| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 8:24:11 AM | Someone wrote being Single is a Choice ''
Seems like I would still be married if I had my Choice '' My Choices
were took from me while married '' Could have stayed with the
Fool '' But chose not to be deceived and ''Disrespected ''in every
possible way ...
So here I am Single '' Single is work too .. Just like a relationship '' We must
work at being Single .
We all want to be in a relationship ''and have
different agendas for
wanting and doing so ............. We all pay the price ither Single or United .
Just start where ya stand in this moment
and this time ... Make the most of it '
Have wrote this sayin many times '' BEing Single is like everything
else once it is gone its Gone '' Embrace it '''''and the Good Life
you have .. Look at it like its a gift and a Blessing ..... There are
people in this world who wish they had
what you had and be in your Shoes ... They may even be Jealous or envious of Someone who is Single <
A Single person can work on problems and Self much easier than when in a relationship . So take advantage of this Singleness to create a New and Improved
person for when you do meet that Special Someone ..
Forgiveness must be the first priority if someone has wronged you .... Forgiveness
of past '' Is usually not on the top of Someones list when in [pain or angry ''
it leaves bitterness inside and out ''Unless the person who hurt you is forgiven
asap .... Wish and pray for great things to happen for them too '' everytime the old pangs and thoughts enter the mind .... Its part of Healing the Self so one can truly Love inside and outside ... Letting go of the old and bringing in the
New and Improved
YOU ! Keep Busy '' join a class of interest to you ... Help others '' Live ''Live ''the Beautiful Life you have been given .. God ask that from everyone !
Read to gain new concepts 'ideas and stories about being Single !
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:35:29 PM | You should be used to it by now.
Took my about a year to get used to it but now I'm completely there. I've only met a few girls since who i've liked..... sorting my life out has been more of a priority to me. Pretty rubbish really but it's better than settling for some girl i don't really like. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 3:53:00 PM | One of my many Mottos is ( I'd rather be alone than to wish to God I was!) That's what I tell myself when I am lonely. I am sure many of you can relate.  | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 4:34:37 PM | Hi OP
Yup - you get used to mostly being single if you fill your life with mostly meaningful stuff that's rewarding in other ways (such as doing things with others like voluntary work etc) - that stops you feeling isolated.
You may be single for a long time - I've been single for 14 years - but it can be rewarding as you can get to learn a lot about yourself and if you open your mind to observing what's really going on in 'dating' instead of trying to get someone quick as possible. I've avoided several ladies intuitively and then only later realised I was right to do so when some facts appear later.
It's a shame it's so complex but the fact is if you don't accept yourself as a single person you can't fully enjoy being with someone either as you're always a little bit afraid of them leaving you and forcing you to be single again - so it creates tension in the relationships you have.
Teaching yourself to walk away from dating situations that would be bad for you improves your self-esteem and it does you good to observe the dating process for a while without diving in too. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 4:45:54 PM | ABSOLUTELY! My husband and I split in 1988. Since then I have met liars and cheaters. I've met alcoholics, druggies, pedifiles, and way too many men with serious bi polar issues. What happened to the men in my age group??
There are alot of single people in my family. A few are divorced like me or widowed and several never bothered to marry in the first place. They are happy.
Like me, none of us are in a hurry to rush into marriage again and go thru another bad experience. Its a simple piece of paper that places a noose around your throat.
Single isnt so bad. It just would be nice once in awhile to have a nice man to do things with.
Sadly a man that doesnt fit the above profiles has been hard to find. So, I prefer to remain single then be with the wrong man. Im happy, why be miserable in a bad relationship just for the sake of "having" someone. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/20/2008 10:10:40 PM |
Loneliness kills happiness.
I disagree, loneliness is an emotion, and one feels lonely when they feel something is missing in their life. I believe that if one is secure within themselves and has grown completely as an individual loneliness can be overcome.
If you love yourself and are surrounded by those whom also love you why would anyone be lonely? Yes I agree it is nice to have a full house and someone to go home to every night, but that is not always possible, I think the ability to accept that and to be secure is sexier than someone who is whining about being lonely and needing someone to complete them. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/21/2008 1:57:04 PM | Oh, I love being single. I look at life like this: it is my personal story. I can write the story of my life any way that I want. I choose to write mine with a happy story line. I love every minute of my life with every thing that I do. I am happy just the way I am. It is great to be alive and i enjoy it so much.
You have to love you and your life so that the right person comes into your life. Sets goals, celebrate small things, and laugh daily. Challenge yourself. Do things...just get out there and go!
