| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/29/2008 7:47:35 PM | What do women want? Hmmm...this, that, and "the other thing" , with the "other thing", of course, being so darn elusive.. | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/29/2008 8:11:38 PM | | well when woman start telling us what the other thing is, we will start asking for directions. | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/29/2008 8:22:46 PM | Well, that's just it. When "the other thing" is there and falls into place, a man will not have to ask...he will just know, and so will the lucky lady  | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/30/2008 6:52:56 AM | Hahaha...I'm with bottomtooth on this one. It appears women expect men to know this other thing but when they don't it appears to be darn elusive!!
Guess what? We can't read minds!!! Communication, communication, communication!! | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/31/2008 5:43:23 AM | I don't believe women expect men to know what it is. We know that some don't and I suppose it gets a little frustrating sometimes. (all that waiting)
Women are looking for the men that already know what it is.
It isn't something you can communicate, explain, guess or find through reading ones mind.
You either got it or you don't.
There is hope for any man to get it but you must engage in a personal quest for self and through finding something about yourself, you may come upon 'the other thing'. | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/31/2008 6:15:16 AM | ^^^^ You've got to be kidding me!!!!!
It's amazing how some people can say a lot yet....say nothing!!! | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:09:16 AM | she is basicly saying what I did..."it" should all come naturally between 2 ppl...if there is chemistry "it" will come in time...
with most women... that feeling of emotional security and familiarity of a touch, has to be there, otherwise...that gate will never open... am I right ladies? | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:53:41 AM | Well, if that is what she meant...this makes more sense and easier to understand.
Of course how is that just the domain of women? 
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:11:06 AM | well Maple...MOST men just need a smile from a chick and he's turned on...takes a wee bit more for us females, most of us anyhow, chicks need mind stimulated...men are visually stimulated (yes my spelling still sux) lol
lol...just had 5 messages in message box asking if we were speaking of the females' "G"! | |
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| What do women really want?
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:20:34 AM | omg puppet master..too funny chickie!
well it wasn't really meant to be a joke.........i really do find it a very attractive image. nothing beats confidence, individuality and a great sense of fun...
MOST men just need a smile from a chick and he's turned on
and i can't say i agree with this, unless your drawing from the shallow boy gene pool, i prefer to think most men have a bit more substance than that.
now i'm not saying they are not attracted by the "visual"...but it seems to me that it takes more than that initial attraction to sustain anybody's interest. as a female, i also have to admit to "visual" attraction...although what tends to attract me visually tends to be little different than the norm. | |
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/3/2008 4:55:45 AM | http://blog.wired.com/wiredscience/2008/09/male-monogamy-g.html
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Male Monogamy Gene? Not So Fast
---By Brandon Keim September 02, 2008 | 4: 11 : 58 PM Categories: Debunking, Genetics
Women, are you wondering whether your man is marriage material?
The answer's in his genes.
Or so women are encouraged to think by coverage of a new study on genes linked to arginine vasopressin -- a hormone that's found in mammals, helps bodies retain water, and has been linked to mate stability in prairie voles.
Swedish men with variations in DNA next to the gene responsible for vasopressin sensitivity are generally more likely to have marital problems -- and less likely to be married in the first place -- than those without the variations.
According to the researchers, the results suggest that the "influence of AVP on pair-bonding in voles may be of relevance also for humans," although the "relatively small effect size ... clearly does not mean that this polymorphism may serve as a predictor of human pair-bonding on the individual level."
Nevertheless, journalists rushed headlong into the "divorce gene." "Whether a man has one type of gene versus another could help decide whether he's good 'husband material,'" announces HealthDay News. "Marriage problems? Husband's genes may be to blame," says a Reuters headline writer. "Marital woes can often be attributed to men's genetic make-up," declares Agence-France Press. "What if you could tell whether a man is husband material just by peering at his genes?" wonders New Scientist.
