| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:39:23 AM | New messages, I'll look at their profile first. If profile pictures were some silly sh*tty pictures, then i'd definitely Unread/Deleted.
If their 'About me' section were like this xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx or ........................ or xxxxxxxxxxxxxx Will fill this in later xxxxxxxxxx or something sh*tting similar to that i'd definitely Unread/Deleted.
They can bugger off forward slash p*ss off. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:39:31 AM |
Why would you even look at somebodys profile if you arent even interested in the first place?
So you see a pic that you find interesting, click on it and discover she's 25 years younger than you or has completely different interests to you and you still message her? | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 2:19:58 PM | You do have the option of making sure that the said person cant see that you have looked at their profile anyway if you wanted to keep it secret.
Tell me why does it matter if the person is younger or a million miles away,we are talking about *chatting* here people thats all.The concept of actually meeting somebody from here (ie a date not a POF meeting) is between slim and nill anyway so chatting is all we have.I honestly believe that some people on here think that chatting to somebody is taking a risk,its just chat whats the big deal? | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 2:29:05 PM | So what does chatting mean to you then,how is chatting with somebody one on one any different from having a discussion on here?
I think your attitude is the prime example of what is wrong with POF,if theres more people like you on here then im glad my messages were deleted.At least you had the honesty to give yourself an accurate ID name so people know what to expect.  | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 2:44:59 PM | Right so you basically go on a date straight away without even sending each other a few messages,yeah right.If this is purely a dating site why is there the option to put looking for friends on the profile section? Ok you may not be interested in chatting and getting to know somebody before embarking on a date but some people do things different.Some people prefer to chat through messages,then maybe switch to MSN etc and then move onto mobile numbers and then finally dating.I have a couple of friends on here that are purely friends,we have no desire to meet and are just good internet friends.You can do whatever you please but dont speak for everybody.
Well im not complaining about your ID name it certainly does what it says on the tin. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 2:47:22 PM | I describe myself as average because thats what I am,if you want more details of why read the few extra pounds thread.
Im not going to delve into your profile and start slinging insults because im not bitter like you clearly are. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 4:31:09 PM | | I would rather someone unread/deleted if they werent interested, than chat for the sake of chatting. Some profiles read, will answer every email, but I can't see the point in that. There is nothing worse than trying to have a conversation with a dead fish, If you are not interested in that person, what is the point of replying. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 4:38:03 PM | I always reply, even if it's just to thank someone for looking at your profile.
I'm too nice, to both people who ever checked my profile.  | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 4:50:29 PM | cool britannia i am with you on that one, if someone has taken the time to send me a message the least i can do is have the manners to reply, even if it is just to say thankyou but no thanks, i cant abide ignorance in the real world nevermind on a dating site.
it gives me the impression that some people think that others are beneath them and i find that rather rude. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/24/2008 5:46:13 PM | yes.
i had a girl block me before i even attempted to contact her. i saw she had looked at my profile,so i thought i'd say hello. except i coundnt cos she blocked my ass.
anyway, i guess something in my profile must have hit a nerve  | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:15:04 AM | | Oh and grumpy old woman, you might be grumpy (I think misunderstood actually), there's a quality photo of your pets looking fed up on your profile, but you certainly don't look old, at all! | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:27:35 AM | I too reply to all my messages, even if its just to say thanks but no thanks.....i have never unread/deleted any of them. I think that is the height of ignorance, and id rather not know a person who does that.
I have had a few experiences with guys, who write me, and when i tell them i dont think we'd be a match, they want to know why, then they go on and get nasty to me for telling them why and i end up blocking them.
Did you ever notice its always the**** looking guys, ones with their heads up there ring that deletes the unread messages......i think ive send about 5 that got unread deleted but i dont let it annoy me....obviously not nice people! | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:39:13 AM | ^^^^^^^^^
Yes you could call it ignorance, id say thats going on the basics of looks....shallow is the word that comes to mind. For me its all in the profile....how can you possibly write to someone if you havent read there profile.
Shoulda read the whole thread | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:43:50 AM | The trouble with you grumpy is that you have no manners and trust me you are so very bitter and have a massive chip on your shoulder.
Some people dont sit there and decide if people are "suitable" or not some people are happy to chat to people even if they dont match their ridiculous ideals.If I recieved a nice message from a woman who was a million miles away and I didnt find attractive I would still respond and chat to her.I wouldnt lead her on and if she did ask to meet I would tell her that we are just friends.Its called being nice grumpy maybe you should try it one day,also try smiling every now and then although it may crack your stoney face.
If you dont think im average thats upto you,when I actually care what you think old Satan will be wearing a fur coat,some mittens and a big wooly hat.
I think some people on here need to learn to read.I actually said why bother looking at somebodys profile and not bother writing to them.I think its even more shallow to like the look of somebody then read their profile and decide that a tiny detail isnt suitable so you dont bother writing a simple message. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:46:38 AM | Brenster, Grumpy has given me a tongue lashing before (only cause she wants one back) but I wouldn't take it personally.
