same way... the world would be a better place.
Most parents never abandon their children, never give up hope, never stop trying to help, never completely turn their backs on, etc... Regardless of drug addiction, theft, murder, forsaking mom & dad's religion, alternative lifestyles, etc....
A parent always wants to believe that child will come around.
If men & women could be as devoted to each other in a relationship as they are to their children....
Would this website exist? | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/18/2008 8:22:00 PM | I defiently can relate to what your saying.. and I have had my shares of being hurt by men.. One min they love me and the next they dont want to be with me.. but dont give up their are good guys out there.. you just have to be patient.. it will happen when you least expect it..  | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/18/2008 9:31:23 PM | eastendwoman
WOW......WOW.....and WOW......THAT IS IT EXACTLY!!!! THE VERY WORDS OF MY HEART!! Creepy to think how disposable it has become..... | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/18/2008 10:24:41 PM |
I remember when I was young and I always had this belief in love that it can conquer everything and it's the kind of feeling that you would die for that person. But why it only seems to happen in movies nowadays?
I hardly know any couples that actually do love each other, I met tons of married guys that look for sex or affairs elsewhere, all the guys I met either only look for sex or make up some excuses like they are not emotionally available and they dont care the least who I am apart from the fact I have a body. And when I did meet a guy and it felt so right and I thought we would be together for ever it just ended so easy one day because we were not at the same location and we needed to wait some months to be together. Obviously love doesnt conquer everything, not distance, not time, it's just so fragile.
Now I just really don't feel like I could have any faith in men or love. I am smart, a good person and attractive, I work hard, funny and I always treat guys right. My elder friends always tell me I would be a good catch for the right guy and one day I will meet him. But trust me I don't even see the shadow of him. The good guys all seem to have a gf or married already, the rest either like ****es or don't want any commitment after all or simply big losers. I really just feel like I will never meet the right guy and worse still I'm not even willing to give out my heart again any more. It sounds depressing but thats really how I feel.
Anybody feels the same way? Do we or shall we still have hope?
First off, it's very important to point out that there are two different things being referenced here. "Love" and "In Love" are totally different things that are often confused.
So, the answer to your question is yes, Love is a very powerful force. Imagine spending time with your best friend. You know each other very well. you're always there to take care of each other. You're happy together. There you can see that love is powerful. It can bring happiness (almost) unconditionally.
On the flip side, many people confuse love with being in love. in love is an emotional warm and fuzzy feeling that you get when a person of the opposite sex (in most cases) attracts you on a personality and/or sexual level--yes a sexual level. Personality and sex are very important in a relationship, but it's really not enough of a glue to bind two people together. That's why there's so much heartbreak and separation in our world today. To truly be a fruitful relationship, you must not only be in love with the other person, you have to love them also. Hopefully if people keep this in mind, it will spread and make a better world. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/19/2008 3:48:20 PM |
I don't put my faith in love...is that better written for ya? Yup, I can't put faith in love, people and God yes.
No faith in love and people? imo people and love are created by god and unless your live on a barren island theres no two ways around it.  but theres always i pod while you are waiting ! ~smile~
Ummm do you think that people that are on a dating site are helping themselves
No, some of the grasshoppers are here who have moved on, look to learning and live with open minds. Peace. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/19/2008 4:39:30 PM | People feel love in their hearts. I can put my faith in the people, but can't put my faith in their feeling of love or lack of feeling love.
God may have created love and other emotions, but you don't have to have faith in them. I don't put faith in hatred either.
So again, I can not have faith in love.
On a dating site, sorry, but didn't say here now did I? I said a dating site implying on a site to date. Not here just doing forums.
I like my black jack. Great calendar/reminder and I can push the keys. That daggone touch screen doesn't work with fingernails!
Please don't think I haven't loved. I have and still feel love for 3 that are gone, two are dust, one to mental illness. Yes, of course I would like to love again. I don't put any time lines on my finding the right man or him finding me. But I am old enough/mature enough to know that love doesn't conquer all and happy endings only happen in the movies. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 9/19/2008 5:57:43 PM | Nope. No faith in love, marriage, till death do we part. Nope. No hope in finding love, no hope/faith in finding the one for me. I do have faith (believe) that people hurt each other, stop loving each other, leave each other, say the cruelest things to make themselves relieved from guilt.
I do have hope for the young, that they do not follow the throw-away-marriage that is so common now. Faith that they see the hurt and hate and will change the world.
What we all need love-sweet-love.
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 7:15:32 AM | | I truly believe love can conquer anything ... you just havent found the right guy yet hes out there be patient and dont give up.. I believe their someone for everyone.. I do understand where your coming from because I have found it but it was all onesided and now i have to find that other half that feels the same way about me and I know hes out there just have to search :) goodluck on your search | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 11:18:00 AM | I still very much believe in 'Love'...but what has changed for me is the "expectation", or meaning behind it.