Taking the prize for carelessness is the Telegraph, who coined the term "divorce gene" and said the research "raises the highly speculative possibility that scientists could one day develop drugs to target the gene in an attempt to prevent marriages from falling apart."
Indeed, the possibility is so highly speculative that nobody in the Telegraph's story actually mentions it -- making one wonder why the author felt compelled in the first place.
NPR's All Things Considered also parrots the "new excuse" line, but qualifies it well: bioethicist Erik Parens, who was not involved in the study, concludes the story by noting that "it's possible to have the gene variant but not have the marital difficulties," and vice versa. "Human relationships are so complicated," Parens is paraphrased as saying, "that the effect of any one gene would be very small."
Furthermore, the study's fine print notes a previously observed and tentative link between the genetic variation and autism. Men with "bad" genes -- or "bad" neural networks -- might not be two-timing gigolos, but people who are bad at communicating and social interaction.
Am I being a killjoy? Perhaps. But the coverage isn't just superficially faulty: it's a fundamental misinterpretation of the findings. There's a strong link between a gene and a social outcome, but the gene is only marginally interesting; what matters, according to the researchers themselves, are the neural networks implicated by the gene. That's much less glamorous than blaming marital discord on a single genetic flaw, but it's accurate.
PS from Kitten: For many years now, I have been telling my friends that "Monogamy "is in the genes.
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/3/2008 5:32:16 AM | I think it has more to do with how the interaction between couples of the North American culture has changed over the years. There isn't any clear definition of roles. Men can do the laundry, women can mow the lawn. Both sexes can still enjoy the companionship of the opposite sex, but neither one really needs the other.
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Mac | |
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/3/2008 2:23:24 PM |
but neither one really needs the other
I think you're saying that we don't need each other to get through the day but I disagree on the level that everyone needs someone - it's a basic need to feel accepted totally by someone who loves you. Good friends, family, co-workers, neighbours and other community members cannot replace a loving partner/soul mate/husband/wife - whatever word you choose. Of course, we won't die from living alone but I'm sure that all agree that being in a good, healthy relationship actually does add years to your life. | |
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/4/2008 3:42:41 AM |
everyone needs someone
I think a lot of people feel this way. When one relationships crumbles they immediately engage in another relationship. Often with devastating consequences. It takes time to heal.
I know several people in their 40-50's who live without a significant other -- they seem to be doing just fine.
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Mac | |
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/4/2008 5:41:28 AM | I'm referring to the healthy state of needing someone, not necessarily how people try to live this out. I guess they are feeling the need, but put themselves at risk again and again to achieve it. Not so good.
I know many people in their 40-50's who live without a significant other also- they are often lonely and wish they had someone to share their lives with. 'seem' to be OK? Have you asked them? | |
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/4/2008 6:59:59 AM | | I'm in my 40's and I not only 'seem' to be ok... I am! I'm on this website, so obviously, I am looking for someone (I think), but the older you get and the more comfortable you are in your own skin, the less you 'need' someone, in my opinion. I'd much rather be alone than in a relationship that is in any way 'cumbersome,' for lack of a better word. If you love your life, you tend to be more picky about who you're willing to share that life with. | |
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/4/2008 3:03:54 PM | very interesting paragraphs from the research of gene's
"What if you could tell whether a man is husband material just by peering at his genes?" wonders New Scientist.
interesting but then I couldn't read anymore because I was laughing too hard because every time I saw the word genes I kept on thinking - jeans! and just couldn't get that thought out of my head - lol lol lol lol (peering into the jeans to see if he is marriage material) lol
thanks *Kitten* its been a long day and i needed a little bit of humour! | |
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| What do women really want? This woman wants a man with good genes!!!!!
Posted: 9/28/2008 8:52:13 AM | Don't we (men AND women) all really want the same thing? To connect/reciprocate with a person who's intersted in/cares about who we are.
It just gets packaged differently from person to person.
I woulda thought we'd all learned by now that we can't generalize by gender. | |
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