cr4705
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Joined: 12/31/2007
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:18:48 PM | It is nice to have everything to your self !
I also like not having to do a darn thing unless I choose to
do it and when I am
darn good and ready !
Its nice not being obligated by choice ''It s all about choice '
Not because its expected of you or demanded of you or else '' The Big Bad Bully gonna raise Helllll oooooo ............ I have always did things because I wanted too .
I want to do it out of kindness and because it was what I wanted to do at the time in hopes to get a pat on the back or bring a smile to his face .. But he was from the ass..ool
family ''enough was never enough .. '' What ? It had to be his way in everyway .
No Sex No peace of mind .. Well now I have Nooo Sex or SEX every day and oh what a peace of mind ! SMILING >good medicine .
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 8/31/2008 9:53:27 PM | | I don't think that anyone really gets used to being single. I think we adapt to it. I have been basically single for 3 years and I can't stand it . However I refuse to settle for someone because they are there. I want the meaningful relationship. Until then I just hold on to the hope that it will come and try to enjoy the other aspects of life. But nothing ever fills that void. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/1/2008 1:48:22 AM | ‘Get used to it’... depends how you mean this.
Some see being single as ok,
Some prefer it (why do they then bother to be on a dating forum)?
And for some being single is depressing, lonely and miserable.
While it is something that has to be put up with, sure I guess you could say ‘get used to it’, but it can still be loathed. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/1/2008 2:03:12 AM | | I try very had not to think about it. I am okay but would love to find a love. Just when I think I am use to it I wake up so lonley. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:41:18 AM | lol, bless ya, some pplz dont like being alone, and others quite enjoy their own company.
i quite like being alone, not that im, as i got a few pets, and my kids, plus a job.
i worry if i find a nice guy hell feel negolected.
now wile kids and pets are not a substitute, for a mans love, they make me verry happy. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/1/2008 12:07:45 PM | i have tolerance for marrige if the guy is right, but he has to prove himself first.
however long that may take.
i cant understand the problem with being single.
its better than being with someone for the wrong reasons.
if u lonley, get a hobby.
honestley, if i look at profiles, and i see woman and sex as hobbys/intrests, its such a turn off...id never contact pplz like that. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/1/2008 3:34:04 PM | Well... I finally managed getting used to not being with my ex of 5 years (it was tough!). Took about a year but I got over her in the end.
But now being single makes me feel a bit down to be honest. I was so used to being with someone and that's when I was at my best. Makes one feel like theres something missing...
Trying to keep occupied seems to stop my mind drifting and thinking these thoughts but theres no stopping them when I'm trying to go to sleep. Lol like now for instance which is why I'm on here... | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single? NO WAY
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:13:18 PM | Hi solar panel and othrs.
Solarpanel said "Teaching yourself to walk away from dating situations that would be bad for you improves your self-esteem and it does you good to observe the dating process for a while without diving in too."
I learned quickly to walk away. the men i meet agree that it is better to part quickly rather than drag it out. been lucky this way. BUT I STILL DO NOT like being single. this is the longest single spell i have had in my life. maybe age? dont know but i know enough about myself to know i dont dive in without caution. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:23:32 PM | responding to Magnificentlady : you sd: "I would never trade living alone for being married. Single means 100% independence to do what you want, go where you want, and eat what you want-" I appreciate what you said but want to rebuttal with:
i was married 26 yrs and then later had a long time bf- and with both i was completely independent. i went where i wanted, ate what i wanted, etc. With each man we were sort of "ships in the passing night"...but the house was filled with their scent, so to speak, and their presence was there. The intimacy was special since we were otherwise so independent.
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:50:25 PM | Its funny how the ones that are least likely to enjoy being single are the ones who arent much fun themselves lol.
Being single teaches you to be resourceful & resiliant and getting used to your own company. It really makes us question ourselves. If your lousy company then being single will be hell for you, because you take "YOU" wherever you go!
