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 Vannili
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Of course every women wants to be breed that they must have sex, and they had to like it. It is not true that a lot of women don't like sex,but it is true that women don't like to have sex with certain men.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 252
A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 6/29/2010 10:18:59 AM
And you still like having him as your man? Even if you have to beg him for sex? Sounds pretty fvcked up to me! At 28, he should still be a sex machine.
 Sweet_kisses05
Joined: 10/8/2005
Msg: 253
A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 8/25/2010 7:13:41 PM
I hope that you truely dont believe that women dont like sex men and women both enjoy it but a woman most often needs the emotional connection to truely enjoy it
 Hypno_cat
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 254
A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 8/27/2010 4:43:08 AM
x file... From reading a lot of your posts you seem to like to think that you are a logical thinker. Try looking at your posts using the following.

Complex equivalence

Complex equivalence (X↔Y, or X is equivalent to Y) draws an unsubstantiated link between an event and its consequence. The logic just does not follow.
Example

* Client: "She is always late, she must not love me."
* Challenge: "How, specifically, does her lateness mean she does not love you?"

Some of the violations that you seem to imply.

Women do not like sex without attachment = Women don't like sex.
Women are more choosy about the men that they have sex with = Women don't like sex.
I have read on an internet forum and have heard in life that some women say they don't enjoy sex = Women don't like sex.
I have read on an internet forum and have heard in real life that some women say they don't like sex = Woman don't like sex.

I could run this through the majority of your posts....

I would imagine the real one is.

Women are not having sex with me = women don't like sex






 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 8/28/2010 4:59:46 AM
Do you find sex degrading?

Au contraire, OP. Love making is soooo uplifting, body & mind nourishing and most of all feels n a t u r a l.

*It sometimes takes time and caring from the man to get her to 'open up'... *
Well said! I think that we ladies are like flowers that turn to the sun for its warm touch, cheering and inspiring effects. Their fragrance when opening petals is irresistible :wink:
 Beminetonight
Joined: 3/3/2008
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A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 8/28/2010 6:33:38 PM
If I ever heard a man say "Women don't like sex" I'd be thinking "maybe not with you, pal..."
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 8/28/2010 6:44:35 PM
Alot of women will refuse bad or mediocre sex.
Most women will not turn down great sex.
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 258
A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 8/29/2010 2:17:17 AM
Sexually a women is a flower who needs to be caressed,kissed, loved and whispered to during intercourse. She needs to be told how beautiful she is, how fantastic it feels making passionate love to her and at some point her man needs to spread her flower pedal to the point where she begins to let go in her body and mind...


Really? The ones I run into like all that in the course of being together in everyday living, but then so do I ....its nice to be loved, kissed and told nice things...but by the time we get rolling along in bed, usually they are wanting to be erotic in nature....thats what I thought letting themselves go meant. This comes with trust, feeling at ease, and which some being helped to discover that side of themselves. I always thought making love started out differently than just sex, but ends in a sexual frenzy of sorts.

Either way there are some mis conceptions here....she might say giving herself and etc....because she won't have sex with just anyone, but to say men will have sex with anyone and are different in that they don't need an emotional connection or that all the differences are in the brain or emotions is a mis conception too. At least in some men, and who's to say all women need the emotional connection.

Some of the difference is biological, men build up sperm, when there is an over abundance, it needs to be released, this can influence the mind, but in the same token there are times of the month a woman is very horny, other times not as much...this is biological too and can influence the thoughts. Personally I think it is the biological differences as to why men can initially have sex without a strong emotional or otherwise connection, but if he is going to stick around and come back, there needs to be a connection beyond sex to whatever degree, and will a man have sex with any woman? Not if her personality and way of being repulses him. So, in part this might answer why some men have sex, then disappear, because his biological needs were met, but not the emotional needs or some form of connection, but the same could be said about a woman okay with a FWB, if there is no connection, she too, won't be back. When you look at it that way, we are no different.

I don't think the differences in us are so great in some respects...these days we find women enjoy sex, have erotic thoughts, etc....and that men have emotions and need to be loved and etc.....both notions repressed by society in the past. Personally I'm glad its the way it is...otherwise the world would be even more populated by people and there might be even more kids running around, not being cared enough for.

