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Posted: 8/31/2008 6:46:27 AM | | I wear Caterpillar green all the time, its my color, it looks great on natural redheads, well the hell do you get off on saying not to wear certain colors, you mentioned it does not look good on anyone, its the best color for me, and so is slimy lime, I always get lots of compliments wearing every shade of green, obviously you know nothing about colors | |
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Posted: 8/31/2008 6:54:39 AM |
Color has a way of drawing in the opposite sex and different colors work for men and women. The color blue attracts women to men as blue often symbolizes that a man is capable of being monogamous, is stable, dependable and loyal. Blue is a reassuring color for a woman.
I do agree with the blue on men.
For some reason my eye is always drawn to them first.
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Posted: 8/31/2008 9:27:23 AM | yes, Darlena...the color blue on a man does something to us chicks...black and brown shirts makes most men blend in with the walls and are easily overlooked..ppl "assume "dark colors...dark personality"...just as the color red or purple on a woman..usually makes men "assume" they are easy!
5.4.3.2.1...poof...every man on here will be replacing his pics on POF
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Posted: 8/31/2008 10:25:46 AM |
I do agree with the blue on men.
i don't like blue.....it makes me think of accountants or bankers or cowboys.
but i don't like blue for me either, with the exception of 2 pairs of blue jeans i don't think i have anything blue in my wardrobe. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 9:25:45 AM | | My favorite color on a man is black.....hmmm, wonder if that means anything. I'm open to any kind of analysis. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 10:02:11 AM | | as I do too...however, for both sexes, in my opinion...it isn't an eye catching color that "pops" ones eye to their direction...if their friend next to them has an eye popping color on, most eyes scan right past...unless of course, its a black tie event lol and everyone is in tux or a sexy black dress! | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 3:25:22 PM | | i wouldn't like or dislike a man strictly on the color he was wearing.... but i love green =) caterpillar, grass, maybe not pastel but green's great. And so is orange. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 7:24:43 PM | Attraction , especially the MUTUAL ATTRACTION is most mysterious! It doesn't matter what colours the men or the women are wearing. It 's all in the scent, in the smell, in the eyes, and in the mind ; the "elusive" attraction initially.
Men are attracted to women if the women are sexy and pretty. Men tend to be attracted by women visually and easily. It boils down to the woman who decides which man she wants.
As far as I am concerned ,initial attraction is unexplanable. Whether the attraction will last or not , it will depend on both of them. I know attraction for a man can "die" if he does not have what I seek ; if he is not lovable in his character; if he is self-centered ; If he is not all together and a lost soul; if he is a liar. What is the inititial attraction to me will eventually become repulsive and a complete turn off!
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Posted: 9/1/2008 7:51:03 PM | Attraction is part of an evolutionary process, we are attracted to certain traits for various reasons. On both a conscious and subconscious level we process whether we like or dislike someone. I believe more of it happens on a subconscious, we just find ways to validate it in the conscious world.
You might not know that when you look at a womans hand you can tell if she received more or less testosterone while still a fetus (finger length ratio is one of only things that remain same from fetus to adult) and knowing that will help you determine how that will affect her personality or maybe how she would excel as an athlete, etc...
Looking at a mans hand could tell you things about his sexuality, musical ability, sperm count and disease vulnerability.
So it is possible for certain colours to have different affects on different people. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 7:53:04 PM |
Men are attracted to women if the women are sexy and pretty. Men tend to be attracted by women visually and easily. It boils down to the woman who decides which man she wants.
You substitute "men/man" for "women/woman" and "she" for "he" and I think you will see it goes both ways!!!
You can't tell me that a fair number of women aren't into the visual!!! | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 8:24:17 PM | I am a pretty and sexy woman as I have been repetitively told by many men and women all my adult life. I have found that most men are drawn to me and putting the make on me all the time or every chance they have. I don't find myself attracted to them except a few of them. I find the attraction I have for the very very very men in my life , which mainly have to do with what I smell, what I see, what I feel, and what is in my mind. That has intrigued me to do some research on "attraction"
We all know , it is the "smell" regardless of the "list" we have in finding a potential future mate.
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Posted: 9/1/2008 8:51:53 PM | Again, For a woman that is pretty high on herself you seem to think you can speak for everyone.
