| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 3:17:16 AM | Wooby darlin'....who's that gorgeous thing hanging off your arm there?
Renaissance as usual...all ego and little substance, me thinks thou protests too much..trust me, we know
who the majority are.
Cowboy and Oscarz, as usual....all substance and a clear view of the BS factor... thank goodness
there are a few of you out there ;-)!
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 3:42:44 AM | | There is an issue here to take into consideration. The OP is asking if men would tend to overlook a woman with gray/silver hair. It is also an issue in the professional world. I am in a professional situation in that every 2 years I look for a new job so I can live in a different country. When you look for a job, age matters. Even if they know your chronological age, they form a perception about you based on how 'old' looking you are. Men can more easily get away with gray or silver hair--i.e., it looks 'distinguished.' Women fare far worse in this area. So, it is a factor...for me anyway. It isn't only men who might discount women with gray hair: it is very much prevalent as a cultural issue...and not only in Western culture. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 4:13:16 AM | "Rustytraveler",i totally concur with EVERYTHING you stated in your Post......
And,Op (nother female here),but ,i think you're very attractive & your hair looks fantastic!! Sure your ex didnt leave you coz of your hair.............no way..!
But,i do acknowledge what you're saying,but i think the MAJORITY of men couldn't give a toss about a womans' hair colour --- just that its clean & smells beautiful.
(Just as "we" aren't overly concerned about mens' hair colour....???)
There's another Thread doing the rounds asking what we think about men dying their hair black.....LOL
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 6:08:10 AM |
Letting hair color go grey, is often one of several signs that a woman has decided to be "old" now, more focused on "grand children", than the fun and excitement of a new relationship.
but it often comes with her "letting herself go" in other areas as well, and saying that "looks don't matter", and viewing sex as unimportant.
Huh?! What does hair color have to do with age, sexuality and excitement?
I've been graying since I was 21...that's a lot of years. If I'd let my hair grow out silver, you're saying it would mean I've decided to grow "old", let myself go, would be less sexual and/or view sex as unimportant and would feel no or less excitement about relationships?! Wowzers...who knew?! All because my hair was graying naturally! Oh my, that's wild!
Our sexuality comes from within and it starts in the mind. Dust on the top does not mean dust down below, nor does gray hair mean we've let ourselves go. It just boggles me that hair color has anything at all to do with the rest of our bodies, or our sexuality, or how we live our lives and relationships, or our mindset.
You're married, so you're not really in the dating pool right now, anyway.
What does that have to do with the topic of graying naturally and whether some men overlook women with gray hair, even tho they have youthful faces?
I guess silver haired men/women in their 40's, 50's and 60's, no matter how youthful/sexual they feel, are just gonna have to rock away the rest of their lives, on the front porch with the grand baby, as they've got nothing else going. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 6:17:37 AM | OP, you're naturally attractive and your silver hair works beautifully for you because of your skin tone. I think skin tone is the key for anyone thinking of going natural or coloring their hair.
I love NOT having to fuss with coloring my hair since going platinum ... it's the same color I used to be prior to it actually becoming this way naturally in my early 40's. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 6:44:28 AM |
i do acknowledge what you're saying,but i think the MAJORITY of men couldn't give a toss about a womans' hair colour --- just that its clean & smells beautiful.
That's what I believe, too. I believe there are a whole lot of men who prefer their women to look their age. There are men who want women in their age group and want women to look like they're in their age group. The ones who want a young 'un will go out and get a young 'un, regardless of hair color. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 7:11:23 AM | Saphireyes..I think you should have kept the white patch. I always did think Yvonne De Carlo looked hot with hers in The Munsters. 
Grey, White, salt & pepper, colored, natural, silky, straight, curly, kinky, split ends....makes no difference. It's what's under the hair that matters. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:30:26 AM | Having been naturally auburn, my hair starting getting some silver when I was in my 40's. A little was fine, just put auburn color on it when it got a bit more. Too much silver, had to go. Then a couple of years ago I had it done a very very very pale platinum to kind of sneak up on the silver or white. My Kids HATED it! They said it really made me look older. So, back to a nice soft dark reddish blonde.
I have a couple of friends that went white when they were in their forties (naturally black hair). It look great when they were in their 40's. Very youthful and becoming. No, in their 60's, it makes them look older, I think.
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:34:22 AM | Ren you have a point... I think the majority is trying to make her feel good about her decision to grow her hair out to it's natural color and while the majority of them color's theirs ( me included ) the point being is that the OP needs to feel good about her decision. I think her hair looks just fine the way it is, and she obviously keeps it trimmed and stylish. She is going through a divorce which can be self deflating with a ex to be that left anyway regardless of how he felt about her hair. She tried.
I believe men/women should feel good about themselves regardless of whether they decide to cover the gray or not, it it picks them up for feeling self assured either direction. Insecurity on any level is not attractive as it means emotional draining on others. And we all have had our bouts of insecurity. Yes I've seen beautiful silver haired men and women who could sweep a person off their feet with attitude so it's not the color of ones hair. Self awareness and respect for oneself is what carries us.
OP you are a beautiful woman and will get through this and will find a man who appreciates who you are... feel good about it... and it just takes time... | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:35:49 AM | I have more respect, admiration, desire, etc. For a woman who does NOT color her hair, at any age. With the exception of say green, bright pink, bright blue, etc.
As some have mentioned there is a tremendous pressure in our society to appear youthful. People past a certain age are often considered useless or a drag. And as some also have mentioned this propaganda about meeting the cosmetic norm enables companies to sell useless or even poisoness products because people have become convinced that they have to look a certain way.
If a man thinks less of a woman because of her grey/silver hair that is as insulting as a woman wanting to see a man's car before she decides if she likes him.