I have learned that just because I love someone, doesnt mean they are 'right' for me, or that I am 'right' for them... it is a feeling, that is so joyous when you feel it, but I refuse to make life altering decisions based on that feeling alone.
And just because I love someone, does not mean they feel the same about me.
Now, if I were to fall in love with someone who had the components I seek, such as honesty, responsibilty, accountability, integrity, and can communicate well with me etc...That I would act on 100%.
The people I love, or have loved...I just enjoy the feeling, and if it comes back to me, bonus...if not, well, they are lovable anyways.
I actually know someone who has never fallen in love...how very sad. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 12:06:55 PM | Yes, I will always have faith in love! Being in love is the best feeling in the world! I've never regretted anytime I have been in love! It's made me better! For sure! | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 12:58:04 PM | I believe in the love that I share with my friends and family. Those bonds are strong, but I have faith in those people, not some concept of love. Romantic love is too elusive to have faith in..Anything which is that hard to catch should be shot to cripple it, hahah.
Take care, peace
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Joined: 8/23/2008
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:18:23 PM | NO!! All my life I have wanted to believe that I would meet the man I am meant to be with. That we would truly love each other unconditionally forever. And that our love would grow stronger with time. A true hopeless romantic. But experience has only shown me that what I desire most is only found in the movies or romance novels. It makes me sad because I don't want to grow old alone. Its not that I have to have someone in my life to be happy. I know that true happiness is found through my Christian Belief in God. I simply want someone to share my life with. The good and the bad. I want to have a lifetime partner who is my lover, friend, and confidante. All I know at this point is that I don't understand why I can't have my heart's desire. I am about ready to give up. Maybe I am meant to be alone. I find it hard to accept this answer...so I continue to press on...hoping to eventually be proven wrong. But it gets harder and harder each day. And I am afraid that there will come a point that the cynicism is going to win out and I will become nothing more than a cold bitter person.  | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:30:58 PM | | Love doesnt conquer everything and to expect it to at best sentences you to a life of codependency. But, when you have conquered what life has to throw at you then love comes along. Date, but dont settle, for sometimes it takes a decade or more to find that real, perfect, someone who was made for you. The reason you meet so many unhappy couples is most everyone settles. | |
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Joined: 4/27/2008
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:41:48 PM | do i believe in it....yes
do i have "faith" in it.....not really
men and women cheat...it is a horrible state of affairs but it is the truth.....sometimes it makes one afraid to even begin to fall in love...you know get all queazy inside when you leave that person'e side.....it's tough....but, to me every bit worth the risk | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 5:02:32 PM | | yes i do.but most people equate love with a partner.what about the love of a child,or love for God and life.love has many different aspects.and sadly,i have lost the one true love of my life,but had that transpired,i would not have had my son,or who knows,things may have turned out bad.we should never second guess ourselves.i am still looking for the right person to spend my remaining years with,and have given up much in that search.it may not be meant to be,but i still have faith in love,because of the love i have,and for my loved ones. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 5:19:05 PM | yes, i do, have faith in love, better yet in myself, you are a young woman and you should, number 1 stop looking for love, when the time is right he will find you, stop thinking of the prince charming he doesn't exist, maybe you can lower your standards a little, he maybe right in front of you and you may not notice, please take time to smell the roses, look around you it is not all about sex you know, it sometimes starts out that way, however most men who go into a relationship for sex wind up staying with that woman, I am sure men have sex on their mind all the time, however, most women do too. If you are looking for a long term relationship don't fall for men who only want a one night stand. If they are married i feel sorry for their wives, anyway, i can tell you from my own experience, you are at the right age to find your soul mate it gets harder with time. so girl smile, and enjoy your life don't go for long distance relationship if he ain't with you, he sure can be with someone else. Try to find men who are local.  | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 5:51:01 PM | p.s. i wonder when you will understand it is about humantity, and good or not....
this is not a really a competition among men and women? | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 8:50:42 PM | Izhang,
When you least expect it, there is love out there. I never dated the nice guys when I was young and hottie. I went out with the bad boys. Boy, did I miss out. I spent many years of termoil and for what? They cheated and treated me like SH_T!
I met a guy a couple of years ago that was not my normal knock out good looks guy. Don't get me wrong, the guy I dated was not bad looking, just not what I was use to. He made up in so many other ways. Patients is the key and all else follows.
Linda | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/3/2008 8:57:21 PM | | don't sell yourself short,you still built like a brick s h.i ran around a lot after getting out of the army,young and no bills.had some great girlfriends.but we all have to move on and re prioritize our lives.at least we came around,and decided that being with a real person beats living in a dream world.good luck friend.terry | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 1:54:41 AM | | Yes I have Faith in love....Love comes with in..You have to give love to received love..Also they;s some body for every one...You can;t rush love..Love take its course..When it;s meant to be it will happen to you !!!!!!!Don;t give up on love....Love does conquer all...Wait and see it will happen to you ,When you least expect it too. CHERRIE. | |
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