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strollinbella

Joined: 6/30/2007
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Is this weird-Am I too caught up in looks? Posted: 8/21/2008 4:31:50 AM
I have been out with a number of men that could be considered unnattractive by others but they had a personality that clicked with me. So true, addy01! I, too, have dated many men who others would not give the time of day. They may not have been attractive to others but I enjoyed their company. Humor, compassion, and the ability to contribute to stimulating conversation are far more likely to hold my attention than conceit and arrogance. Not to say that all good looking men are arrogant, but some are...very much so!! To the OP, by being so shallow re the women you may want to date, you are showing just how self-important you think you are. Keep up this attitude and you will find yourself one very lonely man. As others have already stated so eloquently, looks fade, but a person's true character never changes (in reference to those women you pass up because of their ability to look beyond the outside shell of a man). Truth is, once they discovered this tendency in you, they would probably give you a failing grade anyway.

raphael_adroit_esquire

Joined: 12/18/2006
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Is this weird-Am I too caught up in looks? Posted: 8/23/2008 5:07:28 PM
RaphaelAdroitEsq, To a certain extent I agree with you. My 600 lb man could indeed choose to lose weight to improve his physical appearance. But what if this same man is just naturally ugly? His facial features just do not add up...for whatever reason, he is just physically ugly. Short of undergoing extensive and expensive wholescale facial reconstructive surgery (which he probably doesn't have the money for) there is nothing he can do about this. So it really isn't always about "simply choosing not to suck." Have you ever heard the phrase, "you can't polish a turd."? Personally, part of the reason why I realize that I am physically unattractive is my race. But I don't know of any surgeries that can alter that in an effective manner. And to that, I would say this........ You'd be amazed at what confidence can do. Some of the guys I know that are the most successful with the most beautiful women are some of the ugliest trolls I've met. But they've got confidence out the ass. I could show you pictures of some guys I know in real life who are extremely successful with very beautiful women. And your first thought would be, "No, seriously. Where's the chick magnet?" I'm not talking less than average. Some of these guys are downright ugly. And they're amazing at what they do. But they have two things in spades that trump any deficiency in their looks department; confidence and charisma.

Triumvirat

Joined: 5/12/2008
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Is this weird-Am I too caught up in looks? Posted: 8/24/2008 12:42:53 PM
These threads amaze me because no matter how many people respond or what they say it all comes down to a man being deficient in character because he is attracted to attractive women in the traditionals sense...if a woman can have sex with Quasimodo's red headed step brother because he tells good jokes....great...go for it....armed with this incredible ability and the fact that there is such a huge supply you should have a great love life.......it was also said that a man who has the audacity to want an attractive woman may find himself alone,perhaps such people should consider that maybe a man would rather be alone than with a woman he has zero physical attraction for...good converstion and good personalities are all fine and dandy and they make realy good friends but when it comes to the physical intimacy involved in a romantic relationship anyone,man or woman has the right to decide what is acceptable and what is not...it's nobody else's business.....and OP go for what you want and what you desire in a woman...after all it is you who will either reap the rewards or suffer the consequnces.