Just for the record if a man is the caring type and in touch with his emotion...he puts more on the line in bed, than his shlong and men can get paid for sex in a sense....if he really does the trick for her, she might be inclined to treat him to dinner, but the pay in that sense comes after the sex..lol
 EnglishChappy
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 259
A lot of women don't like sex?
Posted: 8/29/2010 3:03:21 AM
In response to the original poster. A man needs to be good to a woman outside the bedroom. If he is, everything will fall into place naturally.
 shivashley
Joined: 7/14/2010
Msg: 260
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Posted: 9/25/2010 7:39:29 AM
haha i dont know how you have been talking to but I love sex.. all my females friends are the same way... I guess you have just been finding the wrong people. It also depends on certain things like chemisty.. I'm not going to go **** the next cute guy I see just because hes there. Females need to have an emotion connection. unlike guys that just need to find a hole... it also depends on the person.. some people have a higher libido.. some people have no stamina etc. (not very fun if the person has no stamina :( lol )
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 261
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Posted: 9/25/2010 12:16:05 PM
After reading your replie, it really got me thinking. What exactly do you mean by emotional connection? Does it mean when you have sex you begin to laugh? Or perhaps start crying (lol)? Or do these or other emotions happen after the sex? I just don't get it! It just seems so bizzare that some people (especially women) put so much thought into sex and what leads up to it. I just think sex should be as common as eating, even if it's without a regular sex partner.
 txredbull
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Posted: 9/25/2010 1:25:11 PM
Generally woman fall into two categories...
1. Those that don't really care all that much for sex but in a relationship, they will as you say "give" or "provide" sex. In this circumstand, they may fool themselves into thinking they like it. Really its still somewhat of a choir for them.
2. Woman who love sex. They like sex in a relationship.... And, they just plain like sex in any other setting as well.

Of course, with all people, there are a bunch of people in the middle of these two. However, if you have to stereotype, these are the two primary groups.
 Uncle Grumpy
Joined: 9/4/2008
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Posted: 9/26/2010 6:00:39 PM
I have to agree with that last post. In my experience I would say that is about 3/4 of the providers to 1/4 that really like it. So you have to put up with the bull and find someone that really likes it. Kind of sad that is the way it is but keep on looking, you will find your freak..
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
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Posted: 9/26/2010 11:56:40 PM
I am lucky enough to never have been with that kind of a woman, however, I see where it has its problems. I don't want to have to beg for sex. In fact, I don't necessarily see it being a bad thing if my lover decides to "use" me every once in a while. i.e. her saying something like "I need you to fvck me, and then leave me alone. In fact can you just sleep on the other room or something tonight."
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
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Posted: 9/27/2010 10:01:23 AM

Of course every women wants to be breed that they must have sex, and they had to like it. It is not true that a lot of women don't like sex,but it is true that women don't like to have sex with certain men.


namely their husbands
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 266
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Posted: 9/27/2010 2:55:43 PM

Sexually a women is a flower who needs to be caressed,kissed, loved and whispered to during intercourse.


wow....that works from time to time...but trust me bro...it ain't the ONLY thing that turns ur woman's juices to a red hot level...

of course a woman in a marriage and her views on sex often times are quite different at some point than they were prior to her being married or even how she is between marriages.

point is, some women just flat do not like sex that much. just like there are some women who cannot get enough sex no matter who when or how it is...its the bell curve thing and you might as well throw men into that equation as well.

women who know they have an aversion to sex will likely never let her man know before marriage because in most guys its a deal breaker....so she might wait till after they are married to slowly let down the facade.

part of the deal I think- at least in marriages, sex becomes to normal...we become too accoustomed to that other person. we men often times become too complacent and after the newness wears off, the woman might not be quite as hot for you as she was in the beginning, just because you're not as new as you were.

men in my opinion are in the drivers seat of the sexual relationship. we typically are the ones that "feel" we "gotta have it"- and we're the ones where its on our minds far more than it is with most normal women. so we are the ones, I believe that need to keep the cart running....all you two minute wonders out there...at some point, that's gonna get old if you aren't doing other things to get your woman off.

guys- spice it up...get creative...communicate with your woman...know her body truly...do not do the same thing you've done to her as every other woman you've ever been with and expect that is going to work...understand what truly works for your woman and then find different roads that lead to that point...

when you do the same thing over and over again guys...and expect the woman to be satisfied fully...you're looking the thing in the wrong light...and you will likely be displeased at some point because she's not "allowing" you to sex her as much as she did before and complaining its because you leave your dirty underwear on the floor...

