D_lily
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Joined: 11/25/2007
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 5:09:12 AM | not at all times have changed and romance and love have been replaced by no strings fun with all this dogging and swinger partys going on its not encouraging good old fashioned lovexx | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 5:30:45 AM | I feel like I am at a crossroad with this one. I WANT to have faith and believe in love, but I am afraid to put my heart on the line.  | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 9:07:13 AM | Reading through this post reminds me of an old Simon And Garfunkle song.. anybody remember them?.. LMAO.. Lyrics to a song I used to listen to..
"I am a rock, I am island, and an island never cries and a rock feels no pain".
Unfortunately we experience the pain of love not working out, and we have a tendency to bring up the walls, make ourselves an island, so we can spare ourselves the pain..
So the walls come up.. avoidence of pain, but it takes a army to bring the walls down so we can let love in. Yet the absence of love very often brings pain.
I don't focus that much on finding the love of a good man, instead I am focusing on breaking the destructive patterns created in my life by past hurts, childhood pain. etc,etc.. that cause me to make wrong choices in men. I gravitate towards men who are not emotionally available, but have problems with men who are too emotional.
So I figure the problems with me.
Love is out there.. it's between siblings, family, it's in the 5 dollar bill you give a homeless person, it's in the smile created by seeing that cute little three year old tell her mommy in the store.. "mommy that lady has an owie" as she see's a lady walk by with a cast on her arm.
Love is all about perception. Magazines, movies, tv shows..etc. all work on our perception. selling us cars, insurance, etc.. but also selling us on a concept of love that is not real.
Real love is friendship, companionship, accepting each other faults with healthy boundries, and if your lucky all of that will include great sex! | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 12:03:25 PM | Ohh I felt the same. All my friends are either in a relationship, or getting marrie, or married and expecting. And I am only 23. The wedding invitations and baby showers will only keep cumulating and here I am, just broken up with the guy that I thought was the love of my life - and feeling bitter about men and relationships in general.
Someone wise told me this and I believe her words. It is that love will come to you when you are ready. Work on yourself, work on making your life fruitful and happy and when the time comes, it's bound to happen. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 2:19:38 PM | | Love is overrated. I've been a nice guy my whole life and no woamn has ever wanted to go out with me. I am invisible to women. All women care about is money and power. If you don't look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney, women will not give a shit about you. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 5:22:53 PM | | koobie houser,md.dude,you are giving up.depression rarly get the girl.jump back in the pond and give it another try. | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 8/31/2008
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 6:55:32 PM | Cutenurselaughing, all that is so true regarding love and that's a great post. Sometimes I think that in our lives, successful relationships are indeed the extras -- the "Lagniappe", so to speak. Some people get them, and others don't. But if you don't get the extras, there is still no reason to live life like a hermit, and be bitter. So many other things in this world are much more unfair. Good Lord, look at all the problems this economic crisis has caused, for example.
THAT's what scares me, much more than ever "finding" someone for a relationship. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 7:10:29 PM |
Good Lord, look at all the problems this economic crisis has caused, for example.
THAT's what scares me, much more than ever "finding" someone for a relationship.
Those words are so true! | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 11:00:59 PM | | I still have hope, even when I've been hurt a bunch of times. Either I'm really faithful or a glutton for punishment but I still believe love can conquer all, if the love is from both people which is rare to find because people love to use each other. Oh well, I have hope but it's fading fast... | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/4/2008 11:57:21 PM | Dont ever settle. I am 36, have been in love with the same girl for 5 years now. She will never want to be more than friends though I am afraid. She is your age, but we have shared countless happy moments. She is actually the first person or first time in my life where I have actually FELT happiness; I really never knew what being happy FELT like until I met and got to know her. I can say that I have been single more years than not, have thought about settling, but after knowing what all these feelings truly feel like, I know to settle would not be fair to anyone. And it would not be a way to finish life. I would rather die alone than know I have not been able to fully give someone my love.
Hang in there, life is hard in the love department, but we can only hope that someday things will come together, and we can be happy.
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/5/2008 8:24:36 AM | Well I quote another here, on the subject of economic crisis
''The Americans will get it right, they will just try everything else first''
Love is there, finding it, then keeping it (alive) is the difficult part.
We live in a fast moving environment, the next big thing is just a mouse
klick away!
Love takes no prisoners, it is totally demanding of your time, your thoughts, your commitment, but when you find it you will also find that it is worth everything it demands of you, even life itself. For without it what is life ?
A cancerian's thoughts on the subject. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/5/2008 11:49:37 AM | hey,
sounds like I have written that one! Im hurted, bitter and dissapointed of love. requesting if love is even real, found in that mood even this line:
love simply cannot be found anywhere...
and it sounds sad: i start to believe it :(
i got hurt alot, same as u. i am divorced and after that i met some guys and always felt, that im a magnet for ***holes, cowards and pricks. also i dont understand what im doing wrong. im not ugly, im well educated, have my sense of humor, i work hard and trustworthy, caring and all this stuff a man should appriciate. but seems they never did, or do i really have met the wrong once all those years through?
i had a time i got faith again, i have met a nice man, i was happy, finally started to believe in love again. but then ... big boom again, break up and that was me.
everytime i meet a guy now, im afraid, insecure and stopped believe in what he tells me. i have heard so much things, i have seen so much things, i have taken and given..., and i lost the faith in love.
yes i do understand what ur talking about!
and yes it doesnt just sound depressing, it maybe even is!
i think, we both need time, time to heal, the right one will pass our way one day. that needs patience and time we have to wait and go through. what i do now: i go out with friends, enjoy my time, if a guy wants to take me out i go with him, BUT i never promise anything, i just enjoy it without strings attached. and who knows, maybe one day we will find what our heart and soul needs.
i wish u all the luck and LOVE and know ur not the only one!
