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Posted: 10/25/2008 2:23:54 PM | I'm sorry Jennifer but the truth is one can never know. And I have learned this from my experience on POF.
I dated a man I met from this site for 1 year and 4 months . Chemistry was there, we had a great time together, compatible etc.
Turns out he was still flirting and dating women from POF behind my back ....every inappropriate thing that you can think of, he did.
In fact..he is still on this site...
A man can show you that he is into you and give you all the good signs/vibes but you just never know. You have to keep your eyes open.
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Posted: 10/25/2008 4:53:44 PM | Sorry to hear that ^^^^^ My nice advice to you would be... before keeping your eyes open.... LISTEN TO YOUR GUT... IT WILL GUIDE YOU!!
always listen to your gut first before anything....
Be well
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Posted: 10/25/2008 11:23:32 PM | | ^^^^ totally correct. My gut tells me when I'm hungry, and it's usually right, so why not trust it with dating. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2008 12:20:09 PM | Poor Jennifer
Men consider dating site as pick up joins (similar to bar scenes) They BS women for the simple reason, cheap sex. Mind you, many women do the same with men. Problem is, women should not be looking for long term relationships from free dating sites. Men on free dating sites are for one animalistic creatures which think with their smaller head. And which are normally already in a relationship, or just out of one. Which have been already been taken to the cleaners from thier previous relationship, and are making women from free dating sites pay. I guess it is time some women wake up, and ask the right questions. Hope this helps! Wish you the Best | |
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Posted: 12/11/2008 1:53:37 PM |
...Why do guys claim they want a serious relationship with you but then date other people? I do not get it?...
Did you ever think maybe they are not interested in you and have gone else where? | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 11:39:13 PM |
Men consider dating site as pick up joins (similar to bar scenes) They BS women for the simple reason, cheap sex. Mind you, many women do the same with men. Problem is, women should not be looking for long term relationships from free dating sites. Men on free dating sites are for one animalistic creatures which think with their smaller head. And which are normally already in a relationship, or just out of one. Which have been already been taken to the cleaners from thier previous relationship, and are making women from free dating sites pay. I guess it is time some women wake up, and ask the right questions. Hope this helps! Wish you the Best
it doesnt matter which site are you on - even lavalife.com, match.com or any other well known sites there's still bad fish in the sea no matter where you go.
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Posted: 2/17/2009 12:05:54 AM | | Yeah but clearlyamazingm, I really don't beleive what you are saying... Not everybody is looking for cheap, shallow sex... Better then nothing, but that's about it... Ultimately most people want to find the right mate I think, but the problem often is guys often bullshit about who they are, they make themselves out to be millionnaires and bullshit the rest away... Women, they don't post a picture for exemple, or they say they are average size, when actually they are fat!!! A lot of wasted time, and a lot of unpleasant surprises that may take some time to figure out... Sometimes the bull is absolutely brutally obvlious... No wonder these relationships don't last... ehm... As far as I'm concerned, these sites don't work at all, you have to bullshit away to get some action... Maybe that's what I should do clearlyamazingm... Don't expect to find the love of my life here , just bullshit away and get temporary cheap sex... You have a point... Use it for what it's worth... Who's unrealistic, the bullshitter, or the woman who wants a 6 foot millionnaire? I'll leave the answer to somebody else... Ciao | |
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Posted: 2/24/2009 9:48:43 AM | Hi Jennifer,
I think the problem with these sites is that there are just too many opportunities to choose from. It's like bringing a 4 or 5 year-old to Toys-R-Us or a big candy store, "I want, I want, I want". People go nuts here, especially when you're new to these dating sites and get so many messages and IM's trying to hook up with you. It's fun, it's safe, it's exciting and best of all, it's so easy! Until...after a while, you just want to settle down and have one serious relationship. That's the tricky part. There are so many to choose from, that the minute you start "seriously" dating someone from POF...and you start to discover the flaws and little annoying habits of your partner, right away, you start to think about all the others you have to choose from...who might be more compatible to your wants/needs. Technology has brought us to this. It's terrific in one sense, but people tend to think that with all this variety to pick and choose from, why put up with ANYTHING you don't like? People (mostly women I think) are forever searching for that one perfect "soulmate" where as, men are too, but in a lot of cases, they're more unrealistic about it. They want perfection. The perfect body, she has to love sex and love to experiment sexually, she has to be a great cook, she has to leave him his privacy and time with "the boys" or to do "his thing" and not be jealous...she can't complain or be a nag, she has to...etc...etc. Of course I'm not speaking for ALL men, there are still some good one's out there. But you really have to know how to weed out all the bad and selfish one's and that takes patience and determination...and time.
