| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:42:14 AM | | The problem is there are many kinds of love between two people and two people have many needs. When I was five I fell in love (yes in love) with a girl because she had very long braids I and really pleasent smile I remember her face even until this day. I remember I loved her until she was 12 and then we parted company. I have been in love many times since then and each time it has been different. And my needs have changed also, I used to have a great libido and it was all I could do to have sex. Now my libido is diminished and I find that I enjoy sitting and snuggling and holding the one I love for hours. I once felt hand holding was stupid and now I love a big hug and warm hand. The things I mention are physical but there is no greater joy than looking into the laughing eyes of some one you care about. There is no greater sadness than looking into the sad or angry eyes of someone you care about. So I will put it this way love changes constantly as a relationship matures and likewise a persons needs change constantly as we age. Because needs change love is not alwasy reciprocal and that causes the greatest problem of all, because we can spend a lifetime with a person and never really know all thier needs. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:16:06 AM | I think so....but I'm convinced that someone killed Cupid, too.... | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:34:44 AM | No way...
You took your name off Cupid waiting list...
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:45:00 AM |
You took your name off Cupid waiting list
At this rate, who wouldn't do just that?
I think it still exists, just that not many are seeking it these days! | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 11:45:20 AM | | It exsist's but for some reason things dont always work out as you had hoped they might, perhaps for a reason? | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 12:24:59 PM | | I think love is alive and well with the ones who love us unconditionally. What should be dead is keeping score. Wouldn't it be nice to have all the bad boys or bad girls stay after school and wipe down the chalkboards and clap all the erasers. Everyone starts the new day with a clean slate. Of course I mean the trivial slights that seem to add up to big things. We still need accountability for the big ideals of a monogamous relationship. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:29:23 PM | is love dead, nah. not even romantic love we oft lament here in the pond. its alive and well but living elsewhere than most of us at this point. have some folks become cynical jaded and self deluded? yep. always have always will be. are there more of them. also yep, more happily settled folks too because there are more folks period. love is eternal as the grass and comes in many types. its never going away and will be there when we are ready for it. (jeez i sounded really corny then, time to switch to decaf or maybe add some caffeine  ) | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 8/26/2008 10:25:11 PM | "I have been mostly disappointed in love but have come to understand that it was me that was not paying attention when I picked the ladies I did."..... Waywardseeker
But at least he finally got it.
"I think love is alive and well with the ones who love us unconditionally.".... Galensmuse
Isn't unconditional love something we give our children? Adults give and take and hash it out for mutual benefit.
"Heck no...........self love is the base of esteem...my love just keeps getting stronger and stronger. "...Simply...Single
Well that'll get you somewhere
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 .... what more can I say?
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/1/2008 8:22:34 AM | | Love, courtship, chivalry, romance and Cupid are ALL DECEASED! | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/1/2008 8:25:02 AM | | It's only dead if you let it. Having love doesn't mean it has to be with someone, look and love the simple things in life and the fact that your alive, that's true love. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/1/2008 2:02:37 PM | | I don't think that it is dead. I have too much to give to another human being to resign to a life without prospect. Seeking it doesn't take precedence in my day-to-day living, but is always in the shadows. I believe we all have the capacity, I believe we all have the desire, though some have had painful experiences that distort their view points of it's existence. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/1/2008 2:22:59 PM | To the main question, I say absolutely not....Is it easy to find, absolutely not. Will I give up on finding it.....Not a chance.....
Is it hard staying optimistic....yes it is....
But I've got the capacity and so much saved up, unused love to continually shower on someone that I would hate to drop dead with it still all inside of me....
I don't read mens ads so I'll take a lot of you at your word but for the record I am not looking for a girl decades younger than I am. Age to a certain extent means nothing but I do find it hard to find women close to my age that have the energy that I have....That are still extremely interested in having a very loving and physical relationship and or that have looked after there outer and inner beauty equally | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 4:47:22 PM | Ok.. here we go. Love is not given anymore because we have become so calloused from past hurts and pains that we won't allow ourselves to give of ourselves. This is just an observation from some I have dated. They are just afraid to give their love because of past hurts.. thus.. they live in the past so they have no future. I would like to find someone who isn't afraid to give their love. That is the one I'd love to have in my life and believe me I'd cherish it. It's a shame we can't love again as easily as we did when we were young. I can't understand why we can't do that myself but it just don't seem to happen anymore. Love isn't dead it's just hidden so deep that only an act of God will bring it back. My two cents.  | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:18:58 PM | How you can make your heart neutral?If you can't love...probably you can only hate.
