| Being there for your partner
Posted: 11/14/2008 11:24:58 AM | OP, unfortunately you're both in completely different wavelengths. He still lives at home. So he has no responsibilities and in his mind he is still a child. You in the other hand happen to live in an adult world.
Until he lives on his own he will not change, he will not learn. Only then will he see the light.
So, if I were you. I would not marry this guy. Not until he las lived on his own for at least 1 year. Otherwise all he is doing is moving from one place where he is the child to another place where he will soon become a child again. | |
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| Being there for your partner
Posted: 11/14/2008 11:37:25 AM | At the end of the day, you are feeling like your needs are not being met.
He lives at home, and has no clue about the stresses involved with running a home, and planning a move.
If I were you, I would sit him down and explain why you so very much were counting on his help, and see if he can work something out.
You need to ask yourself some hard questions-and decide if this is the life you want, because it will not really get any better unless something changes big time.
And as the poster above has eluded-dont marry him until he has learned how to run a home for at least 1 year. He needs to wear your shoes for a while to really understand things. | |
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| Being there for your partner
Posted: 11/14/2008 11:38:23 AM | | Women often times want you to be there for them, help move, help with this or help with that, but when the shoe is on the other foot, they are not there to help you. I believe this has something to do with the word high maintanace. | |
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| Being there for your partner
Posted: 11/14/2008 11:54:43 AM |
a little infuriated Is it possible to be 'a little' infuriated? LOL
Seriously: You are only 24, fairly young. If the boyfriend is also young, then some of this could be attributed to maturity...you may be a bit more mature than he is. If you are the type of person for whom holidays and family are important, these are things that should be important to your boyfriend also. That is, you need the type of guy for whom these things are also important. For me, I don't like people who let me down. I will always be there for a friend or a partner, and someone who says he will be there then lets me down, that's something I can't live with. I think a single mom needs a guy who loves her kid(s). If he really cared about your son, he'd have come to the birthday party: he'd have wanted to, so it doesn't seem he cares a lot for your son. Doesn't look like the best situation: maybe he is just a bit immature, or maybe he isn't the guy for you. | |
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| Being there for your partner
Posted: 11/14/2008 11:57:34 AM | Yes OP. We all like company on special occasions from those special in our lives.
Tell him. 3 chances is fair as 100% thingie is a more ambiguous get out and used as such by those in the know.
Totters of the get to know a packet of cookies.
smiles :) | |
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