| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 1:14:18 AM | Hi Nerd 2 the core,
I have some different interests in that I'm animal crazy. I love animals and am very protective of them. I can't turn away a stray, it seems. Currently I've taken in two wild turtles and have built them quite the elaborate pond with habitat, thanks to numerous donations from caring friends, who know the nutty animal freak that I am. lol.
I'm also into writing, reading, puters, online roleplaying games, and these forums of course. I don't know that other people could get into caring about animals like I do, and I don't really care. Seems I tend to look out for the underdog and I'll go on doing so, regardless of what anyone thinks about it.
I think finding what makes one passionate and embracing that makes one even more attractive anyway. Giving into what others think, just to please them? No, I'm afraid that's not for me. I'm going to be myself and enjoy living every minute of my life being me. The right person for me will cope with that and find it attractive.
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 4:37:36 AM |
I think finding what makes one passionate and embracing that makes one even more attractive anyway. Giving into what others think, just to please them? No, I'm afraid that's not for me. I'm going to be myself and enjoy living every minute of my life being me. The right person for me will cope with that and find it attractive.
Compassion is always attractve, male or female. 2 occupations a man could be in that I would very find intriguing: Veterinarian or Funeral Director. Compassion is sexy and should not be considered unique, but common. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 2:40:18 PM | southernlass You just keep on being you. There's nothing wrong with your interests with animals that you have described. There are plenty of people that like animals and I'm one of them, particulary, dogs, horses and cats, some birds too.
Keep 
Also I'd go to a local zoo and see what happens. Browse around and relax and take it all in. Somebody will come along. Let opportunity present itself. Good Luck!  | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 5:01:09 PM | Exactly! Some hobbies can become influential. Like me wanting to become an animator cause I like cartoons so damn much.
I've always wanted to go to comic-con, but could never afford the drive or flight lol. The last comic convention near me I heard 90% of the people there were kids (and 99% were dressed as Naruto *shudder*). And I've taken a liking to a local game shop I found, however not many of the people there are into Killer Bunnies. most of the people in this area are into Warhammer (a MUCH more expensive game).
All of your hobbies and interests are part of your personality. It makes you, YOU. If someone doesn't like you because you like animals, it's their loss!
P.S. I admit i do like watching those animal shows once in a while.
R.I.P. Steve Irwin; We'll always miss ya, you crazy bloke. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 5:13:55 PM | """"lot of people have unique interests involving hobbies, how they grew up, hell, a part of your soul. ..... other people have an interest in and some would say turnoff.... there aren't a lot of women out there that love video games and the art of animation like I do. I mean I keep a lot of interests other than them, but I've mainly grown up with these two. Is there any hobbies, traits, or quirks that any of you have""""
I hate to be the one to burst your bubble, but could you please tell us/me what is soooo unique about playing video games and anime? I see nothing unique about those at all. If you said "collecting 14th century schoolbooks" or restoring old sewing machines or hybridizing lettuce or entering cooking contests....that might be interesting and unique.
So IF YOU WANT TO BE AN INDIVIDUAL, the first step would be to stop playing so many video games, get it? Same goes for "Goth and Emo kids" who think they are "unique" or getting tattoos, piercings, and a Harley to be "different". Those are the latest fads. They are fun sure, but not unique. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 6:18:55 PM | People are and will always be judgmental, petty, self centered, and jealous.
The only trick is finding someone whose judgments are similar to your own and can find you in some way appealing.
It's a long, long road.
And for all those who say they are not judgmental, petty, self centered and jealous :-P:::: Yes you are! You just don't think so :-) | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 8:28:36 PM | Umm what bubble MudPackers?
1. I don't play video games as often as I used to. When I started playing with them as a kid, many people still considered them as children's toys.
2. There is a major difference between animation and anime. In animation, the voice acting is recorded BEFORE the animation is made so the lips match the voice actor's words to present a more believable character.
In 99.9999999% of anime the animation is made BEFORE the voice actors provide their work. That's why in anime the lips rarely match the voice coming out of the character.
This stuff that people produce, is made by purely by hand (be it with the click of a mouse or the scratch of a pencil).
Part of my personality is that I know information like this (and a lot more). You could always ask, "what use would knowing the name of the creator of Wile E. Coyote give you?"
"It would give me inspiration to be a great animator whose characters created would stand the test of time for many generations to enjoy."
If you were curious as to who that man was; His name was Chuck Jones. Google it.
I'm a nerd 2 the core, and damn proud of it. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/22/2008 9:30:21 PM | I don't think it's a turnoff...unless the person is making a big issue of it as in, "Look how different I am," which kinda reeks of insecurity...know what I mean?