I think she's pretty funny, and I'd rather she was herself than faux polite all the time. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:50:07 AM | | Now now, Brenster, GrumpyOldWoman, this thread was supposed to be about tales of bizarre behaviour on POF, not an example of it. Now it is fairly clear you do not agree with each other, but could we at least try to pretend to get on? | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 2:52:40 AM | Brenster, Grumpy has given me a tongue lashing before (only cause she wants one back) but I wouldn't take it personally.
I think she's pretty funny, and I'd rather she was herself than faux polite all the time.
I have been on forums before mate and you always come across people like this.At the end of the day you should always have manners even online.Im not going to waste anymore time on her its quite clear she has a problem and a massive chip on her shoulder.Its the dog and cat I feel more sorry for. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 3:30:01 AM | | What gets me are the ignorant people who clearly say they are looking for friends or hang outs , then ignore you when you write. Surely thats not a physical interest is it? They shouldnt be bothered what anyone looks like if thats what they want. Still these are the types with their underwear showing on their profile and have 679 favourites and been on this site since its conception. Does this site work? Yes it does and ive had a 2 year relationship from it | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 5:54:23 AM |
So the "but the person has put so much effort to write that email" winge is not valid in my books - they should have put that effort into reading the profile and doing a reality check first.
Gotta agree with GOW on this one.
And Brenster are you saying we should reply to everyone who messages us as its the height of bad manners not too? i consider it even more bad mannered when a married man looking for a bit of "fun" messages me asking me to get on msn...obviously hes not bothered to read my profile so why should i show him the courtesy of replying? | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:15:57 AM | For a start I dont expect somebody to reply to married men looking for sex or any shall we say dodgy messages.I think if the message is clear and concise whats the problem with simply replying "thanks but im not interested in chatting" it takes seconds.I also think if people clearly put down what they are and are not after and yet still get messages that are unsuitable then fair play no need to reply you did warn them.However quite a few profiles on here clearly state "please contact me,dont be shy im friendly" and yet still dont reply.As for profiles that state they are not interested in mates or one to one chatting grumpy I havent come across any yet.Some people like myself believe the best start to a relationship is to be friends first and then move forward.Not everybody is so desperate to jump into a relationship straight away.
I think you will grumpy that its you who clearly doesnt get anything.You are rude,arrogant and just generally a very poor human being.If you actually look around POF first without opening your trap then we might get somewhere.For a start my profile clearly states that im after friendship so how can I be leading anybody on when ive clearly stated thats what im here for? I also never said I had messaged somebody just because I looked at their picture and didnt read their profile.The clear point I was making that lots of people look at profiles and dont make any contact.If you just like looking at profiles you do have the ability to edit your account so people cant tell you have visited.Whats even worse is when somebody looks at your profile so you message them and they dont respond.Why dont they just reply and say "I was just looking but im not interested in chatting thank you" its just all down to manners.
People like grumpy are whats wrong with this country and this site.Basic manners and politeness,please,thank you and sorry all words that have lost their meaning as people are just interested in themselves.Yes grumpy I might be an idealist but some people still hold to those ideals and havent turned into ignorant pigs.
Please do give up because its clear that you will never learn decent social skills. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:41:07 AM | OP: well if they said a simple hi and you replied with the same, what was her issue?
I got added as a fav to some guy, who looked like Gerald Depadieu's slightly uglier brother and wanted an 'Other Relationship'.
WTF..lol i think he was hoping i would break the chain and send a message, twit.
Is it me or does this site have an alluringness, about it and is also boring as...
Or am i going though a fussy bored phase? I know you can only judge somewhat online. Though you can usually tell if there is some 'fire' or connection within a message?
Can you not? | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:54:47 AM |
OP: well if they said a simple hi and you replied with the same, what was her issue? I don't know, that's why I started this thread 
I got added as a fav to some guy, who looked like Gerald Depadieu's slightly uglier brother and wanted an 'Other Relationship'.
WTF..lol i think he was hoping i would break the chain and send a message, twit. I believe that is what is known as "wishful thinking" 
Or am i going though a fussy bored phase? You mean women are fussy and bored only when going through a phase? I always thought they were always fussy and bored. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:13:26 AM | Pmb: haha, not at all. I just sit here thinking, what am i doing. You click on Matches and they all look, like prison bailites or something worse.
His wishful thinking or mine? Certainly not mine, i don't sit in bed thinking oh..if if if..
More like a am just drawn to certain people sometimes.. | |
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| New take on unread/deleted
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:18:51 AM | I was thinking that it was his wishful thinking. I'm sure your wishful thinking would have been much more creative
As to your matches all looking like cons on bail I would like to point out that I do occasionally smile, despite the image that my pictures put across. | |
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