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 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
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Posted: 9/27/2010 3:06:40 PM
Yes, women like sex. We are sexual beings just as men are.
My question to both men and women is what are you doing to help your partner enjoy it?
The best sexual tool is the mind- the next is the mouth (pun intended)- communicate.


men in my opinion are in the drivers seat of the sexual relationship. we typically are the ones that "feel" we "gotta have it"- and we're the ones where its on our minds far more than it is with most normal women. so we are the ones, I believe that need to keep the cart running....all you two minute wonders out there...at some point, that's gonna get old if you aren't doing other things to get your woman off.

guys- spice it up...get creative...communicate with your woman...know her body truly...do not do the same thing you've done to her as every other woman you've ever been with and expect that is going to work...understand what truly works for your woman and then find different roads that lead to that point...

when you do the same thing over and over again guys...and expect the woman to be satisfied fully...you're looking the thing in the wrong light...and you will likely be displeased at some point because she's not "allowing" you to sex her as much as she did before


Great advice. Agreed. Especially knowing her body. Wanting to know what increases her pleasure. Don't stop experimenting and simply enjoying a good lovemaking session. Also have times where you enjoy raw sex. Have times where you're involved in something at home and think about it and go act on it- engage in sex when it's not just status quo. Like when you go to bed at night, or when you wake up. Keep it interesting, just as you keep the relationship interesting ( hopefully).
 MisterDynomite
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Posted: 9/27/2010 3:48:35 PM

Sexually a women is a flower who needs to be caressed,kissed, loved and whispered to during intercourse.


Thats wierd. I find that they like to be spanked, have their hair pulled and tossed around the bed during sex.

I'm sure glad I haven't met any of those dainty "flowers" ...i'd be bored to death.

 Elgalawaat
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Posted: 9/27/2010 4:06:17 PM
You are 27. Too young so you believe what you read on this board. In my personal experience when I get lazy for few days. I don't get my coffee in bed in the morning. My clothes are thrown in bed not folded and I get comment about I am getting old. When I get active life runs like music.
The women toy industry are huge business and the toys are battery operated and I saw an Ad claimed that their dildos are electronic.
You are a naive young man you think because women are posting on sex board they will take panties off and run after you begging for sex. Life is more complicated than sex board.
 comatosereality
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Posted: 9/28/2010 7:12:53 PM

seem to hate sex or if not sex, something about the sexual act. Perhaps some of you ladies can clarify. It is embarrassment? Do you find sex degrading? It is fear? Is it social conditioning?


The blame falls to us men.
 BeatrixKiddo2010
Joined: 3/19/2010
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Posted: 9/29/2010 10:24:05 PM
I don't think most men realize how many women have issues about sex due to the fact that sooo many women and girls, have had some kind of bad experience with it...molestation, rape, other types of abuse, etc.

That is the number one reason, many, many women, have hang ups about sex. The statistics are pretty bad...one in 3 women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime and its probably more like 1 in 2 since so many women and girls are afraid to tell anyone what happened to them and never do, or are too ashamed, and never do, or are afraid they won't be believed and never do.

It wasn't that long ago, that it was still "acceptable" behavior in this country for husbands to be able to rape wives, or before the feminist movement, if men ran the family, incest (which is more common then people realize) was kept quiet, or family friends, neighbors who molested daughters, nieces, etc, was kept quiet.

The feminist and sexual revolution wasn't just about women getting better treatment, it was about getting men to stop treating women as sexual objects all the time and to make others aware of the sexual trauma so many women and girls (and boys) have suffered with for centuries. It hasn't been that long since those movements, where women are now finally encouraged to talk about what happened to them, or to talk more openly about sex in general.