What I think really turns people on is this: people who are kind of subtly confident. They can be quite serious and then all of a sudden, they're joking...next minute, they're subtly taking the lead. They tend to say what's on their minds, but it's never in a pointed fashion. They're always sweet....sometimes, even self-deprecating. They subtly change their demeanor frequently without meaning to...they do it because they're at ease with themselves and with others....and it just permeates the room. It's hard to articualte it...but it's ohhhhhhhh so sexy! Actually, I've finally figured out that's what usually draws to me to the men I like...irrespective of their ages, they all have that subtle, intriguing, confident, sweet guy, sexy aura. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 8:03:26 AM | | Yeah i did react a bit quickly didn't I lol. I guess it kinda irks me a little when people disrespect the format. you try drawing the same character hundreds of thousands of times, and see if it makes a good movie or tv show. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 9:10:08 AM | | Hi, well this is not a hobby but one of my professions however, it does cause stirs with many, especially men. I am a body painter. For me this is a serious art form but it is often not taken seriously by those that get to know me. I would definitely say that I am an individual as well; I am an artist and a musician. Many would say that I am quite different to most others. Still you should be what you are and don't even consider letting others change you. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 9:14:14 AM | | Tell me about it, OP!!! There aren't too many men out there who like snakes! I think if you can find another common interest with someone, and they like you for other reasons, they will find your idiosyncracies adorable. That is, unless you own snakes. Then they will run for their lives. LOL | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 9:18:51 AM | Being individual..... i prefer to call myself an " extreme introvert" if everone was the same life would be boring.
You love games and computers, nothing wrong with that as long as you can hold a good all round conversation and not talk about it all night with a woman, i am sure you will find someone.
I work in IT, but i dont talk about server 2003 and cat5 cabling over a date as im sure thats enough to send any woman to sleep!
The geek factor seems to be a real turn off for many women if talked about to any extreme.... i suppose it just our high level of intellect that baffles them! lol | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 9:27:14 AM | I work in IT, but i dont talk about server 2003 and cat5 cabling over a date as im sure thats enough to send any woman to sleep!
The geek factor seems to be a real turn off for many women if talked about to any extrem.... i suppose it just our high level of intellect that baffles them! lol
I agree - Going into great detail about individual interests that the other person doesn't share can be mind numbing.
I think more women should take an interest in computers though - especially if they're using them to find you. I'm proud of the fact I've taught myself how to install a hard drive or more RAM and am not afraid to open it up if I need to.
Never thought I'd enjoy computer games and saw them as a collossal waste of time. Life is too busy. After I bought some games that interested me, it's one of my fav ways to relax when I do get extra time although it's not often. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 9:35:07 AM | ~OP~ I don't think anything, hobbies/habits, drinking, shopping, etc., is good if done to excess. I have noticed that some people's "hobbie's" are really obsessions. They eat, drink, sleep their "hobby." And often times, those particular people are very defensive about said "hobby." That is a HUGE red-flag. Maybe you need to broaden your list of hobbies just a little because you do seem rather defensive (about games/animation/etc.) if this thread is an indication of your demeanor on the whole. Just my opinion.  | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 11:14:15 AM | I have no idea if I have any hobbies, interests or other quirks that turn off the opposite sex and don't much care either. If they are turned off by my interests, that's fine. I'd prefer to be in the company of someone who isn't and possibly shares some of them with me. I wouldn't change ME to please anyone else. I am who I am. Take me or leave me...I don't care.
I'm in my "**** it 40s" anyway. lol
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Posted: 8/23/2008 11:38:44 AM |
If you were curious as to who that man was; His name was Chuck Jones. Google it.
I didn’t have to Google it. I adore Chuck Jones and Friz Freleng. They directed one of the most sarcastic, witty and jocose cartoon characters evah, (and my personal all-time favorite): Bugs Bunny. Your love of animation does not make you an outcast, or I am an outcast right along with you, and the last time I checked, my address wasn’t Poker Flat.
To deny your personality for the sake of meeting your ideal only ensures that you will never meet your ideal. My match, where ever he may be, has made that left turn at Albuquerque; he’s led an innnnnnnteresting life; he knows what an ultramaroon, an embezzle, and a tra-la-la-goon-dee-aye are; he knows that “mud” spelled backwards is “dum”, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Who has the authority to tell you what is right for YOU? Only you, that’s who. The best match will be the one who “gets” you; the one with whom you can relate like no other. If you wear a mask that hides your true self, how will she ever recognize you?
Someone’s rocking my dreamboat
Someone’s invading my dreams
We were sailing along, peaceful and calm
Then suddenly, something went wrong
Someone’s rocking my dreamboat
I’m a captain without a crew
But with love as my guide, I’ll follow the tide
I’ll keep sailing till I find you
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 5:45:41 PM | | There is a cute 25-y.o. guy on my reptile forum who is into snakes, Halo, and anime (that's about as nerdy as it gets). He gets tons of girls hitting on him and last I heard he was engaged to a great woman. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/23/2008 10:21:28 PM | i love video games! women would look at me like im weird but guys love it!  ive met ppl who didnt like ur hobbies and felt they were turned off by it. im like next! those ppl are usually the ones who wants to change u, im like i dont think so. | |
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| Is being an individual really a turnoff for people?
Posted: 8/24/2008 4:50:06 PM | | sorry,but I don't think that sitting in front of a computer all day is being an individual...there are billions of people who do it,unfortunately..One should not be consumed with a "hobby" because they become boring to other people who aren't as consumed by the same thing,,,that's probably what turn men off horsewomen...We are all consumed and no wonder..."The outside of a horse is good for the inside of a man"...who said that?...some horse crazy guy...wonder where he is....but then again,in those days everybody rode horses....so now, the saying should be,"The outside of a """"???? is good for the inside of a man...it's got to be something alive and reacting...and maybe we give too much credit to technology and would be better to get acquainted with mother earth...so,I disagree,that talking about the world's situation environmentally is a good thing and one which needs to be discussed...too many kids have no idea what a cow looks like or how one takes care of it and the land...men only want to talk about happy things...like money,sex and booze....my humble opinion....now,would somebody fix my tractor please? | |
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