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:10:58 AM | I agree ! This is the first time I join a site like this and I am starting to regret it!
What is a click anyways? Can someone explain it to me ?
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Posted: 3/13/2009 4:27:37 PM | Honestly Jennifer300 - you need to give this dating stuff more than a month, more than a couple of months etc.. Not sure about your history, but the longer you take to get to know someone and get serious about them, the better.
Take is from me - married after 1 year, marriage lasted 2 years and then ended in divorce. I honestly think that if I had dated him for another year we would have gone our separate ways, happily.
Trust your intuition. It is very easy to tell if a man isn't into you, it's just hard to admit it to yourself and face the perceived rejection. Think of it as a potential crisis averted, move on, and get back on the horse!
Good luck!
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Posted: 3/13/2009 4:30:48 PM | Oh and to ClearlyAmazingM,
I wonder if you are just speaking for yourself, because I have met quite a few true gentlemen from this site. I wasn't interested, or they weren't interested... but our conversations never even led to sex!!
I think thats a load of Bull. Ladies, dont listen to that crap.. there are good ones :) | |
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Posted: 3/18/2009 10:48:42 AM |
I have dated guys that claim that they want a serious relationship with you, only to find out after 1-2 months he is not interested in you
Funny! In my case, it's always been the other way around. I'm always clear, right from first contact, that I am NOT interested in a serious relationship. Most women I've dated said they understood and accepted that. And yet, a couple of weeks/months later, it breaks their hearts that I haven't changed my mind.
I have learned, with time and experience, to stay away from those who tell me "You only say that because you haven't found the right person yet." Usually, that means thet think they'll be the one.
In either case, bottom line is: When people wants you, they'll tell you what you want to hear. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2009 11:39:09 PM | And that is why, so many people take the "just friends" for now, for granted.
By being "just friends" for now, is a safe maner, in getting to know each other, better, in a mutual, and safe manner, and there is NO pressure, either.
What is the panic rush, of getting to the alter, and getting married?
And then find out further down the road,that you two are not compatible with each other.
And end up in a raging "D I V OR C E" battle, all because, ya never taken enough time, to get to know each other, better, "AS FRIENDS", and to see if you two can be compatible with each other.
Thats the importance of being "friends" , and a lot of people seem to not realize that, and miss the whole boat, totally and completely. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2009 10:34:56 PM | Hi Jennifer , well it's all your fault .. i repeat it .. IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT ! Did you hear me ? Hear again : IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT !
Why ? well , there is sincere guys around .. and they have most surely camed to talk too you . You failed to reconized them . Because they where not enought for you what ever your criteria is . You most surely looked for the more handsome guy around .. you said to yourself :
¨Why not be picky i have some much choice .. they all run after me , let's get the best of them all (whatever your criteria is : richer , taller , cuter etc..) .. So you keep looking for the more attractive wich chance are is the more deceivefull since he saw his success he plays the playboy .. So here is how a handfull of guys entertain you all girls .. because you all fall for the playboy.
Now if you want a serious guy , a good trick may be to check on how many favorites list he is .. If the guy your are talking have around 25 , 50 , 100 admireres , forget about him , he his a playboy .
DO YOU ANDERSTAND ?
And by the way i am free here , and i am waiting for long time for a girl to drop by , but they are all obsessed with the playboys .. who even make them a baby and then runs ( a **** and run ) .. A little trick would be for you girls to reasonably stop being obsess with look . And your chance of finding somebody sincere and fidel will grow. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2009 10:45:09 PM | Well i have thinked about your point of view too .
But saying just friends may cause an unseen wall to the relation who risk to block the progess and you or the other my not be able to recover or to break the wall .. Let me explain , it is possible that you remain just that friends , because you failed to fall in love when it was the time.
It's not a rule .. but it is something that can happen .. to some poeple maybe some poeple don't risk to creat this kind friendship wall .. It's just that i have many poeple experiencing the friendship stage problem and who are not able to make it evolve ..
So you might just better fly in the door of opportunity when it is open. Wich is dating. Because anyway , if she don't like you , chances are she won't keep you as friend anyway.. | |
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