I'm just feeling that you're one of those lonely/bitter women and that there is a reason there are very very very few men in your life.  | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 9:05:23 PM | Maple,
You are one bitter man so I have read so far on what you have posted and what you have written in your profile.
We all make our choices in life. Yes, I happen to think highly of myself because I have healthy self- esteem, I am not a slut and I have no reason to have many men in my life. The wrong man or wrong relationship causes more grief. I have no fear to be in a good relationship either and I will choose with care . I will get married again when the right man comes along. You, on the other hand , are bitter, scare, cowardess, judgemental and negative ,so I have sensed and read. You ought to work on some impovement on yourself before you can love again. 
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Posted: 9/1/2008 9:46:31 PM | now now kitten...remember to be "not rude" I know its hard to bite your tongue (fingers) lol...I'm the same way
its all good girlie...you have morals, values, standards and morals...if you were a guy...and if you as cute as you say you are I'd marry ya myself... lmao JUST KIDDING PEOPLE...its in my profile I don't bounce that way lmao
why no pic tho, Kitten?
Maple buddy...you must be bust'n at the seems mad right now, re: Kittens remarks about your profile and stuff...you used up your 2/10 already!
please be "not rude" when you reply, you have time to cool down...breathe dude! | |
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Posted: 9/1/2008 10:57:08 PM | You are one bitter man so I have read so far on what you have posted and what you have written in your profile. We all make our choices in life. Yes, I happen to think highly of myself because I have healthy self- esteem........... You, on the other hand , are bitter, scare, cowardess, judgemental and negative ,so I have sensed and read. You ought to work on some impovement on yourself before you can love again
The whole "how to attract people" thing is more about selling a used car then it is about enjoying the ride. Its just more of a package that women seem eager to believe about what makes happiness. There in lies the greater tragedy. Women are responsible for this situation as they now set the relationship and bonding rules. Yet all those practices are failing. So what does that say about your silly flawed beliefs and practices?
Females with self-serving attitudes are never attractive. Whatever external gifts god may have given them to draw attention from the opposite sex has very little to do with a womans value. No man in his right mind will not see through the deception as time goes on. Even stupid men eventually see the light, albeit after several years when they lose the house, the kids, and the right to live freely..
Yeah it is females who get to choose. So what? It does not give women the right to behave in an arrogant manner and crow about how privileged they are because of how they look or how men react to their supposed looks. Doing so is yet another unattractive feature.
Women who make men bitter and then go out of there way to accuse men of bitterness is like a person who kills their own family and then asks for pity cause they are a orphan. It just doesnt wash.
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Posted: 9/2/2008 4:29:49 AM |
You, on the other hand , are bitter, scare, cowardess, judgemental and negative ,so I have sensed and read. You ought to work on some impovement on yourself before you can love again.
Kitten, Kitten! The worst thing you could do is respond to him. Its what he wants, its his whole reason for being here | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 4:59:41 AM |
Yeah it is females who get to choose. So what?
I don't think this is quite accurate. I've been chosen a number of times by women who I didn't have any interest in.
I think we can easily state what can initially attracts us, but we can't explain what causes us to be attracted to one person and not another. We either are, or we aren't....
Regards,
Mac | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 6:14:03 AM | | you're all lying to yourselves if you think you're above being bought. the right price hasn't been offered yet , that's all. we're all for sale, everything is for sale...........kitten you we're offered 10,000....30,000 and world travel up to come back to POF and chat to us? We're lucky guys......we get your company for nothing. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 6:21:10 AM |
Whether the attraction will last or not , it will depend on both of them.
This thing you speak of - attraction - do we all formulate attraction in the same manner? Is that really attraction? Maybe it was a blue/black garment posing as an attraction. Imagine, you are fashionable and look good in that shirt - gotta have ya!!!!
I wonder if there's some confusion between 'first impressions' and 'attraction'. I happen to believe that some are missing out on a potentially exciting experience because of the first impression. Under our misperceptions, lies attraction. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:11:30 AM | Divine...not bustin mad at all. And the 2 in 10 doesn't usually hold me back. There are ways around that.
I think kittens response just solidifies my opinion of her...assuming it's a her.