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/5/2008 2:41:32 PM | | me too girl,seems like i could go to a club,be a hundred women there,and i would end up with the one that has mental problems every time.i stay home now,looking for a good friend first.my point is,don't give up,and i promise,i won't either.good luck... | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/7/2008 8:12:56 AM | Lifesabeach50: NICE! ...... I may never find it again....but, I know what it is...have felt it....LOVE is alive and well.
........hidden beneath all the debris we've all managed to heap onto it...in the 'settling, disposable, make do and make shift' relationships along our journeys and paths. Harder now to find and to identify through all the confusing messes of 'interpretation' ......LOVE IS what it has ALWAYS been....it does NOT evolve into what 'works' NOW. The value it seems has grown greater......as it seems now the 'market is swamped with imitation'.......the 'original'....still abundant....held in safe keeping for those fortunate few that always knew its worth in safe keeping. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/16/2008 9:11:56 PM | "We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep on watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it."
-John Lennon | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/16/2008 9:14:23 PM | part of me still wants to. the other part screams out in pain from just having another heartbreak by feeling things for a woman who obviously was just stringing me along? who am i kidding...maybe only 1\8th of me believes in love anymore. oh well, i guess at least beer wont leave me hanging. cheers to me and to all the single people out there | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/17/2008 7:10:32 AM | Average Anomly Great advice listen up girls we have all been hurt, or hurt others too,to say the least. Don't give up your only letting yourself down. We all can relate to how the pain lasts it seems forever. First how can anyone love us if we don't love us. I've been married , Divorced,and still single. It's better to be single then in a bad unhappy relationship we are worth more let everyone around you know you have value and they will see it too. It's sad that there are some people not just men that use and are emotionally on another planet the fact is when it's right it's right, don't try so hard desperation is the road to destruction;build your life and yourself and the universe can only follow. Gee sounds corny to me too but I know I deserve more then what I've gotten from men but I also have to demand what I deserve and nothing short of my deepest desires!! Women ROCK love yourself! | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/23/2008 7:42:11 PM |
Such sadness.
Love comes when you least expect it.
But it’s a painting that never gets finished. A story that never ends until we leave this earthly plain. It’s a thing shared between two souls that once begun never can be destroyed. Sure we can fall in and out of love. We can give up from frustration, misunderstanding, and exhaustion of everyday concerns and personal frailties. We can turn selfish and confused and walk away from it.
But once you are in love it’s an experience that can't be tarnished. A journey to that place where all was conquered. It only takes commitment. It only takes passion. It only takes the strength of will and beliefs that two can face anything and come out as one. Many don’t see it. Many can’t enjoy the feast for the immediate need of the crumbs that fall from the table. We give up too soon. We fail from fatigue
Very sad.
We can love once, twice, as often as life permits.
If you give up on finding that one that ignites your very soul and could make you whole then you are turning your back to the connection you are intended to have. You could be standing next to that special someone. And by being discouraged, and beaten down and behind your walls of defense, let them pass you by.
The ones you speak of that can come and go with seemingly no attachments are the same as you. They’ve lost sight of what two people can mean to each other. They live for the moment or at the very most live for the temporary fix.
My advice, from experience, is to open up your mind and heart to be ready to accept that one love that will fall into your lap and be just as surprised as you are. Then hold on tight. Not out of being needy, but out of that pure drive that feeds your desires to love and be loved.
Yes, love can most definitely conquer all. But it has to be something you are willing to give all of your self to. Scary isn’t it? The trick is to balance it with the one you are with. Sometimes you are led into it and sometimes you have to lead.
At 24 you’ve a lot of loving to face. Smile, open the doors of your heart, and be ready.
This is one of the most sentimental and insightful advice I've ever heard from.
I still like to believe in love again - I am still hoping for it.
Right now, I'm just mending myself to pieces back up again. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/23/2008 7:55:41 PM | | I've pretty much given up on finding that one person that will fall head over heels for me. It's unfortunate because I feel the best I have in years and have much more to offer in a relationship now. . Been thru too much to screw around anymore with someone who isn't into me. Of course I believe in love. I hope it finds me again. | |
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| Do you still have faith in love?
Posted: 10/23/2008 8:13:17 PM | When you ask if people have faith in love you must also define what love is to you. Not everyone has the same views on just what love is. It is impossible to quantify or properly define. One person might think love is looking past another person's flaws to see their true character where another person might consider sex to be love.
The media has also distorted the meaning and value of "love" to sell a product or service. When was the last time you heard a "love" song that didn't have lyrics preaching unrealistic ideas. Loving a person forever? Impossible. Our lifespans are finite. Love a person like you won't see them again? How can you enjoy yourself putting in a deity's portion of effort? And for what return?
At the core we are creatures meant to live, reproduce, and die. Piling complicated ideals on top of an instinctual nature can only lead to failure and "heartache." | |
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