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Posted: 8/24/2008 11:36:23 AM | Nav: You believe it is a parent's job/responsibility, but you waited until your daughter was 17 before talking to her? WTF? I sure as hell hope her mother talked to her on the same subject at 11... otherwise I wonder how she didn't end up in the OP's situation.
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Posted: 8/24/2008 11:57:34 AM | hi everyone, i really appreciate everyone 4 replying back to me,
1) i have been pushed in the ryt direction.
2)we were both tested 4 all the std's n stuff
3)my doctor advised me not 2 use comdoms as they bring me out in rash's, there summit on them, wether u believe me or not its true..
and 4 everybodys imformation navigator isnt been mean, i did have a lil convo sorta thing with him. and i agree with him in sum ways yeas he's been very hard but its just like looking at his daughter and thinking reli wot wud he do, so its his opion, and in a away im glad i had a miscarriage,
WHAT LIFE WOULD I HAVE HAD?
WOULD MY EX HAVE STUCK BY ME?
them questions would have been with me. iam 2 young to look after another child never loan myself. i will tell my ex boyfriend and hope 4 the best, he did tell me not long ago that he would do anything 4 me, and be here no matter what, so this could be a test for the both of us.. thanks for everything EVERYONE. and please please dont argue..
many many thanks lilmissward xx | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 12:12:11 PM |
3)my doctor advised me not 2 use comdoms as they bring me out in rash's, there summit on them, wether u believe me or not its true..
It could be you're latex-sensitive (there are effective non-latex condoms, but they are more expensive... or they used to be, at least) or you could be allergic to the spermicide many of them use. (I had one friend who was allergic to that, so I can believe it.) | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 12:25:00 PM | and 4 everybodys imformation navigator isnt been mean, i did have a lil convo sorta thing with him. and i agree with him in sum ways yeas he's been very hard but its just like looking at his daughter and thinking reli wot wud he do, so its his opion
Thank you for that. I'm glad that the point/s I was trying to make (however bad the delivery) were recognized and understood.
For the record, I have an incredible relationship with my my daughter (now 21) and she didn't start thinking about sexual activity until she was 17 & had a steady BF. So, THAT'S when we had the talk. Again, COMMUNICATION in ANY relationship (BF/GF, father/daughter, etc., etc.) is paramount in order for it to be a successful one.
I really do wish ilmissward the best and I certainly hope that she's learned some valuable lessons here. Sweetie, like someone else mentioned, you may have a latex allergy (fairly common) so, try non-latex condoms, but DON'T rely on implant-type of birth control for protection from STD's. Even being tested is not foolproof - MANY STD's can go long periods of time without being detected in routine tests. Just be smart and be as safe as you can. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 12:44:16 PM | Nav: My point was that children do not always communicate everything with parents, and assuming that she had not considered (or engaged in) sexual activity without telling you could lead to problems... so talking to her in advance of her bringing the topic up would be a good idea. Not having had sex by 17 is fairly uncommon these days.
As to the condom issue... as I mentioned, it might be latex, it might be the lubricants some use, it might be the spermicide. A battery of tests to identify the culprit, followed by choosing a condom which does not have it, is the best solution. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 12:55:18 PM | | you should tell him that you are 6 months pregnant. see how he reacts. JK haha. but if i got a girl pregnant i would want to know. you should tell him. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 4:07:25 PM | Linux.. Yes.. to pushing the men out of the men's room.. Sometimes us women just have to circle the wagons and get a little protective. So if that is what it takes.. so be it.. *I knew you would understand* (grins)
Lilmiss, It sounds like you were pretty smart about all of the doctors advice and precautions. It sounds like the doctor dropped the ball in not telling you about other condom alternatives then latex. You can still get the natural sheep skin ones.. *holy mackerel I think you can been too many years for me to say for sure. Guys help me out here. ) but they should be available. There is very little chance of an allergic reaction. Also is the kind of bc you are using the same as depo in the states. I know too many young women that have had very harsh side effects from using the depoprovera. It might be time to investigate other methods. Another hugs for ya hun. If you need to chat you can IM me. I understand what you are going through. I have been there too.
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Posted: 8/24/2008 4:18:00 PM |
You can still get the natural sheep skin ones..
Yes you can (lamb skin), brand name NaturalLamb - they're great, but they are completely ineffective against STD's and are only designed for the prevention of pregnancy.
If it's a latex allergy, she should try polyurethane condoms. Like Trojan Supra or Durax Avanti. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 4:49:59 PM | Hmm the things ya learn even at my age.. yikes!  I guess its back to dating school for me too..  | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 6:34:55 PM | | I too am sorry for your loss. Your emotions must be a mess right now. I hope you will talk with your friend. I don't think Navigator was trying to be mean. I think he is just concerned and trying to help so you won't have to go through this again. Some lessons are hard to learn. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 6:47:18 PM | I'm with Navigator6.
well, not *with* him... but I agree with everything he said, there in that first post below yours.
Why is it that you can't communicate with him? What kind of good friend is he (and what kind of good friend are you, for that matter) if you can't communicate? How warped is your definition of "friend" that you can't communicate? | |
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