It is great feeling too... | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:28:03 PM | Principessa!!!!
It takes an Italian woman to write about amore as eloquently as you did. Bravo!!
So help me.... I know it's not dead in me. But it's increasingly harder every day to keep one's head above the mire.
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:34:46 PM | LOVE IS ALIVE!!!!
Dont let the dating site jaded thing take center stage. This is a massive site and many people...and online dating is very bizarre for most of us.
But I assure you..love is very much alive! Just takes some patience. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:18:32 PM | "Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like sunless garden where the flowers are dead" ~ Oscar Wilde
You will eventually become what you feel in your heart.
All that you touch, and all that you see, is all that your life will ever be. If you see darkness~ the greatest joy in life will never be found. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:21:50 PM |
Does love exist anymore? Have we become so jaded, bitter and stuck that we can only throw back the covers for intercourse... without opening the doors of our hearts and minds to renew, readjust and welcome a new person into our lives even at this age,
Of course love still exists.
People who are jaded and bitter choose to be so; I know, because I have been there, but I choose to be that way no longer.
Everything is a choice. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 9:25:17 PM | I will always believe in love. I've seen it. My 80 year old neighbor married her 79 year old boyfriend and I caught him passionately kissing her in the hallway just because he was so glad to have her and their home together. I see it in my 70 year old friends who just got married and go dancing every Wednesday night.........the way he holds her, looks at her..........she may be an old lady to me but to him, she's beautiful.
I see it in young couples. I'm amazed at how many young men fall totally in love with women who are 20 to 30 pounds overweight and it doesn't turn them off.......
They see them as beautiful........
But something seems to happen in middle age. The young get it ........ the elderly get it. But somehow as we pass from being young to being elderly, we seem to seek the perfection that we couldn't even get when we were young! And it seems to be a passage thing. At some point, we realize that love has very little to do with looking young and everything to do with really liking someone and wanting to be with them and having fun with them and when those things are there, love, passion, sex.......it all just happens naturally............ | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/2/2008 10:54:22 PM | I think love is only dead where people kill it. One must believe in love and then find another person who also believes in love. IF both parties believe in love, love will be there.
Users, players, and selfish folks often make a sham of love and aid in destroying that "love-faith" in others. My advice is to avoid such people. They are not worth your time.
If you enjoy being with them (for a short fling) then you are probably one of them yourself. These types will not find love until they change from within. This is a very rare thing.
Love is alive in the hearts of those who believe in it and refused to let the world destroy that belief for them. I'm one of these people :-)
-Tadworth :-) | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/3/2008 5:02:11 PM | No not at all.
little grey haired lady ?
Beautiful,intelligent woman with grey hair is what I see. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/3/2008 6:11:26 PM | First of all someone 45 is your age. I have never sought out men of any certain age, that would just be silly. As to music, slang and all things along those lines I seem to have more in common with men that are around 10-15 years younger. Music didn't even think about getting good until the mid-late 90's. Getting older does not mean staying stuck in the past. As to life experiences I work with people that are as much as 30 years younger than I am, and they have lived much the same life as I have.
Yes the four letter word does come up a lot it seems, but when it does I lose all interest in that person.
Yes of course there is still love in the world. Hard to find the real thing but it is out there. Even at this age? Your 50 not 100, your not that old. At 51 I know I look older, but I don't feel any different than I did at 21. As to a paunch or a baby tummy, I don't think so. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/3/2008 6:28:37 PM | It's not dead. It's just at this age we've been through alot and love doesnt come easy. We analyze things to death (or many do) we question everything and hope to find the answer at the end of the rainbow, only then will we take chances.
Hope it rains tomorrow lol | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/4/2008 3:08:23 AM | | Love is on life support but hasn't flat lined yet. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 9/4/2008 3:44:50 AM | Most "love things"....not people | |
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