Enjoy your life the way it is. Look at being single as something you get to enjoy right now and embrace being alone, making your decisions, being a slob on the couch and all that goes with being alone because one fine day somebody is going to find you and change all that! So enjoy it! My goodness, i have such a zest for life I just can't see why anybody else does not | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/21/2008 4:30:36 PM | yes , if your a well adjusted person you can and do get use to it
i have been single now for 6 years and have learned to embrace it , and be happy | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:04:22 PM | OP...after awhile,,you get used to it...and that could be a good thing!! I love coming home after work to a quiet house,plop down and actually listen to the news...yes..there are alot of drawbacks...but in time...you will get used to SOME aspects of being single....like the privacy...or when you are sick and don't want anyone bothering you..or having control the REMOTE CONTROL... | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:31:27 PM | | I know my mother loves being single and so does my aunt. I like being single, but the difference is that I would still like to have a SO in my life. I would still like to share things with a man. My mom and aunt don't seem to have that desire. I am guessing it means that it depends on who you are, you can get used to it and love it or you can miss being with someone. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/21/2008 7:37:44 PM | Yes it is very possible....it's also possible to enjoy it if you take time to get re-acquainted with yourself. Ultimately you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy in a relationship. You'll come to see too that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Embrace your singleness and enjoy it while it lasts!
Best Wishes,
H.A.
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/21/2008 10:06:20 PM | | Being single, is great. It gives you time to focus on your goals, it's the best time to achieve what you have been longing for. I am training for speedskating all this coming Winter I can't wait. Plus you can look whatever way you want, without being judged. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/22/2008 4:42:34 AM | | my oldest daughter and two kids temporarily moved into the house. I'll tell you THAT makes it hard to concentrate on being single. I MISS being LONELY! | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/22/2008 7:30:29 PM | | I'm used to being single, but after being in a relationship, you kind of miss someone to share things with, good thing I have two best friends who are there for me, support me, my family and my two cats. I am truly blessed. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/22/2008 7:50:21 PM | it's natural to want a partner in life, but since humans often times want to create problems, being single can be more comforting, enable more control in your life, and not have to be compelled to doing things you care not to do (such as wasting money on restaurant food).
some years back i use to get the feeling i was missing something, but then when sex occured again and then had to deal with nonsense, it was a reminder that relationships are not as easy as they should be - one or both persons usually demand things of the WORLD that need not enter a relationship but the obsession on things that do not matter could mean so much to the person that LOVE is not what is desired even though the claim could be as such, but more of what the other person can do for him/her. there's the usual relating of sex with entitlement of something needing to be offered beyond the reciprocation and that destroys the love aspect of it- you ask women on this site if they do that and it'll be an overwhelming 'no" but in real life you might wonder why it occurs in spite of no one admitting to it.
when you are out and about and see a couple seemingly in love, run through your mind of you having just completed an awesome sex session with a gal and then she immediately complains to you about how you didn't tip enough the night before. that might keep your focus. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/22/2008 9:02:40 PM | I think we need a healthy balance between being content when we are single, and keeping other people in our lives as friends, lovers, etc.
It's easy to go to the extreme in either direction. Either that you are so stuck in a routine being single that you lose all flexibility in your schedule, or that you can't stand to be alone and surround yourself constantly with people.
Hear me now and believe me later! | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/22/2008 11:56:02 PM | After being married most of my life - I’ve now been single for 4.5 years.
At first - I ran around like a silly boy - looking for a girlfriend. After about a year of that ...... I started to realize it was not as easy as I thought it would be.
I’ve always been WAY TOO PICKY - even as a kid I was picky. Looks like all those years of being married would have fixed that but ....... NOPE lol.
Anyway - about two years ago - logic took over. I started to accept that I would prob be single from here on out.
Two years later - I am fully use to it and have ZERO problems regarding being single from here on out.
YES - you get use to being single. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/23/2008 12:03:02 AM | | So true... loniliness drive's one crazy... especially sometimes... you'll be sitting there wondering, what's wrong with you, you know you're a great individual, and you see all these great people with the wrong people, and wonder about yourself, what's so wrong with you that no one will even dare talk to you, you have all the friends in the wrold, yet, no one wants to be with you. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/23/2008 12:06:30 AM | | Being single is my choice at the present time. I have not really met anyone that I want to pursue and I'm not into settling. So, yes I am used to being single and I'm ok with it. I have other goals I'm pursuing and they take up a good deal of my time. But, what is really odd is that my boys who have for years not wanted me to date are pushing me to get out there and meet someone. I find the more they push me, the more I get annoyed and back off from even entertaining the idea of dating. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/23/2008 10:48:18 AM | | All depends on your personality type. I am very independent and relish living alone in my house, doing exactly what I want to do when I want do it. A partner would be the icing on the cake, and if the right guy never shows up, well, I still love my life and my friends. More dependent personalities who are used to relying on other people to take care of most of their needs suffer the most, along with naturally shy or inhibited people who find it difficult to accept change of any kind. First, you need to learn to live with yourself, happily. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:17:03 PM | Yes you can get used to be single and be happy too. Almost everybody been hurt before, you not the first and not the last. The way life is, it's like a baby learning to walk but kept on falling but still got a courage to get up and try again.
See,we love the way the world love not the way God love. The world's love is-we chat,we date, get under the duvet and quickly move in . The minute we share our bodies that's when we start to bank our emotions towards each other and only to find out the other is getting bored. Just imagine being told"I don't love you any more and there's nothing wrong with you, it's me". That hurts .
But God's love is unconditional, he loves you and HE cares a lot about you. HE will never leave nor forsake you and won't let go of you. HE's got the best for you, let them go. May GOD BLESS YOU, trust me and I'm lot happier than before knowing God's love for me and the gift of LIFE(Jesus's blood). TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. | |
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