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Posted: 1/23/2009 12:13:31 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.................................................
What if we all stopped looking at their assets and liabilities and just go for the ride? It took me a long time to learn this, but if you offer love sincerely and for the benefit of love itself, which increases the love you have for yourself, the man will not mistreat you unless he is a head case. He may not commit to you, but if you don't expect that, then it doesn't matter. Just love being in the moment and if something happens down the road, whether departure or commitment, then so be it.
Don't deny yourself the pleasure of the pure joy of loving - and the sex that goes along with it - because you are too hung up on the mental tally sheet of rights and slights. Letting go of all the crap will liberate you.
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WHAT????
Not all of us are at all willing to give up our moral values.. and for good reasons.
This.. IMO.. is a 60's/70's.. FREE LOVE.. radical behaviorial way of thinking.
And then.. there was AIDS. Remeber that? Flowerchild much there girldiver?
What's described in your "entire" post.. is nothing short of someone acting out on loose sexual behavior.. NOT love.
This is also where the word LOVE is waaaaaay over-used.
What's meant is SEX.. for sex sake.. with someone you "may" like.. at the moment.
You may.. also end-up with an STD.. or.. dead in the morning.
Cause and consequences!
It took me a long time to teach my kids this little lesson.. and one they usually ended up learning the hard way.
For every action.. cause.. there is some sort of consequence.
If ANY man is at all worthwhile.. he's worth the "time" in getting to know. Love.. comes after you realize.. you LIKE this person enough to spend time with.. not a passing moment in time.
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Posted: 1/23/2009 12:22:36 PM | "Love" means many things to many people. Within the context of a sexual relationship, however, when it comes to sex...we know what we like and don't like (sometimes). I agree, mentally, if two people are the same age, it helps as far as life experience, musical tastes, world history and what not. But, when it comes to sex, well, sex seems to be largely superficial, and we know what we like and don't like. Sucks but that's the way it seems to be.
So...in your case, rusty, since you seem to form the most emotional connection with a guy your age but the ones attracted to you are either older or younger, I can only suggest multiple "mates", a same-age guy as a really great friend, then scraps of other dudes for sex on the side. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 12:26:55 PM |
Honey, you men are here to please us: make love to us and satisfy us first, take us to dinner, drinks and dancing, watch movies with us, talk to us, fix things for us - and if you watch "Sex and the City" with us, you get bonus points!
We get to have our girlfriend time, shopping time and Secret Single Behavior time while you're off in your man cave or watching sports with your buds. You can also tinker around in your woodshop.
Girldiver; Are women open to compromise? Some of us can give up the sports with the buds if we don’t have to watch “sex and the city”! Anything else we can do for bonus points? Do we have to talk just to you, or can we talk together? Are we allowed to talk about us also?
Dang! I hope men don’t mess this up! This is the first solid lead we’ve had in years! It might be some secret girl list that wasn’t supposed to be publicized though. Mums the word! Shhhhhhh.  | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 12:30:22 PM | Not all of us are at all willing to give up our moral values.. and for good reasons.
This.. IMO.. is a 60's/70's.. FREE LOVE.. radical behaviorial way of thinking.
And then.. there was AIDS. Remeber that? Flowerchild much there girldiver?
What's described in your "entire" post.. is nothing short of someone acting out on loose sexual behavior.. NOT love.
I only made one mention of sex. The point was learning to love and care deeply without expectations. What's wrong with that?
I was a child of 70s and missed all the flower power 60s stuff. I don't go jumping in the sack with everyone. I searched an entire year before I found my current BF and had no sex during that time.
But I don't expect for him to commit to me forever and nor do I want to either. There is love for an interlude and sometimes great passion too. For the right now, I have everything I want and am happy.
I probably am a pretty radical-thinking, risk-taking person. I'm also a happy and content person.
Girldiver; Are women open to compromise? Some of us can give up the sports with the buds if we don’t have to watch “sex and the city”! Anything else we can do for bonus points? Do we have to talk just to you, or can we talk together? Are we allowed to talk about us also?
You can talk about whatever you want. Just don't sit there like a silent lump. We want you to go off the the sports bar so we can paint our toenails in peace. Six seasons of "Sex and the City" will teach everything you always wanted to know about women. Every man who has watched it with me thinks it is hilarious.
"Secret Single Behavior time"
When you do stuff you don't want your BF to see you doing like Nairing your legs, waxing, deep conditioning treatments, facial masks and all the other stuff. Or it could be eating strange combos of food or eating standing up in the kitchen, drinking out of the milk carton. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 12:33:36 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^...................................................
Okay.. I'm a woman too.. but.. I have NO idea what this one means;
"Secret Single Behavior time"
Care to enlighten us all.. girldiver? | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 12:52:00 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^........................................
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"I searched an entire year before I found my current BF and had no sex during that time."
"I'm also a happy and content person."
You also already have a boyfriend.. so.. why still here.. on a dating site forum.. girldiver?
Especially if you have everything you need?
Contentment and happiness with a special someone.. is what most of the rest of us are here looking for. Not picking.. just always amazes me that people who say they have it all.. yet.. are still here talking on a dating site forum.
Why then.. does your profile state that you're looking for a man to date.. as well?
I would think that eventually.. if your living with someone.. and share the most intimate of time together.. that's.. having sex.. he'd come to the understanding that you shave your legs. When.. or how? Wouldn't matter one iota to him. Drinking out of the milk carton could become a sport. He who drinks the last drop out of the carton.. buys the next one.. and so. Maybe.. him giving you a facial.. or deep conditioning your hair could be considered extremely exotic.. like.."him" shaving "your" legs for you.. in a shared bath? I don't consider that stuff taboo.. or secret single behavior.JMO | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 12:59:48 PM | ^^^^Crikey, because all my friends are here! Who would I talk do when I'm supposed to be working? 
I don't want to live with anyone at this point in my life. It takes all the fun out of everything. I like my alone time. I do my girl stuff and he can do his guy stuff. I don't want to know if he uses Rogaine or watch him shave his balls. 
I want the time spent together to be amazing and always fun. 
I was married for a long, long, looooong time and was unhappy. Some of us are not the marrying kind. We should be able to have our happiness without someone raining on our parade. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 1:36:40 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.^^^^^^^^^.........................................
But.. you're still looking for other men to date?
If I could find just one man worth dating.. I'd be doing just fine with that one.. not looking for more.
Aren't you then creating a situation inwhich you have "expectations" of a specific type of man for the relationship you "expect" to have with that man? A man that also "expects" a relationship that does not consist of two people living together?
We all seem to have some sort of expectation in the end.. don't we?IMO | |
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