Kitten, one of the differences between me and you is that I put myself out there. I am real, not virtual. I attend events and people can see and respond to me in anyway they wish in reference to anything I post here. I have pics on my profile and most that know me and post here can attest that it is me. I'm not sitting behind the security of my computer, much like yourself, and thus I wouldn't say I'm a coward or scared.
You want to keep on blowing your own horn, continue, like bubble boy said, that is an unattractive feature. Heck, who is going to believe you anyway, besides yourself.
Kitten, Kitten! The worst thing you could do is respond to him. Its what he wants, its his whole reason for being here
Really??? What is your reason for being here new dawn??? To pick on me? 
That'll be a losing battle!  | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:11:37 AM | Women are responsible for this situation as they now set the relationship and bonding rules.
i think this is a bit of a one-sided view, and perhaps a bit coloured by your last experience....as are my views, and probably everybody elses on here.
obviously if any of our last relationships had been wholly succesful, and we had been attracted to the "right" person, for the "right" reason, then we wouldn't be here. unless of course we had another agenda.
attraction is a very elusive thing, and i think that no matter how many idea's, preconceptions or ideals that we put on it.....it usually turns around a bites us in the a**. it never seems to follow "our" rules
personally although i have a handle on what generally attracts me, and what qualities i'm generally drawn to, sometimes someone comes along that blows my ideas right out of the water, and leaves me with that "wtf just happened here" feeling. its what makes the whole thing so interesting! :) | |
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Posted: 9/2/2008 7:41:01 AM | i think this is a bit of a one-sided view, and perhaps a bit coloured by your last experience....as are my views, and probably everybody elses on here.
Well my point is that the predominate force in the current mating/dating culture out there is that men are suppose to make fools of themselves while the women get to do all the choosing.
Not that this is greatly different from the old ways, but there really seems to be a strong "use em and abuse em" mentality with the general female population now. They validate it amongst each other, which is why going near women who go out in packs is usually a no win situation. I am sure women like that dont mean to be predatorial, but a lot of them sure act like it. Solitary women on the other hand seem to be a lot like solitary men who go to bars -- just looking for another human being to make communication and contact with. Unless of course they are waiting for their boyfriend at the bar (well so they say lol).
No my belief is not measured by my last experience. My last gf was a very good woman. One of the few I seem to run into out there. The circumstances of our lives just prevented things from being able to go the way we wanted. I am honestly not narrow minded or shallow, which some folks seem quick to judge me as from my words. I base my comments more so on the experiences I see other men dealing with instead of my own.
People like kitten are a lost cause frankly. They know they have the advantage (well in their own mind they think they do) so they pursue this mindset of elistist entitlement. They think that men should bow at their feet and make all the effort in a courtship setting. They want men to fawn over them, flash money, etc. They do not see anything as a two way street, and the concept of mutual and equal respect are just not a priority for them. It is all about them. Which I suppose is a play on a old way of thinking -- making women like that "Female Chavaunist Pigs" -- for lack of less polite modern term (B-Y-T-C-H) that women seem to be proud to have as a label The irony is people that have that belief (female and male) make their own sandbox the way it is, and then they complain about it 
As I stated before -- what is the big problem with just being decent humans who want to enjoy other peoples happy company? All this female bias in our modern culture has to go or none of us are going to find happiness in any real sense. What we will end up is artificial relationships based on artificial social roles. That will be how we all lose.
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Posted: 9/2/2008 8:17:40 AM |
I base my comments more so on the experiences I see other men dealing with instead of my own.
well perhaps those men are attracting that type of woman for a reason, just as a woman who continuously attracts jerks or losers or sugar daddies is obviously putting out signals that that type of man finds attractive.
the bottom line is there are as many men who use their money, status and possessions to attract women, as there are women who are attracted by those things. and there are as many women who use their looks and sexuality to draw men, and there are men drawn to that.
although its generally accepted that opposites attract, i can't say i really believe that....i think we are much more drawn by the "mirror" thing, in that we are attracted and attract those traits which we ourselves possess.
now i don't think may of us can go through life without our one glorious relationship mistake, but i do think if every relationship ends up really wrong, or as a huge disaster with no redeeming qualities; then it's probably time for a bit of self-introspection, cause its clearly not always the other persons fault! | |
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