As someone also wrote, the back flips that are sometimes required to get in the door for a job are also rediculous. Obviously these things change over time. I recall when young people would not get hired because they had tattoos or facial hair (beard etc). I don't think any company paying the typical low wages today could impose those requirements. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:37:44 AM | Just my opinion, for whatever it's worth. I HATE grey hair, and if I ever get to the point that I can't color it myself, I hope that my daughters would. I kept my mom for years, she had alzheimer's......I'd keep her hair colored and put her make-up on for her. She would go to the mirror and sit there for hours smiling at herself. I keep my hair short and color it myself. I don't have to pull it to the ends crap. Just shampoo in every month or so, cost under ten bucks but makes me feel like a million. I have had many men since being on this site, ask me about my hair.......are you a natural red head? Most say they don't like grey hair on women. So, by my own poll, I'd have to say NO. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:59:07 AM | Makes me think of the song "Forever and Ever Amen" by Randy Travis.
"They say that time takes it's toll on a body
Makes a young girl's brown hair turn grey
But honey, I don't care, I ain't in love with your hair
And if it all fell out well I'd love you anyway" | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:26:44 AM |
I have a couple of friends that went white when they were in their forties (naturally black hair). It look great when they were in their 40's. Very youthful and becoming. No, in their 60's, it makes them look older, I think.
Now that they're in their 60s, they are older. We are who we are. Do we color our hair in an attempt to mislead someone as to what we really look like? Then we put on our profiles that we want honesty.  | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:41:55 AM | | Now that they're in their 60s, they are older. We are who we are. Do we color our hair in an attempt to mislead someone as to what we really look like? Then we put on our profiles that we want honesty. Honesty?....Ha! Ha!..I'm honest about coloring my hair.....there are not many women my age that aren't grey. Not about honesty at all.....just says we want to look as young as we feel. Sheesh......if you are mislead by a woman in her 60's with no grey hair, you are one mislead puppy. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:52:45 AM | Ren, well... I was just giving MY opinion... and you give yours.
I DO think that men who don't want to be hanging with a woman with gray/silver hair, because of the hair.... do have an insecurity. That's my opinion.
So this isn't the thread to say that in? pardon
It was just my opinion, which is why I said "I kinda think" first.
ps I don't go around 'bashing' men
On the coloring of hair... mine is natural and has many single strands of gray showing.
Out in the sun they glitter!
I'll just keep glittering a bit more each year.
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:53:49 AM | Some people look absolutely terrific with silver hair. In fact, I've seen several men and women who have gone all white far before their time and they were very attractive.
I think, overall, it depends on whether you've got true white hair or if it's greyish or yellowish. Your eye colour and skin tone also make a difference; people with blue eyes and fair skin often look terrific with white hair.
I never gauge age by hair colour; I look at the wear & tear on faces; worn, leathery, wrinkly = 'old' to me no matter what the hair colour. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 10:01:29 AM |
Now that they're in their 60s, they are older. We are who we are. Do we color our hair in an attempt to mislead someone as to what we really look like? Then we put on our profiles that we want honesty.
Ha!Ha! Ha! David! Aren't you funny? LOL! I meant, it makes them look older than they are!! (Nit-picker) LMAO
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 10:14:34 AM | ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!
I live in Dallas, Tx! Home of the orange fake-a-bake, expressionless botox laughter, women who are "naturally" a size 2, and the $15,000 smile! Anything less than perfection, and you can hang it up for good!
HOWEVER -- there are a few truly gorgeous women -- like you, OP -- who CAN pull it off, in the fantasy la-la land of singledom. Not, too many -- but a few. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 10:49:38 AM | Well, for what it's worth Ren, I don't know you and what you normally post, but I tend to agree with you here: I think you are at least being honest. Not that the others who have posted are not being dishonest, but that others who feel the way you do are simply not posting.
I think most women color their hair for themselves because they feel better about themselves that way. I mean, what about all the women who are married and in good relationships? They are coloring their hair when their husbands love them no matter what. Most of my friends have been married 20 and 30 years; their husbands are not going to leave them or stop loving them if they go gray. These women do it for themselves.
To say that one has more respect for a woman who doesn't color her hair is disingenuous. What's respect have to do with it? Should I have less respect for a man who grows a beard to compensate for the lack of hair on his head or to hide a weak chin? We do what we do for ourselves, most of the time.
I believe, however, that the truth is, not just men, but our society in general has a prejudice about gray hair on women that it doesn't have for gray hair on men: it's been around a long time--men look more distinguished, women just look older. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 10:54:47 AM |
It's ok, though, I'm kind of used to being the minority opinion in the fora.
Being a minority is one thing, to try to make your opinion mean more than just your opinion is another. When someone disagrees to fall back on the man bashing thing gets old. | |
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 11:00:20 AM | Part of the problem is the length of hair, as much as the bias between gray on men versus gray on women.
If a man has long hair and not color it, it makes him look that much older as well, and not consistent with salt and pepper while the length is longer. Men with shorter hair and some gray mixing in at the temples or somewhat salt and pepper, will look distinguished and attractive.
Most of the the women that I have seen that look attractive with gray hair, will have it shorter and styled more to show it off. Many women just prefer to hide the gray and feel younger in their own minds, as well as those that view them, just as they do with make up, and style of dress to compliment those looks head to foot.
I know that more people mentioned the gray in my hair when it was much longer, then they do now that it is much shorter, and yet I have not ever colored it, or changed it in any way, other than the length.
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| How do men feel about women with silver hair?
Posted: 8/24/2008 11:02:39 AM | | A lot of women look very attractive with their natural gray hair. As does the op. And certainly it does depend on if it styled attractively. Still, there is still a bias, in general. But the OP looks great, no dispute. There is also the issue that some women can simply pull it off better than others due to coloring and skin tone. | |
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