As for me Im great company, all my mates can attest to that, and whenever the party is glum Im always only to happy to liven things up. Im a jokester and never take things too seriously. And why should I, we arent immortal, and we are only passing by here in this game called life.
So next time your feeling whether you will ever get used to being single, ask yourself if you cant get used to putting up with your own company, is it fair to ask that anyone else should shoulder that burden for you? | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:54:04 PM | | It's very possible to get used to being single but so very unnecessary. It's about putting out what you want back. It's hard to be negative with someone who's positive. Look deep into yourself and see if your not sending out the message that being negative with you is ok. A peaceful spirit will attract other peaceful spirits. Same with happy, and content. It might sound like BS but it's the truth. Change your thoughts and your life will change. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:07:24 PM | I am. Technically, you're alone when you're born. And the same when you die.
What's the difference in between? A state of mind. Of course you make a difference
in the meantime. Companionship, co-creating life, raising a family. You are still 1,
a single human entity. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:12:15 PM | I used to hate being single - my greatest fear was to end up alone and lonely but lately I've started to actually enjoy being single. I've been on my own for about 10 years now - my focus has been on my kids and now that they are moving on with their lives, I'm finding it's nice to be able to come and go as I please and not have to answer to anyone. I went from my parents' home to my husband's. Then I was so busy trying to keep my kids and I in our homes and raising them that I didn't have time for my needs. Now I do and I find it's exhilarating.
Of course, I would love to share my life with someone and I haven't given up hope that the right person for me will come along. It's not much fun to travel alone or go to dinner alone but friends are great and I've learned a lot about myself. I know that being single is preferable to being trapped in a bad marriage. I know so many people - men and women - who have been married for 30 years and are incredibly unhappy and I wouldn't trade my life with theirs for anything. I know that I won't settle for just anyone. I've come to know myself over the years and I've found that I'm pretty special and a very nice person and I deserve the best. I know he's out there and eventually we'll find each other. In the meantime, I'm enjoying learning about me.
If you take some time to discover you and stop being afraid of being alone, you'll probably find yourself in the same place I am now. You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. | |
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TrinB
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Joined: 4/27/2008
Msg: 94 | |
| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/3/2008 12:41:26 PM |
He...hunted and fished, played lots of golf, drank beer with his buddies,
left the toilet seat up...and farted whenever he wanted.
The End
likewise:
She...wore what she wanted..drank wine with her girlfriends...never had to put the toilet seat down and the house always smelled of potpourri and not farts
haha!
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/3/2008 1:51:27 PM | I think after so many years if never being married you can get used to being single being that you just are used to being without a parner and doing your own thing. Some people prefer thier independance and are contempt and like it that way. Some divorced, have had their fill.
The bad part is that if you were never in a serious long term relatinship you will likley have trouble adapting to your partner and not be able to bend. Children are another story if that pops in. That's another whole ballgame.
No one should be single and not have a partner. It is depressing, lonley and you're missing out on a lot that life has to offer that you can share with another person.
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/3/2008 2:43:16 PM | "Life is only exciting if you have someone to share your moments with, be it joy or sorrow, laugh or tears.!
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Thats one of the best and truest things I've read in here.Being single has its advantages but deep down the feeling of lonelyness and not being able to talk to someone about day to day things that happen to you and to share in the good AND bad things that happen, really outweighs any advantages being single holds.
I've been single for a large part of the last 19 years..and quite frankly,I'm sick to death of it and really lonely. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/3/2008 3:07:29 PM | | Yes -- on balance I would take single over attached any day of the week, month or year. But you need close friends to make it work. | |
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| Do you ever get use to being single?
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:57:05 AM | | Some people say they get use to it. Some stay real busy to avoid it. I hope I never get use to it. But, love will never go away. You cannot hide from love. You were born with it and it last forever. If the feeling of love were taken from us. Then we would be only robots. Stay positive and strong! And, don't give up! | |
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