You have generations of women who weren't comfortable talking to their daughters about sex, because they weren't allowed to talk about it (or were introduced to it in an unhealthy way) so I think there are still many women out there, who are afraid to admit they like sex. There's also the double standard. If we talk about it too much, we're still labeled "easy".

I am still amazed at how many women I meet who are my age, who are still uncomfortable talking about sex, or admitting they like it. I thought my generation was more educated in this department. Apparently, not. But I do know that the amount of sexual assault, molestation, etc, in many womens' histories, also effects how they feel about sex, sometimes for the rest of their lives.

I was lucky. I have a healthy attitude about sex because my mom had no problem talking to me about it when I started to have questions and I've never been molested, raped, etc. But I've known far too many female friends and family members who were. It is incredibly common, unfortunately.

It's also one of the main reasons for weight issues in women. We eat emotionally, and we gain weight to "protect" our bodies if they've been violated in the past. I think many women still feel uncomfortable about their bodies, don't know how to please themselves, therefore, they're never going to be completely comfortable with a partner in that department and sex becomes a chore for a lot of women.

The sad thing is, so many boys have been victims of sexual abuse, that's one of the main reasons so many men are sexually dysfunctional as well.

I truly believe sexual assault and abuse, is one of the main reasons for the sexual dysfunction we still see in adults, even these days with all the sex education we've had. If the average sexual predator attacks 8 victims, before finally being caught (if they ever get caught) that is racking up huge numbers in the population.

I think women enjoy sex (I know I do), but too many still have too many issues about it, that simply aren't getting treated. Good self esteem equals good sex, if too many women have self esteem issues....they don't want as much sex...it becomes too much to deal with mentally.

After all, girls with healthy attitudes towards sex don't grow up to be porn stars, strippers, prostitutes, etc. All of those professions, feed sexual dysfunctions from their pasts. Almost every porn star I've seen interviewed, was raped or molested. Or, women get frigid with sex, because they honestly don't want to be touched after something that happened to them but they "allow" sex because they feel obligated since no one ever taught them how to enjoy it in a healthier way.

Make sense?
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
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Posted: 9/29/2010 11:15:49 PM
i disagree beatrix.....

women seem to have too many hang ups about sex in our culture...

i've known too many women in different cultures and the hang ups are just not there...

not to the extent they are in our culture.

period.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 9/30/2010 7:18:32 AM

I don't think most men realize how many women have issues about sex due to the fact that sooo many women and girls, have had some kind of bad experience with it...molestation, rape, other types of abuse, etc.


I think you should add watching the Lifetime channel to that list of bad experiences- even those women who have had no personal experience are doused with the reported experiences of others, whether real or fictional.
My first real job was in a small firm headed by a shrewd 66-year old, who had given up smoking and drinking whiskey to marry a South Carolina girl who was in the young Southern Baptist group at his college. He always claimed that women were the keepers of the Moral Code for all humans. I'm not sure what distinct or innate talents or credentials women have for that office- probably has more to do with that they are just often in a position to make the rules. lol


women seem to have too many hang ups about sex in our culture...
i've known too many women in different cultures and the hang ups are just not there...


My exposure to other cultures/nations leads me to believe that in the US, both men and women have too many hangups about sex. I mean, "we" actually impeached Bill Clinton for that blow job, and lyin' about it (although nothing happened, because the Senate couldn't come up with a suitable punishment for that, lol). Shheeessh. We instantly became the global laughing stock for that silliness.
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 bilby886
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Posted: 10/1/2010 6:52:11 AM
simple....In order to increase satisfaction amongst women concerning sex with guys:

inject women with some testosterone they''l become as horny and strong as men.

guys :
you will then have "plenty of sex" ..........ruff!
She'll come home late from the dockyard full as a boot after drinkin' with the gals
she'll roughly grab at that sweet gentle manhood ever so cherished and protected, where sin
she'll work it and slam on to it ! ........... grrrrrrr Female Bears!

now ...
believe it or not another side effect of testosterone on females -
increased size of clitorii [clitorisseses?]
role reversal?
think about it girls..... how many men complaining about getting too much sex then!

girls are girls
boys are boys
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 10/1/2010 7:50:03 AM
^^^^ Daydreamer.
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