| how do you feel about coming round to my house on the first meet/date/get to know you.
Posted: 8/21/2008 5:34:07 AM | If the person is local to me then it would be a big No No, in fact I was chatting to an ex policeman for a while, he asked me to meet him at his house, I said no sorry not going to happen, he got all up tight about not trusting him, I just said and if your daughter was going to do this how would you react ? we never spoke again ....... his loss 
However I have met someone who lived quite a distance from me, which has it's own problems, cos it could be a 2 hour drive and you end up looking at the hunch back of Notre Dame and so you have a quick drink and drive back home. The person I met asked me to meet him at a railway station, we knew from the minute we met we would get on so when he said about going back to his for a coffee and then go out for a walk it was fine........ I think you have to make your own judgements on these things | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 5:35:34 AM | I have never met at my/his house for a first date....but I have met after just one e-mail...i think lifes too short and whats the worst that can happen if you just go out for a quick coffee etc.
Back to original question I have a big dog at home so i guess i would probably feel safe if i did indeed have a brainstorm and invite someone back!!!
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Posted: 8/21/2008 5:38:35 AM | | ^^^^^^^ what dvd was it?.............working on a sex farm.......... ,kidding,,not everyone is mental,and has other motives like,,just having sex,from a personal point of veiw,..people have said,that there fed up with bars clubs,and this idea has been brought up,not just by me might i add,course you have to be careful,its my opinion,and il tell you this for nothing,,,,it beats countless hours wasting time,then the convo dyes out,..at least it gives you the chance to let the person know that you ARE actually decent,and not a player . | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 5:44:22 AM | I think i would be very hesitant, ok you may go to a strangers house if you met them in a pub, but feels very different to meeting a girl on here.
A meet in a pub is more spontaneous, on the internet, it is more planned.
Some of the previous lady posters worry about ending up in the freezer etc,
i think many men worry in case an ex-husband may be waiting there.
Who were the married couple years back, that buried people in the back garden.
Fred and Rose, can't remember the name !! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 5:46:00 AM | I did this once.....met a guy on this site and we were chatting for weeks by phone and text, and msn etc. It was a friday night and we already had a date planned for the following night....he was driving from Dublin to my town 50 miles or so away.
On the Friday night i was in my friends having a few drinks, and her brother was driving to Dublin. While in my friends, the guy and i were sharing a few texts, when i jokingly said "i could end up in Dublin soon"......and it went from there, i got a lift with my friend and went to this guys house. My friend dropped me at his house, so if anything went wrong, he knew where to find me. We actually had a great night, he ordered a takeway and a couple of beers.....only thing was i fell asleep on his sofa, and woke next morning with a quilt over me.
I think if your getting to know someone and they arent creepy, and you've got a good judge of character then it doesnt really matter where you meet......and not all guys invite you to theirs just for sex!! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 5:59:10 AM | mr decker^^^^^ that is a good point,but i did say that the persons meeting wouldne nesscerily have to be drinking,or drunk,.....so in that why,it is infact safer,...............and for talks sake,say some lunatic wanted to try summit,,would he / she really want them to knw were they live?.......i only raised this thread as an option to the norm,,i take peoples points on board,yes ive done it,.....why i could do it again on friday,and find my legs (or even worse),.half way into a fridge,if that happens,,thats my fault,but im willing to take the chance.  | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 7:39:02 AM |
mr decker^^^^^ that is a good point,but i did say that the persons meeting wouldne nesscerily have to be drinking,or drunk,.....so in that why,it is infact safer,...............and for talks sake,say some lunatic wanted to try summit,,would he / she really want them to knw were they live?.......i only raised this thread as an option to the norm,,i take peoples points on board,yes ive done it,.....why i could do it again on friday,and find my legs (or even worse),.half way into a fridge,if that happens,,thats my fault,but im willing to take the chance.
Skorms, I'm afraid I have to admit that I don't understand what you just said. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 7:40:03 AM | ^^^^^^^^
as i already mentioned on message 15.. i have done it.. but i have met up in a pub first THEN invited him back to mine.. I know how to look aftermyself, and i always let someone know im having someone i dont know back for a coffee... My mate will always ring about an hour or so to make sure im ok...
Skormsbow... fancy coming for a brew??  | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 7:48:24 AM |
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as i already mentioned on message 15.. i have done it.. but i have met up in a pub first THEN invited him back to mine.. I know how to look aftermyself, and i always let someone know im having someone i dont know back for a coffee... My mate will always ring about an hour or so to make sure im ok...
Skormsbow... fancy coming for a brew??
Let us know how it works out between you guys! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 9:34:41 AM | I went on a date to a ladies house for dinner once and she asked me to go down to the
cellar to fetch a bottle of wine but before I could say bobs your uncle she locked the
door and I was trapped down there for days and missed the final of Britain's got talent.
I only managed to escape by digging a tunnel into her garden with an old penknife....... | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 9:54:11 AM | Yes i dont see anything wrong but only after i have messaged them on here then msn with voice and cam to see that they actually look like their pic and that the pic isnt a fake one lol and then after a few long phone calls why not invite him over for coffee? and what happens on the night you just go with the flow.
We have all done it in real life with going to a club chatting to a guy, having a few drinks and either going back to his or hers (now i personally havent done that in ages mostly in my younger years lol).
yes there is an element of danger in this especially meeting someone from online i guess but its all about how comfortable you both feel, and at the end of the day whatever comes of that particular meeting whether it continues or not is just the way life goes.. if you both keep in touch then good - if not then i guess there were a few issues and if both are not willing to talk about the issues and to work out why the relationship wont go further then well i guess its time to move on:)(means one of you has major hang up lol). | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 10:13:16 AM | No, its not something i would be comfortable with, more so since i have had a couple of POF dates and not clicked with them and i wouldnt want to be in the situation where i have to try and get rid of them.
As for having done it after meeting someone in a bar - thats different as you have already met.
Meet in a safe public place, thats my advice. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 12:44:15 PM | ive gone to someones house after just a couple of messages, never had any problems and am still seeing him now.
dunno why you are all so cautious, chances are better that you wont end up in the freezer, if he were planning to hurt you he would hardly give out his home address would he??? anyone with a grain of sense will always tell a friend or family member where they are going before they meet with someone.
the ones that dont want you near their home address are the ones to worry about. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 3:15:38 PM | had that on one date, sort of met at bar, then why not come back to my place, no-one will be there, took a while to get there and it was dead quiet
doubt that could find my way back again if was asked, but could have left the woman all open to stuff if was that way inclined
mutual decision to not proceed any further | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 5:06:33 PM | I went on a date with a guy i'd met (not on line but in a bar rather merry), well if you could call it a date and i went to his house. I agree with alot of girls on here that by me going to his house he thought it was a green light to 'try' and crawl all over me and attempt to seduce me, as you can imagine i didn't stay for very long after that and have not been on a second meet yet haha.
So my feelings are i think its better to maybe meet on neutral ground. | |
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