| Is love dead?
Posted: 10/25/2008 7:32:17 AM | No love is not dead. It is just hiding in a closet somewhere.
I share your problem of wanting to date men my own age, however, men my age (45) want someone 10-20 years younger as well. I have tried to go older, last man I spoke with was 57 and farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr too old for me and a bit of a drama queen if you want to know the truth, so what is left? The young guns.
I get a lot of emails from men who are in their 20's and 30's and up until now, I have pretty much said, thank you, you are adorable, however you are far too young for me. However, now I am at the point of frustration with men my own age that if I don't start to consider younger men, I could very well end up on my own.
I will never become so bitter and jaded that I engage in FWB relationship, I just can't do that, it's not who I am or what I want. I also think everyone should date whatever age they want and if men my age only want younger women, well than I say good luck to you and I hope you find what you are looking for. However that preference shared by men my own age has literally forced me to consider different options that in the past I would have very much frowned upon and one of those options is going younger.
I know what it is to be truly in love and I know in my heart that I will be in love again one day, I just have to open the right door to the right closet and it may just be in the young adults section. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 10/25/2008 8:46:16 AM | | I like the song by Nirvana where the lyrics say "Our love is all we are." | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 10/25/2008 9:34:26 AM | Love itself, nah. It is not even sick. does it visit everyone at the same time or when the want it to? nah. Love has been around since God (which is forever). It moves at its own speed and takes its time. It shows up unannounced and unexpected and changes lives everyday. Are there some folks that dont recognize Love (or mistake him for his second hand cousin Lust) yep. Sorry about there luck. Love is out there and its going to find all of us fishies eventually. Question is will we open the door for love the same way we would for his cousin. I hope when the time comes I answer the door and invite love in. He's a great house guest. However if you ignore him or take him for granted long enough he will leave. He will not be happy about it. He will remind you over and over again but trust me, he will leave. Then one day you wake up and find out that he's left you with nothing but an empty life and/or bed. (his cousin often leaves soon before or soon after he does).  | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:22:51 AM | OP --
You sound a bit world weary. Heck you are in Italy. There is love everywhere.
You have to shake off these doldrums, maybe some grappa would help.
There is nothing that makes a woman more attractive than having a zest for life; embrace it, accept it, explore it.
If you have men 45 after you, then I say let them catch you. WTH, you may teach them a thing or two and they will be eternally grateful. 
Good luck!
Jim | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 10/25/2008 2:04:06 PM | I think it's so romantic to see elderly couples smiling in each others eyes and holding hands. ****sigh***
Did you ever think that maybe we are on a love holiday? When we come back all refreshed love will be there to just knock our socks off.
I hope that's in the future for me. | |
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| Is love dead?
Posted: 11/2/2008 2:01:22 AM | | OP: Based on the answers I've been reading in this thread and based on my experience and what you describe, I think it comes down to that old line, "You've got to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince charming." Or for men, "You've got to try that glass slipper on a lot of feet before you find the one it fits." I do believe the search is more difficult than it used to be, but maybe the reward will be greater. | |
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